Her husband is long dead and she hasn't gotten married since then, we have been friends since then. She's my junior colleague in my former office anyways.
My wife has left me close to 3 years now and I want to settle down.
But I don't know if it's advisable for me to settle down with this single mother because I told her that our friendship could turn to something more serious later and, she said there's no problem about that.
What do you think friends.

All I can say is.




Na you know how far

Wear the shoe if it is your size. But do it rightly.

If she's a good person why not.

Sup with your kids ? Reason with them..


If no kids and you believe with her less drama as experienced person

... sail

Doveheart:
Her husband is long dead and she hasn't gotten married since then, we have been friends since then. She's my junior colleague in my former office anyways.
My wife has left me close to 3 years now and I want to settle down.
But I don't know if it's advisable for me to settle down with this single mother because I told her that our friendship could turn to something more serious later and, she said there's no problem about that.
What do you think friends.

She's a widow and not a single mother according to your post. Please change the heading..
If you feel she's what you want in a woman, why not?

Doveheart:
Her husband is long dead and she hasn't gotten married since then, we have been friends since then. She's my junior colleague in my former office anyways.
My wife has left me close to 3 years now and I want to settle down.
But I don't know if it's advisable for me to settle down with this single mother because I told her that our friendship could turn to something more serious later and, she said there's no problem about that.
What do you think friends.

I think you should ask your ex wife family to return your bride price, that will really be the end of that marriage so that you can start another one

But bear in mind that your new woman responsibilities on her children will be handled by both of you for a peaceful relationship

Those children will regard and take you as their dad if only you will accept them with love and care

Children are a NIGHTMARE to raise these days. Raising another man's children is the kind of nightmare that even Stephen King cannot conjure.

First of all, you are opening yourself up to a LOT of problems. You are inviting not 1, not 2 but 3 strangers into your life.

If you have NO kids, you will IMMEDIATELY be outnumbered in your own home. If you have kids, you are exposing them to unhealthy levels of rivalry.

Nothing disappoints a child than seeing their parent investing his scarce resources EQUALLY in children that are not related to him.

It communicates to the kids that if their father could invest in strange kids as much as he invests in them, then they are not special to him. The superior love that parents have for their offsprings does not exist in their lives.

In short, they feel UNLOVED. Or less loved.

And make no mistake, your wife will make sure your investments (both emotional and financial) in her kids are equal to your investments in your kids. She'll argue that it's the only way to keep the family cohesive.

Meanwhile, she'll NEVER do the same for your kids. Your kids will begin to learn firsthand the origin of the evil stepmother fairy tales.

That is if you have kids.

If you don't have kids, why are you eager to live your life raising another man's kids. Kids that will NEVER accept you as their father.

Their father is dead which makes him a special kind of hero that can never be replaced. To them, you are nothing but a wallet and a mother-fuuucker.

Plus when you try to discipline them, they'll feel like you were being too harsh because they are not your biological kids. Your wife will feel like you were being too harsh because they are not your biological kids. Then you will start to question yourself whether you were being too harsh because they are not your biological kids.

Also the quality and frequency of sex with a single mother is NEVER great. Pregnancy and child birth fuucks up a woman's body. Sometimes, her mind too.

You'll have to deal with that too.

Finally, everybody you know will think of you as a LOW-QUALITY MAN. They will treat you as such. It'll be unconscious, not deliberate. It's a kind of evolutionary instinct.

Only a low-quality man with no other options will choose to raise another man's seeds for a chance at getting pussy. It means you agree to let your resources be siphoned to raise offsprings that offer you no reproductive advantage in exchange for a puuusssy that's been damaged by another man's dick and the birth of another man's children.

Low quality!

One last thing:

All single mothers are angels when dealing with a prospective suitor. Marry them and you'll unlock their hidden demons.

Doveheart:
Her husband is long dead and she hasn't gotten married since then, we have been friends since then. She's my junior colleague in my former office anyways.
My wife has left me close to 3 years now and I want to settle down.
But I don't know if it's advisable for me to settle down with this single mother because I told her that our friendship could turn to something more serious later and, she said there's no problem about that.
What do you think friends.

