i av a boyfriend,we av been dating for 2 years.am not sure if he is going to settle down with me, because we are of a different religion and he emphasizes i should leave mind.and  he is so down with his family even at my expense.am not sure if he rlly luvs me.i dont want to waste my resources for a man that cares only about his family(they actually come first in his agenda before me).i dont want to continue wasting my time.

Wat do u expect, he shud abadon his family coz of u. Where they not the ones who took care of him b4 he meet u. Girl take it easy wit him, he still cares abut u. dont write hem off like dat.

i didn't say he should abandon his family.how would you feel if u get married to an industrous woman and all she does is take the money to her family.

You will need to adjust to his taste , if you really love the guy, i don't think that is an excuse for you to break up with him .Ithink love endure all things

u just been with him 2 years
his folks has been there for him since forever.
Maybe without them, there won't be no him.
talk to him, tell him how u feel.

u gottta understand that Family is blood and no water!

Hindsight is a beautiful thing. The issue of family as well as religion will crop up in the future as it has now. It is even worse once you both have kids and the kids get pulled in two different directions. You have a very good insight into how your future with him will turn out given his family influence that you are seeing now. Marry within your religion if you can. Will save you a lot of future pain and regret.

@poster.try 2 talk senses in2 his head.i blivd he knew wot it takes to handle a matrimonial home&may be he is only tryin 2 fufil his obligatns to his parents b4 he get married but i knew he cant b so harsh(stingy)to u.kip talkin 2 him,he 'll av reasons 4 that,wit time he wil change.

This is the kind of man that will be controlled by his family, if they dont like you, they will kick you out. I have seen it happen to many a time.

LOL he is a great guy
Just talk to him and tell him that u deserve more time and how u exactly feel.
a guy who care about his family, and respect his mother will also respect his
partner.

lol @ this mad witch. were you expecting him to disown his family for your sake?
imagine you have the effrontery to reprove a man who is only your "boyfriend" for loving his own family.

mad witch lololol i can't laugh enof, don't mind all these girls? He should leave his family for you? Come to think of it, u r just his gf, when you do become his wife, i am sure u r the type that will never want to see your husband's family in your house.Pleas don't marry him and save him that future headache!