1. WHERE ARE YOU GOING TO LIVE AFTER WEDDING? Compulsory! So the guy won't drag you to his friend's house or something worse! Discuss the type of apartment: a room, room and parlor, a mini flat, 2 bedroom flat, 3 bedroom, duplex, complex, whatever, talk, thoroughly. Don't forget to discuss how the rent will be paid. If he has built his house and you are moving in, excellent.

2. WILL YOU HAVE BABIES IMMEDIATELY OR YOU WILL WAIT? Discuss thoroughly. If you will wait, find out the best family planning method that will suit your body. Not all injections and pills are suitable for you. Withdrawal is not advisable for first-time sex on honeymoon likewise condom. First sex should be done with abandon and also get used to each other's bodies, especially as virgins. Singles who are sexually active right now are digging their marital grave. If you are already having sex like mad and taking family planning pills as a single lady, it is a big shame and a disgrace to womanhood. Marry with dignity. Save sex till your wedding night.

3. HOW WILL BILLS BE PAID?
Who will pay the rent, take care of bills and groceries? Is it the man? The woman or both of you? At how much percentage if it is a joint responsibility? 50/50? 80/20? 60/40? Discuss.

4. WILL ANY FAMILY MEMBER LIVE WITH YOU AFTER THE WEDDING? Discuss. Who and who will live with you? Why? For how long? Can you cope with having a family live with you immediately after your honeymoon? Can your type of accommodation allow such? The opposite-sex sibling shouldn't live with you after a honeymoon in a room apartment. It is more dangerous if it is the wife's very mature younger sister. Use your head!

5. WILL YOUR WIFE WORK OR STAY AT HOME AS A FULL-TIME HOUSEWIFE? Discuss. It is not good for anyone to stay idle. Eve was idle when the serpent came to deceive her! Many local gossips and over-talkative, quarrelsome women are idle. If she can't go to work, she can do business from home and make some money for herself.

6. WHAT IS YOUR VISION? This should be the number one on the list. Very important. If she wants to be a world-renowned neurosurgeon and you want her to assist you in your full-time ministry. You are looking for serious trouble. Your vision should tally. Don't make the same mistake some great men of God made, talk!

7. WHAT ARE YOUR YEARLY GOALS? You should set goals every year and work towards achieving them. What are your yearly goals for the next five years? Discuss.

8. HOW MANY PERCENTAGE OF YOUR INCOME WILL YOU SAVE MONTHLY AND FOR WHAT PURPOSE? Talk!

9. WHICH CHURCH WILL YOU BE ATTENDING AFTER THE WEDDING? Is the guy's church, yours, or another denomination entirely? Thoroughly discuss and agree.

10. WHO ARE YOU? Empty yourself. Your family background, past mistakes, bodily defects, etc so somebody won't die of shock in marriage when certain revelations begin to swim in torrents. Many never recover from the shock! Some divorce from honeymoon and never reconnect for life!
So, there you go!

There are more important things to discuss but these are the major ones time permit me to share.

Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!

© Seun Oladele

This post is specifically for women.

Unfortunately this is not the case. With the kind of marital issue you see here on nairaland and around, it makes one wonder what have they been discussing during the dating.

This is what any sane serious person should discuss within the course of dating, and also make sure they are on same page if not better go find another person.

But

The average Nigerian guy is only interested in inviting his girl and have sex with her.

While the average girl is only concern about buy me shawarma, take me out, give me money.

jonero4:
This post is specifically for women.

Why specifically women?