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The Magic Of Making Up #3 by xtramo: 10:53pm On Jan 15, 2012
Nugget: Women are NOT cars that break down and
need to be fixed. Women are more like flowers that
need to be showered with understanding and love.

What it means: Men and women do not approach
emotional upsets the same way.

Men go to a space by themselves and then figure out
a 'solution'.

While,

Women prefer to have someone listen, validate their feeling with
words AND emotions.

Example:

Tom forgets to grab the milk that Michelle asks
him to pick up on his way home.

Michelle has had a bad day, and barks at Tom
when he shows up sans milk.

Tom, thinking like a man, says he'll go get the
milk after dinner and thinks that'll be the end of Michelle's
anger. (the FIX)

But,

During dinner he can still feel Michelle's anger.

Tom returns the anger with anger and the
whole 'milk situation' explodes into WWIII

Now imagine,

If when Tom returned home, (he would've looked
deeper and realized this was about more than just
the milk)

Michelle: Where's the milk?

Tom: Oh CRAP! I totally spaced it out!

Michelle: It figures. (angrily)

Tom: (Taking Michelle in his arms) I can't
believe I forgot the milk. I've been so
forgetful lately.

Michelle: (cooling down) It's okay. It's
not a big deal.

Tom: No, it is a big deal. (cupping Michelle's
face in his hands) I love you, you're just
as busy as I am and I shouldn't
forget such a small request.

Michelle: (big smile) Ooooh, I've just
had a bad day and felt totally unappreciated. I
shouldn't be such a grump. You're so sweet.

Tom: It's okay, I was a bad boy, You
can punish me later after I get the milk.
What happened today?

Michelle: Mmmmm, (and she tells him
about her day.)

Now, I used 'milk' as a small example.

What's important to understand is that you don't
HAVE to solve every problem.

If your break up was over 'money', more than
likely, it wasn't REALLY over 'money'.

Anymore than the argument between Tom and
Michelle was about the milk.
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by Mynd44: 12:35am On Jan 16, 2012
Ant that was today's useless fact. Stay tuned for another tomorrow
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by Chicolee(f): 11:43pm On Jan 16, 2012
Mynd_44:

Ant that was today's useless fact. Stay tuned for another tomorrow
I learnt a lot from the 'useless fact' so keep ur sarcastic comments to urself
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by bekay911(f): 11:53pm On Jan 16, 2012
I hope ma boyfrnd/husby to be is reading dis.
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by Mynd44: 11:58pm On Jan 16, 2012
Still useless
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by dabrake(m): 3:56am On Jan 17, 2012
xtramo:

Nugget: Women are NOT cars that break down and
need to be fixed. Women are more like flowers that
need to be showered with understanding and love.

What it means: Men and women do not approach
emotional upsets the same way.

Men go to a space by themselves and then figure out
a 'solution'.

While,

Women prefer to have someone listen, validate their feeling with
words AND emotions.

Example:

Tom forgets to grab the milk that Michelle asks
him to pick up on his way home.

Michelle has had a bad day, and barks at Tom
when he shows up sans milk.

Tom, thinking like a man, says he'll go get the
milk after dinner and thinks that'll be the end of Michelle's
anger. (the FIX)

But,

During dinner he can still feel Michelle's anger.

Tom returns the anger with anger and the
whole 'milk situation' explodes into WWIII

Now imagine,

If when Tom returned home, (he would've looked
deeper and realized this was about more than just
the milk)

Michelle: Where's the milk?

Tom: Oh CRAP! I totally spaced it out!

Michelle: It figures. (angrily)

Tom: (Taking Michelle in his arms) I can't
believe I forgot the milk. I've been so
forgetful lately.

Michelle: (cooling down) It's okay. It's
not a big deal.

Tom: No, it is a big deal. (cupping Michelle's
face in his hands) I love you, you're just
as busy as I am and I shouldn't
forget such a small request.

Michelle: (big smile) Ooooh, I've just
had a bad day and felt totally unappreciated. I
shouldn't be such a grump. You're so sweet.

Tom: It's okay, I was a bad boy, You
can punish me later after I get the milk.
What happened today?

Michelle: Mmmmm, (and she tells him
about her day.)

Now, I used 'milk' as a small example.

What's important to understand is that you don't
HAVE to solve every problem.

If your break up was over 'money', more than
likely, it wasn't REALLY over 'money'.

Anymore than the argument between Tom and
Michelle was about the milk.
all that talk because i wan please woman? I will rather use that time to solve maths
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by Mynd44: 6:50am On Jan 17, 2012
Seriously reading this has made me a little bit worse that I was before
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by bekay911(f): 7:39am On Jan 17, 2012
Mynd_44:

Seriously reading this has made me a little bit worse that I was before
lipsrsealed undecided lipsrsealed
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by Nobody: 9:22am On Jan 17, 2012
Now, this is why romantic movies should be avoided. . .
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by cynthiafred67(f): 9:41am On Jan 17, 2012
Wow I love this I wish. . .
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by Nobody: 9:51am On Jan 17, 2012
^^^
Yeah! Wishes! This is a movie script though! I am imagining if this can happen between Emeka and Bola!
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by cynthiafred67(f): 9:56am On Jan 17, 2012
^^ lol I am not sure oo
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by richy5(m): 1:45pm On Jan 17, 2012
@poster shey u still dey learn alphabet ni
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by Mynd44: 3:27pm On Jan 17, 2012
I can't believe this is still here
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by LongOne1(m): 5:33pm On Jan 17, 2012
Hmm, someone has been watching too much TV.

