I have 3 daughters from 3 Caeserian sections but I desperately need a son for my husband who has been so wonderful and understanding. Although he doesn't look worried about not having a son yet, friends are advising that he might succumb to enormous pressure from outside to get a son outside of our marriage later. My Doctor has said I have just one more attempt at child-bearing through CS after which my womb will be tied up. I wouldn't want another child unless it's going to be a male.

1. How can I achieve male child conception?
2. Should I even attempt a 4th CS?

I'm just confused right now.

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Ask your doctor . I hear these days you can pick the sex of your next child. It is very expensive from what i hear. Or you can do abortion till you get a male? Depends on your level of desperation. But ask your doctor.

Pls rest, is it in dis age and tym dat one is still worried abt not having a male child. I have 2 girls as well from cs and I would also like a male child but wen I think of it being a major operation no body tells me to think twice. My husband and I already agreed we are going to have 3 children but for d fact dat both deliveries have been cs, he is d one who discourages me most. And when I had my 2nd child,
there were 8 surgeons and among them was one only one male doctor,and the other seven were females so tel me what is it a man can do that a woman can't do this day. My dear relax your body and concentrate on this one you already have

Thank God for giving me the foresight and business acumen to open my now thriving e-Nairaland lingerie boutique for spouses whose men are cheating on them, for them to wear to lure and seduce their wayward philandering husbands back home from those jezebel and their jazz, and claim back what is theirs and take him to cloud 9 forever


Now I have another thinking coming - eureka i've found it, me and my Einsten-like brain - yes thats it, i am going to open a class for ignorant Nigerian men to lecture them about the intricasies of the Chromosome X and Y on gender determination Hope I would be able to permeate through to their thick skulls sha, God give me strength  




@ OP

Better concentrate on your health and the 3 lovely girls God already bestowed upon you, before you add high blood pressure to the list of your non-malaise. According to you, your Husband is not complaining and you know him better, he is your Husband so should be approachable so go and talk to him instead and so stop listening to all these outsiders and their tale of woes

I sincerely appreciate all responses so far, I will appreciate more please to enable me arrive at an informed decision.

As a fallout of the suggestion by 2mch above, I wiil be glad if anyone can enlighten me more on the gender selection process he alluded to in his response (not the endless abortion part pls).

1. How expensive is it in Naira?
2. Are there competent Doctors and Hospitals in Nigeria that can handle that?
3. Does anyone know anybody who has successfully gone through the process and achieved desired result?
4. How reliable is the process in %?

^Why not accept your lot,the blessings you've recieved from the man above? Why push or desire for something which "might" not be after all said and done?

I don't know your situation but heck,3 births,3 CS and 3 girls,I wont push further.Life is programmed in such a way that we can't get all we 'want' but we'd always get all that we "need" especially if we are in a relationship with our maker.

While fighting for the seedling,be careful you don't lose the farmland.

Goodluck in your quest.

We just lost a loved one last week due to same foolishness. Please accept your lot, it is a fact that girls take better care of their parents especially at old age. Don't risk your life and that of your unborn child. A word is enough for the wise!

i wonder y pple still kill them self 4 a male child in this present day! madam u & ur husband shld stop making learned pple laugh u. i guess u're Igbos. that's their work

These 'problems' are the fruits of our cultural norm today. It is called GREED! I want it all! I want it all!! I want it all!!!

Lets say you get twin boys after your expensive treatment, you get a child with down's syndrome and another with schizophrenia. Would you try again to have boys?

Yes indeed, there are pseudo-scientists out there that can help you with your 'predicament' and with a lot of hope and 'prayers', your wish may be granted! However, your husband's fidelity has ZERO relationship with anything you say or do.

The rumour mills have it that Patience is childless and Stella had a ret'arded child. This didn't stop their HOS husbands from cherishing them. I actually believe it is YOU and not your husband that 'wants' this male child.

