Most times some girls are usually forced by circumstances to marry not cos of love but because of one thing, one thing. it may be due to either family pressure, financial or material gain, out of desperation, business connection or as a result of poverty. some end up marrying a guy they dont love nor have feelings for. at a point, some of them (girls) may later develop love for their spouse, while others still wont feel anything for the guy despite his show of love and affection and even after having kids. there are those who atimes wish for their husband (whom they dont love) to just disappear or go away, so that they can go back to either their first love or hook up with someone else. And not a few couples are in a loveless marriage or marriage of convenience like some would prefer to call it. They just pretend to be a loving couple, while the opposite is the case in the real sense of it. And this kind 'love' or marriage is very common nowadays among ladies, as many of them now hook up with a guy cos of what they stand to gain from him, and not cos of love. and by the time, the marriage is later faced with some challenges, such girls are the first to take a hike and fly straight into the arms of another rich and comfortable dude. some dont even bother to dissolve their marriage properly before moving on. that's why you see some about to wed couples engaging the services of mobile police men or soldiers to secure and wade off any 'trouble maker' on the day of their wedding. it's only them that knows the reason why they take such measures. and the kind love wey some people dey practice these days, na one kind love, i must confess. Like the case of Shalewa and Dejo (not real names). Dejo wasn't her choice at all, but due to some serious financial need and cos of the poverty in her family, she had no other choice than to marry Dejo, a rich guy she didn't love at all. Dejo knew she didn't feel anything for him, but was hopeful that with time, she'd come to love him. and there was nothing he didn't do for her. she was pampered and treated like a queen. Had two cars to herself plus a driver and maids to attend to her in their big house. And her family also benefited immensely from her marriage. their status was changed for good. as Dejo took them from the low level they were to an higher and commfortable level. While on her part, Shalewa played the role of a dutiful wife very well and also bore him two lovely daughters. But the love still wasn't there. And before you knew it, she later met and fell inlove with another guy completely. A colleague at her office, who just got transferred from another branch. And that was the beginning of the crack in their 'arrangee' marriage. You dont force love, it comes naturally. that's just it. If you dont love someone, then dont marry him or her. though you may fall inlove with the person later in the course of the relationship or marriage. but it's a risky step to take. Cos if there's still no love between the two of you (that is if the love is not mutual), you guys are bound to have issues later...