Hello ,my friend is married and just found out she was pregnant.Most people who are married find this to be a joyful moment,but not for my friend's husband.The thing is my friend told me that her husband told her to get an abortion soon because ,he is not yet ready to have a kid. My friend is completely against it ,but is afraid that he will neglect the baby when it's born. What should she do to convince her husband ,that abortion is not an option?

lovelydoll: . What should she do to convince her husband ,that abortion is not an option?

Have the baby

Have you asked you friend what the initial agreement between them both was?
Maybe they had both agreed to no kids for a certain length of time after marriage and she decided to play her own tricks..
Anyway, she should do whatever she can to dissuade him from insisting. It would be harder if she decided to get pregnant without his consent though..

slimyem: Have you asked you friend what the initial agreement between them both was?
Maybe they had both agreed to no kids for a certain length of time after marriage and she decided to play her own tricks..
Anyway, she should do whatever she can to dissuade him from insisting. It would be harder if she decided to get pregnant without his consent though..

Strangely they are a strong christian couple.This has come as a shock to me

Chinwem:

Have the baby

i agree

Lovelydoll,is this ur "friend" u?. Jusk asking anyway.
And d story get as e bi for my eye.
Maybe u will ask this ur "friend" to tell u the truth.we can start from there.
A married man rejecting his first pregnancy,in naija(abi r they westerners)?
Osanubua!

lovelydoll:


Strangely they are a strong christian couple.This has come as a shock to me

You don't have the full gist of the matter.

Unless their situation is very dire or unless the woman deliberately and deviously went against an agreement they had before the man deserves a solid knock on the head for that nonsense. Even if they are dirt poor and can't afford to feed themselves, he can't just dictate to her to get an abortion, it's a decision they have to come to together.

If she deliberately poked holes in the condom, then he's just acting out his justifiable anger at this point. Hopefully for her, he will eventually calm down, if not she's on her own with that one.

If it was an honest mistake that she got pregnant, then he needs to suck it up and prepare to be a daddy.

If they had no plans to keep from getting pregnant and he didn't take any precautions, then I hope she has smacked him down as decisively as possible. Nonsense.

Why is he not ready yet.

The guy might be making sense depending on his reason

slimyem: You don't have the full gist of the matter.

your right i need to ask her more questions ,but abortion is not an option

yellowpawpaw: Lovelydoll,is this ur "friend" u?. Jusk asking anyway.
And d story get as e bi for my eye.
Maybe u will ask this ur "friend" to tell u the truth.we can start from there.
A married man rejecting his first pregnancy,in naija(abi r they westerners)?
Osanubua!

yessss they are western ,thw wife is nigerian and the husband is african american.

dayokanu: Why is he not ready yet.

The guy might be making sense depending on his reason

financial probably.

but the bottom line is if your having sex ,its possible to have a child.

ileobatojo: Unless their situation is very dire or unless the woman deliberately and deviously went against an agreement they had before the man deserves a solid knock on the head for that nonsense. Even if they are dirt poor and can't afford to feed themselves, he can't just dictate to her to get an abortion, it's a decision they have to come to together.

If she deliberately poked holes in the condom, then he's just acting out his justifiable anger at this point. Hopefully for her, he will eventually calm down, if not she's on her own with that one.

If it was an honest mistake that she got pregnant, then he needs to suck it up and prepare to be a daddy.

If they had no plans to keep from getting pregnant and he didn't take any precautions, then I hope she has smacked him down as decisively as possible. Nonsense.

i always love your post

lovelydoll:

yessss they are western ,thw wife is nigerian and the husband is african american.

One chance things.

Some cultures prefer to enjoy their marriage first before popping babies which is unlike most Africans where the week after the wedding people are already checking the brides tummy. E.g The Obamas got married in 1992 had their first child 6yrs later

Whats the womans profession and whats the guys profession?Do you have an idea of their income. American men are naturally scared of Child support issues in many cases

I suspect they both would have agreed to put a hold on having babies for some time.

lovelydoll:

financial probably.

but the bottom line is if your having sex ,its possible to have a child.

If they are married and both agreed they wont have kids, the wife told the husband she has gone on contraceptive

Then they can have sex without the risk of having kids, but if the woman says she is on contraceptive and she isnt thats deception

Are they truly married, if yes, then, tell your friend to have the baby, such controversial babies usually turn out right and well, and moreso, if God want to justify and suprise her, the baby will look exactly like the man, and if such happens, its the man that will aplogise to the woman and take up his responsibility towards the baby, as well as the mother.
Abortion is not an option, especially at this stage of their marriage. I pray to God to bless them and enable them financially and in every way they want Him to.
Peace.

lovelydoll:

yessss they are western ,thw wife is nigerian and the husband is african american.

does he have other kids elsewhere?

His not ready ? Why get married in the first place ?

Have the kid. He may change his mind.

lovelydoll: Hello ,my friend is married and just found out she was pregnant.Most people who are married find this to be a joyful moment,but not for my friend's husband.The thing is my friend told me that her husband told her to get an abortion soon because ,he is not yet ready to have a kid. My friend is completely against it ,but is afraid that he will neglect the baby when it's born. What should she do to convince her husband ,that abortion is not an option?

she shud not even dare!
such babies always have a purpose.
Please I beg you, tell her not to touch that pregnancy!

this is one of the circumstances that leads to single motherhood, and some people are here crucifying single mothers, not knowing what led to it. Such an irresponsible husband! smh

Hmm, is she close to his mother? The mother may encourage the husband to drop this attitude (especially if she's a staunch Christian).