chaircover:

@poster sorry if i missed the answer (in case you have already been asked this)  but why did you have 3 C/sections and has the doctor confirmed that subsequent deliveries must by by CS?

The reason I ask is because I had a normal delivery after a C/section.

Yes, you're very correct, I've seen a couple of cases where delivery turned from CS to normal and vice-versa. But I have a condition where Doctors say my pelvis (or is it cervix) is too small to allow for the the passage of a baby during normal delivery.

I was expecting to you start with mother but na father you start with? . Don't worry ehn, that na NLD style when the insult don dey pain them, they start involving family members. My maternal Grand ma is still alive, so please add her to the list.

Sharrapppppp diaaaaa anu ofia. May devil mess on ya bald head. bleeping lunatic, forkable b/a/s/t/a/r/d. slowpoke, oloriburuku oshi. See his head like what was made from a coconut, azzwipe oshi. C'mon carry that ya STD infested prick comot for my face and while you are at it, please use a stick tape to cover ya smell smell an/u/s almost poking out due to ya g/a/y/ action.

Senseless pig, carry ya poverty stricken and sex starved pen?is comot hiaaaa before I forget I am a christian and donate it to red cross. ,D

jennykadry:

I was expecting to you start with mother but na father you start with? . Don't worry ehn, that na NLD style when the insult don dey pain them, they start involving family members. My maternal Grand ma is still alive, so please add her to the list.

Sharrapppppp diaaaaa anu ofia. May devil mess on ya bald head. bleeping lunatic, [size=14pt]forkable b/a/s/t/a/r/d[/size]. slowpoke, oloriburuku oshi. See his head like what was made from a coconut, azzwipe oshi. C[size=14pt]'mon carry that ya STD infested prick comot for my face and while you are at it,[/size] please use a stick tape to cover ya smell smell an/u/s almost poking out due to ya g/a/y/ action.

Senseless pig, carry ya poverty stricken and sex starved pen?is comot hiaaaa before I forget I am a christian and donate it to red cross. ,D

See me see wahala with my Joystick and you. Take it easy, you are crazy. Dont kill yourself. You sound like a cheap angry rat matter of fact. You say your rantings are paining me, but you are here killing yourself with every response because you know the truth has come to stay. You have serious mental and generational problems synonymous with intimate abuse. hahahaha. .

OP i am sorry, but you know NL, some famous mental cases are meant to be dealt with at once.

OP,

See your doctor and let him talk to you about the possibility of having a 4th child and its sex. They sometimes can refer you to specialist doctors abroad who can help your case. There is nothing strange about your request.

Eegulize:

Yes, you're very correct, I've seen a couple of cases where delivery turned from CS to normal and vice-versa. But I have a condition where Doctors say my pelvis (or is it cervix) is too small to allow for the the passage of a baby during normal delivery.

chaircover:

 but why did you have 3 C/sections and has the doctor confirmed that subsequent deliveries must by by CS?

but how many CS did they have before having a normal delivery? and also what are the [i]higher [/i]risk involved, also keep in mind the kind of available of quality healthcare available in ones area

Your situation is one I can relate to albeit from a male point of view. Male or female, be thankful you are parents as some people will give all they have to have a one child. There is no guarantee the male child you seek will not be a source of regret to you whil the girls are your pride and joy. Do not jeopardize your physical and mental health simply because you want to give your hubby a boy after all his "swimmers" determine the sex of the children.

Op,

I can understand you , But your health and well being matters more than any child you might want to have .

Also care for the ones alive first and dont kill yourself with worries.

You would rather have an Okonjo-Iweala(daughter) than have an Osisikankwu (son)

^^^^^^^^^Osisikankwu.!!!!!!! can't stop laughing>>>>>>>


@ Poster, i really do not know how true this is, but i read somewhere that having a crazy sex style position helps determine the sex of a child, and once you are done, put your legs up for like 30 minutes or so, and your sleeping position too, immediately after sex, that article, says that if you are a left-sided sleeper, there is a tendancy for the egg to fertilize on the left side and because of the hormone produced blablabla!! you might end up having a female child, and if you sleep on the right side you have more tendency to have a male child. as long as you are on that right side and it is supposed to be a continous sleeping positin. I really do not know the validity of all this, but am not writing it off though!!

