it makes me wonder, when a guy wants you he calls you probably 5 times aday sends you sms like 6 times aday when you say ok for the first 3-5mths he is still constant then it starts to happen 5 calls become 2 then 1call a day then once in a week, 6 sms become 3 then 2 then none!!! then the stories begin he has been busy that's why he didnt call or he travelled and forgot to tell you or he didnt see your missed calls

can someone in the house tell me why this happens it sure beats me!!!

because he is after sex and once he gets it moves on to another one.

I guess when they are chasing, they do everything to be accepted. they try to make an impression. once they have gotten the girl, they no longer see the need.

Good or bad, guys have reasons for losing interest and it has little or nothing to do with sex.

When a guy is chasing you, his primary motivation is lust and not love. In psychology, this is a normal process on the part to true love and commitment. What we calls "love at first sight" is nothing but a "lust" in it purest form. I guess our sense of modesty would not allow us admit this. Lust, is the first stage of Love and how you handle it determines what the outcome of the whole affair may be.

With this in mind, we can easily understand why men lose interest in ladies after expending more energy and time in it. It is inevitable. Everyman has this trait. We just have to nurture love.

1. After all the wahala, the guy later found out that "she is after all ordinary". That is when lust began to vanish. At this stage only a mind with concrete plan stays. I, strangely deviated from common practice. For instance, I avoid making too much contact with ladies I'd just met. I won't call you. But I will do things that let you know I value you. It was a result of long term observation. Sure, it hurt some girls. Definitely, they will get over it. Almost all the long term relationship I had till date started that way. Where I deviated and did all the nuisance mentioned above, the relation won't last! I quite understand why it is so and cannot be otherwise.

2. During the chasing, some guys mind are focus on physical attraction. The lady on her part look her best to heighten the lust process. Once succeeded, man begin to unravel hidden traits in the lady that either make him thank his star or curse his luck. It is apparent reaction to these, that may necesitate gradual or sudden lost of interest. Then, he began fresh "hunting"!

3. If the lady is guarantteed and the affair cemented, guys tend to be assured and divested their energy into other things like making money etc. The lady would have to do the "guarding". Responsible guys don't spend half their life chasing babe,

olanajim:

Good or bad, guys have reasons for losing interest and it has little or nothing to do with sex.

When a guy is chasing you, his primary motivation is lust and not love. In psychology, this is a normal process on the part to true love and commitment. What we calls "love at first sight" is nothing but a "lust" in it purest form. I guess our sense of modesty would not allow us admit this. Lust, is the first stage of Love and how you handle it determines what the outcome of the whole affair may be.

With this in mind, we can easily understand why men lose interest in ladies after expending more energy and time in it. It is inevitable. Everyman has this trait. We just have to nurture love.

1. After all the wahala, the guy later found out that "she is after all ordinary". That is when lust began to vanish. At this stage only a mind with concrete plan stays. I, strangely deviated from common practice. For instance, I avoid making too much contact with ladies I'd just met. I won't call you. But I will do things that let you know I value you. It was a result of long term observation. Sure, it hurt some girls. Definitely, they will get over it. Almost all the long term relationship I had till date started that way. Where I deviated and did all the nuisance mentioned above, the relation won't last! I quite understand why it is so and cannot be otherwise.

2. During the chasing, some guys mind are focus on physical attraction. The lady on her part look her best to heighten the lust process. Once succeeded, man begin to unravel hidden traits in the lady that either make him thank his star or curse his luck. It is apparent reaction to these, that may necesitate gradual or sudden lost of interest. Then, he began fresh "hunting"!

3. If the lady is guarantteed and the affair cemented, guys tend to be assured and divested their energy into other things like making money etc. The lady would have to do the "guarding". Responsible guys don't spend half their life chasing babe,

Gbam! well said @topic most men are naturally hunters anyway _{(i think that DNA is encoded in them somewhere)}

@Ika,

Gosh! You mean men actually have "hunting" flair in their blood? I'll try to discover mine. I just need a doctor or DNA expert to identify that gene.

By the way, what make women think every man must subscribe to lust all the time? I guess they are beginning to see the reality. Love may be blind to women, for men, it could just as well shut his eyes while being mistaken as blind. They get the message when the guy start hunting afresh.

