BBDelta:

AT POSTER, For the first time on Nairaland, I took my time to read every comment on a topic, Suprise! really at myself. I am Christian and manifest the Presence of the HolySpirit in My Life through the Speaking of Tongues. Now, Tongues are unknown Languages in form of a spiritual tool which is release from Heaven from the HolySpirit on a born again Christian (A Person who accepts Jesus Christ a His Lord and personal Saviour, through which the Human Nature of Sin is eradicated from His Life) for effective communion with God Almighty without the devil acknowledging that communication or communion and keeping the devil totally blank of the communication with God.

Now some body would ask does the devil hear what I say when I pray to God? The answer is YES, but when you pray in tongues or worship Him in Spirit (i.e pray in the spirit, without muttering words not speaking in tongues this time) at time when you have totally dedicated your spirit to God, the devil does not hear what you say to God.

Now Like every Good tool at our disposal for Worshipping God, there is ABUSE, and most of this ABUSES comes as a result of lack of proper understanding of WHAT the tool is meant for, or HOW the tool is to be use.

There are things (Places, times, Instrument & Equipment, Process or Acts) which AID a particular person to have effective communication or communion with God like Churches, Songs, Messages, Night-time, quite places, mountains, desert, culture, way of life of similar people and so many to mention as they changes and unfold as life itself metamorphoses and diversifies. Now the effectiveness of this tool does not depend on any of this above mention things or class of thing. If a person have an understanding or ideology that the Effective of this tool lays on this aids, THAT IS THE FIRST AND MAJOR ABUSE…………,  an anything built on a wrong foundation is bound to crumble Good or Bad. Now the second ABUSE IS WHAT TONGUES IS MEANT TO DO, Tongues is not meant to show a measure of Spiritual sensitivity or strength, infact, I see Majority of  Nairalanders just like the Majority of Christians out there say, it a way to show your wife is very spiritual WRONG!!!!!. The evaluation of spirituality or service to God or communion to God cannot be determine by any activity on earth from the perspective of any man (but God) or determine by any man, no matter who you are, you can not say this man has the fear of God, you can only have a myopic evaluation, which you are entitled to. Most men of God (Revs, Bishops, Pst etc) have been guilty of this and it has affected the mentality of many including YOU, (sorry to point it out so bluntly, because you admit that “the whole thing looks very strange to me, she herself has become a strange person to me, it scares me whenever she starts all those syllables of speaking in unknown tongues, even at some points, she goes in spirit.”

My personal experience is this, two days ago, I stopped my wife from praying at night, you maybe surprise, I noticed my wife wakes up at 12:00 noon exactly, I mean exactly to pray at for exactly 2hours nothing less and nothing more, I love been meticulous but that was kind of strange, and the understand made me to understand that she have an iota of conclusion that this aids of Night-time and time duration has an effect on the effectiveness of the prayer. WRONG!!!! Secondly, I have been educating her on to how have a positive perspective on attacking and solving situation, she grew up in CAC, and the believe is there are witches that flies between 12:00 and 2:00pm, so that is the best time to hack them down WRONG AGAIN!!!!.

Now from my perspective in a home (husband, wife and children) the Husband is the Head and must do every thing within his capacity to remain the head but not hindering the growth of other members because you want to be the head. You are suppose to be the Spiritual Head of that Family, So you need to have a deep understanding about all spiritual activities including the ones you do not believe in, I have often said if my any mean I married a Muslim, before she would no what is happening I would have finish and had a proper and superior understanding of the Quran, and guide her properly to become a good Muslim or  if she accepts to become a Christian, I will guide her adequately, (Although, the quest for this knowledge is why you are putting up this question, you need more than just asking Nairalanders, run searches, read books and let her be surprise at the depth of your knowledge, she will listen to you).

So, You must really do some serious work and study on what this Tongues is? And what it is used for, then study her and teach her if you think she has an abuse of it.

My Finally Words, It a Good tool she has got there, but all the conditions above must be meet and you will enjoy yourselves, but pulling her away from the Church is not the solution, She is not speaking in tongues because she attends the Church NO, infact, if I am with this type of zeal as soon as I attend the Baptist, as soon as it is prayer time, I will caught off in tongues and will really be happy, I had a time to communicate to God in Tongues, since you may probable have stop her from praying in tongues in the House, and you will really not like to be beside her, with the eyes of people who do not believe or understands what she is doing

Just one thing, I don’t understand what you mean by prophesying in tongues?


Cheers Bro.

Odafe Victor
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What has light got to do with darkness? How did you two become equally yoked? Bros, are you sure you're not possessed? I have never seen any Christian husband complaining that his wife is now filled with the Holy Ghost and his house is no longer "fun"! You mean "fun" in the worldly way, right? Are you sure you are a born-again Christian? This is the strangest thing I have ever heard from a Christian husband and the replies so far are full of all manner of dead works.