Daughter: "Because John is always beating me and my sister and we don't have a brother to help us fight him"

Husband: "I will talk to your teacher to ensure he doesn't beat you again"

sounds like either you or your husband needs to stand where john can see you.

or if you have any male relatives handy, they could help resolve this problem.

john is simply a bully, thats all.

why not do surrogate? adopt a baby boy?

focus on raising your 3 girls to be the best they can be in this life.

in this recession, 4 is too much apart from the health side of it.

funny, i have prayed that God grant me all boys .

Is it written in your divine blueprint that you will have a male child? Do you understand destiny at all? Your destiny is what GOD had in mind before he created you. It is what is written in heaven concerning you. It is the reason why you are born. Madam, if you cannot answer these questions correctly. Then you may be risking your life. Remember, philip the evangelist in Acts 21:9" And the same man had four daughters, virgins,which did prophesy" An evangelist with four daughters. Today, the name PHILIP is still known worldwide, despite the fact he had four daghters. Although, our culture may be different from the ancient one. First thing first, go for a prayer retreat to find out from God, if you are destine for a male child. In your night dream, he will speak to you over and over again, if he really want you to have a male child. If there is no green light,pls. Be content with your 3 daughters, besides, you have an inteligent daughter as first born. Work on your 3 daughters. Close your door against third parties clamouring for a male child. Leave far away from them. Concentrate on your 3 daughters. Keep your secret secret. Be thankful to God for the safe delivery, i mean that you are still alive today,praise God, for preserving your soul. It is very important. Ah! Many married sister are just looking for one child, either male or female. I know a sister in our church,just one child, after about 12 to 15yrs or so, she is yet to have one. Be grateful to God. Life for life. Your husband,your life,your children,your relative,the name of the family,please pick one,before you eventually take the risk. God bless you. God2man. Today, the name PHILIP is still known worldwide, despite the fact he had four daghters. Although, our culture may be different from the ancient one. First thing first, go for a prayer retreat to find out from God, if you are destine for a male child. In your night dream, he will speak to you over and over again, if he really want you to have a male child. If there is no green light,pls. Be content with your 3 daughters, besides, you have an inteligent daughter as first born. Work on your 3 daughters. Close your door against third parties clamouring for a male child. Leave far away from them. Concentrate on your 3 daughters. Keep your secret secret. Be thankful to God for the safe delivery, i mean that you are still alive today,praise God, for preserving your soul. It is very important. Ah! Many married sister are just looking for one child, either male or female. I know a sister in our church,just one child, after about 12 to 15yrs or so, she is yet to have one. Be grateful to God. Life for life. Your husband,your life,your children,your relative,the name of the family,please pick one,before you eventually take the risk. God bless you. God2man.

If you want four children, go ahead and have a fourth. Pray about what you want. If you want your husband to be happy and proud of his children, pray for that. Having a son will not guarantee that he will be happy. The added financial burden of a fourth child may put undue stress on your family. If you and your husband are ready for more children, go for it.

Girl or boy, each child is a unique and special contribution to the family.

If you have a son today will he be big enough to beat up his older sisters bullies No they will be the ones to protect him. Simple as.

three caesarians ur belly must be F***d up!

A baby boy is required to prevent Hubby 100% from cheating.
A baby boy is required to beat John who wouldn't stop beating your daughter.


And when this baby boy has been made to artificially "come forth", all shall now proceed to the Church of the "before-i-formed-thee-in-the-womb-i-knew-thee to do thanksgiving and praise God for this "gift", hmmm, and what happens to those viable-many-are-called-but-one-was-chosen-eggs-left-behind-in-the-petri-dish God is indeed a miracle working God of complexities Halleluyah Amen somebody



Eureka, i have found another one Now i know why. . . it is now clear to me that Nigerian men have a different Bible to everyone else's in the World, eyah poor longsuffering Naija men, no wonder they have always been confused Their own Bible only states Ephesian 5:22-23 as saying "Wives submit to your Husbands", awww poor thing, no wonder the part that states "Husbands love your Wife as just as Christ loved the Church, is always forever eluding their daft brain Alas their own Bible is incomplete hence reason majority of them always blame the woman for any infertility issue or always beating the woman for not giving them a boy And now I can see that their Bible also don't contain verses such as:



*Genesis 33:5. "And he lifted up his eyes, and saw the women and the children; and said, Who are those with thee? And he said, The children which GOD HATH GRACIOUSLY GIVEN thy servant."