Anyone who gives even the littlest piece of advice to you is very stupid and has a lot of free time in his hands to experimentalize foolishness.
If after all the shouts and rants of men on this forum doesn't teach you anything about single mothers.

You are a single father and you are asking if it advisable to marry a single mother. It is the single mother that need to be seeking advice here not you. Because hers is that she lost her husband but you, your wife left you. What did you do that will make your wife leave you. If I know her, I will advise her to into this

Game never start Dem want to lead you 2:0

frozen70:


I think you should ask your ex wife family to return your bride price, that will really be the end of that marriage so that you can start another one

But bear in mind that your new woman responsibilities on her children will be handled by both of you for a peaceful relationship

Those children will regard and take you as their dad if only you will accept them with love and care

It pains to the bone marrows where one encounter foolishness and frivolities where wisdom is expected (ibi to baye kati ba ogbon, taaba ba omugo nibe , aama dunni yeye).

Look at what a lady wrote. See what some idiotic men taking a stroll in women panties wrote.

So, sense come leave all the men wey comment head. The sense come go visit a woman head. Chai!

@frozen. Kudos and respect to the man that raised you.

By the way, @frozen. You were able to use your common sense because the issue doesn't concern you. If you were to be the ex wife or the single mother. Your greediness will automatically override your sense.

Namaster:
Children are a NIGHTMARE to raise these days. Raising another man's children is the kind of nightmare that even Stephen King cannot conjure.

First of all, you are opening yourself up to a LOT of problems. You are inviting not 1, not 2 but 3 strangers into your life.

If you have NO kids, you will IMMEDIATELY be outnumbered in your own home. If you have kids, you are exposing them to unhealthy levels of rivalry.

Nothing disappoints a child than seeing their parent investing his scarce resources in EQUALLY in children that are not related to him.

It communicates to the kids that if their father could invest in strange kids as much as he invests in them, then they are not special to him. The superior love that parents have for their offsprings does not exist in their lives.

In short, they feel UNLOVED. Or less loved.

And make no mistake, your wife will make sure your investments (bothe emotional and fijancial) in her kids is equal to your investments in your kids. She'll argue that is the only way to keep the family cohesive.

Meanwhile, she'll NEVER do the same for your kids. Your kids will begin to learn firsthand the origin of the evil stepmother fairy tales.

That is if you have kids.

If you don't have kids, why are you eager to live your life raising another man's kids. Kid's that will NEVER accept you as their father.

Their father is dead which makes him a special kind of hero that can never be replaced. To them, you are nothing but a wallet and a mother-fuuucker.

Plus when you try to discipline them, they'll feel like you were being too harsh because they are not your biological kids. Your wife will feel like you were being too harsh because they were not your biological kids. Then you will start to question yourself whether you were being too harsh because they were not your biological kids.

Also the quality and frequency of sex with a single mother is NEVER great. Pregnancy and child birth fuucks up a woman's body. Sometimes, her mind too.

You'll have to deal with that too.

Finally, everybody you know will think of you as a LOW-QUALITY MAN. They will treat you as such. It'll be unconscious, not deliberate. It's a kind of evolutionary instinct.

Only a low-quality man with no other options will choose to raise another man's seeds for a chance at getting pussy. It means you agree to let your resources be siphoned to raised offsprings that offer you no evolutionary advantage in exchange for a puuusssy that's been damaged by another man's dick and the birth of another man's children.

Low quality!

One last thing:708y660

All single mothers are angels when dealing with a prospective suitor. Marry them and you'll unlock their hidden demons.

Boss you said absolutely nothing but facts! The best part i love is this;
"TO THEM YOU A NOTHING BUT A WALLET AND MOTHER-FUCKER".

Namaster:
Children are a NIGHTMARE to raise these days. Raising another man's children is the kind of nightmare that even Stephen King cannot conjure.