@Ika,

Gosh! You mean men actually have "hunting" flair in their blood? I'll try to discover mine. I just need a doctor or DNA expert to identify that gene.

By the way, what make women think every man must subscribe to lust all the time? I guess they are beginning to see the reality. Love may be blind to women, for men, it could just as well shut his eyes while being mistaken as blind. They get the message when the guy start hunting afresh.

Its not true!

I don't like hunting, I prefer to be hunted

olanajim:

@Ika,

Gosh! You mean men actually have "hunting" flair in their blood? I'll try to discover mine. I just need a doctor or DNA expert to identify that gene.

he! he! please do!

olanajim:

@Ika,


By the way, what make women think every man must subscribe to lust all the time?

because most men are visually inclined the sight of a well rounded décolletage OR a well toned booty makes most men swoon or go bunkers

olanajim:


I guess they are beginning to see the reality. [/b]Love may be blind to women, for men, it could just as well shut his eyes while being mistaken as blind. They get the message when the guy start [b]hunting afresh.

yeah you are right! depends on why the man was hunting in the first place! to find a wife or just play around

debosky:

Its not true!

I don't like hunting, I prefer to be hunted

" " you gat me rolling on the floor! you? pls! pls! _{stop smoking that weed!} you? hunted? " "

^{numero uno hunter hia in this forum}

Me? Hunter? No oh, it was probably my twin brother posting then.

I am very timid and shy, ^{*shy guy is the kinda guy who'll always be mine, o lord have mercy mercy mercy*}

Debosky,
maybe I should start hunting you or set a babe after you? How many do you want? I just can't imagine you are not a hunter!

Ika,
help me now. I want to know if I have that Gene so I can hunt while my homone is a concentrated level. I just hope Rachiwise isn't reading this.

Seriously, when I heard a lady saying men "thinks" with their "kini" I just laughed because I know that real men are smart and can't be tie down just like that.

Yeah, it depend on why you are hunting. I wish we can read minds, most guys would never have got a lady attention because their infatuation would be exposed.

Hei, are women really free of the same phenomenon? Weren't they also be found losing interest in guys after all the trip to Opebi to shop for expensive make-ups and creams? Are they not the real reason "hunters" don't settle for "old meat"?

olanajim:

Debosky,
maybe I should start hunting you or set a babe after you? How many do you want? I just can't imagine you are not a hunter!

Ika,
help me now. I want to know if I have that Gene so I can hunt while my homone is a concentrated level. I just hope Rachiwise

help you? ^{i don laff tire!} " " i cant fit oh! i no sabi book

olanajim:



Seriously, when I heard a lady saying men "thinks" with their "kini" I just laughed because I know that real men are smart and can't be tie down just like that.

Yeah, it depend on why you are hunting. I wish we can read minds, most guys would never have got a lady attention because their infatuation would be exposed.

Hei, are women really free of the same phenomenon? Weren't they also be found losing interest in guys after all the trip to Opebi to shop for expensive make-ups and creams? Are they not the real reason "hunters" don't settle for "old meat"?

whether real or fake oh! most of y'all are visually inclined and most will respond +vely to the "visual aids" being thrown at them and like you rightly said most smart onces cant be tied down with that , that is why you hear most men say: they want a girl with a banging body and a very intelligent mind .we are visually inclined too but haven't you heard the saying : to get a woman make love to her mind 1st and you will have her eating out of your hands?

debosky:

Me? Hunter? No oh, it was probably my twin brother posting then.

I am very timid and shy, ^{*shy guy is the kind of guy who'll always be mine, o lord have mercy mercy mercy*}

@debo ehen! Diana kings lyrics does not apply to you lai lai

@ olanajim

I won't mind at all, just make sure they are sane and not drama queens or psychotic gold diggers. plus they must have the very important apple booty with brains to match. Just one will do for me, I'm not really into multi-tasking

@ Ika

I was the dude she was singing about in that song, if I wasn't so young at the time she would've put me in the video sef

ikamefa:

Gbam! well said @topic most men are naturally hunters anyway _{(i think that DNA is encoded in them somewhere)}

sounds like someting fela durotoye said,

men can be hunters nd farmers, hunters like ready made sturvs while farmers choose sturvs with potential and groom it continously whilw watching it grow,

@topic
i read somewhere that if u want to kno how a relationship will be(for the woman)just take all the 'fervor' with which he was pursuing u during the courting or toasting and divide it in half!

