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Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by horny4u(f): 12:13am On Mar 09, 2012 |
@OP How sad ! The Almighty will help you heal. You may need therapy, EfT but don't be scared to seek emotional help. @Thread There are lots of rapist on this thread, hopefully you have mothers, sisters and daughters, mutherfukers @ real men , e.g Okija n co I named okija cos i didnot expect him to stand up for the Op God bless and protect the women in your lives. |
Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by dayokanu(m): 12:19am On Mar 09, 2012 |
Mollytee: OP, let his family and circle of friends know what he did 29yrs ago |
Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by horny4u(f): 1:02am On Mar 09, 2012 |
dayokanu: Its not even about his friends and families. Its about the fact that he getting away with it means he is still on the prowl and i doubt you are the only one he has done this to. Put him out there and shame him from touching another girl because if you hear news that he r.aped another girl 2moro I am not sure you will be able to live with yourself. Be very careful to keep your whereabouts secret but you need to expose this man and keep him from hurting someone else, |
Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by ronkebp(f): 1:18am On Mar 09, 2012 |
I really don't believe in revenge sometimes, but i won't lie, revenge is sweet in a case like this. @ Poster, what do you want to do now, do you want justice or what Because if you do, just organize guys that will trail him, get nice hookers about 10, look for a field and let them r/a/p/e him too on the bare floor without condom. then it is ''checkmate''. Ok, let me change my thought line and don't be evil. Poster, let it go!!!!!!!!!!! you have lived your life with successes on every side, i know how traumatic that period was for you and also having to come across his name on facebook and other things just brought the whole pain, loneliness, anger, frustration back. Do not let it eat at you again. Do you think he will or has not suffered for what he has done, he won't go unpunnished, he will surely suffer for it, but do not let him win the battle again, by you bringing up topic again. PLease let it go, forgive him and forget, the past is gone, and gone forever. Give yourself peace!!!!! God has a way of repaying him, He will surely give him double for the trouble he has caused you. |
Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by Nobody: 1:51am On Mar 09, 2012 |
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Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by cold(m): 1:52am On Mar 09, 2012 |
R ape is a very serious crime.Even an accusation of attempted r ape is enough to get a man a lonnnggg time in the cooler.Assuming your story is true.I seriously want to believe you're telling the truth,although like some folks on here I have noticed some inconsistencies in your story which a well seasoned lawyer would take your case to shreds.I would want to put it down to forgetting some of the things that transpired at the time.29 years is a pretty long time. However,if you intend to pursue this case in the courts,then you have an Everest mountain to climb.It is an arduous task prosecuting violation cases that happened only a month ago let alone 29 years ago! Whereas the law might appear to provide protection to the victim of r ape,(Laws of the Federation of Nigeria:Section 357 Cap 77) the key word to focus on is “consent”, as it is the victim’s duty to prove that she did not consent to the r ape. This is a main difference from the way in which r ape is addressed under the law in other countries in which the individual accused of violation can claim the defense of consent, but then bears the burden of proving that the victim consented. Remember the comments of the Abia state Police Commissioner during the brutal video r ape saga?- Ms. X, the woman in the video in question, seemed to him to have consented to the intimate intercourse or else she was being ‘punished’ for some real or imagined slight to one of the men. Most significantly he revealed that the police are aware that young women are being r aped and videoed as a means of punishment and social control. It is not unreasonable to deduce from his words that they also condone it. So my dear like I said,you have a mount Everest to climb.You might want to pursue vengeance by other means.If you need a hit man. . .well let me leave it at that before dem go say I don come again |
Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by osasp(m): 4:14am On Mar 09, 2012 |
yh just like someone said, just drop a phone number, i can only imagine how distraught and helpless you must've felt during your ordeal. people like that should be castrated. i have a neice and cant even begin the describe the fear and anger that wells up inside me when i imagine her being in such a situation. some people dont deserve life! please drop a name lets make his life hell. |
Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by TCD: 8:07am On Mar 09, 2012 |