* Genesis 48:9. "They are my sons, whom GOD HATH GIVEN ME in this place."

* Joshua 24:3. "I took your father Abraham, and multiplied his seed, and GAVE HIM ISAAC."

* Ruth 4:13b. "The LORD GAVE HER CONCEPTION, and she bare a son."

* 1 Chronicles 25:4-6. "Bukkiah, Mattaniah, Uzziel, Shebuel, and Jerimoth, Hannaniah, Hanani, Eliathah, Giddalti, and Romamti-ezer, Joshbekashah, Mallothi, Hothir, and Mahazioth: all these were the sons of Heman the king's seer in the words of God, to lift up the horn. And GOD GAVE TO HEMAN fourteen sons and three daughters. All these were under the hands of their father for song in the house of the Lord, with cymbals, psalteries, and harps, for the service of the house of God, according to the king's order, "

* Psalm 127:3-5, NEB. "Sons are a GIFT from the Lord and children a reward from him. Like arrows in the hand of a fighting man are the sons of a man's youth. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them; such men shall not be put to shame when they confront their enemies in court."

* Psalm 127:3, KNOX. "Fatherhood itself is the LORD'S GIFT, the fruitful womb is a reward that COMES FROM HIM."

*Genesis 9:1 leads us to believe that children are a gift of God and come solely through the blessing of God,

* Psalm 127:3 Don't you see that children are God's BEST[b] gift[/b]? the fruit of the womb His generous legacy?"

*Matthew 18:5 says, "Whoso shall receive one such little child in my name receives Me."

* Isaiah 8:18. "Behold, I and the CHILDREN WHOM THE LORD HATH GIVEN ME are for signs and for wonders in Israel FROM THE LORD OF HOSTS, which dwells in mount Zion."


*  Genesis 1:28
*  Deuteronomy 28
*  Jeremiah 30:19
*  Exodus 20:12;
*  Deuteronomy 5:16;
*  Psalm 107:41;
*  Matthew 15:4;
*  Ephesians 6:2,3.
*  Deuteronomy 30:5
*  Genesis 32:12;
*  Deuteronomy 7:13; 13:16; 28:63a; 30:9.
*  Luke 1:14-18
*  Ezekiel 24:25
*  Hosea 9:16
*  Luke 1:15-17

And there is many more Bible verses such as those i already listed oh, unlike that Malachi something something about tithe which is just one verse . . . So that is why me and my bleeding heart has to open a shop selling the genuine Holy Bible to all Naija men to stop this discriminationary practise of giving them incomplete Bibles  

Eegulize:


@NL members
Please I want you all to put yourselves in my husband's shoes and react like a real African man.[size=14pt] I don't care if you use insultive words, just be your real self and get your points across (after all, this is an anonymous site).[/size]

Eegulize:

@2mch & Jennykadry

Please when I said I wouldn't be bothered if you use insultive words to get your points across, I didn't mean contributors should use them on one another. 

[size=14pt]Kindly direct all insults @ me and not at yourselves [/size].

Just checking and practising [s]exercise in damage limitation [/s] thats all I love dotting my "i's" and crossing my "t's", you see

lepasharon:

three caesarians your belly must be F***d up!

How do you expect her to feel?

Madam it seems you are not satisfied, so far, with numerous suggestions pouring in
Well African setting allows polygamy, swallow your ego & allow a second wife
Even if the second brings only girls as well try a 3rd wife
I hope you wont like to challenge God who provided you 3 lovely girls

If you are not careful you will be pushed to take actions you wont like

Devote your energy in raising your family and give up on having a male child. Countless barren women are more than eager to have just one child to wipe away the shame of barreness and you are contemplating going for a fourth try, sha, na your choice.

[b][size=16pt] Since you asked for our opinions here, I have to be blunt with you and I'm known for being blunt but, who cares!

You see, you're not God and your husband isn't either.  It's a pity you had to go through 3 Caeserian sections yet, a boy wasn't forth coming and you hope to try the 4th time and what if it's another girl Huh!!!!  

Failing that, what if it's the boy you hope for, and he turned out with Physical/Mental Disabilities or any kind of disability you can not cope with e.g. Downs Syndrome, cripple, blindness etc - would you consider it a success story, then?