Why does the topic have to be centered around men only.  Women get tired too and stop calling after they get what they want too----money from their "mugus". Might be in the minority, but same goes both ways.  There is novelty in a "new" toy.  Just like children, men will go to Chuckeecheese today and to Discovery zone tomorrow.  Always looking for something "new".  No condition is permanent but change.


By the age of 21 every observant female would have figured the whole thing out after 2 or 3 dates! No surprises after that. It becomes "standard". Unless you never learn from mistakes. Which would be a terrible pity then. Ladies have learned to come up with their own agenda too to get around this. Either you go in with your eyes open and come out healthier or you go in with your eyes closed and let history keep repeating itself to the detriment of your psychological and physiological wellbeing. I think good and concerned mothers spoke of this to their daughters and sons at age 10!!!!!! Trying to figure this out after 21 years of age is precarious!

Netotse,
how do men measure that of women then? Divide it by a quarter? Well, exception abounds in men. Some can be true and others may just be 100% fake. So mathematical deduction may be wrong after all.

Ikamefa,
I was wondering how many ladies mind you have made love to. This is certainly revealing! A researcher can't just go out with a theory without first hand experience.

Since you postulated the THE HUNTER HYPOTHESIS, with such a deep conviction, you must be more than fit for the job.

Debosky,
Are you Taiwo or Kenny? I don't know you get twin brother. Ejire Orila Oba Omoge O so ile Alakisa d'ile alasho!!

Don't worry, I don't flow with those gabbages as psychotics, drama queen, gold digger etc that you mentioned. You would soon be receiving call from them. Just don't play them like football. They won't bounce and if they bounce they won't let you score cheap goal.

Ladies, are the ones being hunted, so that initially the feelings may not be there, but gradually it grows. And usually when the feeling from the lady gets stronger, it gets to some point where consciously or unconsciously the guy gets to perceive this & he relaxes. The lady takes over at this point.

Now, at that point it may seem the guy is not interested, but its a two way thing, i may say, it may actually be that the guy has lost interest & intends going a fishing again or he has has it in his mind that he already own's u, & believes its all clear to u. His changes then would be that he's trying to make ends meet. At this point if u are very sensitive as a lady u'll be able to tell, if this changes means he's actually tired or he wants more.

Women actually feel neglected at this point when it seems the guys has changed (if its for a good motive) because we crave for attention & re-assurance every now & then._{not all ladies though} It's ur duty at this point to do his initial duties (although not all).


Some ladies also, do get tired as well when the spark is no more there, for those kind of ladies its either they just realized they can't move on, or they were there for the fun of it, pardon me to say that some ladies too hunt for pleasure

Great input. Thanks Jk.

olanajim:

Great input. Thanks Jk.

Thanks Bro.

@ JK
Your piece is just unbiased I like it, it's the truth.

@poster

May be when chasing, guys spend a lot of energy, and after the chase he does not have enough strength to all that he used to have when chasing.

so, give in on time so that he can still have enough energy to love you

I think Men are natural 'hunters'. _{ONLY THAT THE GAME VARIES, FROM 'BABE', 'MONEY', 'POWER', 'VIDEO GAME', 'JOB OPPORTUNITY', ETC.}

Men's nature are built to _{COMPETE, FIGHT, CONQUER, DOMINATE, RULE AND CONTROL.} ^{DON'T ASK ME WHY?} _{ASK GOD WHO CREATED US!}

EVERY MAN INSTINCTIVELY OR NOT, IS ALWAYS LOOKING FOR SOMETHING OR SOMEBODY TO 'PROVIDE CHALLENGES'. _{ANYTHING TO ENGAGE OUR 'GAME CONSCIOUS' MINDS!}

It is not even so much about 'dominance', it's about challenges. <sub>WE ARE ALWAYS LOOKING FOR 'CHALLENGES'!

