madridguy:
It is too much freedom.

Well, to me I still blame the men in such position, I no go sell my property, borrow money for us to travel you come reach foreign land make you come say you no do again. E no possible. We must talk am very well before we comot for Naija.

Bigmouth3:

Go and change your menstrual pad instead of shouting here online. Some of us are not your mates ,we have gone far in life MUMU

Jennyclay:
Biko, Someone should come and take me to U.k, honestly I won’t end the relationship/marriage

EBMedia:
A human right lawyer, Bolanle, has decried the high rate of divorce among ‘happily married' Nigerian couples after they relocate to the UK, IGBERETV reports.

He wrote on his Twitter handle;

https://twitter.com/BolanleCole/status/1657282890005196800?t=03ImUcp6y2jvwnJ8xWaP6A&s=19

bukatyne:


Hmmmmmm

So it was more of a marriage of convenience which worked in Nigeria because the husband could perform financially?

I wish him all the best.

I am curious though: weren't the signs there? Or he thought she would still be satisfied with him after getting to the UK?

Carcholce:



You think this will change anything?


They will still leave you behind if they want to leave.

Kobicove:


You're taking this thing too personal

JovialJune:



Again, why are you making it seem like divorces are women's fault?

wonder233:
The simple reason is that the UK, like most places in the west is a place of freedom and economic empowerment especially for females. This brings out the true nature of Nigerian females who have been married purely for economic reasons which originates from vacuous trado-religious beliefs.
So a lady who sees it as an anathema for a woman to earn money is suddenly in a clime where she earns her own money at par or even more than the man. She automatically disregards him and leaps to the new found freedom of sleeping around with different men, which has always been their true nature, but are forced to conceal with false modesty cos of the conservative Nigerian society

Spanki:


A Nigerian lady of this generation don't have what is called conscience, also they're the most ungrateful huimans on planet earth.

There is.no name they will not call you once you rick of mints,,. Ya all know mints Rick a whole lot. Then she will call you handsome, my bbobo and give you doggy style anywhere you want it and anyhow you want it.

Go broke and then the you will know your real name.... 😂😂😂😂

Stylz69:


Scenario 1: Woman Studying, Man Working: she has the students visa and therefore she is sponsor. Man works 40 hours shifts minimum while she studies and probably works 20 hours (if at all). He pays the bills and her fees off, she begins to make friends, maybe some give bad advice. She ditches him after she gets the post study visa and a good job offer… after all he is just a warehouse operative or cleaner

Scenario 2: woman works, man studies- same as above except she wants to keep money for herself than pay the fees. She saves up, decides what is she doing with a struggling student and enters an arranged marriage to get a quicker route to becoming a permanent resident.

Scenario 3: Either of the two above except one partner begins to blame the other for their suffering . Perhaps one was forced into the japa and absolutely hates the life of working to pay the bills and decides they want to return to Nigeria. They separate

Scenario 4: they actually succeed and make a good life but the woman wants it all so she claims the man hit her and he is sent out of the house.

tppzzy01:
Who will Nigeria 🇳🇬 men go come Marry? If you marry a white she will divorce you and take better part of your fortune if not all. You marry your tribe or your Country women, she go divorce you and marry white or another rich black... Is this not a big problem? It's coming to a time where men and women will no longer marry again, they will just be saxing anyhow.
Conclusion: if you dey japa know that you will remain single for the rest of your life in abroad, until you're old and back home

Jennyclay:
Biko, Someone should come and take me to U.k, honestly I won’t end the relationship/marriage

JovialJune:



Very funny

The problem with you Nigerian men is that you think all the nonsense permitted in our society which you get away with, also applies there when you travel out, very funny.

There are so many women earning their living in Nigeria because the economy permits it, there are so many women earning more than their husbands in this Nigeria, so what exactly is the difference between Nigeria and U.K?

The real reason why Nigeriaan women refuse to take your bullshit abroad is because you think you can eat your cake and have it, the constant polygamous in nature bs, treating her like she is nothing, cheating anyhow, controlling mindset with subjugation and dominance, will not be tolerated in a society where people's mental state and health especially that of women is important for a sane and functioning society, unlike here that it is expected of women to remain in abusive marriages because society says so.

If you like keep being pained that Nigerian women are on a fvcking spree same as you men that take pride in it, something that has been going on and rampant in Nigeria what exactly will be the difference abroad? How exactly is it a new found freedom?

You nl boys really over rate yourselves sha.

JovialJune:



Very funny

The problem with you Nigerian men is that you think all the nonsense permitted in our society which you get away with, also applies there when you travel out, very funny.

There are so many women earning their living in Nigeria because the economy permits it, there are so many women earning more than their husbands in this Nigeria, so what exactly is the difference between Nigeria and U.K?

