ijebabe: Why don't you ask her and find out? If you can't be in a relationship with no sex then let her go and find someone else

frankgreat: we av agreed already dat no sex, buh d romance tin? dnt fink dats normal in any relationshp..ow cn u b in a relationshp nd u wont av ur romantic time?

MRbrownJAY: @OP
you will just become a shadow of your own self by accepting such deal as no sex before marriage when you OBVIOUSLY need the coochie like flies need shiit......so pls be real and find the words to let her know exactly how you feel.
also let her know that there is nothing wrong with waiting until marriage, SO LONG AS SHE USES HER HANDS FEET MOUTH BREASTS AND [b]A[/b]SS to try to "ease your pain".
remember to always ask her to pray before AND after she blesses you with her sweet touch.

MRbrownJAY: @OP
you will just become a shadow of your own self by accepting such deal as no sex before marriage when you OBVIOUSLY need the coochie like flies need shiit......so pls be real and find the words to let her know exactly how you feel.
also let her know that there is nothing wrong with waiting until marriage, SO LONG AS SHE USES HER HANDS FEET MOUTH BREASTS AND A[/b]SS to try to "ease your pain".
[b]remember to always ask her to pray before AND after she blesses you with her sweet touch.

Killz.:

Why should a lady be coerced into sex? Using her hands and mouth is also sex. Let him leave her alone if he cant wait.

La Parisienne:
Tu est vraiment drôle

Tu vas bien, non?

MRbrownJAY:

bro it is not about coercing someone, it is all about being real and caring for your s[b]e[/b]xually frustrated partner. r7ship are 50/50 not just about ONE person's wishes against the others.

Killz.:

Yeah but it's clear she doesn't want the sex. If relationship is 50/50 why should his own wish be forced on her? By constantly reminding her how sexually frustrated he is, trying to make her change her mind. . . Why?

MRbrownJAY:

bro the guy wants s[b]e[/b]x while she doesnt, so 50/50 is NOT HAVING S[b]E[/b]X but yet helping each other out. pretending that his needs are unimportant, while hers are, is wrong.

MRbrownJAY: ^^ bro, there are many things gals can do that is NOT considered s[b]e[/b]x...... its all down to each and everyone's view of what being virgin is.......many will gladly use their mouth and call themselves virgin in a minute, other will even use their back door entrance and call themselves virgin...so the guy should discover what she is willing to do to "help" her man in this difficult times. lol!

MRbrownJAY: ^^his answer should simply be:" babe, there are many ways for us to come to an understanding and be together. i surely wouldnt want to take your virginity before marriage, BUT, as much as i am willing to compromise MY stand on premarital s[b]e[/b]x (for the good of our r/ship), you should also compromise and reach out to me. it's all about dedication and standing by the man you say you supposedly love,while sticking to your beliefs. YES, i can stay off s[b]e[/b]x until marriage, but i cant do it alone, i NEED YOUR HELP."

frankgreat: my gf jst brokeup wiv me yestaday....am a guy of 25, am an IT professional, am wrkin wiv a gud IT firm, we av bin datin for less dan a yr nw..b4 we started dating she knew i ws an open guy, i luv sex nd romancing in relationshp..buh she tld me no sex if i really wanted her, so i agreed. lata in d relationshp, sumtys i ask 4 sex buh she turns me dwn nd i remember d prms i made nd i apologized...we av bin lik dis for less dan a yr( 5 mnths) i luved her so much nd i cared abt her lik av neva done wiv anyoda lady...buh all of a sudden her behavior changed? she tld me she dnt want to continue wiv anything romance in our relationshp nd i ws lik WOW!!! dats nt possible, we argued abt it, still avnt concluded yet b4 she sent me a txt...."baby am so sowie am doin dis, am nt treating u d way u r suppose to b treated, u deserve everytin a woman cn giv, buh am sowie i cnt do dat...its killing ma spiritual lyf, nd i want God in my life, i op u find a place in your hrt to forgive me lata in future, i still luv u so much....pls nairalanders, wah do u fink went wrng? ws i wrng or is dere sumtin else?

