Kudos to rokiatu for that topic of about a day ago ''How was your first year of marriage?''
such a wonderful topic.

I have heard ladies saying they cant have a joint account with husbands or letting them know how much they have in their accounts....WRONG!

Money should be one of first issues to be dealt with.
Your partner should know about your financial status.with this, joint account will not be an issue.
There is bound to be problem when ur wife knows not about your financial status and your projects, cos she is bound to ask for ''luxury'', but when u keep complaining and not fully responding (not because u dont wanna, but because of ur projects and.....), then there will be problem leading to problems.

i like this post. Very well said.

Anoda area is discussing past relationships that can pose as a problem later in life.

Many prefer not to share which later leads to many issues.

Tgirl4real: i like this post. Very well said.

Anoda area is discussing past relationships that can pose as a problem later in life.

Many prefer not to share which later leads to many issues.

For real...can everything abt the past be discussed?
Some are very dirty!

Gat ur point though, wisdom should be applied though!

Thinking about a recent thread here, I'd say any health-related issue should be discussed before marriage too. If one member has any long term condition, the other one should know, even if it is something that can be controlled through medication (asthma, diabetis etc.).

Expectation about husband/wife should be discussed too. Many men don't mind their gf dressing sexy for girls night out but will never let them do that once they are married. The same way gf will not mind her bf going to club every friday and saturday but will refuse it to him once he turns husband. It's better to be honest with what we expect.

Miss_Ife: Thinking about a recent thread here, I'd say any health-related issue should be discussed before marriage too. If one member has any long term condition, the other one should know, even if it is something that can be controlled through medication (asthma, diabetis etc.).

Expectation about husband/wife should be discussed too. Many men don't mind their gf dressing sexy for girls night out but will never let them do that once they are married. The same way gf will not mind her bf going to club every friday and saturday but will refuse it to him once he turns husband. It's better to be honest with what we expect.

Seconded!!!!!

ayobase:

For real...can everything abt the past be discussed?
Some are very dirty!

Gat ur point though, wisdom should be applied though!

Yea, its d main issues dat are important. Am sure u know what I mean.

Miss_Ife: Thinking about a recent thread here, I'd say any health-related issue should be discussed before marriage too. If one member has any long term condition, the other one should know, even if it is something that can be controlled through medication (asthma, diabetis etc.).

Expectation about husband/wife should be discussed too. Many men don't mind their gf dressing sexy for girls night out but will never let them do that once they are married. The same way gf will not mind her bf going to club every friday and saturday but will refuse it to him once he turns husband. It's better to be honest with what we expect.

True dat. Especially men that pretend to see no flaws till they marry the lady.

ayobase:

For real...can everything abt the past be discussed?
Some are very dirty!

Gat ur point though, wisdom should be applied though!

I agree with you on this o. but not necessarily because the details may be dirty.

my thots on this is, only the important points should be discussed. what are either of the spouses going to do with all that info? it should only be brought up if it has any bearing on who the person has become now, or if a child was produced from any of those relationships, etc. you know, anything that has the potential of affecting the marriage. if not, i really don't wanna know ALL the details because it wont change my feelings for my spouse.

but like you said, apply wisdom.
I remember this movie 'due date' where a man's wife was having a baby and the man suddenly had creepy feelings that the baby was for her former boyfriend who was also the husbands good friend. sometimes i wonder, if they had kept the past relationship away from the husband, would he have had to be bothering his head with all that? especially if the both knew the past relationship was dead and buried.

Tgirl4real:

Yea, its d main issues dat are important. Am sure u know what I mean.

Sure!

ti-ebe:


I agree with you on this o. but not necessarily because the details may be dirty.

my thots on this is, only the important points should be discussed. what are either of the spouses going to do with all that info? it should only be brought up if it has any bearing on who the person has become now, or if a child was produced from any of those relationships, etc. you know, anything that has the potential of affecting the marriage. if not, i really don't wanna know ALL the details because it wont change my feelings for my spouse.

but like you said, apply wisdom.
I remember this movie 'due date' where a man's wife was having a baby and the man suddenly had creepy feelings that the baby was for her former boyfriend who was also the husbands good friend. sometimes i wonder, if they had kept the past relationship away from the husband, would he have had to be bothering his head with all that? especially if the both knew the past relationship was dead and buried.

Due date...such a nice movie. His fat buddy called his attention to the behaviour of his friends!

Gat ur point....is all abt application of wisdom!

Miss_Ife: Thinking about a recent thread here, I'd say any health-related issue should be discussed before marriage too. If one member has any long term condition, the other one should know, even if it is something that can be controlled through medication (asthma, diabetis etc.).

Expectation about husband/wife should be discussed too. Many men don't mind their gf dressing sexy for girls night out but will never let them do that once they are married. The same way gf will not mind her bf going to club every friday and saturday but will refuse it to him once he turns husband. It's better to be honest with what we expect.

Sooo on point!

Especially for guys...be ready to c some parts of ur wife changing.
Orange-like breats becoming slippers-like, the flat tommies protruding, stretch marks on d smooth skin.
Just be ready...cos ur wife's beauty will surely depreciate as time goes by!
Guys be ready to love ur wife no matter what, especially after birth giving!

ayobase: Especially for guys...be ready to c some parts of ur wife changing.
Orange-like breats becoming slippers-like, the flat tommies protruding, stretch marks on d smooth skin.
Just be ready...cos ur wife's beauty will surely depreciate as time goes by!
Guys be ready to love ur wife no matter what, especially after birth giving!

lol 2 'birth giving' why ddnt you simply say giving birth? oh well, i'm sure guys can manage with all the changes in the woman's body if women can also get used to pot belly replacing those 6 packs, bald hair, grey hairs in the ears and nose, 'middle age spread', the drastic change from firm well built chest to sloppy drained looking chest, flabby arms replacing those formerly lovely biceps, love handles. . .

ti-ebe:


lol 2 'birth giving' why ddnt you simply say giving birth? oh well, i'm sure guys can manage with all the changes in the woman's body if women can also get used to pot belly replacing those 6 packs, bald hair, grey hairs in the ears and nose, 'middle age spread', the drastic change from firm well built chest to sloppy drained looking chest, flabby arms replacing those formerly lovely biceps, love handles. . .

common,we are not always that terrible!
Common!

Actually most men are that bad. However depreciation occurs faster in women than in men If beauty was the primary reason for marrying your wife be prepared for a shock.

dlima: Actually most men are that bad. However depreciation occurs faster in women than in men If beauty was the primary reason for marrying your wife be prepared for a shock.

so on point swthrt!
Warning...those that married cos of beauty!