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Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by Nobody: 4:09pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
Prostitution in Dubai by Drima on September 15, 2007 PBS has an excellent report about prostitution in Dubai. It comes together with a 12 minute video clip which is very revealing and unique. It’s worth your time. What caught my attention in this short documentary is that some women in Dubai aren’t forced into prostitution but that they actually voluntarily get involved in it. Apparently the money is too good to resist. Some of them make as much as 7,000 American dollars a month. It was a little shocking to me. A Moroccan LovePeddler displays the henna patterns on her arms. Muslim LovePeddlers are paid the highest in Dubai. [Drima: Actually, according to some naughty guys I know who live in Dubai, Arab LovePeddlers are the most expensive. http://www.sudanesethinker.com/2007/09/15/prostitution-in-dubai/ |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by maclatunji: 4:10pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
brainpulse: You are trying to sound intelligent but you cannot help your bias. There are hundreds of millions of Muslim men who are married to one woman so it is not a must to be in a Polygamous relationship. Funny enough many of the so-called celebrities are taking-up No. 2 and 3 wife positions so go-figure! At their level, they realize that forming will do them no good! Brianpulse can you really say you have not fornicated in your life before marriage. If you cannot answer Yes to this question then all of your arguments are in the dustbin. Let Frosbel too come and answer the question. If you lie God will spank you with a big proverbial "hammer" so don't lie! I am sure the Romance section regulars will stay clear of this section. They have failed the test even before admission into the institution of Marriage. Frosbel you have no idea of how you sound- more like an Abu Jahl of Nairaland. I am sure that the 2 of you will end-up cheating on your wives- (not because it is impossible to be faithful) but because you are so full of lies and deceit regarding this matter! |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by Nobody: 4:11pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by IbroSaunks(m): 4:14pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
coogar:must everyone marry are u kidding me? i can't discuss with u again, our beliefs are fundamentally different. sorry |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by brainpulse: 4:15pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
@ deols so if i want to marry the 2nd, 3rd and 4th wives, i will simply ask my wife, pls honey i feel we should have another 3 more wives because the Glorious books permits me to. Then my wife will say great! sweetheart i av being dieing to ask you for it , this will be lovely after 3 kids. i so much love u, Pls think with your head not religion. |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by Nobody: 4:15pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
Is polygamy a must for every man? NO! Does being a polygamist make one a saint? NO! Is every muslim man a Polygamist\intending polygamist? NO Y'all should just chill! |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by deols(f): 4:16pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
coogar: oh I havent. No, they dont want you to think anything. You assume they do. I said it once on this forum of the stereotype people have concerning Muslims. Some people wouldnt even have a conversation with you cos ur hijab makes them see u as probably dumb or uneducated. I have wowed many people on different occassions and am proud of that. Still, I dont want you to think nothing beyond that am a Muslim- hope u gerrit. Now, what gives some1 who has himself committed fornication the chance to judge others. You have, does that make it a christian value? that is my point. Never judge Islam by the actions of some Muslims. |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by coogar: 4:18pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
Okija_juju: as long as their husbands don't know their wives talk to you in private then you are an adulterer. . . . there's emotional cheating you know. . . . .and these women would imagine your face even when their husbands sleep with them. why then are you getting involved with married women? can't you find the single chics amongst them to harass, okija? or you dey rely on the juju of okija shrine? i laugh in hijab!!! deols: you haven't? i laugh in hijab for the 2nd time. you probably think only s[i]e[/i]xual intercourse qualifies as fornication - be deceiving yourself.
so why wear the hijab? please educate me. what is the difference between the hijab wearing muslim and the other muslim girls who wear normal clothes? if those ones fornicate and you fornicate? who would get more criticism?