This man is resentful of his wife because she is now baptized with the Holy Ghost and instead of rejoicing and seeking this baptism for himself, he is complaining here on Nairaland and seeking ways to stop the flow the Spirit. Here is the good news my friend: you can't stop the work or the move of God. If you are a born-again Christian like you say you are, then you will know that your only recourse is to get on your knees and seek God's face for your own encounter with the Holy Spirit. I am sure your wife is also praying for you. Why don't you pray with her everyday for the next month and see what happens? Do you now want to start resisting the Spirit in your wife's life or start making her life miserable because of her fellowship with the Lord? Do you want to become a stumbling block, thus inviting a visitation of God's wrath.

Have you tried following her to her church if only out of curiosity? Have you asked the Holy Spirit for your own baptism? Have you gone to see your own Baptist pastor for advice? Do you think you can find good spiritual advice on Nairaland? There is so much wrong with this thread. I don't even know where to start from. May God give you the wisdom and grace to do the right thing. Amen.

Rossikk:

^^^^I hope they're also 'quite welcome' to drop the religion entirely 'if they so choose'.

divine2043:

The poster has a point. I think Nigerians are very easily deceived by anything. Who are you to determine what is spiritual and what is not? Some posters are even claiming that the man is possessed. Uttering incoherent stuff does not automatically translate to speaking in tongues.

A good christian wife is Godly and she also brings happiness, satisfaction and peace of mind to the house.

Two things here - it is all about agreement before marriage. People who believe in certain things should stay together and people without common points should not.

No poster here has the right to claim any of them (husband/wife) is not 'spiritual' enough. It is all about what you believe.
Any home where one of the parties is not happy is not enjoyable.

gunshin:

What i mean by saying 'prophesying in tongue' is when she goes in spirit' like worshippers from Cherubim & Seraphim.
Victor, sincerely, i must confess that ur comment and advice gives me peace and also shows me a direction. You can imagine quite a lot of posters have started calling me so many names. If i want to act so wickedly, i need not informing anyone for advice, at least i love my wife so much. It's just the fear and apprehension i feel that makes me seek people's opinion. I am not wicked and am not an Anti Christ as well. But i used to hear so many controversies about this doctrine of 'tongue speaking' so many times. Some say the gift is totally gone,

divine2043:

The poster has a point. I think Nigerians are very easily deceived by anything. Who are you to determine what is spiritual and what is not? Some posters are even claiming that the man is possessed. Uttering incoherent stuff does not automatically translate to speaking in tongues.

A good christian wife is Godly and she also brings happiness, satisfaction and peace of mind to the house.

Two things here - it is all about agreement before marriage. People who believe in certain things should stay together and people without common points should not.

No poster here has the right to claim any of them (husband/wife) is not 'spiritual' enough. It is all about what you believe.

Any home where one of the parties is not happy is not enjoyable.

divine2043:

@Moremi2008. Fun translates to happiness. Take time to study stuff. The post is very clear and the poster is clearly worried and unhappy about the development. I do not know if you are married or in a relationship or what your idea of being married is but happiness is the ultimate. Anything which could lead to unhappiness must be looked at.

It is possible the couple did not do their homework well before marriage.

Do not be one-sided and read my replies carefully. What is speaking in tongues? If that is your sign of being a christian then of course it is easier when you are with someone who does same. Simple.

divine2043:

The poster has a point. I think Nigerians are very easily deceived by anything. Who are you to determine what is spiritual and what is not? Some posters are even claiming that the man is possessed. Uttering incoherent stuff does not automatically translate to speaking in tongues.

A good christian wife is Godly and she also brings happiness, satisfaction and peace of mind to the house.

Two things here - it is all about agreement before marriage. People who believe in certain things should stay together and people without common points should not.

No poster here has the right to claim any of them (husband/wife) is not 'spiritual' enough. It is all about what you believe.

Any home where one of the parties is not happy is not enjoyable.

Siena:

Quite possibly Gunshin feels his wife chantings are bordering on the fanatic. Has anyone thought of that? In everything in life, there should be a healthy balance. I personally would not like religious chantings, especially if it's random, and not just prayer time. So unlike many here, I can see where Gunshin's coming from.

I'm Catholic, and was not brought up in a home where chanting was the order of the day, so I would certainly not like it in my home. Certainly my children will be brought up as catholics, when they're older they're quite welcome to change denomination, if they so desire.

allycat:

A few  years ago I worked with this extremely spiritual collegue, a lady who  wore no earrings, had her hair in shukwu , dressed very drably. Meanwhile she was always off to one church related function or crusade or prayer meeting and the rest of us in the office were always covering up for her and generally doing her duties. The day I went to her house I almost fainted because her wedding photos showed a beautiful young lady very unlike the person I was working with. I also met the husband who looked like a regular kind of guy nothing flashy or nerdy just regular. I recently met her cos I left that environment about 3 years ago and made the mistake of asking of her husband, apparently they had separated. The curses she poured on the man were something else, when I finally asked what the reason was she said he was talking nonsense about no longer being the woman he married and that he was tired of living like a stranger in his own house.