The real reason why Nigeriaan women refuse to take your bullshit abroad is because you think you can eat your cake and have it, the constant polygamous in nature bs, treating her like she is nothing, cheating anyhow, controlling mindset with subjugation and dominance, will not be tolerated in a society where people's mental state and health especially that of women is important for a sane and functioning society, unlike here that it is expected of women to remain in abusive marriages because society says so.

If you like keep being pained that Nigerian women are on a fvcking spree same as you men that take pride in it, something that has been going on and rampant in Nigeria what exactly will be the difference abroad? How exactly is it a new found freedom?

You nl boys really over rate yourselves sha.

Hydroxide:
The truth is most Nigerian women get married for survival. If a Nigeria woman has the same opportunity to make money without the help of their husband, I mean if they can make their own money, Their accounts reading millions, most Nigerian women won't even get married. That's why when they go abroad where the systems and institutions are working, when they can easily work and make their own money without the help of a man, marriages easily crash cos they know they can take care of their bills

Jennyclay:
Biko, Someone should come and take me to U.k, honestly I won’t end the relationship/marriage

JovialJune:



Very funny

The problem with you Nigerian men is that you think all the nonsense permitted in our society which you get away with, also applies there when you travel out, very funny.

There are so many women earning their living in Nigeria because the economy permits it, there are so many women earning more than their husbands in this Nigeria, so what exactly is the difference between Nigeria and U.K?

The real reason why Nigeriaan women refuse to take your bullshit abroad is because you think you can eat your cake and have it, the constant polygamous in nature bs, treating her like she is nothing, cheating anyhow, controlling mindset with subjugation and dominance, will not be tolerated in a society where people's mental state and health especially that of women is important for a sane and functioning society, unlike here that it is expected of women to remain in abusive marriages because society says so.

If you like keep being pained that Nigerian women are on a fvcking spree same as you men that take pride in it, something that has been going on and rampant in Nigeria what exactly will be the difference abroad? How exactly is it a new found freedom?

You nl boys really over rate yourselves sha.

cococandy:


Is it possible the way we socialize our men to view women might be the issue?

Are we going to be for real for once?

PDJT:


- I think so. Some African men were socialized to be Eurocentric and a lot of them are quite confused. To think they migrate to Europe and not realise they are now equal partners in their relationship still beats my imagination. I mean which average European man would pick-up most household bills, let alone pay thousands to sponsor a supposed "partner" to acquire higher education, get a better career or pay for family relocation all by himself? Not a lot. If any.

-Marriage in Europe, and indeed in the West, is basically a business partnership. It's high time, African men in the West realise this and act accordingly - share bills 50:50, so that when the business comes to an end everyone will jog-on amicably..

wonder233:
The simple reason is that the UK, like most places in the west is a place of freedom and economic empowerment especially for females. This brings out the true nature of Nigerian females who have been married purely for economic reasons which originates from vacuous trado-religious beliefs.
So a lady who sees it as an anathema for a woman to earn money is suddenly in a clime where she earns her own money at par or even more than the man. She automatically disregards him and leaps to the new found freedom of sleeping around with different men, which has always been their true nature, but are forced to conceal with false modesty cos of the conservative Nigerian society

malcom1X:
The man fails to work on himself or improve himself. When he reaches there.

Indians, Chinese, Kenyans, people who are more educated than an average Nigerian do this same thing but you'll never hear them divorce. They settle their family issues.

But Nigerian women?


Hmmm 🤔

Mindlog:
Were they truly "happily married" while still in Nigeria?

The Nigerian environment tends to subsidize a lot of unhealthy marriages and then tagged a "happy marriage".

A lot of things need unlearning but some are stuck in their ways... one said it was emasculating doing the dishes.😆😆😆

That reminds me of a draft dissertation of a Nigerian Psychology postgraduate student, I read and it was really insightful as it focused on the breakdown in marital relationships of some Nigerian migrants to the UK as the focus.

The project detailed how the UK system hits hard on Nigerian husbands who are so high on control and submission as the UK system deflates these. The researcher also brought up the demystication of income which counters many threads here that advocates a man should not let his wife know how much his income is but here in the UK, the wife knows it before it even reaches the man's account and the system forces the couples to be more open about their finances and they are forced to make joint decisions as it forces accountable leadership on husbands as against the lordship status, they "enjoyed" in Nigeria ....d person write many, many for the dissertation.😆😆😆😆
One million thumbs up for you.

In Nigeria, however successful a wife is, she will think twice (may be 10 times) before summoning the courage to tell her husband, my dear please wash the plates in the kitchen, wash the clothes and spread them outside, and tidy up the room and the toilets

Jennyclay:
Biko, Someone should come and take me to U.k, honestly I won’t end the relationship/marriage