EreluRoz:
Defender of the universe defending rubbish 🤣🤣🤣

Must Fulani sight the moon before yoru Muslimi edede bend their yansh to pray ?

I wish the man is here to tell his own side of the story. How long will it take to learn that you can't judge until you hear from both sides?

Maybe you should improve on your dressing so that your husband will find you more attractive

luminouz:


Your question is not logically/realistically placed. Let me help you. You are looking at it emotionally.

now I'm not logical...lol..u have not heard women that that strip in front of men, send their nudes online??...a woman doesn't have to pay....as long as the man isn't fvcking her physically..they are just doing virtual/ electronic erotic things

luminouz:

So, your question should be, 'will you be comfortable if your wife uses toys in your presence?'

U are condescending and evasive...and to big to admit ..instead u are twisting like earthworm they pour salt on......I never asked u about toys...I asked if ur wife is seeing men online and sexually engaging them electronically......its the same men do with only fans...just that payment is involved with men..

Let him enjoy himself since he is not physically cheating on you.

Obierika:
Maybe you should improve on your dressing so that your husband will find you more attractive

No wife can win when shes competing against pornographîc actors for a husband that is addicted to different types of screen whoress.....she's not the problem

Her husband that is looking for unrealistic lustful fantasy that only exist behind the screen is the problem...

I read it clearly, she has no issues with him watching porn but actually wasting money to support porn content creators a.k.a. Onlyfans models is the problem she has with him. And that kind of behaviour is SIMP-ly outrageous for a married man. Not the worst case I have seen though.

Longdon1:
I got married when I was 19 and my husband was 20. Now I’m 25 and he’s 26 and we have two kids (5 and 3).

Four years ago, while I was pregnant with my second son I found out he had an onlyfans account and it really upset me. I made my boundaries clear and explained that I was not okay with this because he’s paying them, but I was still okay with porn. Then a couple months later I found out he was still using onlyfans and on top of it had subscribed to one of my friend’s onlyfans. I talked to him again and explained that I would leave him over this. Another couple months go by and he’s STILL using onlyfans. At this point he had spent like $500 on it and I was obviously upset. I ended up leaving him and moving out with my two kids. A year went by of coparenting and eventually we talked it through and ended up back together. A couple months into being together I saw he had made on subscription to onlyfans, so I confronted him. He apologized and I was so confused because I literally just moved back with him so I ignored it that time.

It’s been one year since then and earlier this week I found out that he got an email from onlyfans. The email said his subscription was ending so I ended up changing the password and getting into his account. Turns out for all of 2023 he’s been subscribing to onlyfans. When I confronted him, he was just kind of listening but had nothing to say. I told him I needed to think and have no confronted him since.

The issue is in all other ways he’s a pretty decent partner. He drives me everywhere because he knows I don’t like to. He cleans, takes care of the kids, works. But I just can’t understand why he has to keep doing this and at this point I feel like I almost have to leave bc he clearly is not respecting me or my boundaries. On the other hand it would suck to leave because he’s my bestfriend and I love him and I’ve never really had to do life without him.

is onlyfan or what is it called a deadly crime than armed rubbers?

advanceDNA:
now I'm not logical...lol..u have not heard women that that strip in front of men, send their nudes online??...a woman doesn't have to pay....as long as the man isn't fvcking her physically..they are just doing virtual/ electronic erotic things


U are condescending and evasive...and to big to admit ..instead u are twisting like earthworm they pour salt on......I never asked u about toys...I asked if ur wife is seeing men online and sexually engaging them electronically......its the same men do with only fans...just that payment is involved with men..

I said what I said. Women don't pay for shiit like that. Whatever else you feel, is up to you buddy!!!

Longdon1:

The issue is in all other ways he’s a pretty decent partner. He drives me everywhere because he knows I don’t like to. He cleans, takes care of the kids, works. But I just can’t understand why he has to keep doing this and at this point I feel like I almost have to leave bc he clearly is not respecting me or my boundaries. On the other hand it would suck to leave because he’s my bestfriend and I love him and I’ve never really had to do life without him.

He has an addiction problem. If he is still a good guy, work on the addiction or help him to. He is an adult, he has to be ready to face this. Tbatsthe best you can do. You have a good guy with bad problems. Can they be solved? Yes