First of all, you are opening yourself up to a LOT of problems. You are inviting not 1, not 2 but 3 strangers into your life.

If you have NO kids, you will IMMEDIATELY be outnumbered in your own home. If you have kids, you are exposing them to unhealthy levels of rivalry.

Nothing disappoints a child than seeing their parent investing his scarce resources in EQUALLY in children that are not related to him.

It communicates to the kids that if their father could invest in strange kids as much as he invests in them, then they are not special to him. The superior love that parents have for their offsprings does not exist in their lives.

In short, they feel UNLOVED. Or less loved.

And make no mistake, your wife will make sure your investments (bothe emotional and fijancial) in her kids is equal to your investments in your kids. She'll argue that is the only way to keep the family cohesive.

Meanwhile, she'll NEVER do the same for your kids. Your kids will begin to learn firsthand the origin of the evil stepmother fairy tales.

That is if you have kids.

If you don't have kids, why are you eager to live your life raising another man's kids. Kid's that will NEVER accept you as their father.

Their father is dead which makes him a special kind of hero that can never be replaced. To them, you are nothing but a wallet and a mother-fuuucker.

Plus when you try to discipline them, they'll feel like you were being too harsh because they are not your biological kids. Your wife will feel like you were being too harsh because they were not your biological kids. Then you will start to question yourself whether you were being too harsh because they were not your biological kids.

Also the quality and frequency of sex with a single mother is NEVER great. Pregnancy and child birth fuucks up a woman's body. Sometimes, her mind too.

You'll have to deal with that too.

Finally, everybody you know will think of you as a LOW-QUALITY MAN. They will treat you as such. It'll be unconscious, not deliberate. It's a kind of evolutionary instinct.

Only a low-quality man with no other options will choose to raise another man's seeds for a chance at getting pussy. It means you agree to let your resources be siphoned to raised offsprings that offer you no evolutionary advantage in exchange for a puuusssy that's been damaged by another man's dick and the birth of another man's children.

Low quality!

One last thing:

All single mothers are angels when dealing with a prospective suitor. Marry them and you'll unlock their hidden demons.

I’m quoting this for future reference 📍

Doveheart:
Her husband is long dead and she hasn't gotten married since then, we have been friends since then. She's my junior colleague in my former office anyways.
My wife has left me close to 3 years now and I want to settle down.
But I don't know if it's advisable for me to settle down with this single mother because I told her that our friendship could turn to something more serious later and, she said there's no problem about that.
What do you think friends.

She's a widow and not a single mother⚠️

Please don't rush and marry her, first of all bring her closer to your children and watch the outcome✅

If she treat them right then you can ahead sir

Namaster:
Children are a NIGHTMARE to raise these days. Raising another man's children is the kind of nightmare that even Stephen King cannot conjure.

First of all, you are opening yourself up to a LOT of problems. You are inviting not 1, not 2 but 3 strangers into your life.

If you have NO kids, you will IMMEDIATELY be outnumbered in your own home. If you have kids, you are exposing them to unhealthy levels of rivalry.

Nothing disappoints a child than seeing their parent investing his scarce resources in EQUALLY in children that are not related to him.

It communicates to the kids that if their father could invest in strange kids as much as he invests in them, then they are not special to him. The superior love that parents have for their offsprings does not exist in their lives.

In short, they feel UNLOVED. Or less loved.

And make no mistake, your wife will make sure your investments (bothe emotional and fijancial) in her kids is equal to your investments in your kids. She'll argue that is the only way to keep the family cohesive.

Meanwhile, she'll NEVER do the same for your kids. Your kids will begin to learn firsthand the origin of the evil stepmother fairy tales.

That is if you have kids.

If you don't have kids, why are you eager to live your life raising another man's kids. Kid's that will NEVER accept you as their father.

Their father is dead which makes him a special kind of hero that can never be replaced. To them, you are nothing but a wallet and a mother-fuuucker.