Na wa o! Inspite of all the campaign on women empowerment! lol
Anyhow, let me not judge you because i dont know the specific situation in your family.
But ask yourself, is it really worth it? Do you believe that by having a male child you will prevent your husband from going outside?
A man who will cheat, will cheat whether or not you have 10 boys for him. I am a product of a broken home, and in my family we are 90% male.
Is it really worth risking your life and plundering your finances just at a futile attempt at tieing down ur husband, when he may not even be bothered about such things in the first place.
This is the 21st century o! Please put all these into consideration before risking your life for nothing.
Besides, have you heard that the future belongs to women. Take a look at world events and see the tide of change that is coming.
In my opinion, it is best to focus on raising your girls and giving all your love to ur family rather than giving into paranoid insecurities. You may even be surprised that getting pregnant again may be the catalyst that will drive the man outside.
Also remember that all these new scientific breakthroughs with regards to conception are not 100% fullproof. What happens when you have the fourth girl? Or God forbid, ur enemy develops complications as a result of the pregnancy?
A word is enough for the wise o!!
All the best

It is amazing what women go through this days for the sake of procreation. Honestly , I salute your courage. 3 cs already! omo no be small tin o. The pain and the risk u have gone through already cannot be quantified. Well we all know that nowadays women are found in many professions that were hitherto thought to be for only men or male dominated.

I know  you are not really bothered about the female child realising her full potential, but what really bothers u and a lot of men and  women in your present situation is that they need a male child to carry on the name of the family and for the purpose of transfer  of wealth, cos a female child will get married and most men think they dont want all they have labored for to be transfered to another family.

It appears you are desperate for a male child and you are ready to take the risk of another CS if only it will be a male child. My advice is that you should first ascertain the state of your health, and if your body can support another pregnancy without complications. Also see a very good specialist on this. Also consult expert gynacologist on the posibility of  a proven sex selection method. U can also do personal research like surfing the internet and reading books. Make sure u do ur homework very well before giving  pregnancy a try again, otherwise please do not take the risk , it is not worth your life , stay alive to give your three lovely kids the best.  All the best and Goodluck.

What a boy can do a girl can do better.

What boy could achieve what Beyonce has achieved her fathers name lives on though her and thats for 100s of years to come!!!

There are so many examples. Dont get me wrong its nice to have a least one of each sex and if Im honest I prefer to have more boys then girls simply because boys have a less tramatic life.

Having said that your life is more important then having a son think carefully. Plus its your husbands fault you keep having girls only his X chromosome sperm is making it to the egg the Y's seem to be too dull.
Lastly there is a big chance when you have this boy your family will spoil him rotten and become a pain in the backside.

Goodluck whatever you decide but the kids you have now come first please dont deny them a mother.

I feel for you.
I saw this & felt it might be of help to you not 100% sure.
Call 08033575600. office of Perfert herbal address is 55 allen avenue ikeja lagos.


HOW TO SELECT BABY'S SEX

How to select baby’s sex – By Dr Sandra: For those who tried sex selection through charting and were disappointed, herbal remedy through skillful manipulation of the acid-base content of a woman’s body is offering a new hope.Dr Sandra Ekwunife, chief consultant, Perfect Herbals Ltd, Ikeja, Lagos, says that if a women’s system was predominantly acidic, she would have only baby girls while the alkaline extreme produces baby boys.



She revealed that for a 50-50 chance of either a baby boy or girl to be the case, a woman’s acid-base balance has to be neutral.The ebullient alternative medicine practitioner and now a mother of five, who is a living witness of the technique, had a predominantly acidic medium that made her have three girls consecutively.




Changing her predominant acidic medium to alkaline, she had a set of twins in February, all boys.According to her, "sex selection is very possible. Scientists have done so many researches on it. It works. But it doesn’t work for everybody. I am an example, I had three girls consecutively. It was not as if I didn’t desire a boy, I did. If there was anybody who should desire a boy, it was I, because in the place I come from, if you have even 10 girls and you don’t have a boy, that home is not fully yours. Any woman may just come in and have a boy for your husband and that will be his heir.""So, I needed a boy, but I never had them.