There are thousands of couples who would give their arms and eyeballs for what you've got, still you're not satisfied.  Why can't people be thankful for what God has given them - why do you all like to re-write God's story

You are trying to please your husband because he's been a good boy, EXCUSE meeeeeee! Is it not how he should be to you, in the first place?  So you have to give him a medallion for being a good boy, really?  

If he wants to cheat and destroy his family, let him get on with it and don't you risk your life for that, in trying for a 4th baby that could even turn out to be another girl.

Now, let me tell a little but sad story, I'm sorry.  You see, 3 years ago, I lost one of my first Cousins through ignorance.  My Cousin had 6 daughters and one son but she and her husband were never satisfied. 

I understand, alot of pressure was piled on her by Society.  She decided to try one more time and it turned out to be twin girls (the genes/twins runs in her mothers side of the family - her own mother had 7 daughters and a son). 

The babies where delivered naturally and there were no complications but, she was discharged home from maternity earlier - 3 days after delivery considering she had twins and should have been monitored a little longer before being discharged, home. 

On the 4th day as she went to bath, she collapsed and died leaving 8 distraught under 13 years old daughters behind - how foolish! Does it worth it? Now, she is up in Heaven answering God's questions and with the way you're going, be warned!

Don't be selfish, think of your daughters and their futures as well - for girls are more than blessings if you don't know it, yet.  I could hear some say, tufiakwa, it will not happen to me and I say, wait till it does!!!

Your see, the husband she left behind has since re-married and still looking for a son perhaps, he hadn't learnt his lessons, he would soon.  

So, my dear sister, it doesn't worth sacrifcing your life for a man, ok!  A man would cheat whether you like it or not.  If you like, you could be or win the world's best wife of the year for him still, he would still go out with other women and marry them if it comes to that.

The pressure should be on him to produce a son and not you after all, he is the one who failed to give you a son you'd always wanted - pile on the pressure instead of the other way round, if you like!!! 

Women, we are Goalkeepers, keeping 2 balls namely, X and Y at any one time and Men are Strikers with only one ball X, to shoot at our balls.  Depending on what they want, it's really upto them to hit our X if they want a boy or our Y if it's a girl they want - its really upto them and they should be doing the crying if they miss their target and not us, please!

Now, let me be a little gentle with you.  Here is a 'Pre-conception Diet' for you to try if you're still considering the 4th baby and a baby Boy for that matter.  First of all, both of you should prepare your bodies at least, to avoid any birth deformities.  For you, take your 1 per day Vitamins e.g. Salium, Pottasium (8 weeks before Conception) and Folic acid (3 months before/3 months after Conception.

In addition, you need to gear your diets towards ALKALINE oriented foods e.g. eat regularly: Bacon, Sausages, Roast Beef, Fish and Prawns etc at least 8 weeks before trying - avoid Acid oriented foods, 

And for those, trying for a baby Girl I suggest, in addition to taking I per day Folic Acid, they should also eat Acid oriented foods e.g. lots of Vegetables, Lean meats, Milk, plenty of Fruits and avoid Alkaline oriented foods.  

This is just an idea, it's not tested or proven but I know some people it worked for and I suggest, you research a bit further, about them before trying.  

Good luck with the baby Boy you hope for!
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Theblessed:

[b][size=16pt] Since you asked for our opinions here, I have to be blunt with you and I'm known for being blunt but, who cares!

You see, you're not God and your husband isn't either.  It's a pity you had to go through 3 Caeserian sections yet, a boy wasn't forth coming and you hope to try the 4th time and what if it's another girl Huh!!!!  

Failing that, what if it's the boy you hope for, and he turned out with Physical/Mental Disabilities or any kind of disability you can not cope with e.g. Downs Syndrome, cripple, blindness etc - would you consider it a success story, then?

There are thousands of couples who would give their arms and eyeballs for what you've got, still you're not satisfied.  Why can't people be thankful for what God has given them - why do you all like to re-write God's story

You are trying to please your husband because he's been a good boy, EXCUSE meeeeeee! Is it not how he should be to you, in the first place?  So you have to give him a medallion for being a good boy, really?  

If he wants to cheat and destroy his family, let him get on with it and don't you risk your life for that, in trying for a 4th baby that could even turn out to be another girl.