Plus when you try to discipline them, they'll feel like you were being too harsh because they are not your biological kids. Your wife will feel like you were being too harsh because they were not your biological kids. Then you will start to question yourself whether you were being too harsh because they were not your biological kids.

Also the quality and frequency of sex with a single mother is NEVER great. Pregnancy and child birth fuucks up a woman's body. Sometimes, her mind too.

You'll have to deal with that too.

Finally, everybody you know will think of you as a LOW-QUALITY MAN. They will treat you as such. It'll be unconscious, not deliberate. It's a kind of evolutionary instinct.

Only a low-quality man with no other options will choose to raise another man's seeds for a chance at getting pussy. It means you agree to let your resources be siphoned to raised offsprings that offer you no evolutionary advantage in exchange for a puuusssy that's been damaged by another man's dick and the birth of another man's children.

Low quality!

One last thing:

All single mothers are angels when dealing with a prospective suitor. Marry them and you'll unlock their hidden demons.

Ooooooooooooooooooh! No dey cast this update now. Mammals learn the best thru pain.
Let him learn the best way na.

Doveheart:
Her husband is long dead and she hasn't gotten married since then, we have been friends since then. She's my junior colleague in my former office anyways.
My wife has left me close to 3 years now and I want to settle down.
But I don't know if it's advisable for me to settle down with this single mother because I told her that our friendship could turn to something more serious later and, she said there's no problem about that.
What do you think friends.

.single mother and single father .....the perfect. Combination......just make sure say u get money ..... a woman and two children plus her inlaws and ur own kids in case u have, no be beans

Namaster:
Children are a NIGHTMARE to raise these days. Raising another man's children is the kind of nightmare that even Stephen King cannot conjure.

First of all, you are opening yourself up to a LOT of problems. You are inviting not 1, not 2 but 3 strangers into your life.

If you have NO kids, you will IMMEDIATELY be outnumbered in your own home. If you have kids, you are exposing them to unhealthy levels of rivalry.

Nothing disappoints a child than seeing their parent investing his scarce resources EQUALLY in children that are not related to him.

It communicates to the kids that if their father could invest in strange kids as much as he invests in them, then they are not special to him. The superior love that parents have for their offsprings does not exist in their lives.

In short, they feel UNLOVED. Or less loved.

And make no mistake, your wife will make sure your investments (both emotional and financial) in her kids is equal to your investments in your kids. She'll argue that it's the only way to keep the family cohesive.

Meanwhile, she'll NEVER do the same for your kids. Your kids will begin to learn firsthand the origin of the evil stepmother fairy tales.

That is if you have kids.

If you don't have kids, why are you eager to live your life raising another man's kids. Kids that will NEVER accept you as their father.

Their father is dead which makes him a special kind of hero that can never be replaced. To them, you are nothing but a wallet and a mother-fuuucker.

Plus when you try to discipline them, they'll feel like you were being too harsh because they are not your biological kids. Your wife will feel like you were being too harsh because they are not your biological kids. Then you will start to question yourself whether you were being too harsh because they are not your biological kids.

Also the quality and frequency of sex with a single mother is NEVER great. Pregnancy and child birth fuucks up a woman's body. Sometimes, her mind too.

You'll have to deal with that too.

Finally, everybody you know will think of you as a LOW-QUALITY MAN. They will treat you as such. It'll be unconscious, not deliberate. It's a kind of evolutionary instinct.

Only a low-quality man with no other options will choose to raise another man's seeds for a chance at getting pussy. It means you agree to let your resources be siphoned to raise offsprings that offer you no evolutionary advantage in exchange for a puuusssy that's been damaged by another man's dick and the birth of another man's children.

Low quality!

One last thing:

All single mothers are angels when dealing with a prospective suitor. Marry them and you'll unlock their hidden demons.

Wow this is insightful.

It is a perfect combination as both of u were once married.

Just make sure what happened in ur previous marriage does not repeat itself.

Discuss all that with her,know her strength,have a target,plan with her and don't hide ur funds especially in a relationship that can lead to marriage.