I went through anything you can imagine. From mating on ovulation to anything you can think of. They said I should time ovulation, I did; Make an hour before ovulation day I did. Mate an hour after ovulation, I did. Mate six hours after ovulation, I did. But it didn’t work. It worked for some people though. It works for some, it doesn’t work for some."But today we have a sure remedy for sex selection.




It comes in the form of herbal medication, which will change the system. When the PH level in the human body is balanced, you can either have a boy or a girl. But when the body tends to be too acidic or too alkaline, the woman will have more boys or more girls. You will find a situation where a woman will have boys all through or girls all through, despite all the efforts she is making to time ovulation, and it will continue that way until you change her system."Even olden days herbalists know about it and used the knowledge to get heirs for kings. Sex selection has been there in our traditional society, just that we overlooked it.




"There is another theory that says that having boys all through or girls all through could be as a result of a man having predominantly X-chromosome that form girls or predominantly the Y-chromosome that form boys. But there is no man that do not have Y-chromosome. So, a lot of attention is put on the woman, but when the woman’s PH level is changed, she gets the sex of baby she wants. But for you to get that result, the man also must be examined and treated if possible. The man can have low sperm count or no sperm at all, what is referred to as axospermia.""So, what we do is that we run a test for the woman as well as the man. If the man’s sperm count is low, we treat it, if it is normal, we boost it in cases like this to make the man above average.




If the sperm count is high, it is to the advantage of the couple because it will make them have more boys. When the sperm is high, you have more boys, when it is low, you have more girls."The normal or average sperm count is 60 million sperm cells. We need as much as that for conception because the vagina kills some sperm cells even before the race begin. The vagina acid can massacre over half of the sperm. So, we need the quantity that will swim up, that will make it through the cervix. Some will still go up the wrong tube, at the end of it all, you have little sperm cells that make the race. So, we need an average of 60 million sperm cells for guaranteed conception, no story."As we are looking at the man, we are also looking at the woman. Because the egg must be there, they must be very healthy, they must be very fertile.




If the woman’s system is too acidic; it kills a lot of sperm, especially the Y-chromosome sperm cells that bring the male child. Because the Y-chromosome is smaller and more miniature then the X-chromosome. The killing of the Y-chromosomes reduces the quantity of it and makes the woman to have a girl. So, the acidic medium kills and weakens the Y-chromosomal cells making the X-chromosome to over-take, to bring about a baby girl.""But the first and major thing the woman needs do, is to check out the system, whether it is alkaline or acidic.




Women who are acidic look for boys because they keep having girls, while women who are alkaline keep having boys and look for girls. You will see a woman who is having the seventh child just to have a girl, and unless she changes her system from alkaline to acidic, she will still have a boy. We can do that easily in my clinic, it doesn’t take time, within a month or six weeks utmost, we change the woman’s system."If the system is acidic, the women will be having girls all through, we change the system and make it more alkaline.




Another thing is that once the system is changed, the woman will keep having the same sex of babies until you turn it to normal. For instance, if a woman is having girls all through and you change the system, through the herbs she is taking, to alkaline, she will start having boys all through. If she desires a girl, she will not have a girl again until she changes the system to be acidic medium. When the system becomes balanced, which will happen over the years, she will then have either a boy or a girl."Most people naturally have a balanced body, neither too alkaline nor too acidic.When it happens that way, the woman will give birth to either a boy or a girl. It will be a 50-50 chance.




"So, for sex selection, mating on the 15th or 16th day of ovulation may work, but not for everybody. When the body is in the normal PH level, which is 7, it is okay, it can happen, but when it is not like that, it is not possible, you can’t achieve it."

you can adopt a male child instead and put your mind @ rest.

