Irupetepete:
I own my workplace

bassdow:
and there are inTroverts that can face a crowd, and there are exTroverts that can't face a crowd.

There are inTroverts that would surprise you when they don't want you taking advantage of them - those ones get strong stands WHILE there are exTroverts that could easily be stepedOn.

Now being Quiet, doesn't necessarily make one an inTrovert. Some quiet people talk pass so called exTroverts. they just need get comfortable enough

EriMma1:
Thank God I'm my own boss, so no room for unwanted chichat or intrusion into my space.

When I find myself around clients when I go to render my services, I try to keep the Convo minimal by suddenly jetting off to duty in the middle of a Convo cos some people will just like to engage you in unecessary discussions. So when I do that, they know duty calls and everyone goes back to their desk.

I did it last week to a woman who likes to talk too much and she became cold towards. When I noticed it, I thanked my stars that I'll at least do my job in peace. Las las, she started again..huh.. me I kukuma still dash out on them.

Right now, mine has gotten worse that I hardly come out of my apartment and if I see someone I know on the way I'll so frown my face so the person can avoid me. Someone was even knocking on my door yesterday, hyping me, I didn't go and answer the person. Being around people now just irritates me because na so so rubbish dem dey like to yarn. So I like and enjoy my privacy with me, myself and I.

Abeg, Shey 3million reach a single lady japa?

occfx:


I stay high from morning till close of work... Detrimental to health but money must be made and it's done by association.

ashewoboy:
That is the question.

What do your colleagues say that hurts you?

All because you are all by yourself. You are not as outspoken as others are.

How have you improved?


How are you improving?


Tell us.

ashewoboy:
Where is lalasticlala?

Rubyjade:
I used to work with several engineers with diverse personalities but many of them were somewhat introverted. I found being kind, leaving them to their work and not forcing them to be overly involved.

For the most part, they were thinkers and not as introverted as they appeared. I discovered once they got comfortable with me that they would chat and we'd laugh.

I think the key is to try to be understanding, try to make sure they are comfortable around you and don't pressure them to do what isn't natural to them. Invite them to social activities like luncheons and other things but don't be surprised if they don't attend. I used to ask one if he wanted me to make him a plate. Eventually, he attended.

As long as they are doing their job, leave them to it. People in certain positions took those positions because it doesn't usually involve social activities. Engineers, accountants, dishwashers…there’s a lot of jobs that don't need to be social. Assume that's why they choose that job.






Introverts are not rude or arrogant. We just keep ourselves to ourselves and get on with things. It doesn't mean we're unfriendly.


1. Allow them to get settled in at work in the morning before talking their ear off. Introverts sorta have to acclimate themselves to social environments such as work or parties every time.

2. Keep conversations short and sweet unless they are keeping the conversation going. Nothing is more awkward than a person that won’t stop talking to you despite your clear lack of interest in what they’re saying. Just say “hi” and keep it moving unless they are clearly in the mood to talk.

3. If they say their “fine” or “okay” just take their word for it. Don’t try to probe for more information or try to get them to open up to you. We’re naturally quiet, reserved, and have bitch resting faces! We’re not sad or upset…that’s just how we are naturally.

4. If we decline the invitation to the office happy hour or Christmas party, please respect our decision! Don’t try to convince us to go or ask us why we don’t want to go. We would just rather avoid large awkward social gatherings! And everyone, (even extroverts) can agree that office social events are a bit awkward!

5. Don’t tell them that they need to be more social in the office. The only thing we NEED to do is our freakin job! Everything else outside of that is extra credit. And we are also well aware that our social withdrawal may cost us a promotion but we’re perfectly fine with that! Co-workers are just that…coworkers…not friends!

6. Don’t try to force them out of their comfort zone by putting them on the spot. We aren’t “shy” extroverts who need to get out more. We are introverts who actually prefer flying under the radar. Don’t make them give the presentation to the whole office! Don’t make them wear the stupid Halloween costume for everyone’s amusement! Don’t put them on blast in mass emails! Don’t make them give speeches to the whole office! Just leave us alone!!

7. Don’t make our quietness seem like an issue. Almost all of my supervisors have said “Gosh! You’re really quiet!” In reality, we’re similarly bothered by how loud everyone else is but UNLIKE you, we don’t make a big deal about it. We accept people for who they are. SO WHAT, if I’m quiet and you’re talkative?? People are different. Don’t make me feel uncomfortable for being who I am!

I know I listed 7 points, but it all boils down to 2 things:

ACCEPT THEM FOR WHO THEY ARE
LEAVE THEM ALONE UNLESS THEY REQUEST OTHERWISE!

Oluromantic:
If you are an introvert, I suggest you read the following books

Why you act the way you do
Attitude is everything
48 laws of power.

After reading them, I bet you will be happy being an introvert regardless of how others view you considering the strength inherent in introversion as revealed by these books.

The fact that you're not predictable alone makes 'cunning' your strength

SaturnNick:

You just nailed it. Thanks, for sharing how we feel

Zeel007:
by Robert Greene. I don't like that book. Is a very cunning and deceptive way of relating with people. is quite deceptive

Psychopatheko:
Most time I tend to use my earpiece, they do call me statue because I don’t reply them it’s not that I have pride or anything I hate insult or public disgrace but when am at home I can do and undo

Karleb:


Go find husband and start a family with that money.

SeriouslySense:
Maybe because it drains either ones energy or focus.
But sometimes, as an extrovert, one can try to play the part of an extrovert to study the effect and how one can manage such a situation, or manage a dynamic situation.

ashewoboy:
That is the question.

What do your colleagues say that hurts you?

All because you are all by yourself. You are not as outspoken as others are.

How have you improved?


How are you improving?


Tell us.

kaymart:

Introverts are polites...they don't announce their successes or failures.

ashewoboy:
That is the question.

What do your colleagues say that hurts you?

All because you are all by yourself. You are not as outspoken as others are.

How have you improved?


How are you improving?


Tell us.

EriMma1:


No be only.. .. if I hear?... money wen never reach me alone.

God forbid make i find husband. Na husband go find me. Normal.
Advise the females in your bloodline to go find husband with their money.

Adex7004:
It has been hard for me, people do sees you as dense or doesn't know what is going on when u stay alone ,some time I do think I am only one in this world facing this kind of stuff

Dumte:
I have this article to share on what working life of an introvert looks like in a world where extroverts are given top priorities.

NOwazobia:
I don't even understand this type of question at all.

Apart from your job description that you do appropriately, is there any other thing that must bring your personality directly into play.

Or you are talking about after work busy body, that usually makes lousy people hang around, and gossiping every other person at work?

Karleb:


Dem get husband already.

All these Nigerian girls. For India na woman dey pay bride price and their marriage dey last well well.

commodore007:
Read the book Quiet by Susan Cain ....you would really love the introverted life ....I am currently reading that book now ....

Akalia:
I may be an introvert but does not hold me back from bearing my mind especially when someone is fond of hurting my feelings. I can be very harsh at it too.
My colleagues don't talk to me anyhow because they know I can go from super quiet to super furious in less than a sec.

EriMma1:


Sidon there dey wait woman wen go come pay your groom price.

ashewoboy:



How? Explain better. Give scenarios.