And men love to conquer.</sub>

The natural instinct of a man make him love to conquer._{MEN LOVE CHALLENGES.}

Men are also direct and bold in their conquering styles. _{UNLIKE WOMEN WHO ARE COY BY NATURE, WHO PRETEND THEY ARE NOT THERE, MEANWHILE THEY ARE VERY MUCH INTERESTED.}

And when the object of his conquest is a 'fair lady' _{BINGO! FEW 'THINGS' ARE ACTUALLY MORE CHALLENGING AND STIMULATING!} ^{YOU WILL SEE HIS CONQUERING INSTINCTS AT HIS BEST!}

Deny him that and you are just wasting your time . . ._{BY INCREASING HIS CURIOSITY AND CONQUERING INSTINCTS!}

Say 'No' to him and you inadvertedly increase his conquering libido! _{THAT IS WHY 'TILL THINE KINGDOM COME' MEN WILL ALWAYS CONQUER WOMEN!}

Unfortunately, most ladies are not as interesting to be with as they appear to men from a distance. _{MAKING THE MAN 'BORED' AND LOOKING FOR MORE CHALLENGES IN WHATEVER GUISE.} ^{ANYTHING TO KEEP HIS 'GAMELY MIND' OCCUPIED AND INTERSTING.}

THE JOB WOMEN HAVE TO DO _{EVEN IF THEY REFUSE TO ACCEPT THIS REALITY} IS TO FIND WAYS, SEVERAL WAYS, TO KEEP OUR 'HIGHLY GAMELY MINDS' CHALLENGED. _{OR YOU STAND TO LOSE YOUR MAN TO OTHER INTERESTS NAMELY; MONEY, JOB, FRIENDS OR EVEN 'OTHER WOMEN'.}

CONQUER YOUR MAN'S MIND <sub>AND HE WILL STAY WITH YOU LIKE A 'LAPPING DOG'.


(I DESERVED TO BE PAID FOR THIS SECRET )</sub>

Who told you that is a secret? Even a primary school boy know it.

olanajim:

Netotse,
how do men measure that of women then? Divide it by a quarter? Well, exception abounds in men. Some can be true and others may just be 100% fake. So mathematical deduction may be wrong after all.

Ikamefa,
I was wondering how many ladies mind you have made love to. This is certainly revealing! A researcher can't just go out with a theory without first hand experience.

Since you postulated the THE HUNTER HYPOTHESIS, with such a deep conviction, you must be more than fit for the job.

Debosky,
Are you Taiwo or Kenny? I don't know you get twin brother. Ejire Orila Oba Omoge O so ile Alakisa d'ile alasho!!

Don't worry, I don't flow with those gabbages as psychotics, drama queen, gold digger etc that you mentioned. You would soon be receiving call from them. Just don't play them like football. They won't bounce and if they bounce they won't let you score cheap goal.

naaaaaaaaah! dont get it twisted do i look like a man or sound like a man! my supposed theory has been tested so many times c o s i've got brovas,cousins,friends and i see what they do and how they go about thier runs!

omo chillaxe and cool down for Jesus!

ikamefa:

naaaaaaaaah! don't get it twisted d[b]o i look like a man or sound like a man[/b]! my supposed theory has been tested so many times c o s i've got brovas,cousins,friends and i see what they do and how they go about their runs!

omo chillaxe and cool down for Jesus!

show us the onion/apple booty and the question shall be answered! as D'banj talk, No long Tin!

debosky:

show us the onion/apple booty and the question shall be answered! as[b] D'banj talk, No long Tin![/b]

" " true dat jare no long thing! check out my profile

na you get those apple bottoms?

I want to see the original Ika booty, no more no less ^{hmm, well maybe more!}

debosky:

na you get those apple bottoms?

I want to see the original Ika booty, no more no less ^{hmm, well maybe more!}

e no big reach? you can't fit to see the original ika6 booty you go just faint

na Ika6 get those apples?

Because deep inside they are gay, the chasing tactic was just to shy away attention from their true sexuality, LOLOLOLOLOL

davidylan:

na Ika6 get those apples?

debosky:

na you get those apple bottoms?

see them " " @olanajim see my theory is right! most guys are visualy inclined see now! my visual aid is working just fine he! he!



i don answer una! the thing no big reach? " "