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We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by Nobody: 3:51pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
There is dis extremely beautiful girl I met on bbm thru a friend about 2 months ago but schools quite some distance away from where I stay. We got chatting n kinda close and eventually met her in person like 2 weeks ago as I went to her school and we chatted till lyk 2am in d morning outside her hostel. I asker her out during my visit by the way She confesses to liking me but not yet being in love with me. She pings me regularly n @ tyms calls. We chat till like 12 - 1 am everynight and I really really like her. Although we are not yet going out officially, it z obvious she likes me a lot. However, due to our frequent chats n calls (yest we spoke for an hour despite chatting earlier in d day), @ times, we have lulls in our conversation n it can be very awkward, especially wiv me being d guy. Truth z dat we know almost everything bout each oda already. I need advice on exciting topics we can discuss. I also don't know if her refusal to commit to a relationship should be a warning sign because it is very obvious she digs me. |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by olsmade(m): 5:34pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
Well u cud ask how her day went and branch off from there. Make sure she's d one doing most of d talking. @ least, dat way, u r sure u r not boring her to death. |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by IbroSaunks(m): 5:41pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
You should give each other a little space then... 4 Likes |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by Nobody: 5:58pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
let her concentrate on her studies 3 Likes |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by Nobody: 7:19pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
toba: let her concentrate on her studies^^ issorai - 4 now, I'm her studies o IbroSaunks: You should give each other a little space then...^^ huh? If I hear. Space ke, so u go fit claim am abi? NL, abegyi tym to call don dey near o, I need serious yanz na. 3 Likes |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by Nobody: 8:07pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
Never fail to ask what she did during the day, or what she's doing at the moment. Ask what she ate, what she drank! can be a little too interrogative, but you can take a cue from there. Just be friendly and not demanding when asking. Extend the discussion to other related topics. For instance, if she ate meat, ask if she's thought about being a veg. You guys can then talk about the advantages/disadvantages of being a veg. There's a lot to talk about there! |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by 190: 8:21pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
what color of pant is she wearing my #1 question i ask each of em 3 Likes |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by pendo89(f): 8:22pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
annoymous: Truth z dat we know almost everything bout each oda already. Guy are you serious? Can one run out of topics? I think you guys hve talked about your lives a lot.You have exhausted everything about family,growing up,hobbies,school and the present. Now you are stuck! This is where the challenge is.Testing each other's intellect on real life issues. You go a step higher and start bringing in the world to spice up your talk. See,Life is more than the two of you.We live in a political,environmental socio-economic world. We watch events happen around us everyday. We come across stuff as we go about our day to day errands. You want to tell me that you cannot find a topic out of those I highlighted? Wow I always complain about not having enough time to chat, not topics because I always have something cooking in my mind. A million things infact cz my senses are alert 24/7. You know what I think? I think it also depends on ur life and what you do.Do you keep up with events local and international? do you read magazines,blogs,journals stuff,watch tv? Out of all those it's very easy to pick out subject and dissect it for hours or days. If one is not exposed to events happening around them,they will find nothing to talk about except what they ate for lunch and dinner day in day out. And the relationship becomes a bore. 17 Likes |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by pendo89(f): 8:24pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
sauer: [b]For instance, if she ate meat, ask if she's thought about being a veg.You guys can then talk about the advantages/disadvantages of being a veg. There's a lot to talk about there! Vegetales?? Ok ok,not bad but gosh that won't work for me no way cz I will leave you talking to yourself |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by MrsChima(f): 8:27pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
Find things that are of interest for the pair of you. When you are incompatible it will show in the conversations. It is also good to incorporate other people in the conversation. Not personal conversations, but general conversations because then you will learn more things about your partners. I have learned a lot about Mr. Chima interacting with his friends, coworkers, and family. 1 Like |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by pendo89(f): 8:38pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
Mrs.Chima: You know there's nothin as bad as dating somebody and having nothing to talk about. You exhausted the intros at the first date! At times,I see people out on dates and all they do is stare at each other and keep busy with drinks. They look bored and the girl starts fidgeting. My tip is, for instance if you are in a restuarant,pick a topic out of what you see.Say the waiter,the service,the menu,the music. If you are in the park,talk about the city,the people,the environment If in the library choose an interesting book or discuss a love poem. On the highway,cars,traffic,craze. In short the sorroundings hold the conversation.Learn to unlock and everything just flows.There's no rule or program if you are at ease with each other.It automatically pops up. Gd luck. |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by Flashaldrin(m): 8:39pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
pendo89:all those ones are not for the average nigerian couple. So narrow minded. You'd be awed at the kinda things they discuss. |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by Killz3(m): 8:41pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
If you run out of things to talk about, SLEEP! 5 Likes |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by pendo89(f): 8:42pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
Flashaldrin:eg? If you run out of things to talk about, SLEEP! And have sex? Sex in the early stages of a relationship dulls ones mind esp for smbody who has nothing to talk about. |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by MrsChima(f): 8:55pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
pendo89: I have seen people throw their whole life in first conversation which leave them nothing to lament over the next few days. When Chima and I first started talking....we talked about trivial things but then again....we also talked about our dates with other people. I don't believe throwing all my ducks in one basket if I am not in a serious relationship. We would compare notes of our previous date and laugh about it. Of course, we didn't go into personal details but it would be something like Such and such had on this hideous shirt or the date went on and on about some boss at work. We eventually decided to become serious and the rest is history. My advice is to be friends first and let it flow naturally. 1 Like |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by Nobody: 9:04pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