Now, let me tell a little but sad story, I'm sorry.  You see, 3 years ago, I lost one of my first Cousins through ignorance.  My Cousin had 6 daughters and one son but she and her husband were never satisfied. 

I understand, alot of pressure was piled on her by Society.  She decided to try one more time and it turned out to be twin girls (the genes/twins runs in her mothers side of the family - her own mother had 7 daughters and a son). 

The babies where delivered naturally and there were no complications but, she was discharged home from maternity earlier - 3 days after delivery considering she had twins and should have been monitored a little longer before being discharged, home. 

On the 4th day as she went to bath, she collapsed and died leaving 8 distraught under 13 years old daughters behind - how foolish! Does it worth it? Now, she is up in Heaven answering God's questions and with the way you're going, be warned!

Don't be selfish, think of your daughters and their futures as well - for girls are more than blessings if you don't know it, yet.  I could hear some say, tufiakwa, it will not happen to me and I say, wait till it does!!!

Your see, the husband she left behind has since re-married and still looking for a son perhaps, he hadn't learnt his lessons, he would soon.  

So, my dear sister, it doesn't worth sacrifcing your life for a man, ok!  A man would cheat whether you like it or not.  If you like, you could be or win the world's best wife of the year for him still, he would still go out with other women and marry them if it comes to that.

The pressure should be on him to produce a son and not you after all, he is the one who failed to give you a son you'd always wanted - pile on the pressure instead of the other way round, if you like!!! 

Women, we are Goalkeepers, keeping 2 balls namely, X and Y at any one time and Men are Strikers with only one ball X, to shoot at our balls. Depending on what they want, it's really upto them to hit our X if they want a boy or our Y if it's a girl they want - its really upto them and they should be doing the crying if they miss their target and not us, please!




Now, let me be a little gentle with you.  Here is a 'Pre-conception Diet' for you to try if you're still considering the 4th baby and a baby Boy for that matter.  First of all, both of you should prepare your bodies at least, to avoid any birth deformities.  For you, take your 1 per day Vitamins e.g. Salium, Pottasium (8 weeks before Conception) and Folic acid (3 months before/3 months after Conception.

In addition, you need to gear your diets towards ALKALINE oriented foods e.g. eat regularly: Bacon, Sausages, Roast Beef, Fish and Prawns etc at least 8 weeks before trying - avoid Acid oriented foods, 

And for those, trying for a baby Girl I suggest, in addition to taking I per day Folic Acid, they should also eat Acid oriented foods e.g. lots of Vegetables, Lean meats, Milk, plenty of Fruits and avoid Alkaline oriented foods.  

This is just an idea, it's not tested or proven but I know some people it worked for and I suggest, you research a bit further, about them before trying.  

Good luck with the baby Boy you hope for!
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You are wrong on that, men have both X and Y Chromosomes while women only have X chromosome. So, an X from a man will result in a baby girl while a Y merged with an X from the female will result in a baby boy.

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Na wa o, Naija people with their advice.

Straight to the point.

You can do IVF (invitro ferterlization) ; when your eggs and your hubby's sperm will be collected and merged to produce embryo in a lab, after a period of time , sex selection will be done then and your embryo will then be transfered into your uterus, you can then go ahead and do your normal things until your due date, voala!

The price range is between 5k and 10k CND, eveything will be checked and tested before the transfer, downs syndrome etc, but God is above all. If you can afford it, you can do it


and the most C section you can have is 5( just confirmed again), it all depends on where you gonna have it done, if you can afford IVF you may as well travel abroad if you re in Naija for the procedure.

It is part of your heart desire, do it if you can aford it. Boys love their mum most and girls are always Daddy's princess( just kidding, they are all precious and equal in our eyes).

Dont also forget about your grandsons in future, they can fill that gap for you and you can spoil them the way you like.

Good luck in your deciesion.

Eegulize:

Yes, you're very correct, I've seen a couple of cases where delivery turned from CS to normal and vice-versa. But I have a condition where Doctors say my pelvis (or is it cervix) is too small to allow for the the passage of a baby during normal delivery.

She must have had high risk pregnancies and we don't like to take any chances when the patient is high risk to avoid distress of any kind, and that's why C section is the

best option for such pple, Cesarean section takes about an hr max without a hitch, and thats just the way it should be.(God help us in Nigeria) and remember we are different, just

because you achieved it doesn't men she can. It is well.

lepasharon:

three caesarians  your belly must be F***d up!

