As most of us would have found out many young women (single and below 30 years) are living in affluence and men tend to fall for them because of their fancy life in the name of love. Is it proper?

It also goes vice-versa, so wats da big deal?

A man is meant to be the provider, any man who spends his life living off women can never succeed naturally in life , it's ok for a woman to be financially dependent on her man or give some sort of support but if this is vice-versa then it's a curse, GOD also confirms this in Genesis, So "MEN", go out there, make money & provide for your lady if you want 100% respect/dignity from your lady , FULL STOP!!!.

thats not completely how it works so remember

beyonce1:

A man is meant to be the provider, any man who spends his life living off women can never succeed naturally in life , it's OK for a woman to be financially dependent on her man or give some sort of support but if this is vice-versa then it's a curse, GOD also confirms this in Genesis, So "MEN", go out there, make money & provide for your lady if you want 100% respect/dignity from your lady , FULL STOP!!!.

no way lady you just sound like a goldigga with a good excuse. can no one on the forum have a coversation with out quoting the bible where in the bible does it say" and God said to Adam make sure you can always buy your girl fine things and if you should fall on hard times do not expect her to help you out for she is just in this for an easy ride"

the girl i have started seeing earns more than me so does that make me against the bible.

have to go and ask to borrow some money bye.

Said before i did, well said tho

So "MEN", go out there, make money & provide for your lady if you want 100% respect/dignity from your lady , FULL STOP!!!.

And what happens if all men decided not to work anymore Would there be no more marriages or no more respect from women, Love is all about sharing, all about living with the little u can save up, 'Love' to a Nigerian lady is all about comfort, wealth and enjoyment, if u dont have money, u dont deserve to love or be loved.
These are all reasons why the oyinbo peeps are wonderful, i know that the rich do not flaunt it, they buy small cars and even join the bus on many occasions. I was shocked some months ago when i was rushing into a bus and i was actually struggling with my landlord - a man that has over 12 houses in london rented out

Grizzly:

It also goes vice-versa, so wats da big deal?

no big deal at alllllll

the girl i have started seeing earns more than me so does that make me against the bible.
have to go and ask to borrow some money bye.

alj:

no way lady you just sound like a goldigga with a good excuse. can no one on the forum have a coversation with out quoting the bible where in the bible does it say" and God said to Adam make sure you can always buy your girl fine things and if you should fall on hard times do not expect her to help you out for she is just in this for an easy ride"

the girl i have started seeing earns more than me so does that make me against the bible.

have to go and ask to borrow some money bye.

@alj ,  Waooooooooh , this world has turned upside down ! so it is now normal and well accepted 4 a woman 2 earn more that her man and sometimes be the BREADWINNER ! Deep inside of you, can you confess that u do not sometimes feel intimidated or feel a pang of complex when it dawns on u that your lady earns more than u do ?,  I am not saying that a lady should not give a support but for christ sake ! A 'MAN' should naturally be the HEAD not vice-versa ! I am not a Golddigga I am a fully hardworking lady who believes if i'm oppportuned to hit millions my man should be destined 4 billons and not sit at the COMFORT zone !

If there are female parasites - why cant there be male parasites,

nubian:

If there are female parasites - why can't there be male parasites,

@nubian, this exactly is what i'm refering to, Men have Historically sold their birth rights to ladies , it's man who has no pride and natuarally LAZY that 'll agree with u,

Dont be calling men no parasites!! If a young lady's got nuff money, and a young man decides to latch on to her, wuts wrong in that? i mean she's not going to live alone, is she?

Hmmmmmmmmmmmm - ive know lots of women with parasitic tendencies,women who just hunt for the right rich man to live off, girls who wait like a tiger about to ambush prey,just hoping some rich guy comes along , so they can  stick to him hard and take a jolly rich ride through life ,by marrying him.

ive seen women who are nothing but mercenaries, just available for the highest bidder , ive even seen women who will sieze the intitiative and chase a rich man real hard,

Soooooo why does it suddenly become a crime if a guy finds himself , some rich girl that wants to take care of him, ??