pendo89:of course, it could work. the talk would certainly branch out according to each person's likes or dislikes. Having no idea about vegetarianism or being in opposition to it could as well be a nice topic to discuss. Perhaps we need to talk someday, so you'll discover how interesting such talk can be |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by pendo89(f): 9:05pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
Mrs.Chima: well said |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by Nobody: 9:07pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
Mrs.Chima:good point, really. Sensible discussions will leave private matters till the end. If both had an impressive knowledge of the world and things around them, they would have an inexhaustible repertoire to choose from. somehow, this could even encourage easy bonding while ensuring guards are not persistently kept up. 1 Like |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by Nobody: 9:09pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
pendo89:now, that's disastrous! |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by pendo89(f): 9:13pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
^^ in the library sauer: You know there are several ways to reach that very topic on veges without taking on a vegie character. You now remind me of my favorite cartoon series, the vegie tales and their sailor song. Talking of sailor,have you ever sailed anywhere or are you a boatman afraid of deep seas?? Ok first,have you ever been out in the sea,river or stream? which one? If so am ready to hear of the adventure as soon as am back from fixing us a mug of coffee. BRB. There you go! I have kicked it off.If you answer you are in trouble cz now you won't rest. |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by toby2(m): 9:18pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
pendo89:sup mama, how'r you doing really been its long time hearing from you. |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by pendo89(f): 9:20pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
to+by: Would you be kind enough to just introduce yourself? All these usernames I cant tell who is who really. |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by mamalola19: 9:23pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
to+by: lols at sup mama. who is your mama? pendo? please i have had enough lol today. |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by Nobody: 9:24pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
pendo89: ^^ in the libraryoh, well, I've been out on the sea. Not many times, though. I've been so close I could touch the water as we moved, and quite far I could only admire its deceptive serenity. Streams? I must have had a bath down in one while younger. Oh yes, I spent some time in the countryside Though am a bad swimmer, I don't think am afraid of the waters. and you? don't tell me you a sailor! Plus who watches Veggietales and is not a vegetarian!? |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by Flashaldrin(m): 9:27pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
pendo89:babe i love your swag you dey do me yori yori babe you fine die guy when you go take me out naa guy send me credit naa |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by Flashaldrin(m): 9:30pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
Mrs.Chima:seriously thats my style, i make friends first, to develop a good understanding and helps eliminate the awkward moments. But most naija girls are too impatient and quickly write you off as boring |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by pendo89(f): 9:39pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
sauer: Well me! I watch them yet I can eat a roasted bull alone.Do you really think that people sing about how they live? I believe the characters behind those cartoons are meat lovers. Yeah on tv they talk vegie but at home they eat meat burgers in darkness Back to sailing. How did you guess right?? .Yeah,I sail cz am a fisherwoman.I catch small fish called omena.You know those lil tiny silverish things with shiny eyes? Mmhh .That is what takes me out into the ocean everyday. So which sea was this you sailed? The black sea? cz we got many black seas in Africa. The environmentalists can confirm that. Now tell me, how cld you risk sailing if you can't swim? Anybody contemplating going out into the sea must at least learn hw to swim.You never know and its good to increase ur chances of survival you know.I cant even cross the ferry if I do not know how to swim! I just have this phobia. Ok I guess that's enough practicals for the op 1 Like |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by pendo89(f): 9:40pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
Flashaldrin: |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by Nobody: 9:59pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
Pendo89, sauer, ms chima, flashaldrin, @all - thx for d info. U've made my day (night). Hmm, I ges I av to start working on mysef some more cos I'm kind of a geek (book, book - chasing exam after exam) but not particularly geeky wiv women tho - I still get along nicely. Some of the things up here are a lil too daring tho - 'll start wiv d seemingly more innocuous ones. Much love. More suggestion welcome btw. |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by Nobody: 10:20pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
pendo89: fisherwoman? wow! now, that's cool. Never heard of omena. but it sure sounds tasty with the way you describe it. I'm no veggie myself, anywyz, though I think I'd love to be one. It just such an honourable undertaking. i sailed on local rivers, inner waterways, if you will. I've sailed in airplanes above larger waters, though :p did you just mention environmentalists? are you one? that's another lofty undertaking that tickles my mind. Now, I really don't think it so scary being a bad swimmer and parading the waters. I take necessary precaution. Life jackets and such things. I can't stop myself traveling on water. I simply cant! |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by cowgurl: 10:39pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
Me Op, u both can talk about ME, am inexhaustible. And 4 er refusal 2 commit, I tink she's gat fears considerin d fact u both stay apart, so reach out to her n quench dos fears. |
Re: We Have Run Out Of Things To Talk About by pendo89(f): 10:40pm On Apr 22, 2012 |
sauer: Arghh my weakness.I can talk hours on end and I got to prepare my fishing nets for tomorrow. Nway Omena is the name given to the tiny fish by a famous fishing tribe in my country.Their economic activity is fishing.It's alocal dialect so I do not know what they are called in english or swahili.(my national language) Tasty? never tasted.They look like small little shiny swords ready to wound.Not very mouth friendly to me. Well well am an environmentalist in my own small way.Never won an award though cz my environment is my little sorrounding.I however love anything that touches on nature.I even have a blog on nature photos. Oh did I tell u I love photography?? ah! that's a topic for another day. Now now Mr.Sailor,I will tell u why its important to learn how to swim. In my country some years back, we had a major ferry tragedy.Hundreds of people lost their lives in the shark infested waters! The few who made it knew how to swim.Even though its not easy during that moment of panic cz a drowning person can take u down with him. Life jackets are good yeah, until you see a shark swimming in ur direction!! you will curse the jacket. Finally are you in any way related to one Tom sawyer? Your name reminds me of the character.And guess what? he was a sailor!! Jeez am even scared of my own self and talk.I surrender now. |
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