That is not a nice thing to say, apologize.

Busy_body:

A baby boy is required to prevent Hubby 100% from cheating.
A baby boy is required to beat John who wouldn't stop beating your daughter.


And when this baby boy has been made to artificially "come forth", all shall now proceed to the Church of the "before-i-formed-thee-in-the-womb-i-knew-thee to do thanksgiving and praise God for this "gift", hmmm, and what happens to those [b]viable-many-are-called-but-one-was-chosen-eggs-left-behind-in-the-petri-dish God is indeed a miracle working God of complexities Halleluyah Amen somebody

[/b]

Eureka, i have found another one Now i know why. . . it is now clear to me that Nigerian men have a different Bible to everyone else's in the World, eyah poor longsuffering Naija men, no wonder they have always been confused Their own Bible only states Ephesian 5:22-23 as saying "Wives submit to your Husbands", awww poor thing, no wonder the part that states "Husbands love your Wife as just as Christ loved the Church, is always forever eluding their daft brain Alas their own Bible is incomplete hence reason majority of them always blame the woman for any infertility issue or always beating the woman for not giving them a boy And now I can see that their Bible also don't contain verses such as:



*Genesis 33:5. "And he lifted up his eyes, and saw the women and the children; and said, Who are those with thee? And he said, The children which GOD HATH GRACIOUSLY GIVEN thy servant."

* Genesis 48:9. "They are my sons, whom GOD HATH GIVEN ME in this place."

* Joshua 24:3. "I took your father Abraham, and multiplied his seed, and GAVE HIM ISAAC."

* Ruth 4:13b. "The LORD GAVE HER CONCEPTION, and she bare a son."

* 1 Chronicles 25:4-6. "Bukkiah, Mattaniah, Uzziel, Shebuel, and Jerimoth, Hannaniah, Hanani, Eliathah, Giddalti, and Romamti-ezer, Joshbekashah, Mallothi, Hothir, and Mahazioth: all these were the sons of Heman the king's seer in the words of God, to lift up the horn. And GOD GAVE TO HEMAN fourteen sons and three daughters. All these were under the hands of their father for song in the house of the Lord, with cymbals, psalteries, and harps, for the service of the house of God, according to the king's order, "

* Psalm 127:3-5, NEB. "Sons are a GIFT from the Lord and children a reward from him. Like arrows in the hand of a fighting man are the sons of a man's youth. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them; such men shall not be put to shame when they confront their enemies in court."

* Psalm 127:3, KNOX. "Fatherhood itself is the LORD'S GIFT, the fruitful womb is a reward that COMES FROM HIM."

*Genesis 9:1 leads us to believe that children are a gift of God and come solely through the blessing of God,

* Psalm 127:3 Don't you see that children are God's BEST[b] gift[/b]? the fruit of the womb His generous legacy?"

*Matthew 18:5 says, "Whoso shall receive one such little child in my name receives Me."

* Isaiah 8:18. "Behold, I and the CHILDREN WHOM THE LORD HATH GIVEN ME are for signs and for wonders in Israel FROM THE LORD OF HOSTS, which dwells in mount Zion."


*  Genesis 1:28
*  Deuteronomy 28
*  Jeremiah 30:19
*  Exodus 20:12;
*  Deuteronomy 5:16;
*  Psalm 107:41;
*  Matthew 15:4;
*  Ephesians 6:2,3.
*  Deuteronomy 30:5
*  Genesis 32:12;
*  Deuteronomy 7:13; 13:16; 28:63a; 30:9.
*  Luke 1:14-18
*  Ezekiel 24:25
*  Hosea 9:16
*  Luke 1:15-17

And there is many more Bible verses such as those i already listed oh, unlike that Malachi something something about tithe which is just one verse . . . So that is why me and my bleeding heart has to open a shop selling the genuine Holy Bible to all Naija men to stop this discriminationary practise of giving them incomplete Bibles    

abey leave story joor, what about the sperm that was left on the floor , in the condom, towel , bath tub, toilet etc (anywhere you do it) after intercourse nko? those count as a

waste too? or they just dont count atall? ARTIFICIAL made, what the P.U.K.E are you talking about! jeezz , I m outta here jare, these comments makes me very umm not

happy and i am a happy person. off to bed 1:15am.

why are u so desperate? why not be grateful to God for at least making you to have 3 girls? remember that some couples married for over 20 years are ernestly praying to God to give them one tenth of what you already have. How many girls does OBAMA have? what of George Bush?