A typical Female will cheat on Tom with that guy who doesn’t do all that mushy stuff.
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by IbroSaunks(m): 6:37pm On Jan 17, 2012
dabrake:

all that talk because i wan please woman? I will rather use that time to solve maths
hehehe, funny! grin grin grin
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by Mynd44: 6:59pm On Jan 17, 2012
Long One:

Hmm, someone has been watching too much TV.

A typical Female will cheat on Tom with that guy who doesn’t do all that mushy stuff.

Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by MrsChima1(f): 7:10pm On Jan 17, 2012
xtramo:

Nugget: Women are NOT cars that break down and
need to be fixed. Women are more like flowers that
need to be showered with understanding and love.

What it means: Men and women do not approach
emotional upsets the same way.

Men go to a space by themselves and then figure out
a 'solution'.

While,

Women prefer to have someone listen, validate their feeling with
words AND emotions.

Example:

Tom forgets to grab the milk that Michelle asks
him to pick up on his way home.

Michelle has had a bad day, and barks at Tom
when he shows up sans milk.

Tom, thinking like a man, says he'll go get the
milk after dinner and thinks that'll be the end of Michelle's
anger. (the FIX)

But,

During dinner he can still feel Michelle's anger.

Tom returns the anger with anger and the
whole 'milk situation' explodes into WWIII

Now imagine,

If when Tom returned home, (he would've looked
deeper and realized this was about more than just
the milk)

Michelle: Where's the milk?

Tom: Oh CRAP! I totally spaced it out!

Michelle: It figures. (angrily)

Tom: (Taking Michelle in his arms) I can't
believe I forgot the milk. I've been so
forgetful lately.

Michelle: (cooling down) It's okay. It's
not a big deal.

Tom: No, it is a big deal. (cupping Michelle's
face in his hands) I love you, you're just
as busy as I am and I shouldn't
forget such a small request.

Michelle: (big smile) Ooooh, I've just
had a bad day and felt totally unappreciated. I
shouldn't be such a grump. You're so sweet.

Tom: It's okay, I was a bad boy, You
can punish me later after I get the milk.
What happened today?

Michelle: Mmmmm, (and she tells him
about her day.)

Now, I used 'milk' as a small example.

What's important to understand is that you don't
HAVE to solve every problem.

If your break up was over 'money', more than
likely, it wasn't REALLY over 'money'.

Anymore than the argument between Tom and
Michelle was about the milk.

This sounds like two high school kids not knowing the real aspect of relationship and what is required of them.

People have this notion that all women are the same and all men are the same. It is a societal notion that men are tough and women are weak. It also explains why some men are very vocal when it comes to "assertive" women because they feel that by societal standards that women are to be meek and seen.

The same effects with men where the mother tells a young boy not to cry because it would make him less than a man when all it does teaches him not to be expressive of his feelings and you have some men today reacting physically then verbally. I would rather have a man that express his anger verbally then physically.

Communication is very important and if the woman told her man to get a gallon of milk before he left and he doesn't. It shouldn't have turned into WWIII because it is a simple mistake that he didn't get the milk. We have to be realistic in what we fight for in our relationship and fighting over milk is not important or shouldn't be important.

Some people who are frustrated with their relationship or life will find the dumbest thing to fuss over and use it as a way to leave the relationship. I am not saying that you shouldn't leave the relationship, but I am saying check yourself before you end up destroying every relationship you have because you haven't learned from YOUR flaws and maturate from it.
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by xtramo: 12:00am On Jan 18, 2012
Verbally attack keeps on coming from guys. No wonder they are always the same.
Is it bad to be a listener? A lot can be averted if you just or simply listen even if it is for a minute.
To the ladies in the house, a thumps up 4 u! grin
@Mynd_44, it all depends on the point of view you are coming from.
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by slimyem: 12:11am On Jan 18, 2012
like the men havent heard or read this a million times written in a million ways, pssssssssh!
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by Mynd44: 8:35am On Jan 18, 2012
hmmm
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by richy5(m): 11:43am On Jan 18, 2012
hehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehe, lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by soulsynger(m): 2:03pm On Jan 18, 2012
Try this with a naija babe and you are done for. She go use your head blow whistle.
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by xtramo: 2:15pm On Jan 18, 2012
soulsynger:

Try this with a naija babe and you are done for. She go use your head blow whistle.
Not all Nija babes will use your head blow whistle. Some of them will forever cherish you if you listen to their "blabbing".
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by LongOne1(m): 3:39pm On Jan 18, 2012
xtramo:

Not all Nija babes will use your head blow whistle. Some of them will forever cherish you if you listen to their "blabbing".

That right there has to be Faith.

Faith because of that one in a million chance you’ll meet someone different.
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by webbjamie(m): 4:00pm On Jan 18, 2012
xtramo:

Not all Nija babes will use your head blow whistle. Some of them will forever cherish you if you listen to their "blabbing".

TRUE DAT,TRUE DAT BRO.I Think Nigerian chicks are a bit Masochistic therefore i recommend you treat them as such.
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by Mynd44: 6:30pm On Jan 18, 2012
I will rather do more valuable things
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by doeeyed: 8:22pm On Jan 20, 2012
Thanks op,

Pls keep telling them. N reminding them ,
Softly softly does it when it comes to women.

The underlying thread is be as caring as possible, irregardless of the issues which change over the course of years or the phase of the relationship.
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by Mynd44: 8:41pm On Jan 20, 2012
Did anyone notice that @Richy has the same signature has me? Men I have to use that copyright symbol next time
Re: The Magic Of Making Up #3 by doeeyed: 8:58pm On Jan 20, 2012
^^^^^^

Better still come up with Sth better, but copyright then.
As it seems despite ur efforts, richy is intent on using it.

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