it's a simple case to much whom is given, much is expected. if i were a pastor for instance and i commit fornication, people would sneer at the thought with "a whole pastor" remarks. but i don't claim to be "holier than thou" so i am allowed to do what i want to do. if the muslim girls i saw in the north wore normal clothes, i wouldn't give 2 rats about their s[i]e[/i]x lives - who cares? the fornication i can stand but i cannot stand the hypocrisy! don't wear the hijab and commit sin. if you want to sin, take off the hijab and do as you please! that is my point! |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by Nobody: 4:19pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
deols: But I never said untruth. Does Islam not encourage men to take any of their maids/servants they find attractive in addition to the regular 4 wives? Only they are not to be called wives? I have read islamic passages that say so and have seen it practiced accordingly. Disprove if I've stated what is not so pls. |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by deols(f): 4:21pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
bhusayor: I wonder how that is hard to understand |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by maclatunji: 4:21pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
mbatuku2: Maybe you got your own Islamic teachings from antiislam.org or somewhere like that. |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by brainpulse: 4:24pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
maclatunji: Read my previous comments, i av commented on my status and i am happy about it and i believe all men can reserve thereselves before and after marriage, the truth from my heart. I am never ashame or it. |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by deols(f): 4:24pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
@ mbatuku and brainpulse, i do not ignore people no matter how silly I think there possts are. But, I hope I can educate you when the thread isnt accommodating all and sundry as it is at the moment. I seriously dislike the home page.It only allows Trolls to come display their IGnorance . |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by nokia3310: 4:27pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
frosbel: This is a news now because prostitution is not synonymous with Islam, from your quote above you mentioned "Arab LovePeddlers are the most expensive" that is to prove to you that it is uncommon. Do you think if i should start a thread on Nairaland displaying images of prostitutes in the UK or the US it will catch any bodies attention? The answer is definitely NO, because we are all aware that the girls in Christians dominated states are mostly prostitutes. |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by Okijajuju1(m): 4:28pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
coogar: I am just friends with them o!! Biko! I have single girls whom we do al sorts with, but these ladies were my friends since like forever, even before they got married. . They are comfortable around me and tell me stuff. I never thought that was considered cheating o!! |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by Nobody: 4:29pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
deols:My dear shaking ur head wunt change that fact. So y dnt u just admit dat ur muslim men can marry as many wives as they like and stop that 4 wives bullshit. |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by coogar: 4:30pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
Okija_juju: do their husbands know you? do their husbands know they are comfortable around you telling you "stuff"? if all the answers are yes, then i tender a thousand apologies. anything short of that, you are an adulterer. IbroSaunks: so only married folks can find happiness? you have never seen unmarried people happy and fulfilled? some of you guys need to get out of that local environment you find yourselves in. exposure will really help your mental state. |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by IbroSaunks(m): 4:32pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
deols:ur doing good, masha Allah. but u may have to let this go soon enough, arguments can require alot of energy sometimes, |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by maclatunji: 4:32pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
nokia3310: brainpulse: Then believe me you will see things differently in the future, you are just being exuberrant. By the time you get to a certain level you will know that Wisdom is better than knowledge and nobody knows us better than our maker- God Almighty! |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by Nobody: 4:38pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
maclatunji: I have 3 translations of the Quran(2 in English/Arabic, 1 in yoruba). I read and compared those verses in my own copies in and out. |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by IbroSaunks(m): 4:38pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
coogar:well i hadn't even said anything, but its not all about happiness, some discipline and appropriate-ness is involved too, and if by local u mean basic human nature, i guess ill stay "local"!!! but still, i don't want to derail the thread, i won't say anything :-) |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by ifyalways(f): 4:40pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
Polygamy has been with us Africans and was accepted as a norm till Christianity and Islam was introduced to us.Suddenly,Polygamy became bad,evil and a strange thing. I have no problem with women that chose to share their men though i can't help but wonder how they cope. Personally,I can't deal with it so for me,it's Monogamy. |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by coogar: 4:43pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
ifyalways: ify, please. i am married to 2 wives and i am desperately interested to make you the third. you shall be spoilt with whatever stuff you want and i will protect you from the other wives. deal? IbroSaunks: if it's not about happiness then what the hell should it be about? do you marry because it's appropriate or do you marry because you want to be happy? seriously, i give up if human nature is what spurs people to marry. human nature my left butt-cheek! |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by Sweetnecta: 4:45pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