In 2011 'educated' people are still looking for boy or girl. SMH. God don bless you with 3 healthy children and you are still greedy. spare a thought for those that can even conceive for one.

all the guys who r here posting messages to disuade the OP, rather than giving informed advice, saying "what will be will be", "accept your lot", "god this god that", so who's being ignorant. if she's rich enough, there are procedures that have proved successful to sellect the sex of an embryo, enable one to conceive if one is having difficulties with that, you can even have your own eggs fertilized & another person will bear the pregnancy & delivery for you. as long as u are biologically able to produce fertile eggs & your husband able to produce fertile sperm, then there's no reason u can't have a child of your choosing. just speak to the right knowledgeable people & not the ones telling you it's your fate or that u r antagonizing god, meanwhile they themselves are working hard to achieve their wants instead of waiting on the same god to give them all they need. do a thorough search of the internet(google, wikipedia, etc) & you'd get useful info.

@ Poster,

Isn't it funny that you have three hale and hearty kids and you are still not satisfied? Many people will give anything to have just one single child but are still childless due to circumstances beyond their control. You need to learn to be content with what God has given you.

My sister is blessed with 5 lovely daughters and her husband dotes over them all like his most prized possessions.

You need to look at what you have and thank God. Going for a fourth child despite the risks involved, considering your circumstance is solely up to you to decide. Is it really worth it?

@ Okeyxyz

I am sure The Clintons and The Bushes who have 1 and 2 daughters repectively have more than enough money to 'manufacture' a boy child. There must be a good reason why they didnt.

okeyxyz:

all the guys who r here posting messages to disuade the OP, rather than giving informed advice, saying "what will be will be", "accept your lot", "god this god that", so who's being ignorant. if she's rich enough, there are procedures that have proved successful to sellect the sex of an embryo, enable one to conceive if one is having difficulties with that, you can even have your own eggs fertilized & another person will bear the pregnancy & delivery for you. as long as u are biologically able to produce fertile eggs & your husband able to produce fertile Fluid, then there's no reason u can't have a child of your choosing. just speak to the right knowledgeable people & not the ones telling you it's your fate or that u r antagonizing god, meanwhile they themselves are working hard to achieve their wants instead of waiting on the same god to give them all they need. do a thorough search of the internet(google, wikipedia, etc) & you'd get useful info.

Thank you my brother, don't  mind all these hypocrites who are saying one thing publicly and doing the exact opposite behind the scene.

If you have sound advice, pls give the woman and let her decide for herself.

I know of a lady (a colleague of mine actually) who have three girls and is carrying a fourth pregnancy right now (not sure of mode of delivery though whether CS or normal). She said she was done with child-bearing three years ago when she had the third baby, I don't know if this fourth pregnancy is a "mistake" like most women always say or it is as a result of being in a somewhat similar situation as the poster.

Apart from the danger and risk to her health, I personally don't see anything wrong in her trying again.

mhm! mmhm!!(clearin his throat) Obviously,dis 1 seems lyk women's gist ,but permit me 2 say dat 3 CS and 3 girls aint a joke,but a Miracle.
Like d other ladies hav advised,giv it a break,as there is no utmost guarantee the 4th pregnancy wil produce the male child u so desire and of course u run d risk of labour room complications(God forbid u may say),but my sista kip it in mind dat God has truly blessd u and as such do not test Him by goin for a fourth conception,I undastand d pressure u are envisaging but undastand your head is more important,if u die in this quest of yours,Ur husband will replace u, sharpaly.
I know people desiring 2 hav jst 1 child(regardless of the sex). Sombody earlier said u shld accept ur lot,but i make bold 2tell u to COUNT UR BLESSINGS, and move on wit ur lyf,
I can even tel u dat girl child dey make sense pass male children dis days,(i knw i'll get letters), in any case madam,I pray God broaden ur understanding 2 see how truly blessed u are and an Oliver Twist u re being.
All the best!!

zignor:

I can give u a male child . . . I have 3 sons
so let hook up

@zignor
I'm a man-lover, can we hook up pls 

Even Obama has two girls. Having boys or girls does not determine your or your children's destiny. Be content. Some people are dying to have just a child.

We should stop living life for people. Most people that want to have boys do so because people are either laughing at them that they have only girls (whereas even the people themselves could be wishing to be in your shoes).

So my dear be content with your three children. You could try one again, much later in life and believe me, it could just be a boy. Being anxious for a boy will make u keep getting girls.