Will it take time? Yes

Should you compromise? No
Can you help? Yes

“We’d been married for four years.  We had two young daughters.  Everything seemed normal.  He never stayed out late.  He was a police officer, but he was always home on weekends.  And we had a robust sex life.  He was my best friend.  Sometimes we’d stay up all night talking, no TV, just talking.  Then one morning I tried printing something out on our office computer, and it just kept printing out the same page.  It was a picture of his naked body, combined with the profile page for a gay website.  He said it was nothing.  Only porn.  Then a few months later I found the same picture in the ‘unsent messages’ folder of our Outlook account.  He’d been trying to send it to a transgender woman named Gabby.  That’s when I went through his Internet history and found thousands of jpegs of transgender porn.  He denied being gay.  He said it was nothing but a porn addiction.  But then a few weeks later I was reviewing our credit card statement, and saw that he’d gotten tested for HIV.  The next day he brought me to church.  He sat me down with the pastor.  And he confessed that he’d been having sex with transgender prostitutes throughout our marriage.  We didn’t immediately divorce.  I tried to make it work for our daughters.  He tried going to a treatment center at Johns Hopkins.  But I felt like I was married to a stranger.  It drove me to the edge.  On Super Bowl Sunday of that year, I was sitting in my bed, crying, heavily medicated, when I heard him on the phone downstairs.  He was laughing like he didn’t have a care in the world.  That night I checked his phone, and saw that he’d been talking to Gabby.  He’d been texting her every day for months.  The last one said: ‘My wife is getting suspicious.’  That’s when I kicked him out of the house.  I haven’t spoken to him in years.  He does call my daughters a couple times per week.  I just tell them that things between Mommy and Daddy didn’t work out.  He seems to be doing fine.  He has a new family now.  And he’s a minister.”

luminouz:

I said what I said. Women don't pay for shiit like that. Whatever else you feel, is up to you buddy!!!

Shior....so u can't take what I are dishing out..

U can fvck women electronically....but ur wife can't do same....

Nah!! You are the sentimental one here. Dude has absolutely nothing to apologize for. I'm sure the wife uses Fleshlight too.Nah!! You are the sentimental one here. Dude has absolutely nothing to apologize for. I'm sure the wife uses Fleshlight too....

**Yawns**
The weather ain't that bad today

Obviously you are nagging him, try a different approach

Longdon1:
I got married when I was 19 and my husband was 20. Now I’m 25 and he’s 26 and we have two kids (5 and 3).

Four years ago, while I was pregnant with my second son I found out he had an onlyfans account and it really upset me. I made my boundaries clear and explained that I was not okay with this because he’s paying them, but I was still okay with porn. Then a couple months later I found out he was still using onlyfans and on top of it had subscribed to one of my friend’s onlyfans. I talked to him again and explained that I would leave him over this. Another couple months go by and he’s STILL using onlyfans. At this point he had spent like $500 on it and I was obviously upset. I ended up leaving him and moving out with my two kids. A year went by of coparenting and eventually we talked it through and ended up back together. A couple months into being together I saw he had made on subscription to onlyfans, so I confronted him. He apologized and I was so confused because I literally just moved back with him so I ignored it that time.

It’s been one year since then and earlier this week I found out that he got an email from onlyfans. The email said his subscription was ending so I ended up changing the password and getting into his account. Turns out for all of 2023 he’s been subscribing to onlyfans. When I confronted him, he was just kind of listening but had nothing to say. I told him I needed to think and have no confronted him since.

The issue is in all other ways he’s a pretty decent partner. He drives me everywhere because he knows I don’t like to. He cleans, takes care of the kids, works. But I just can’t understand why he has to keep doing this and at this point I feel like I almost have to leave bc he clearly is not respecting me or my boundaries. On the other hand it would suck to leave because he’s my bestfriend and I love him and I’ve never really had to do life without him.

I don't know why most women are crazy emotionally and in matters of logic

Please encourage him to see a therapist. Porn or any other addiction is an unhealthy coping mechanism. The internal issue he's using porn to cope with can only be discovered in therapy, and the necessary me Tal and psychological tools he needs will be presented.

Obviously, he needs help. Leaving your marriage may not help him.

But he must be willing to break the addiction. Without that, there's little anyone can do.

A married man can always get sexuaal satisfaction from their spouse ....So I understand why still looking for gratification out Ur marriage.

Longdon1:
I got married when I was 19 and my husband was 20. Now I’m 25 and he’s 26 and we have two kids (5 and 3).

Four years ago, while I was pregnant with my second son I found out he had an onlyfans account and it really upset me. I made my boundaries clear and explained that I was not okay with this because he’s paying them, but I was still okay with porn. Then a couple months later I found out he was still using onlyfans and on top of it had subscribed to one of my friend’s onlyfans. I talked to him again and explained that I would leave him over this. Another couple months go by and he’s STILL using onlyfans. At this point he had spent like $500 on it and I was obviously upset. I ended up leaving him and moving out with my two kids. A year went by of coparenting and eventually we talked it through and ended up back together. A couple months into being together I saw he had made on subscription to onlyfans, so I confronted him. He apologized and I was so confused because I literally just moved back with him so I ignored it that time.

It’s been one year since then and earlier this week I found out that he got an email from onlyfans. The email said his subscription was ending so I ended up changing the password and getting into his account. Turns out for all of 2023 he’s been subscribing to onlyfans. When I confronted him, he was just kind of listening but had nothing to say. I told him I needed to think and have no confronted him since.

The issue is in all other ways he’s a pretty decent partner. He drives me everywhere because he knows I don’t like to. He cleans, takes care of the kids, works. But I just can’t understand why he has to keep doing this and at this point I feel like I almost have to leave bc he clearly is not respecting me or my boundaries. On the other hand it would suck to leave because he’s my bestfriend and I love him and I’ve never really had to do life without him.