NB - i can never live like that, i thank God am a COMFORTABLE MAN - who provides for his family - just note that

but if a girl can decide to live off a man y cant a man live of a rich girl if his ego , isnt hurt, ??

i also cant stand parasite women and have no respect for them - u talk as if its right and ordained by God for women to parasite on men,

even the bible does not say a woman should be a liability and live of a man - both should contribute to the family income ,whith a man doing the lions share

but to insinuate that its ok for a lady to live of a guy - but an abormination for a guy to live of a lady is  not right

Grizzly:

Dont be calling men no parasites!! If a young lady's got nuff money, and a young man decides to latch on to her, wuts wrong in that? i mean she's not going to live alone, is she?

@grizzly, tell u what ? I repeat , I am not saying that it is right for a lady 2 be parasitic ! come to think of it, a man who falls a victim of this such a lady is either silly and blind , or doesn't mind cuz, he is either married and out there 4 fun or thinks he can buy luv, but the d topic is actually about men who lives off ladies, remember?

@ beyonce1- why are many Nigerian women so so so so obsessed with money? i am not intimidated by the new lady in my life earning more than i do, i am more intimidated by the fact that she is a university professor and the most beautiful woman i have ever seen ( she is half Nigerian)! the amount of money she earns is ridiculous i doubt i would ever match it. so do i think i will give up this amazing woman merely because she earns more than i or just enjoy being with a beautiful , intelligent , funny woman that never mensions money because its not an issue for her? i do not think so , i will stay just where i am.


money is not that important to me but i do realize that this is easy for me to say living in the UK and earning a good wage.

its a very old fashioned idea that a man just has to be a provider and thats enough. i TRULY believe that men and woman are equal, in every way, i know many will think this western nonsense but i really do a marriage has to be an equal partnership!

I think if the two people involved don't have a problem, then what's the fuss?
So what if only one of them is generating the finances into the home, coz wouldn't the other be busy keeping the home & kids in order? In that way both parties are benefitting. To each his own.

@2C
Whats the name of that thread again?
I need to whoop his @$$

it isnt wrong! it is just understanding, she cant marry her money can she

Am from the old school were the man pays.
But I fit myself to the pocket of the man.
If hes not well off fast food will do , if he can afford it we go somewere else.
I also know a man thats a miser , when we go out i wait till he has made his order so that i will not order something that costs more that his .
Am not a material girl and i don't expect a man to buy me shoe or gold or what ever.
But taking me out for a drink once in a while is must.
For something like the pill , he has to pay his part, I bring him the bill.

I'm not a parasite. I'm comfortable on my own. But sorry, I can't marry a poor ass girl. I want an equally financially comfortable girl and oh I've got one anyway.

wouldnt want females paying for my meals and all. but when they insist or better still it threatens the relationship whether dating, talking, friends (with or without benefits) and all, i'll not hesitate to let her do the honors.

Women Who live off Men - Wives. . .

It is an aberration and against societal norm of good practise for a man to be dependent on his woman for his needs especially  in our neck of the wood.  But,  it is not uncommon to find scores of men doing that.  So in the final analysis, the moral imperative should be left to the woman to ponder over.

ekitikete:

It is an aberration and against societal norm of good practise for a man to be dependent on his woman for his needs especially in our neck of the wood. But, it is not uncommon to find scores of men doing that. So in the final analysis, the moral imperative should be left to the woman to ponder over.

Meaning ??, Vocab plenty !!!

All parasites are BAD

parasites feed-off right?
parasites don't give back right?
parasites are self serving?

Nah, i don't like parasites. Man or woman, ladies don't use excuses that the man is the provider, yes provider in a long , labored stable relationship, maybe.

Provider in a broader sense, like being the rock, the strength, the protector etc, lets not put all this financial burden on men and expect to be treated equally at the same time, ladies make your minds up, you want to be independent women but with the added bonus of sucking the man dry.

Men parasites i dislike too , same goes for this kind of blood sucker. Where is your dignity is what i say.

But then again some people deserve the relationships they have because you can always walk away, now if a woman cant see that she is been lived off , and she hates it, then how many times does one have to be dropped on the head as a child to realize that there is a problem.

Then we have the sugar daddy/mummy arrangement, here i would say both parties know the score, so they are both a unique kind of parasite right?