Get to know her better,buy her gift it is necessary,as broke men will never concur to this. Women are the sweetest and most beautiful creature ever made by God.

I am talking from experience.

Good luck to u guys.

Doveheart:
Her husband is long dead and she hasn't gotten married since then, we have been friends since then. She's my junior colleague in my former office anyways.
My wife has left me close to 3 years now and I want to settle down.
But I don't know if it's advisable for me to settle down with this single mother because I told her that our friendship could turn to something more serious later and, she said there's no problem about that.
What do you think friends.

I thought someone wants to kills somebody... Someone ought to kills somebody... I am waiting for the good news...

FRANCISTOWN:


It pains to the bone marrows where one encounter foolishness and frivolities where wisdom is expected (ibi to baye kati ba ogbon, taaba ba omugo nibe , aama dunni yeye).

Look at what a lady wrote. See what some idiotic men taking a stroll in women panties wrote.

So, sense come leave all the men wey comment head. The sense come go visit a woman head. Chai!

@frozen. Kudos and respect to the man that raised you.

By the way, @frozen. You were able to use your common sense because the issue doesn't concern you. If you were to be the ex wife or the single mother. Your greediness will automatically override your sense.

Thanks for the comment in second to the last paragraph

Single mothers are a no go area



In everything she does , her children comes before you

frozen70:


Thanks for the comment in second to the last paragraph

Dem praise u now....e dey sweet u for belle..
U nor complain ooo....u nor reject am from the guy oooo

If Dem give u sliding tackle now for another not so good comment...y'all will call it misogyny, hatred and attack against women

Tell me something.....why is that u women don't like hearing the truth....especially when it's not singing ur praise?

if her behavior is good and if you deem it necessary to remarry… But it could always end in tears
Fair enough Since you’re both second-hands 🙃

Doveheart:
Her husband is long dead and she hasn't gotten married since then, we have been friends since then. She's my junior colleague in my former office anyways.
My wife has left me close to 3 years now and I want to settle down.
But I don't know if it's advisable for me to settle down with this single mother because I told her that our friendship could turn to something more serious later and, she said there's no problem about that.
What do you think friends.

Follow Your Mind Bro!
We go just confuse you here for Nairaland

Thanks for those that have given their advice and corrections. You guys are brilliant. However, your advice is noted and more are still welcome

Congratulations to you both in advance.

Namaster:
Children are a NIGHTMARE to raise these days. Raising another man's children is the kind of nightmare that even Stephen King cannot conjure.

First of all, you are opening yourself up to a LOT of problems. You are inviting not 1, not 2 but 3 strangers into your life.

If you have NO kids, you will IMMEDIATELY be outnumbered in your own home. If you have kids, you are exposing them to unhealthy levels of rivalry.

Nothing disappoints a child than seeing their parent investing his scarce resources EQUALLY in children that are not related to him.

It communicates to the kids that if their father could invest in strange kids as much as he invests in them, then they are not special to him. The superior love that parents have for their offsprings does not exist in their lives.

In short, they feel UNLOVED. Or less loved.

And make no mistake, your wife will make sure your investments (both emotional and financial) in her kids are equal to your investments in your kids. She'll argue that it's the only way to keep the family cohesive.

Meanwhile, she'll NEVER do the same for your kids. Your kids will begin to learn firsthand the origin of the evil stepmother fairy tales.

That is if you have kids.

If you don't have kids, why are you eager to live your life raising another man's kids. Kids that will NEVER accept you as their father.

Their father is dead which makes him a special kind of hero that can never be replaced. To them, you are nothing but a wallet and a mother-fuuucker.

Plus when you try to discipline them, they'll feel like you were being too harsh because they are not your biological kids. Your wife will feel like you were being too harsh because they are not your biological kids. Then you will start to question yourself whether you were being too harsh because they are not your biological kids.

Also the quality and frequency of sex with a single mother is NEVER great. Pregnancy and child birth fuucks up a woman's body. Sometimes, her mind too.

You'll have to deal with that too.