Judging from the various replies, one can safely conclude that you should not try it.
I want you to look at it this way.
In the attempt, God forbid you lose your life, what will happen to your 3 girls. They will definitely be raised by another woman. It means you may loose everything and your life included.
If your husband gets a child from outside, love the child like your own. Just pray he does not bring the mother home. Resign yourself to fate.

lepasharon:

three caesarians your belly must be F***d up!

i wu fuuuuuuu!!!

Busy_body:

A baby boy is required to prevent Hubby 100% from cheating.
A baby boy is required to beat John who wouldn't stop beating your daughter.


And when this baby boy has been made to artificially "come forth", all shall now proceed to the Church of the "before-i-formed-thee-in-the-womb-i-knew-thee to do thanksgiving and praise God for this "gift", hmmm, and what happens to those viable-many-are-called-but-one-was-chosen-eggs-left-behind-in-the-petri-dish God is indeed a miracle working God of complexities Halleluyah Amen somebody



Eureka, i have found another one Now i know why. . . it is now clear to me that Nigerian men have a different Bible to everyone else's in the World, eyah poor longsuffering Naija men, no wonder they have always been confused Their own Bible only states Ephesian 5:22-23 as saying "Wives submit to your Husbands", awww poor thing, no wonder the part that states "Husbands love your Wife as just as Christ loved the Church, is always forever eluding their daft brain Alas their own Bible is incomplete hence reason majority of them always blame the woman for any infertility issue or always beating the woman for not giving them a boy And now I can see that their Bible also don't contain verses such as:



*Genesis 33:5. "And he lifted up his eyes, and saw the women and the children; and said, Who are those with thee? And he said, The children which GOD HATH GRACIOUSLY GIVEN thy servant."

* Genesis 48:9. "They are my sons, whom GOD HATH GIVEN ME in this place."

* Joshua 24:3. "I took your father Abraham, and multiplied his seed, and GAVE HIM ISAAC."

* Ruth 4:13b. "The LORD GAVE HER CONCEPTION, and she bare a son."

* 1 Chronicles 25:4-6. "Bukkiah, Mattaniah, Uzziel, Shebuel, and Jerimoth, Hannaniah, Hanani, Eliathah, Giddalti, and Romamti-ezer, Joshbekashah, Mallothi, Hothir, and Mahazioth: all these were the sons of Heman the king's seer in the words of God, to lift up the horn. And GOD GAVE TO HEMAN fourteen sons and three daughters. All these were under the hands of their father for song in the house of the Lord, with cymbals, psalteries, and harps, for the service of the house of God, according to the king's order, "

* Psalm 127:3-5, NEB. "Sons are a GIFT from the Lord and children a reward from him. Like arrows in the hand of a fighting man are the sons of a man's youth. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them; such men shall not be put to shame when they confront their enemies in court."

* Psalm 127:3, KNOX. "Fatherhood itself is the LORD'S GIFT, the fruitful womb is a reward that COMES FROM HIM."

*Genesis 9:1 leads us to believe that children are a gift of God and come solely through the blessing of God,

* Psalm 127:3 Don't you see that children are God's BEST[b] gift[/b]? the fruit of the womb His generous legacy?"

*Matthew 18:5 says, "Whoso shall receive one such little child in my name receives Me."

* Isaiah 8:18. "Behold, I and the CHILDREN WHOM THE LORD HATH GIVEN ME are for signs and for wonders in Israel FROM THE LORD OF HOSTS, which dwells in mount Zion."


*  Genesis 1:28
*  Deuteronomy 28
*  Jeremiah 30:19
*  Exodus 20:12;
*  Deuteronomy 5:16;
*  Psalm 107:41;
*  Matthew 15:4;
*  Ephesians 6:2,3.
*  Deuteronomy 30:5
*  Genesis 32:12;
*  Deuteronomy 7:13; 13:16; 28:63a; 30:9.
*  Luke 1:14-18
*  Ezekiel 24:25
*  Hosea 9:16
*  Luke 1:15-17

And there is many more Bible verses such as those i already listed oh, unlike that Malachi something something about tithe which is just one verse . . . So that is why me and my bleeding heart has to open a shop selling the genuine Holy Bible to all Naija men to stop this discriminationary practise of giving them incomplete Bibles    

you really do have a lot of time on your hands. , jeez,

Many thanks for all your responses, let me quickly share an occurrence below.

