davidylan:

na the respect wey i get for you make me lef am.

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It appears that many people live in the past with regards to Nigeria and they just want to believe what they want so they can say things about Nigeria/Nigerians.

Infidelity does not necessarily equate polygamy. Infidelity is worldwide and not unique to Nigeria, neither is it unique to men.

Somebody said Nigerian laws wont work in polygamy cases as if she has ever taken such a case to court. The silliness of just try to drag Nigeria down is fascinating

@ Britgirlee, I do understand the post; in my last post i had used the first paragraph to debunk claims and views aired here that the level of Education or Intelligence is correlated to having the 2nd wife. I also stated the reason why Men (Not Just Nigerian Men) have a 2nd wife varies-therefore cannot be narrowed down to Culture and is Not Modern day Infidelity as 2nd wife is different from having a Mistress. Modern day Men rather practice Infidelity than take the 2nd wife option- the benefit of this option is a different debate. The Key Element here is Choice, freewill.

As posted by Justgood "Infidelity does not necessarily equate polygamy. Infidelity is worldwide and not unique to Nigeria, neither is it unique to men".

It obvious that you have a fascination for Nmen; that is quite understandable as we rank @ the Top amongst the black men.

Polygamy and infidelity is not necessarily the same thing. If a spouse takes on another wife/husband with the knowledge and permission of the wife/husband than it isn't exactly infidelity, infidelity points more towards unfaithfulness to a marriage/relationship. Thats hard to do if its within the confines of the relationship as the two understand it. Its a tricky definition.

Men and women from all over the world cheat on their spouses, however in some societies not only is it a social norm, but an encouraged act. That is the difference.

There are societies where there is no stigma attached to a man having more than one wife, or a woman having more than one husband. Its something that should be discussed before getting married.

Btayo1
twice or thrice you have been told to read the topic before posting your view by myself and another.
As much as you are free to post your view please use some thought process before posting.
Its getting tedious

Also it does not make you any what respected by getting personal with my self or any other it actually is embarrassing

I correct my last quote,

APOLOGY BTayo1 meant for an other poster two screnes opened up here

But i dont have a facination for men why should I?? Just enjoy posting controversal topics

londoner:

Polygamy and infidelity is not necessarily the same thing. If a spouse takes on another wife/husband with the knowledge and permission of the wife/husband than it isn't exactly infidelity, infidelity points more towards unfaithfulness to a marriage/relationship.

In order for the husband to take on another wife, it has to begin with infidelity. I'm sure the husband will not initially let the wife know that he is out dating other women.

most men did it in the old days when they were predominantly farmers for of practical reasons, loads of male and female children to work in the farms as there were to tractors and stuffs and it sort of crept into mainstream african culture and in the 50s,60s,70s, it was either ppl looking for male children who let it get out of hand or as a kind of cementing friendship,political or business interests and nowadays people do it more for status symbol as in i have arrived or to tighten friendships or connections but there are some irresponsible ones that do it cause they are, most of the women in the city that agree to it have a choice in most cases so i dont see it as being just the man's fault and some do it because they r prolly in their thirties or fourties and have lost hope of getting a single man and settled for that and some do it purely for the money, you ll be suprised how many mostly girls in their twenties in nigerian universities all jump at it and are prepared to go diabolical for a man to marry them even as a 10th wife as long as he is loaded

Nigerian men are pigs

never happen. for it to be a second wife means i would be willing to stay. he already had his second chance and if he wants someone else then why would i want to be with someone who doesnt want to be with me? im worth more then that

what i dont get is,why not be honest with the woman or man about being married.

why not be honest and let her decide if thats the kind of relationship she or he wants

actually i think the bigamy law applies only to christians as the nigerian constitution while deeply flawed recognises the fact that there were muslims in the forced union and i think the penal code was a mixture of all the different laws around then so most likely if you are a muslim your wife cant sue for taking another wife.

though i once had a friend whose father claimed to have converted to islam just to take another wife

I would like to ask a question maybe someone can help me