frankgreat: my gf jst brokeup wiv me yestaday....am a guy of 25, am an IT professional, am wrkin wiv a gud IT firm, we av bin datin for less dan a yr nw..b4 we started dating she knew i ws an open guy, i luv sex nd romancing in relationshp..buh she tld me no sex if i really wanted her, so i agreed. lata in d relationshp, sumtys i ask 4 sex buh she turns me dwn nd i remember d prms i made nd i apologized...we av bin lik dis for less dan a yr( 5 mnths) i luved her so much nd i cared abt her lik av neva done wiv anyoda lady...buh all of a sudden her behavior changed? she tld me she dnt want to continue wiv anything romance in our relationshp nd i ws lik WOW!!! dats nt possible, we argued abt it, still avnt concluded yet b4 she sent me a txt...."baby am so sowie am doin dis, am nt treating u d way u r suppose to b treated, u deserve everytin a woman cn giv, buh am sowie i cnt do dat...its killing ma spiritual lyf, nd i want God in my life, i op u find a place in your hrt to forgive me lata in future, i still luv u so much....pls nairalanders, wah do u fink went wrng? ws i wrng or is dere sumtin else?

Onegai:

Dude, it's not about the sex. She's not that into you. Seriously, take it from me and ask any girl, heck look at yourself, when you don't like a girl, you can treat her anyhow and your behavior towards her will change. I know people who are celibate in their relationship, even when the guy asks for sex, the lady says no, BUT she does not break up with them. It's hard, but she doesn't love you, she merely likes you. You've agreed to no sex, and it's almost impossible for both parties not to try and push their boundaries. She's using God to break up with you.

frankgreat: my gf jst brokeup wiv me yestaday....am a guy of 25, am an IT professional, am wrkin wiv a gud IT firm, we av bin datin for less dan a yr nw..b4 we started dating she knew i ws an open guy, i luv sex nd romancing in relationshp..buh she tld me no sex if i really wanted her, so i agreed. lata in d relationshp, sumtys i ask 4 sex buh she turns me dwn nd i remember d prms i made nd i apologized...we av bin lik dis for less dan a yr( 5 mnths) i luved her so much nd i cared abt her lik av neva done wiv anyoda lady...buh all of a sudden her behavior changed? she tld me she dnt want to continue wiv anything romance in our relationshp nd i ws lik WOW!!! dats nt possible, we argued abt it, still avnt concluded yet b4 she sent me a txt...."baby am so sowie am doin dis, am nt treating u d way u r suppose to b treated, u deserve everytin a woman cn giv, buh am sowie i cnt do dat...its killing ma spiritual lyf, nd i want God in my life, i op u find a place in your hrt to forgive me lata in future, i still luv u so much....pls nairalanders, wah do u fink went wrng? ws i wrng or is dere sumtin else?

cowgurl: It's frigin obvious Frankgreat, u wanted sex n she didn't so the relationship cam 2 an end leaving u both in hurt. But I must commend u both dou, u 4 respectin er feelings n her 4 stickin 2 wat she wants n I do op lessons v bin learnt from al this.

frankgreat: is dere any relationshp dat u knw dat dey dnt av romantic time....av agreed wiv her dat no sex, buh wat is d diff btw me nd her male frnds if no romance?

Killz.:
She is not your Juliet. . . Go and find your Juliet!

Killz.:

Now, why on earth would you ask someone to compromise her stand on premarital sex, to make you happy? Sounds selfish. She has told him she CAN'T continue because she CANNOT compromise. . . How hard is it to move on?

MRbrownJAY:

where in her reply did you read that she was not willing to compromise?! many (like yourself) see things only in black and white, and therefore could only compromise when the issue is brought up to you (and make you wonder with IFs/MAYBEs) ......... again, life is about 2people and therefore it would be SELFISH for one to expect their partner to compromise for THEM, but not do any compromise themselves. if you think it is selfish for a man to try to find a middle ground for compromise, then i guess you equally think the same of this lady who expect this man to compromise for HER with a no premarital s[b]e[/b]x rule. lol!

whats good for the goose is good for the gander bro!!!!!

also, asking her to compromise for you, will show you what kind of person she is....... like a window into the future of how self centered she could be. if she refuses to do ANYTHING to help you in this difficult time, then it says a lot about her as a future mate and, that is when she should be quickly dumped, not before!

MRbrownJAY: ^ot really man......before you end it, you first have to make sure that there is no way around the issue. if there is no possible way of solving the problem then YES move along.......but if you guys are fond of one another then you should at least try

MRbrownJAY:
ouais ca va et toi? je viens juste de repondre à une de tes questions au sujet de ton mec et son devoir envers toi, mdr!!!!