MsDarkSkin: SEXKILLZ and his novels!

MsDarkSkin: SEXKILLZ and his novels!

Mynd_44:
I wonder who he expects to read the epistle he wrote there

Kingsleyinfo: one thing i have noticed is that people tend to sweep things under the carpet so easily, only for them to creep up later.
as far as i am concerned, you still have trust issues to deal with. you simply need to take time off the dating scene and properly evaluate
yourself.
ask yourself what exactly are you afraid off that is stopping you from falling in love
from experience heart breaks tends to make a person very defensive emotionally, which is quite normal.
so to be able to fall in love again you need to face reality and deal with your fear. otherwise every guy would seem the same to you, which is not entirely true.

Godmother: I dnt know what is wrong with me. I find it hard to fall inlove. The last time I loved a guy was 3 years ago. He hurt me badly n I haven't been able to love again.

I have a bf now whom I like and respect but I dnt love him as much as I have tried to. Its like my ability to fall inlove dried up with that guy 3 years ago.

Its making me lonely and scared. Need advice pls people. I'm thinking of letting this guy go cos I dnt think I'm being fair to him.

Mature responses needed pls

Pozzy:
Post like this makes me angry.. cuz i see no reason why u shouldn't leave the past and move on with ur life

Yield:

Easier said than done. The OP obviously has things she needs to deal with. How can a post like hers make you angry?

MsDarkSkin: SEXKILLZ and his novels!

sexkillz: Pls don't blame me. . .

190_@:
Godmother im afraid you can never love again

sexkillz: You cannot change the past, but you can as hell influence the future. In solving your predicament, you have to break up with your current boyfriend, cos believe me, you are never ever going to love him. Why is because he came into your life when you were looking for succour, looking for comfort. At a time when you were desperately trying to forget the former. You were so shrouded in denial or whatever it is, that you really did not have time to study this current guy to see if he is who you really want. And that is why, even after 3 years, you are still in square one! Not your fault, since it's natural for all emotionally heartbroken humans. You may like him and respect him, but love is what you need to finally heal the scars that were caused by your first love, and since this guy is not giving you the love you need, or should i say, the love he gives you is not enough to make you heal and whole again, pls leave him! For with him, you are taking one step forward, and two steps backward, and you and i know how catastrophic that would be to your ministry. . .

When you've done that, you have to completely forget the first guy from 3 years ago. Look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you control your emotions and hence, you'll never allow your emotions control you. Cry if you have to, smash things if you have to, scream to the high heavens if you want, but make sure you let him OUT of your system. Severe all ties if any. Stop asking his whereabouts if you used to, just EX HIM FINALLY!!!

Now the most important part is yourself. Let go of your pride. Let go of that bullshit "miss independent" mentality that permeates the minds of most ladies to day. You have been independent, but now you realize that you actually need someone to depend on, for love! So what does that tell you? Let go of your pride, and not of your values. Meet new guys and see them for who they are. Never ever compare Another man to your ex. Even if you notice some similarities, never come to a conclusion, since it will obviously be biased. You may at this point, reconsider this present guy. Study him again and see if he meets your new requirements. If he doesn't, jog on.

Make sure you rediscover yourself and let go of your hurt before you re open your heart. Less i forget, never tell a new guy about how bad your ex hurt you or blah. That will only make him hide his personality, he'll work with the info you have fed him and will try to be the man your ex never was, so that you now see him as your knight in shiny armour. . . . Don't delay the movement of your ministry to the permanent site.

Let me give you an example. . . If you are too weak to cook and i cook for you, too weak to eat, and i feed you, will you also be too weak to swallow?
You have to make an effort and play your part well. Take yourself back to when your heart was free, rediscover yourself, fall in love, and then live your life!!!

Godmother: I dnt know what is wrong with me. I find it hard to fall inlove. The last time I loved a guy was 3 years ago. He hurt me badly n I haven't been able to love again.

I have a bf now whom I like and respect but I dnt love him as much as I have tried to. Its like my ability to fall inlove dried up with that guy 3 years ago.

Its making me lonely and scared. Need advice pls people. I'm thinking of letting this guy go cos I dnt think I'm being fair to him.

Mature responses needed pls

O.D.B.:


what the hell happened to the old sexkillz? acting like Dr. Phill and sh1t?
NL is getting weirder by the day.

