kimbaby:

I think my case is the worst, what would u do if ur jobless 30yr old brother inlaw has been living with u, ur husband and daughter in a 1bedroom since u've been married for 3yrs now? There is no privacy, He Eats the way he wants, he can't take out the trash unless u remind him, he can't put off the GEN when u're cooking and NEPA is back on, has nothing else to discuss with ur husband asides football, village, clubs and chics, can never dust or clean, eats before u or ur husband even eat, steals food when u are sleeping at night, had 2 tricycles that gave him 96k per month yet didn't move out, owned a block industry but refused to pay rent to move out, can never pick ur daughter when u are running late from work even though he drives ur husband's old car? Has no single responsibility even at home as my husband and another brother take care of their parents and pay fees for the younger ones, and ur husband couldn't care cos he believes he has done so much for the guy (sent him to school, gave him his old car instead of me, tried to get him jobs, tried to help him travel out when he just finished school but it didn't work out etc) then he can't send his brother away and is more interested in building a house that is taking us forever, I can go on and on and on. So tell me what would u do with my kind of inlaw cos am at the verge of madness or moving out, the inconvenience and unhappiness is just unbearable

Africaine:

Having in laws live with one is something to be taken lightly,because so many factors come into play especially if you are the way you see things differs.
My in laws lived with me for from the day i got married till abtn july 2010,when the floods came and drove everybody out
It was hell,even that is an understatement,they are rude lazy extremely annoying mannerless set of people,i almost a physical altercation my sister in law,it took everything in me fight,i walked away,to d extent dat just bcus i didnt like the way they wud eat wat i have scheduled to last a week in 2days,i wud bring out wats for them on my way work and lock my freezer,they actually broke my freezer,i was livid! I told my sister in law,pls dont go to my pot witout asking first,she had a problem wit that, infact that july 10th rain that flooded lagos,it entered my house oh,was the best thing to have happened to me oh. After the flood,we had to move,and i just put my feet down,them or me I told my hubby,u can relate wit them,anyway time or how,u want,my staying in my house is COMPLETELY prohibited oh,whether ur mama like make she cry blood oh,we signed an agreement,and now I hav so much peace and our expenses had reduced drastically,even my hubby had to concede and apologise for not sending them away sooner.

sir-p2007:
TOO LONG IS WHEN U FEEL IS TOO LONG,
as to hw to ask an inlaw to leave,very simple.
''in-law abeg time don reach wen u go waka,abeg ready make l go drop u for park.greet evry bodi for me when u reach house.call me whn u reach.

Ninilowo:
BLESS U MR POSTER my mother inlaw s been with us sincce 2006 before our wedding. she used to sneak in and leave before my arrival from work but since we had our first child, she and my wifes sister had gotten a permanent suit in my house. i was told they would leave as soon as the mum (my wife) starts work. now our second child is 4 yet there is no sign to show that they are ready to llive. My wifes sister is about to get married and any time the issue of when to leave comes up, my wife accuses me of embarrasing the mum. The issue is making me sad cos I never had the privacy I cherished so much with my family. I did not even have the intimacy I would have llove to have with my children.

eyinjuege:


What kind of nonsense is that

It's time for you to be as rude and unbearable as possible!!!

In fact,tell your wife that you want them gone in one week!!! Are you trying to pull our legs here or something?

N:B- this thread is s old as Methuselah! I didn't even notice the date

SkyRider1:
Eminent NairaLanders, consider a scenario where there is an Evil Murderous Mate. What more can in laws do than to come to the rescue of their beloved.

coolkaboom:
ol-boi, I goofed. My wife had a baby-girl (our 2nd) 6 months ago, since then, her mum and sister hav set-up camp at my home. Initially, it was a relief but I have recently com to d conclusion that I was siiting on a keg of gun-powder. D more I covr my ears and eyes, the more brazen they become. Anytime i enquire from my madam abt when they will be leaving, she claims to still need them because d baby is still to young for day-care.

i had to put my foot down and tactfully kick em out when d whining and snide remarks were gettin too 'amplified'. For sake of respect, some distance has to be maintained between in-laws and a young growing marriage. It's helpful in the short-run but too damaging when the stay is extended.

Having said that, it also depends on the characters involved. I had no real issues with the sister, na dem mama get gutter-mouth, and i couldnt stand her influence on my wife. Havin every decision or discussion ratified by that woman was like living in 'HELL'.

malele:
una go kill me with laugh here ooo

Rossikk:
Ninilowo said:



You are a fool and a coward. Why don't you fuuking stand up, BE A MAN, and tell them to CLEAR OUT if that is what you want in your home? What kind of nonsense is this? Why are you so afraid of them? Are they gods or deities? Are they superhumans? Are they not human beings like you?  If they think staying for 6 YEARS in your house is ok, without even confiding in you their intentions or agenda, they've already declared war on you right there without your knowledge, and disrespected you massively. They'd studied you, and saw your civility and consideration as weakness. And capitalized on it.

Now get this: You owe them NOTHING either in terms of respect or consideration.  They have ABSOLUTELY NO RIGHT IN THIS WORLD to deny you the kind of life you want for your family. Stand up, Be a man, and most importantly, YOU MUST NOT CARE  how they 'feel' by your next actions. They never cared about your feelings either.

It is NOT your job to make them 'happy' with you. SO DO YOUR THING AND STOP THIS NONSENSE NOW. Give them an ultimatum - 1 week to 1 month (personally I'd give them a week max). AND STICK TO IT.