E dey happen. Just sit her down for some lessons teachings. But
Remember she will always make her choice.

joseph1832:
Parents, parents, and parents!. My dear, it all boils down to parenting. Think about it, when you were that age, did you even know all what that damage kid know?

My dear, it's parenting. I tell you, most of the adults you see nowadays, are the ones who give birth to these damage kids today....

I agree with you because at her age, even allowing a boy touch your hand was a taboo. I didn't know jackshit.

See, my parents were never particularly strict with us but we still turned out fine. I don't know what they did specifically, but whatever it was was sufficient enough to make sure we turned out fine. What parents of these days are doing is obviously not working. They are too lax and careless with these kids

Your sister duh lost, it will take the grace of God to bring her back

Pls tell your mum asap.
She needs to be educated before she ruins herself.

This is just nasty...

didi100:
Good evening all.I'm an old member here but because of shame I created this account.This post is long,pls bear with me and read to the end.I'm 23 years old,my baby sister is 12 years.
She's in a female boarding school.We parked to our own house two years ago and my mum's secondary friend daughter is living next to us.So whenever my sister come back,she will go there and visit her.We allow her to go there as per only girl in the house and a friend is just in the next compound.
They are also some boys around that are + and - 3years her age if I am not mistaken.I and my Mom have warned her about those boys.My mom always tell her to be mindful of them because she is a female and if anything happen,she will be the one to bear the consequences.
She came back for her first term holiday,my mom gave my sister her old phone because she has some primary females friends and our female cousins too she like communicating with using my moms phone so my mom gave my sis her old phone to use.
Yesterday,I wanted to look for something in the phone.She was begging me to give her the phone and I shouted at her to open the phone.I just felt like opening the gallery which she didn't know of and I saw a picture of a boy's dick.I was surprised and confused.I scroll more.I then saw pictures of her snapping her breast and pictures of her vagina.She didn't know I saw all this.I asked her to remove all the passwords.I left her presence and went somewhere else.
Then I open the WhatsApp and saw the unbelievable.I could not believe my 12years old sister is this rotten.My mum warned her not to open Facebook but she opened.I also saw dirty chats.On the WhatsApp I saw porn related stickers and porn videos a boy sent to her.This girl was smart enough to put on disappearing messages.I must have missed some dirty acts she did.
Pls help me.I'm in the University and most of her holidays,I'm not around.I feel like a failure as the first born and senior brother.I never thought or imagine my sister will be such.I need you guys advice.No body in my family know about this except me and she will be going back to the boarding house on Sunday.I need your answers urgently.What should I do Pls matured response only. I will send screenshot of what I saw.Pls Admin,send to the front page
Modified:For the virgin part,she said her ex school.That was primary school and the boy which I know was her classmate.He should be 10 or 11 then

Flog the hell out of her first, when she becomes an adult & she remembers the incident….she will be thanking you.


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Matter resolved.Thread closed.Thank you all

At 12 omo

Ishilove:

I agree with you because at her age, even allowing a boy touch your hand was a taboo. I didn't know jackshit.

See, my parents were never particularly strict with us but we still turned out fine. I don't know what they did specifically, but whatever it was was sufficient enough to make sure we turned out fine. What parents of these days are doing is obviously not working. They are too lax and careless with these kids

Early exposure to social media is what is corrupting kids these days, coupled with the fact that so many parents themselves practically spend more on social media than training their kids.

When I was 12, I didn't know what social media was, all I knew then was go to school, come back home, eat and sleep. That's how I grew up.

Today a child of 6 can effectively operate her parents Android or iPhone. By 10 she already has a Facebook account and would start nagging her parents for teens Android device (tablet). Most of these teens tablets are sim enabled and can access the internet.

So if she has an Android device, data and a Sim card, what on Earth would stop her from engaging in nasty chats with boys?

Secondly, religion played a huge role during my time. We had morning and evening devotions everyday as a family. As young as I was then, I had this consciousness about God and how to live a holy life. Truth is 98% of any girl you meet who is keeping her Virginity until her wedding night, is doing so based on her religious beliefs and relationship with God. She would tell any guys coming her way that she doesn't want to defile herself because her body is the temple of God.

I believe it's safe to say that most parents of today are cold towards religion...this has made their kids grow up with very little regard for God. Religion that used to act as a restraining agent during our time has been banished from the lives of these ones. So what do you expect? A girl of 14 would be telling you my ex and you're like you already have an ex at 14?

Nothing is restraining her from exploring her sexuality cos her parents themselves don't give a fvck about God.

Nazgul:

Early exposure to social media is what is corrupting kids these days, coupled with the fact that so many parents themselves practically spend more on social media than training their kids.

When I was 12, I didn't know what social media was, all I knew then was go to school, come back home, eat and sleep. That's how I grew up.

Today a child of 6 can effectively operate her parents Android or iPhone. By 10 she already has a Facebook account and would start nagging her parents for teens Android device (tablet). Most of these teens tablets are sim enabled and can access the internet.

So if she has an Android device, data and a Sim card, what on Earth would stop her from engaging in nasty chats with boys?

Secondly, religion played a huge role during my time. We had morning and evening devotions everyday as a family. As young as I was then, I had this consciousness about God and how to live a holy life. Truth is 98% of any girl you meet who is keeping her Virginity until her wedding night, is doing so based on her religious beliefs and relationship with God. She would tell any guys coming her way that she doesn't want to defile herself because her body is the temple of God.