OILOFGLADNESS:

MY DEAR , YOU MUST LOVE AGAIN

DONT LET THE MISTAKE OR THE MISFORTUNE OF THE PASS MARR YOUR JOY OF THE FUTURE
FIRST AND FOREMOST, I LOVE TO ADVISE ALL, THAT ANY RELATIONSHIP THAT YOU JUST EMBARKED ON FOR FUN AND PLEASURE IS A SIN BEFORE GOD
BECAUSE YOU MUST DEFINETLY FORNICATE AND AT THE END IT RESORT TO HEARTBRAKE "GABBAGE IN GABBAGE OUT"
BEFORE YOU EMBARK ON ANY R/SHIP PLS SEE IT WITHIN YOU THAT IT MAY LEAD TO MARRIAGE BY GRACE OF GOD, NEVER EMBARK ON ANY RSHIP COS OF WHAT YOU THINK YOU WILL GAIN,
LOVE IS RECIPROCAL, HAVE A PURE MIND BEFORE YOU TAKE ANY DECISION,
BOYFRIEND/ GIRLFRIEND SYNDROME HAD ACTUALY STOLE FROM MOST PEOPLE THE JOY AND THE REASON WHY GOD CREATED SEX.

IT IS SOLELY FOR HUSBAND AND WIFE THAT IS THE COMMAND OUR CREATOR GAVE TO US ,AND IF YOU DISOBEY SUCH COMMANMD YOU AREON YOUR OWN.

MANY PEOPLE MAY BREACH THAT AND STILL GO FREE OR BE LUCKY, IT JUST MEANS THAT THE GRACE OF GOD UPON INDIVIDUALS DIFFERS.
WHAT ONE PERSON DOES AND GO FREE YOU MAY DO IT AND NEVER SURVIVE.

INSHORT DEAR, LET YOUR PASS GO, HAVE POSITIVE MIND FOR R/SHIP AND MADE UP YOUR MIND TO DO IT THE RIGHT WAY,AND YOU WILL ONLY DO THAT WITH THE HELP OF ONE MAN, JESUS, AND YOU WILLNEVER BE HEARTBROKEN INSTEAD YOU WILL BE HEARTENRICHING
LOL.

ONCE AGAIN YOU WILL LOVE AGAIN AND BE LOVED.

sexkillz: You cannot change the past, but you can as hell influence the future. In solving your predicament, you have to break up with your current boyfriend, cos believe me, you are never ever going to love him. Why is because he came into your life when you were looking for succour, looking for comfort. At a time when you were desperately trying to forget the former. You were so shrouded in denial or whatever it is, that you really did not have time to study this current guy to see if he is who you really want. And that is why, even after 3 years, you are still in square one! Not your fault, since it's natural for all emotionally heartbroken humans. You may like him and respect him, but love is what you need to finally heal the scars that were caused by your first love, and since this guy is not giving you the love you need, or should i say, the love he gives you is not enough to make you heal and whole again, pls leave him! For with him, you are taking one step forward, and two steps backward, and you and i know how catastrophic that would be to your ministry. . .

When you've done that, you have to completely forget the first guy from 3 years ago. Look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you control your emotions and hence, you'll never allow your emotions control you. Cry if you have to, smash things if you have to, scream to the high heavens if you want, but make sure you let him OUT of your system. Severe all ties if any. Stop asking his whereabouts if you used to, just EX HIM FINALLY!!!

Now the most important part is yourself. Let go of your pride. Let go of that bullshit "miss independent" mentality that permeates the minds of most ladies to day. You have been independent, but now you realize that you actually need someone to depend on, for love! So what does that tell you? Let go of your pride, and not of your values. Meet new guys and see them for who they are. Never ever compare Another man to your ex. Even if you notice some similarities, never come to a conclusion, since it will obviously be biased. You may at this point, reconsider this present guy. Study him again and see if he meets your new requirements. If he doesn't, jog on.

Make sure you rediscover yourself and let go of your hurt before you re open your heart. Less i forget, never tell a new guy about how bad your ex hurt you or blah. That will only make him hide his personality, he'll work with the info you have fed him and will try to be the man your ex never was, so that you now see him as your knight in shiny armour. . . . Don't delay the movement of your ministry to the permanent site.

Let me give you an example. . . If you are too weak to cook and i cook for you, too weak to eat, and i feed you, will you also be too weak to swallow?
You have to make an effort and play your part well. Take yourself back to when your heart was free, rediscover yourself, fall in love, and then live your life!!!