In this part of the world where I live in, a sane Doctor would strongly advise you not to go for a third one, even 3 is a risk and I am not kidding. . My prayer for you is: may you not get pregnant and die from it, all because you are not happy with what God gave you. If you die, I give your husband 18 months, after that he will get himself a new wife that will take care of him and hopefully be nasty to your kids.

What a shame.

Fokativ:

@zignor
I'm a man-lover, can we hook up pls 

Man lover as in ass scavenger,chief arsehole navigator?

E don zig-zag for Zignor.
Oturugbeke.lolz

I used to think that modern medicine limits CS to only three and furthermore whether you have a boy or not will not prevent your husband from cutting shows outside if he is the type. You know African Society is essentially polygamist but Christianity and Oyinbo culture is checkmating us African nay Naija men. But sha o madam no kill yourself maybe you have another Okonjo Iweala among those three daughters, you never can tell, just ensure that you join hands with your husband to give them the best education money can buy and give them proper home training, you will never regret ka Chineke meziokwu.

Hmmmmm!!!!!

Wetin dey dis life sef   Who get shoe no get leg to wear am, who get leg no get shoe to wear

I tire oooo

(*****yawns and closes thread****)

Change ur mind set my dear sister
Dont allow d situation drag u 2 d unknown
Ppl will try 2 dupe u so be v cful
Be contented wt what God gave you
Train them well & they will take good care of u & your husband

Thinking of what happens when you are gone is not v necessary
Live your life well
Be happy

If you must hv a boy , adopt one
Dont go after herbs
Dont endanger your life & d happiness of your husband & 3 daughters
Be wise

Abeg spare me all these jargons, what has education or exposure got to do with itwe are Africans for petes sake??who doesn't know that a son is the crown of every home?what happens to  the man's lineage after he has gone?, nairalanders no dey try, you guys saying she has no right to worry are just plain liars, rubbish, abeg speak the truth or just STFU


@OP,

99.9% of peeps here are not being realistic, you have every reason to worry, leave the fact that we are all exposed and claim to be educated, but the truth is that no true african man feels fulfilled without having a son, it is not possible, even if you have very intelligent and lovable daughters, your husband may be secretly wishing he has a son and will definitely complain someday, , a son is always the crown of a family, be it a good or bad son.

I suggest you talk to very competent health experts and decide on your next line of action, if your health cannot carry it, better go and adopt a son,
Moreover your daughters need a brother figure in their lives, just my 2cents

Eegulize, I 'll get you phones and address later, need to find them.
I think it cost between four hundred thousand naira to one million naira or more.
God provided this new technology helping couples manipulate Mother Nature in their favor. It's an embryo screening procedure invented for the purpose of identifying embryos that carry serious, often fatal, genetic diseases.
But these days, it's being used for something very different – to help couples choose the sex of their child, I believe there nothing wrong with this procedure. If having a baby boy will make your family happy and you can afford it, please go for it. I am not a doctor. A friend did it, the boy is 7 yrs old and very smart.

Avoid being judgmental ppls. As for any judgments needing to be made, leave them to God and the authority of God's Word.

Only Eegulize understands her pains, move to next threads if you have nothing good to post,

nawfia:

Abeg spare me all these jargons, what has education or exposure got to do with itwe are Africans for petes sake??who doesn't know that a son is the crown of every home?what happens to the man's lineage after he has gone?, nairalanders no dey try, you guys saying she has no right to worry are just plain liars, rubbish, abeg speak the truth or just STFU


@OP,

99.9% of peeps here are not being realistic, you have every reason to worry, leave the fact that we are all exposed and claim to be educated, but the truth is that no true african man feels fulfilled without having a son, it is not possible, even if you have very intelligent and lovable daughters, your husband may be secretly wishing he has a son and will definitely complain someday, , a son is always the crown of a family, be it a good or bad son.

I suggest you talk to very competent health experts and decide on your next line of action, if your health cannot carry it, better go and adopt a son,
Moreover your daughters need a brother figure in their lives, just my 2cents

Must you smoke crack before you post? Ode oshi