I believe it's safe to say that most parents of today are cold towards religion...this has made their kids grow up with very little regard for God. Religion that used to act as a restraining agent during our time has been banished from the lives of these ones. So what do you expect? A girl of 14 would be telling you my ex and you're like you already have an ex at 14?

Nothing is restraining her from exploring her sexuality cos her parents themselves don't give a fvck about God.

Now that you mention religion, we need to ask ourselves some salient questions. How many churches these days preach holiness? Very few. Even the one I attend doesn't preach holiness. Their focus is on slaying our enemies and fulfilling destiny. It is just the God consciousness that you described that has kept me on the straight and narrow right from childhood where the fire for God burned brighter in our churches. Now the love of God has waxed cold in many people's hearts and this is reflecting in our society and on how these children are turning out. I am of the belief that if you fear God, there are some things you will never be involved in

Ishilove:

Now that you mention religion, we need to ask ourselves some salient questions. How many churches these days preach holiness? Very few. Even the one I attend doesn't preach holiness. Their focus is on slaying our enemies and fulfilling destiny.

Lol... MFM is trying compared to some of these new generation Pentecostal churches. Even though their holiness is based on outward appearance by giving dress codes for their members, believe me, they're not that bad.

Ishilove:
It is just the God consciousness that you described that has kept me on the straight and narrow right from childhood where the fire for God burned brighter in our churches.

Me too...this was made possible by the consistent nurturing of our parents. I knew God from a very tender age and the knowledge of him, is what restrains me from doing certain things which I know is evil in his sight, my conscience would not allow me do it.

Ishilove:
Now the love of God has waxed cold in many people's hearts and this is reflecting in our society and on how these children are turning out.

That's because their parents abandoned God long before their kids were born. So when these kids come into the world, there's nothing restraining them from becoming useless to themselves, their parents and the society. I once read about a girl who at 17 had committed 3 abortions.

If such girl was raised to fear God, she would always have her conscience screaming at her whenever she veers off course. But because her parents didn't bother, she lived her life whoever she wanted. And 3 abortions with an handful of STDs was the consequence.

Ishilove:
I am of the belief that if you fear God, there are some things you will never be involved in

True.

Nazgul:

Lol... MFM is trying compared to some of these new generation Pentecostal churches. Even though their holiness is based on outward appearance by giving dress codes for their members, believe me, they're not that bad.


Me too...this was made possible by the consistent nurturing of our parents. I knew God from a very tender age and the knowledge of him, is what restrains me from doing certain things which I know is evil in his sight, my conscience would not allow me do it.


That's because their parents abandoned God long before their kids were born. So when these kids come into the world, there's nothing restraining them from becoming useless to themselves, their parents and the society. I once read about a girl who at 17 had committed 3 abortions.

If such girl was raised to fear God, she would always have her conscience screaming at her whenever she veers off course. But because her parents didn't bother, she lived her life whoever she wanted. And 3 abortions with an handful of STDs was the consequence.


True.

Jesus Christ. 3 abortions?? At that age I was too busy trying to pass JAMB and 'man' didn't even feature in my thoughts.

Today's parents have really failed their kids

Ishilove:

Jesus Christ. 3 abortions?? At that age I was too busy trying to pass JAMB and 'man' didn't even feature in my thoughts.

Today's parents have really failed their kids

Today's parents don't know what parenting entails.

Haven't you noticed the high rate of sex, Alchol and drug abuse amongst secondary school students? The worst is that more than 99% of these kids are living right under their parents roof, yet with their obvious reckless lifestyle, their parents still wouldn't notice what's going on until something terrible happens to them.

Many parents of today are not fit to be called parents. They just don't care. Today's fathers would prefer to sleep with anything in skirt than spend quality time with their kids. Today's mother's would prefer to post flashy pictures of themselves on social media than to monitor and observe the life of their kids.

This is why the word morals has been banished from our society. Go to tik tok and see how teenage girls market themselves for prospective clients.

She needs corrective sex education ASAP and some love but also discipline and guidance.

These kids already corrupt themselves from social media and spread it to each other and with our poor sex education talks in this part of the world where parents are either too strict or shy to address this topic the kids are left to experiment and find out by themselves.

NoToPile:
I am finding it difficult to digest this.

She had sex before her first period.

First she should be Withdrawn from boarding school. She has had too much unfiltered access. The phone should be collected.

And you guys need to go hard on her, very very hard, she's not even officially a teenager yet ke? Twelve?

My own sex education is always and will always be abstainence shikena.
She might still be redeemable.

Parenting these days is becoming harder, one has to be very intentional about it these days.
This is so disheartening, little children boys and girls taking about pussy, moaning and all that.
I don't blame parents that give their children close marking.


Tell your mum everything and that she needs to be Withdrawn from boarding school.

O ma de wa olagbara ke?
Parents do all you can and must to protect and discipline your children, it's getting worse, if you need to flog the craze Comot do so you will have rest.


That said it was ordinary harmless extra cool Chochocho I did that year at 17 already In the uni ooo the talk I heared from my big male cousin that midnight was not here. He even called the uniben boy I was talking to on the spot, introduced himself, saved his number for many years.

You will hear so because you are in the uni now you can be talking to boys abi, in the midnight at that.
Don't you know you are still 17.
I need to be sure you are not talking to a thirty something year old man.
Give me your phone, collected his number from my the phone log of my alacatel colored screen
Them no born me well to protest.

These days they will say it's invasion of privacy... Blehblehbleh. Speaking Grammer.

Years later myself and him always laugh about the incident.



The hard discipline might have to come from you go hard on her please or else she is gone.

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Op I advise you adopt this advice.

Ono the thing shock me sha

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