ebose09: good morning to you all i actual started this trend in-other to get diverse advice on what to actual do..............
and i want young girls out there to learn from my own story,

i met a guy after some time we became close friends after been friends for almost a year we became lovers i spent must of my time in his place cos he has an apartment in festac.most of his business are overseen by me whenever he is not in town.
To my surprise he is married with 3kids and his family stays in ojo,from my investigation i got to find out that the excuse he always give his wife is that the traffic on the road does not allow in come home regularly and i did not know he goes home on weekends cos am not always around on weekends i go visit my family.when i live on friday,he also lives and before i get back on monday he is back.
To cut the long story short i was advised by some of my friends not to quite the relationship that i should enjoy it will it last since i will soon be graduating from school.but we started having issues constantly because i look for every opportunity to start away from him i now stay more in my hostel then in his apartment,i started cheating on him must time he finds out after much argument we settle again.
i found out that have come to love him so i was looking forward to my service which will enable me to stay away from him and
maybe latter forget about him and to enable me get into another relationship.After collecting my call up letter i was posted to abuja so i went headed to inform him that it over between us,all his effort to make me see reason while i should be his wife was falling on deaf ears.i went head and pack my things out of his apartment and moved down to camp.
only for me to discover that i was pregnant in camp for him,after informing him he asked me to go for an abortion since i said it over between us that he has move ahead even he gave his new girlfriend my number to call for me to no that he has moved ahead.all effort to terminate the pregnancy was invain so i decied to keep the baby after much fruitless effort to terminate.
we were able to talk things over and he told me that he wish i can abort it cos he did want me to feel tied to him so i can be free from him but since i cant abort we keep it.i begged him that i dont want my family to no am pregant so i will go to his village put to bed there then come back home to my family that i will cook up a story on how i came across a baby we both agreed on a plan.
only for him to say he cant go on with the plan when i was 7month gone,he insisted on informing my family which he went head and do,to his great surprise my family insisted that i cant marry a married man.

The problem now is he left the upkeep of the child to me alone insisting that if i want him to take responsibility i should move in with him,i know it is a way to get back at me ....................................
WHAT DO I DO......................cos am jobless and it not easy taking care of my girl alone, my family that insisted that i cant marry him, they are not helping with the child's upkeep,

Richvkunt: OP,
When you play with fire,you are bound to get burned.When you found out this man was married you should have quit the relationship immediately.
I know lots of married men cheat on their wives but it takes two to tango,what do we say about single girls who discover they are dating married men and still continue with the relationship because of greed and to maintain a certain lifestyle.
While i do not pretend to have the answers to your problem I feel you still have to sit down with this guy and try to solve the problem on ground-The Baby.
I think your family has a role to play in this even if you can not marry the guy in question.
I would advise you in the mean time to start looking for a job so you can take care of your child.

Johndoe100: Which kine story be dis? You think this is nollywood time? If I was to go into your story, i would end up abusing you. You oversea abi oversee his business,when he is not around abi and you are a student? You found out about madam but madam does not know about you. He does not go home because of traffic, but madam does not know where her hubby puts his head. They live in the same Lagos that we live abi. I am actually trying to figure out what would happen if I told my wife that I was not coming home at all because of traffic. Anyway the rescue team has responded, you and them can carry on.

Johndoe100: @richvkunt
I am surprised that you bother with this fantasy.

afrobaby: Is this aye obirin part 1 or what? dis story dont add up at all, and I cant give advise on sometin I dont even believe is real. Even if na film, does it mean u left ur state of deployment to go stay in his village for 7months without ur parents knowing, lol

ebose09: Thanks to every body who had commented on ds issue 1 way or the other.
Let me make some thing clear here am not looking for sympathesires or pity I enjoy those that came out straight to tell me what I did was wrong.
Ok. To the issue of his wife I found out late and it was not my fault that the woman preffer to biz to her hubby(not looking for excuse here)
To those of you who claim to no fst and okoko well,u will no that at a point on that road the traffic was that bad that they even rob in the traffic.coming in the morning is hell and going home in d even is worse so I don't blame the wife for believing him but I blame her for not checking on him,maybe if she had done dat all ds won't ve happen.
Ok to the case of you saying I found out about madam and she didn't find out about me did u stop to ask how I found out.a frnd of my dos gen so I intro him to [size=18pt]my hubby[/size] when is company lister got spoilt he was satisfied with his job so I think madam's shop gen got spoit so oga contacted the guy to repair the gen tell him not to tell me abt it but my frnd see how loyal I was to him had no choice but to tell me.
On the issue of me leaving my place of deploymnt to his village with my parent knowing myb dear it possible I was posted to abuja will my parent coming looking for me am I a baby and I communicate with them on phone so they ve no reason to suspect any fowl play my for those of u dat ve served b4 u no there is nothing impossible so as long as am ready to share my allawee no prblm my clearance goes on.
What other question do any body want to ask.yes I need the comment the good,d bad and the ugly.cos before I can come out to post my dirty linean outside it has gotten beyond me,am running in sane.so I need d comment.

Thank you all once again