PURSUIT OF SUDDEN WINDFALL IS THE ROOT OF WEIRD HEDONISTIC TENDENCIES

It is a gesture of honor and respect when friends trust you to marry their matured daughter. Late President Shagari was given two beautiful youthful girls during his visit to Rivers State then. Many people implored him to send them to school, he did. They did not become his wives. We never knew what became of those girls after. Though accepted in some cultures, many cannot tolerate or imagine their 19 year old son or daughter in a relationship with older folks.

There was a story of a young lady rejected by her school mate. She promised to get back at him by pursuing a relationship with the dad! Ouch! Young girls may be irrevocably damaged if they cannot pursue education or capabilities early in life when they are more vigorous and stronger. Their child bearing age is also limited compared to that of older men.The euphoria or infatuation that starts with sexual attraction always ends in disappointment for one reason or the other.

What do we expect when we leave well educated ladies desiring husbands for teenage wives because their parents approve or bless the act? Look, there is nothing more titillating than the precocious move of a youthful beauty queen. But older men and cougar ladies on ego trips use younger people as trophies to prove their virility to the world. The community we lead by selfish ego and salacious acts extends to politics and would come back to haunt us and the community.

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While many men would be flattered by youthful gestures, they might not be up to the task ahead. Men have these exaggerated feelings of their sexual prowess when in fact most ladies could outperform most of them. The hedonistic tendencies enjoyed during leadership reign becomes difficult to let go because of the accolades and everything that comes with power. Africa has witnessed Presidents that appoint their family members and ethnic groups into strategic positions to preserve their interest.

Any form of corruption can be damaging but we must differentiate between those that affect the community and the unborn generation by the unprecedented greed we see in Africa today. We were supposed to be our brothers’ keepers where it takes a village to raise a child. Since the face of poverty changed from Asia to Africa, we have become me, myself and I. Even extended families are no longer welcomed as before.

On the other hand are corruptions that affect two matured consenting partners in a relationship. It goes beyond the hedonistic tendency to acquire ladies or boys. After all, some African countries encourage or make it mandatory to marry more than one lady. The justification for polygamy is the number of women that outnumber men. Just as the justification for polyandry is the number of men outnumbering women.

Matured well educated ladies intimidate some matured men. Great men have fallen by the wayside in the hands of young beautiful women. Women are not saints either, they are just more discreet in the pursuit of younger men. Many young men got their first shot with an older lady as a teenager but would not even think of a long term relationship with them.