Finally, everybody you know will think of you as a LOW-QUALITY MAN. They will treat you as such. It'll be unconscious, not deliberate. It's a kind of evolutionary instinct.

Only a low-quality man with no other options will choose to raise another man's seeds for a chance at getting pussy. It means you agree to let your resources be siphoned to raise offsprings that offer you no evolutionary advantage in exchange for a puuusssy that's been damaged by another man's dick and the birth of another man's children.

Low quality!

One last thing:

All single mothers are angels when dealing with a prospective suitor. Marry them and you'll unlock their hidden demons.

The truth is brutal

Doveheart:
Her husband is long dead and she hasn't gotten married since then, we have been friends since then. She's my junior colleague in my former office anyways.
My wife has left me close to 3 years now and I want to settle down.
But I don't know if it's advisable for me to settle down with this single mother because I told her that our friendship could turn to something more serious later and, she said there's no problem about that.
What do you think friends.

You tagged her a single mom of two but kept quiet about yourself, are you childless?

Nice2023:
It is a perfect combination as both of u were once married.

Just make sure what happened in ur previous marriage does not repeat itself.

Discuss all that with her,know her strength,have a target,plan with her and don't hide ur funds especially in a relationship that can lead to marriage.

Get to know her better,buy her gift it is necessary,as broke men will never concur to this. Women are the sweetest and most beautiful creature ever made by God.

I am talking from experience.

Good luck to u guys.

Baba always remember realities differs from fairytales

Never take advice from simps

obinna58:

Baba always remember realities differs from fairytales

Never take advice from simps

Obinna,I have given my own advice...face the topic and stop advising me.

I am a father of 4children.

I am talking from experience ok.

Namaster:
Children are a NIGHTMARE to raise these days. Raising another man's children is the kind of nightmare that even Stephen King cannot conjure.

First of all, you are opening yourself up to a LOT of problems. You are inviting not 1, not 2 but 3 strangers into your life.

If you have NO kids, you will IMMEDIATELY be outnumbered in your own home. If you have kids, you are exposing them to unhealthy levels of rivalry.

Nothing disappoints a child than seeing their parent investing his scarce resources EQUALLY in children that are not related to him.

It communicates to the kids that if their father could invest in strange kids as much as he invests in them, then they are not special to him. The superior love that parents have for their offsprings does not exist in their lives.

In short, they feel UNLOVED. Or less loved.

And make no mistake, your wife will make sure your investments (both emotional and financial) in her kids are equal to your investments in your kids. She'll argue that it's the only way to keep the family cohesive.

Meanwhile, she'll NEVER do the same for your kids. Your kids will begin to learn firsthand the origin of the evil stepmother fairy tales.

That is if you have kids.

If you don't have kids, why are you eager to live your life raising another man's kids. Kids that will NEVER accept you as their father.

Their father is dead which makes him a special kind of hero that can never be replaced. To them, you are nothing but a wallet and a mother-fuuucker.

Plus when you try to discipline them, they'll feel like you were being too harsh because they are not your biological kids. Your wife will feel like you were being too harsh because they are not your biological kids. Then you will start to question yourself whether you were being too harsh because they are not your biological kids.

Also the quality and frequency of sex with a single mother is NEVER great. Pregnancy and child birth fuucks up a woman's body. Sometimes, her mind too.

You'll have to deal with that too.

Finally, everybody you know will think of you as a LOW-QUALITY MAN. They will treat you as such. It'll be unconscious, not deliberate. It's a kind of evolutionary instinct.

Only a low-quality man with no other options will choose to raise another man's seeds for a chance at getting pussy. It means you agree to let your resources be siphoned to raise offsprings that offer you no evolutionary advantage in exchange for a puuusssy that's been damaged by another man's dick and the birth of another man's children.

Low quality!

One last thing:

All single mothers are angels when dealing with a prospective suitor. Marry them and you'll unlock their hidden demons.

The hard truth difficult to accept
Op once you’re willing to counter to all these realities and accept the challenges then you can move on with the relationship, you’re no different from others who suffered from it