@Manmancho; They KT hecto 'macho' camaccho, many decades ago. I think livingston branble of Jamaica almost killed him then. So why do you adopt a loser name? No wonder you can't know the benefit of "quarantined'" relationship in a known sexual partners as beneficial over free for all rabbit or swine shamelessness. @aloy/emeka: « #5 on: Yesterday at 03:50:45 PM » [Quote]Quote from: deols on Yesterday at 10:10:32 AM very good reply@ bhusayor And I'll rather let him bring another woman into the marriage than be scared of HIV and other STIs. There is no rather here because it broods bad behavior for him. Your statement above is a testimony of helplessness and a decision to choose the 2nd best option. I put it to you that you will prefer him having you as the only wife and will not like any competition from another woman. Scared of HIV and other STD's?. [/b]You think all the muslim polygamists have enough [b]harem that will prevent them from sleeping around?. It's not your fault because Islam thinks that the sin of adultery and fornication can be controlled with multiple wives.[/Quote]It is true that having more than one wife is a way better to curb HIV, STDs and or having bastard [out of adultery and fornication] babies of papas maybe, while 1 wife is a hard way to make every willing woman become legal wife [look at you still single, while suitor toba is chasing after muslim women, because he knows they are better]. The 1 wife situation is an accelerator for HIV/AIDS, etc spread across the larger sexual partner pool; it flows where ever an infected partner without border leaves his or her mark. Its like the fictional sword of zorro! Harem, a turk's poor pronunciation of HARAM [forbidden]. Every one is forbidden to the person in question, except what he or she is legally entitled to. My wife is a haram to everyone else. Everyone, except me is haram to her while we are both halal to each other. [quote]« #6 on: Yesterday at 03:56:42 PM » Quote from: olawalebab on Yesterday at 01:50:29 PM Who is deceiving who 1. A loyal and fafithful husband with 4 wives or 2. An unfaithful husband with a wife and many mistress and concumbine. Why compare only that two?. How about a faithful husband with one wife compared to a randy husband with many wives and concubines like Abiola?.Was Abiola not a loyal muslim with 4 wives but wasn't he sleeping around?. What of Sani Abacha and his escapades with women?. I don't believe some muslims are still delusional enough to believe that polygamy will stop a man from being randy.[/Quote]Muslim didn't say we do not have off the wall people among us, or good people among the others. The percentage of each is an indicator of reality. I was just talking to a christian with 3 wives just less than 1 hour ago; a nigerian, a chinese, and another [3 continents he has his touches]. I, inchaAllah will be talking to him about Islam, since christianity forbids having what he is having; more than 1 wife. and the list of randy christian men, is a long long list of filth of creme la creme; Rev. Jesse Jackson, Rev Martin Luther King, President Bill Clinton, etc, etc, even GEJ with flings up to NYC, and OBJ, etc, all over the world, including the 'catholic' president of Italy. few muslims who deviate. plenty christians who deviate. |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by maclatunji: 4:48pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
mbatuku2: And you think that is enough for you to understand Islam up to the point of posing yourself as an expert? Thomas Jefferson also owned a copy of the Qur'an and read it: shall I make him my reference for Islamic matters? Of course, the answer is No! Learn from Muslims first and come back let us talk! |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by deols(f): 4:59pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
frosbel (m) AH! u'r married. o ga o! I wonder how ur wife copes with ur immature ways. She must be trying gan an ni o. How is christianity a religion if some parts of it are for the stone age and not relevant now. Someday, some1 will come up to say wat u'r doing now is also of thee stone age. . it moves u towards atheism. do u ever think of dat?? |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by deols(f): 5:00pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
bhusayor (f) i'll do dat henceforth |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by ifyalways(f): 5:00pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
@Coogar,You'd have to assure me that you can perfrom better than DK before i would consider your application. @Topic,Be it as a religious obligation or just a case of 'unavailability of choice/option',its no easy feat accepting and sharing someone you love.I have seen Polygamous families that were very peaceful,you can't even tell.I wonder if it's so cos the mindset of the major stakeholders(wives) was already open to accepting Polygamy.They've prepared themseleves for the challenge emotionally.It's safe to say that accepting Polygamy as a woman is more of a "thing of the mind". My mind no dey dia,i no fit handle am so its not for me. |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by coogar: 5:04pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
ifyalways: dk? the same dayokanu my apprentice? cheiiiiii - he's half the man that i am |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by deols(f): 5:08pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
coogar This is what happens when pple are always thinking of this life. A muslim's aim is to attain paradise. You can live a happy life wv another woman married to ur husband. I believe that- not because I want a polygamous home But am prepared to make myself a happy woman no matter what life presents. It is a very big misconception thinking polygamy favors men. A man who doesnt treat his wives equally would be raised half paralyzed. Muslims who truly fear Allah keep away as much as they can, knowing so well it is not an easy task. Everything is a test and polygamy is one, both to the man and the women involved. A woman can become a kafir in the process of trying to hold on to her man and another woman might attain blessings by treating her co wives and their children well. |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by Sweetnecta: 5:10pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
@Mbatuku2: « #104 on: Today at 04:19:29 PM » [Quote]Quote from: deols on Today at 04:07:51 PM I can only pity you! smh ]But I never said untruth. Does Islam not encourage men to take any of their maids/servants they find attractive in addition to the regular 4 wives? Only they are not to be called wives? I have read islamic passages that say so and have seen it practiced accordingly. Disprove if I've stated what is not so pls.[/Quote]I do hope you saw that it was in the state of war that brings about maids/servants, as spoil of victory? No one is force to engage and men are encourage to marry them. Interestingly, i wonder if you think a maid/servant does not need human emotional connection, which is marriage and benefit of man/woman sexuality? The slave and free hope for the same things humans must hope for. birds of different feathers do it and bees of different stings do it. |
Re: Muslim Women & Polygamy: Would You Tolerate A 2nd Wife? by IbroSaunks(m): 5:14pm On Oct 31, 2011 |
@coogar, u don't understand , and to make u do that there's too much explaining to do. lets just leave it as it is matey , :-) |
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