Just a thought, a girl you had consensual intimate intercourse with or no intercourse at all 29years ago all of a sudden comes up and starts accusing you of violation. Your are disgraced in the view of your whole family, friends and colleagues. Random people from the internet get your phone nobr, call and accuse you of being a dog. You are attacked , stoned and your legs hacked off for what you didn't do. Your life is over with this allegation, you can't prove you didn't do this, neither can your accuser prove her claim. Nonetheless you are ruined. An innocent man destroyed because of the allegations of a scorned ex-lover. Nairalanders, the man might very well be innocent. That is why the law is there. A random girl cannot just come with a glorious tale and accuse a man of Desecrating her and we all assume he is guilty, get his name and number splashed allover the internet, involve his friends and family then issue death threats to him. For every man out there, remember it could be you facing these unfounded and unproven allegations. For the ladies , It could be someone accusing your father , your brother. Would you like to be harassed, condemned and treated this way? Everyone is assumed innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. That's the way it should be. |
Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by inene: 8:57am On Mar 09, 2012 |
I AM REALLY SAD AT THIS TALE AND PRAY THE ALMIGHTY TO HEAL YOU COMPLETELY WITHOUT A SCAR. VENGEANCE IS MINE SAYS THE LORD AND IF YOU BELIEVE IN GOD I WILL ASK YOU TO LEAVE THIS MATTER TO HIM. HE ALONE CAN DEAL WITH THIS MATTER IN A MATTER THAT WILL SATISFY YOU. THERE WILL BE NO BENEFIT IN NAMING AND SHAMING THE GUY. MANY WILL URGE YOU TO TAKE THE ROUTE BUT THEN ASK YOURSELF- WHAT WILL THIS BENEFIT YOU, WILL IT BRING THE HEALING THAT YOU NEED. THINK AGAIN MY SISTER AND GOD BLESS. |
Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by Sholaf(f): 1:23pm On Mar 09, 2012 |
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Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by Emilo(m): 1:36pm On Mar 09, 2012 |
My stand on this issue In Nigeria, why is it difficult to find a girl that was de-spoiled just for the fun of it, or from her curiosity or from her willfulness. Why must it always be from violation or disapproval, or from cajole and all that bull shi.t (some of you ladies are just liars). I dont really know maybe u ladies think once u say the truth, people would stone you to death, pls this is the new testament era, not the old testament. Tell the truth and the truth shall set u freeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee, Back to this case So if it actually happened 29 years ago, and u are still alive, probably married or not, probably infected or not, what would u achieve by all this, send him to prison, or just the feeling that u got back at him Lady drop this shi.t and live ur life. At the end of it all, na termites go still chop the kpekus!!!!! (sorry but that's how i feel). |
Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by seyibrown(f): 4:57pm On Mar 09, 2012 |
Rapists and 'chancers' do not realise how much damage they do when they have their two minutes of fun! Many victims don't heal because there is no closure. I have a friend who was violated at 9 yrs by her step-dad. She was still crying when she recounted her ordeal at 63 years of age! She had spent the previous 45 years of her life caring for youngsters who would have been left homeless or prone to intimate abuse at home. She was a happy and strong person but that hurt and pain just never healed. Punishment for the offender or genuine repentance helps in healing the victim. Healing is very slow for victims in a society where they get blamed and mocked for their violation! Rapists take strength in their victims silence! Victims need to speak out for their own sake and the protection of potential victims! 1 Like |
Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by MyVicky: 8:03pm On Mar 09, 2012 |
29 years is a very long period of time. I don't need to sympathize with you anymore because, as someone rightly noted, you are triumphant already! I personally feel you should just let him be and face his judgment here on earth or hereafter except he repents and does necessary restitution to you. On your part, thumbs up to you for reaching out to him and I feel you should even find a place in your heart to forgive him and move on victoriously with your life. There are several complications with the idea of publishing his name and contacts and even if you eventually succeed in nailing the asinine guy, of what good will it be to you, that won't reverse the evil done and two wrongs don't make a right. Instead, strive to be the great woman you wanna be! |
Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by Luvlee(f): 7:52am On Mar 10, 2012 |
Honestly it's so sad to read this. Mothers and fathers pls educate ur children so they can mke d right choices and be in d right place @ d tight time. Guys stop making hateful comments, it jst mkes u as bad as d rapist. |
Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by queensmith: 11:50am On Mar 10, 2012 |
it happened 29 years ago and is still fresh in your mind, this is very sad indeed. Try to recover from it, some say it's a life long process, it is rap.e in that it takes soo many things from you, not just your virginity, your pride, your self esteem, your confidence, your dignity. Hopefully the culprit will respond and apologize, and even confess his sins given a chance, but if he doesnt I agree you do what you feel is right by you. You've been wronged, it's only fair you resolve it. |
Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by WHAT3: 3:24pm On Mar 10, 2012 |
Please accept my sympathy and i pray GOD should help you over come this 29years of emotional trauma. Since, we know how corrupt our legal system is and frustrating, we should learn to go spiritual: fasting and praying, no festish. Since you have his name and picture, present it to GOD in prayer and lay CURSE on him! You can do this as from Midnight, standing naked in your room, lay his picture on the ground, knee down, and cry to GOD with all sincerity and lay CURSES on his life ONLY! |
Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by IHNetworks: 3:50pm On Mar 10, 2012 |
The OP was 18 years old in 1983. So she's pushing 50 now. Not to sound insensitive but shouldn't other happier experiences like getting married, having kids and career have overshadowed this unfortunate deed ? I think she should try to look ahead at what life has in store for her, rather than reminisce on the scumbag. Life's too short. |
Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by queensmith: 3:59pm On Mar 10, 2012 |
^^ have you been raped before? |
Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by ridgeman: 7:58pm On Mar 10, 2012 |
29 years is a long time to be walking around as a rapist, if he raped 1 woman per year then that would/could be 29 women's lives destroyed. that is the bigger injustice He could have had your sister, daughter, niece, cousin, etc etc Truth is he is not alone there are many 'men' who feel it is their right to take what is not theirs, |
Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by Realperson: 11:01am On Mar 11, 2012 |
Dear Poster, I read your letter with keen interest. I will like to share my own story as well. I have a bad past... I have molested girls in my student days. We did it for fun and for 'rep' . We never knew the damage we were causing to these girls lives or infact there was no consequences as other people have stated. the girls just kept quiet. Now that I’m older and live in abroad, I now know that the actions i took were barbaric and i alongside other guys should have been banged up. i know it is not an acceptable defence but we did not know what we were doing: we thought if girls said NO they really meant Yes. On my own part, it is impossible to apologise to every girl i molested but i have sought forgiveness from God and now I’m guilt free. Now when i visit Nigeria, i talk to young boys on how to grow into respectable men. We made mistakes but they don’t have to follow the same path. When i look back at the things i did as a young boy: stealing parent's money, drink-driving, trying to get girls drunk so we can get into their pants etc i realise God is indeed merciful. On your ordeal, what you need is closure. Either by approaching him to let him know the hurt he caused 29yrs ago. You may be surprised that he may even be a Pastor of a church now!. But my advice is that your closure should come from walking closer to God. To our sisters that have been molested by young men (Paedophiles not included), i apologise on our behalf, we did not know the consequences of our actions. Young men need to be educated on these issues |
Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by Nobody: 1:10pm On Mar 11, 2012 |
Real person: Dear Poster, Of course you knew what the consequences were even back then Sir! You simply did not give a rat's a#rse because your mob operated as untouchables within a system that allowed - and still allows - impunity to reign. So you turned to the G.O.D, feel all the better for it, and now counsel your victims (as well as OP) to do the same? That's it? Listen, I am all for rehabilitation but what about f#cuking recompense? What about real atonement, which can be measured in deed – community work with victims or some form of restitution - as opposed to this false piety that serves a crutch for many a born-again Christian. Your had a choice then Sir - just as I did when I faced down 5 drunkards who were determined to molest my cousin's girlfriend with his full consent more than two decades ago. Asking @OP to suspend a reality she has lived with for 29 years simply because her tormentor, like yourself, might have morphed into a pastor is reprehensible, I tell you. Despite your contrition, you were a coward then and appear to have remained so even with the passage of time 1 Like |
Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by queensmith: 3:11pm On Mar 12, 2012 |
Real person: Dear Poster, You had a lucky escape- dont ruin it by writing foolish letters, becoming an apologist or seeing yourself as some sort of mentor. You we're and probably still are sick in the head. Sit and think about that. It's not too late for your daughters and sons to suffer worst fates so I'll advise you to be very careful. |
Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by chioma134: 9:13am On Mar 14, 2012 |
@poster,I understand ur pain. It's hard for u to have closure cos u know this person. I've been raped b4,but in my case,it was a total stranger who I don't know till today. And God has given me d closure I need. Take ur pains to God. Pray for him,in love. Let God avenge you,don't try to help Him. It's not cowardice to forgive,rather it takes more courage than u can ever think possible. And may God's peace keep ur heart n mind. Shalom. |
Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by Nobody: 10:40pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
I reserve my comments. |
Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by Nobody: 7:45am On Mar 23, 2015 |
@real person,u knew wat u were doing then and just didn't care cuz u felt u couldn't be touch...if u have kids then God will surely repay u,wah happened to me 11years ago will happened to them.Your female kids will be held down and rape in public |
Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by oladimeji0078(m): 8:31am On Oct 27, 2015 |
You try, why did you wait this long |
Re: Letter Written To My Rapist 29 Years After by thomasjoe(m): 2:36am On Oct 24, 2023 |
Mollytee: Why didn't you report him then ? Let go and let God take control |
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