My maid who had lived in my home for over 5 yrs suddenly decided she wasn’t going to continue her studies any longer but just wanted to go back to her parents in the village against everybody’s wish (including her parents’). We did our best to make her feel like part of the family, the relationship was more like that between an adopted daughter and her foster parents. Yet she still decided to leave. Anyway, that is not the point I’m trying to make here.

While she was putting her things together to leave, my 1st and 2nd daughters came to me crying and saying “aunty said she was leaving"  but that they wouldn’t want her to leave  (I knew that was coming anyway as they were so fond of her). I told them to calm down as “aunty” had already made up her mind to leave. Then the following conversation took place between my first daughter and I:-

Daughter: When aunty leaves, who is going to take care of us?

Myself: Don’t worry, God will take care of you

Daughter:  But God is a spirit, will he come and bathe us and get us ready for school?

Why did I share this story? Just to let us know that God will not come down physically to help us. If we do our very best, using all means available at our disposal without achieving all that we wished for, then we can sit down comfortably and say, yes my lot is God’s wish for me or it's my destiny.  I was confused before posting this thread, but right now I think I reason a lot better and am quite clear about the direction I’m going and the steps I need to take to get to my destination (of course with the help of God).

I totally agree that CS is very risky, but I think life itself is a risk all together.  There are a whole lot of cases where women have lost their lives during childbirth (whether CS or normal delivery).  So, if God did it for me three times in the past, I’m sure he can still do it for me  a 4th time – afterall, He is the same, yesterday, today and forever.  And if my 4th and final attempt (final attempt with all certainty because I have been told during the last CS that my womb will be tied up after the fourth CS) turns out to be a girl as well, I will gladly say:  TO GOD BE THE GLORY. As for all who think I’m being ungrateful to God for asking for a male child after three beautiful daughters, I want to say that I’m very, very grateful for all I have so far, but that shouldn’t stop me from asking for more. Afterall, we are told He will supply all our needs  according to His riches in glory - a sound and healthy male child (in addition to my three beautiful daughters) is one of those needs for me right now.

Apart from the scar at the lower abdomen, you will hardly know I’ve gone through a single CS. I’ve actually had three of them at UPTH in Port Harcourt, I just didn’t want all those Doctors at private clinics who only refer you to the teaching hospitals when it becomes too late (most of the Doctors running these expensive private hospitals work at the same teaching hospital anyway). Besides, my husband and I both work in one of the leading Oil & Gas Producing firms in Nigeria where we have full access to free medical care but we see that the company’s medical unit is not well fitted to handle emergencies should any arise even though the equipments and personnel are there . So, what  I personally do is, right from the very day I register for anti-natal at the teaching hospital, I make sure I don’t skip any appointment and I try to be nice to all the nurses and Doctors I’m assigned to by way of material and cash gifts and this has really helped me a lot. At my 3rd CS for instance, a particular Surgeon that wasn’t on duty offered to come around just in case his assistance was needed even though I didn’t belong to his team.

I just clocked 37 in August, so I guess I still have three more years to work out this last attempt with my husband, I’m happy to know of the two processes mentioned here that could be of immense benefit to me - Microsort & IVF . I will take time to research on them (probably they mean the same thing, I don’t know yet).

What I might do differently this time around may be to seek medical help abroad with either of the two processes above ( thank God my husband and I can comfortably afford that based on the various estimates posted on some of the responses).

Having made up my mind to go for a fourth CS therefore, one last thing I will appreciate will be recommendations on reputable hospitals where these processes can be accurately applied. If there are Hospitals in Nigeria that can safely do same, please do not hesitate to post their details in your responses as well.

God bless you all.

Many male children are pleading to be adopted. Give them a chance by adopting some of them and give them the best training. a child's brain is like an empty paper. what u write on it is what the child becomes. if u have 10 sons and dont give them the best training, the'll be a problem to u in ur old age. if u adopt a son nd train him well. he cld be more useful to u than ur biological sons. my neighbor adopted two sons nd they r happy.