toba: let her concentrate on her studies

IbroSaunks: You should give each other a little space then...

annoymous: Truth z dat we know almost everything bout each oda already.
I need advice on exciting topics we can discuss.
I also don't know if her refusal to commit to a relationship should be a warning sign because it is very obvious she digs me.

sauer: [b]For instance, if she ate meat, ask if she's thought about being a veg.You guys can then talk about the advantages/disadvantages of being a veg. There's a lot to talk about there!

Mrs.Chima:
Find things that are of interest for the pair of you.

When you are incompatible it will show in the conversations.

It is also good to incorporate other people in the conversation. Not personal conversations, but general conversations because then you will learn more things about your partners.

I learned a lot about Mr. Chima by how he interacts with his friends, coworkers, and family.

pendo89:

Guy are you serious? Can one run out of topics? I think you guys hve talked about your lives a lot.You have exhausted everything about family,growing up,hobbies,school and the present.
Now you are stuck!

This is where the challenge is.Testing each other's intellect on real life issues. You go a step higher and start bringing in the world to spice up your talk.
See,Life is more than the two of you.We live in a political,environmental socio-economic world.
We watch events happen around us everyday. We come across stuff as we go about our day to day errands.
You want to tell me that you cannot find a topic out of those I highlighted? Wow I always complain about not having enough time to chat, not topics because I always have something cooking in my mind. A million things infact cz my senses are alert 24/7.
You know what I think? I think it also depends on ur life and what you do.Do you keep up with events local and international? do you read magazines,blogs,journals stuff,watch tv?
Out of all those it's very easy to pick out subject and dissect it for hours or days.
If one is not exposed to events happening around them,they will find nothing to talk about except what they ate for lunch and dinner day in day out.
And the relationship becomes a bore.

Flashaldrin:
You'd be awed at the kinda things they discuss.

pendo89:

You know there's nothin as bad as dating somebody and having nothing to talk about. You exhausted the intros at the first date!
At times,I see people out on dates and all they do is stare at each other and keep busy with drinks. They look bored and the girl starts fidgeting.
My tip is, for instance
if you are in a restuarant,pick a topic out of what you see.Say the waiter,the service,the menu,the music.
If you are in the park,talk about the city,the people,the environment
If in the library choose an interesting book or discuss a love poem.
On the highway,cars,traffic,craze.

In short the sorroundings hold the conversation.Learn to unlock and everything just flows.There's no rule or program if you are at ease with each other.It automatically pops up.
Gd luck.

pendo89:



Vegetales?? Ok ok,not bad but gosh that won't work for me no way cz I will leave you talking to yourself

Mrs.Chima:


My advice is to be friends first and let it flow naturally.

Mrs.Chima:


I have seen people throw their whole life in first conversation which leave them nothing to lament over the next few days. When Chima and I first started talking....we talked about trivial things but then again....we also talked about our dates with other people. I don't believe throwing all my ducks in one basket if I am not in a serious relationship.

We would compare notes of our previous date and laugh about it. Of course, we didn't go into personal details but it would be something like Such and such had on this hideous shirt or the date went on and on about some boss at work. We eventually decided to become serious and the rest is history.

My advice is to be friends first and let it flow naturally.

pendo89:

If in the library choose an interesting book or discuss a love poem.

sauer:
of course, it could work. the talk would certainly branch out according to each person's likes or dislikes. Having no idea about vegetarianism or being in opposition to it could as well be a nice topic to discuss.
Perhaps we need to talk someday, so you'll discover how interesting such talk can be

pendo89:

well said

to+by:
sup mama, how'r you doing really been its long time hearing from you.

to+by:
sup mama, how'r you doing really been its long time hearing from you.

pendo89: ^^ in the library


You know there are several ways to reach that very topic on veges without taking on a vegie character.
You now remind me of my favorite cartoon series, the vegie tales and their sailor song.
Talking of sailor,have you ever sailed anywhere or are you a boatman afraid of deep seas?? Ok first,have you ever been out in the sea,river or stream? which
There you go! I have kicked it off.If you answer you are in trouble cz now you won't rest.

pendo89:
eg?

Mrs.Chima:


My advice is to be friends first and let it flow naturally.

sauer:
oh, well, I've been out on the sea. Not many times, though. I've been so close I could touch the water as we moved, and quite far I could only admire its deceptive serenity. Streams? I must have had a bath down in one while younger. Oh yes, I spent some time in the countryside Though am a bad swimmer, I don't think am afraid of the waters.
and you? don't tell me you a sailor! Plus who watches Veggietales and is not a vegetarian!?

Flashaldrin:
babe i love your swag
you dey do me yori yori
babe you fine die
guy when you go take me out naa
guy send me credit naa

pendo89:

Well me! I watch them yet I can eat a roasted bull alone.Do you really think that people sing about how they live?
I believe the characters behind those cartoons are meat lovers. Yeah on tv they talk vegie but at home they eat meat burgers in darkness
Back to sailing. How did you guess right?? .Yeah,I sail cz am a fisherwoman.I catch small fish called omena.You know those lil tiny silverish things with shiny eyes? Mmhh .That is what takes me out into the ocean everyday.
So which sea was this you sailed? The black sea? cz we got many black seas in Africa. The environmentalists can confirm that.
Now tell me, how cld you risk sailing if you can't swim? Anybody contemplating going out into the sea must at least learn hw to swim.You never know and its good to increase ur chances of survival you know.I cant even cross the ferry if I do not know how to swim! I just have this phobia.

Ok I guess that's enough practicals for the op

sauer:

fisherwoman? wow! now, that's cool. Never heard of omena. but it sure sounds tasty with the way you describe it. I'm no veggie myself, anywyz, though I think I'd love to be one. It just such an honourable undertaking.
i sailed on local rivers, inner waterways, if you will. I've sailed in airplanes above larger waters, though :p
did you just mention environmentalists? are you one? that's another lofty undertaking that tickles my mind.
Now, I really don't think it so scary being a bad swimmer and parading the waters. I take necessary precaution. Life jackets and such things. I can't stop myself traveling on water. I simply cant!