Can I ask you a question.
1. what negative impact this habit cause in your marriage?
So you left him just because he was a fan to porn ? That does not stop him from taking care of you and your children? Huh?
By the way are you sure you satify him enough in bed?
Don't make me conclude your the problem since you have confirmed he is doing well at home and I feel you guys lives abroad.

You're telling me I have to pay direct debit from my account to watch some girls online every month? Onlyfans ko Onlyfridge ni

luminouz:

So with all these good qualities, na onlyfans be your problem? At least he is not cheating outside. Women have varieties of toys and men have to stomach that but that he spends his own money to wash some nude girl pisses you off?
He didn't stop fucking you or taking care of the bills or whatever and you still have an issue with his fetish?

WTF?

You don't know the value and honor of marriage

luminouz:

So when women use dildos and toys, ain't they cheating on their partners, TECHNICALLY? shebi you wan form say you get talk ni..oya na..let's go there.

Family resources? He spent his own money and nowhere in the story was it told that he lacked in his duties.

WTF?

intimacy gadgets should not be used without consent of both partners
The way you talk you don't know what marriage is about

CoronaVirusPro:


The man is buying sexual pleasure he cannot get at home. What else should he do? Other men would have married a second wife.

It's clear nairaland is full of kids am sure lots of the people we reply here are just kids in secondary school
It's high time I stop coming to nairaland, this place is too childish
Kids commenting on marriage,I laugh

Elohorp:


intimacy gadgets should not be used without consent of both partners
The way you talk you don't know what marriage is about

Lmaooo....I hear...na today women dey hide dildos or you want me to tell you who the major buyers of intimacy gadgets are? Women!!! And 90% of them hide it from their husbands.

My dear, you are the one who is far from reality. I'm telling what I have seen

Elohorp:


You don't know the value and honor of marriage

And you do? Hiding behind your moral compass to say stuff like the rest of us don't know what's up in these streets!!! Look around you and once you remove the facades from the faces of these so-called married people, you get to see the rot within. Married women and men cheat shamelessly these days or you live under a rock not to know that?

I know what's up. I see it everyday. Marriage ain't what it used to be and will never be what it used to be. So take your high-horse snotty nose away from here.

luminouz:


Lmaooo....I hear...na today women dey hide dildos or you want me to tell you who the major buyers of intimacy gadgets are? Women!!! And 90% of them hide it from their husbands.

My dear, you are the one who is far from reality. I'm telling what I have seen

And you see those types of things in marriage because of the type of people you associate with ,with how you talk it's clear the type of people you have dealings with, people that view marriage as a joke,and with low morals

That's why I say some people don't know what marriage is about,the go into marriage for all the wrong reasons

And yet they are so many good people in thriving marriages living in happiness and morality,I use my marriage as an example

Anyway nairaland is not a place to get advice from people,I wonder any serious minded person won't post their home affairs here cause it's either insult or useless talk she will get here no single good advice

Elohorp:


It's clear nairaland is full of kids am sure lots of the people we reply here are just kids in secondary school
It's high time I stop coming to nairaland, this place is too childish
Kids commenting on marriage,I laugh

Who are you narrating to? Did anyone ask you to compose a novel?

CoronaVirusPro:


Who are you narrating to? Did anyone ask you to compose a novel?

Yes prefect example,childish character
Kids that have a phone,so they feel they can easily be rude and childish

luminouz:


And you do? Hiding behind your moral compass to say stuff like the rest of us don't know what's up in these streets!!! Look around you and once you remove the facades from the faces of these so-called married people, you get to see the rot within. Married women and men cheat shamelessly these days or you live under a rock not to know that?

I know what's up. I see it everyday. Marriage ain't what it used to be and will never be what it used to be. So take your high-horse snotty nose away from here.

Hmmm defensive much,got anything that's bugging you in your life!!

Been triggered by someone else's comment is a sign of been angry that other people can achieve peace and happiness that you weren't able to get

Peace 🕊️

Elohorp:


And you see those types of things in marriage because of the type of people you associate with ,with how you talk it's clear the type of people you have dealings with, people that view marriage as a joke,and with low morals

That's why I say some people don't know what marriage is about,the go into marriage for all the wrong reasons

And yet they are so many good people in thriving marriages living in happiness and morality,I use my marriage as an example

Anyway nairaland is not a place to get advice from people,I wonder any serious minded person won't post their home affairs here cause it's either insult or useless talk she will get here no single good advice

Bla blaaaaaaaa blaaaaaaaa....

Elohorp:

Yes prefect example,childish character
Kids that have a phone,so they feel they can easily be rude and childish

Lmaooo....this thing pepper you oh! Marriage counselor isonu

luminouz:

Lmaooo....this thing pepper you oh! Marriage counselor isonu

Ok Mr trigger keep on at it,am just laughing here,you seem to be the one in pains
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