aze: Just be patient with your family and let your man come with the cash, or else let the highest bidder with deep pockets come into the picture.

For me better you keep your traditions alive than giving in to a guy without respect to your culture as it pertains to marriage. Haba, your parents knows better. Remember how you do your things, down east. If it means being the 3rd wife to a man that fulfils your parents wishes, better do it.

"Obey your parents that your days maybe prolonged on earth"

jennykadrry: Well you see, I was in your shoes as well. I simply increased the number of men I slept with. I was doing 5 to 6 men but the money was not enough. I had to buck up and service 10 to 14 every night to get the money to marry. My husband Mr. Kadrry is just a mugu so he could not contribute much. You may have to do likewise.

Valiantvaliant: AT *OP . THIS IS MY ADVICE, CONVINCE YOUR PARENTS THAT U ARE PREGNANT FOR THE GUY AND THEY WILL HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO ALLOW THE MARRIAGE

Lexo22: Pls my friend Ngozi from Ngodo Isochi, Abia State needs your advice on this matter..

I am a girl of 28 years old and my people are demanding a lot from my fiancé for [size=14pt]our[/size] traditional marriage. I have tried talking to them but they won’t succumb. The list is endless although it’s our tradition. My fiancé and I whom were supposed to be getting married by August but my fiance is shifting the wedding to next year as he does not have the money to buy those things and I don’t have either to support him as I just finished my NYSC and still looking for a job. Now My fear is that if he doesn’t have the money by next year and I don’t get a job, the marriage will still be shifted. I need your advice on this please on what to do. Thank you in anticipation for your candid advice!

bashr8: thats the best way to keep all this tom dick and harry away from our daughters, no matter how big the list is , igbo women will still be the most sought after accross nigeria , your kins men are not after his money ,he has to prove that he is financially capable to taking care of you in these hard times. besids it is the same kinsmen that will save your marriage or even come to your aid when your broke and help feed you and your family when all hope is lost so better dont go and listen to these non igbos that run their mouth all over the place because divorce and polygamy is all they know. anyway your father can influence what the requirements are but be very careful these things are there for a reason , dont do strong head unless when the time comes when you need the same elders you will be on your own .

bashr8: thats the best way to keep all this tom dick and harry away from our daughters, no matter how big the list is , igbo women will still be the most sought after accross nigeria , your kins men are not after his money ,he has to prove that he is financially capable to taking care of you in these hard times. besids it is the same kinsmen that will save your marriage or even come to your aid when your broke and help feed you and your family when all hope is lost so better dont go and listen to these non igbos that run their mouth all over the place because divorce and polygamy is all they know. anyway your father can influence what the requirements are but be very careful these things are there for a reason , dont do strong head unless when the time comes when you need the same elders you will be on your own .

Ileke-IdI:




So you want to keep Igbo men from Igbo women?

This is what happens when you come skipping into a thread without reading the content.

It seems like a lot of Yoruba men are getting by this tradition sha lol. Maybe the poster should ask Ayodele how he does it.

Omogbhollahorn:
you are a big fool when d husband borrow loan for wedding to fulfil kinsmen need hw he go take pay am after wedding and is that the measure for being able to cater for her needs after marriage * f*ck kinsman doz palmwine tapper where never feed wel go help u when ge happen abi

bashr8: this is not youbaland where you buy gala for a woman and she automatically becomes your wife and then tomorrow you throw her out and get another one, igbo men prepare themselves for marriage psychologically and financially and igbo women make themselves worth it . even if bride price is 20 million nigerians will keep trooping to igboland to marry and abandon their own women thats how we select only the very best of men for our daughters. in her own case she can talk to her father ,he has the authority to decrease the price unless he is one of those dads that dont associate with their kins men

bashr8: those kins men your talking about can feed your generation or have children that can feed you so first of all its not about your money.you sound like one of those retards that want to rewrite what igbo custom should be even when yours is shitty or one of those people that are igbos only by name and know nothing of igbo tradition or language , fist of all she should know what the requirements for her marriage is even before she turn 18 or a woman and not at the dying moment , she should know these things and start to discuss it with her family even before a man comes along,this shows how wasted the youths of today are. if the man is really serious about marrying her but cant afford the list he should talk to his kins men they will send a negociator who will bid it down , some of you need to learn and stop running your mouth all o0ver the place.

Omogbhollahorn:
i c u talking from experience u most be a result of broken home. So diz kinzmen feed you,your mom and siblings wow tel me more

Ileke-IdI:



LOL bashr8 cant wait for his sisters to get married.

Bet the dude has already added Mercedes Benz to his sister's bride lists

Ileke-IdI:


You're being corrected in your misinformation, yet you decide to direct your anger at Yorubaland.

Are Yorubas the one ones on this thread.

You have inferiority complex.

Women shouldn't have to be sold, they ought to marry without these traditional shackles.

Shoit the girl might even have to shift her wedding to next year just because of some hungry community kinsmens wey wan chop lol

bashr8: tell illeki idi your yoruba warrior to stop running her mouth all over the place.

Ileke-IdI:



LOL bashr8 cant wait for his sisters to get married.

Bet the dude has already added Mercedes Benz to his sister's bride lists

Omogbhollahorn:
even him own wedding suit and bride price would be added to that list lol

bashr8: sorry my 2 sisters are married already besides am from anambra , our list is very low but if you better be well packaged if ur coming for our daughter especially if your not from anambra , and if your not igbo dont even boother yourself.

Ileke-IdI:


Indeed.
Even your men can't marry your women lmao.
E get as e be.
Glad I'm Yoruba, I can marry man man on our time. Which village kinsmen wan tell say I no go wed because dem wan chop?

bashr8: its a choice go tru the strainous excercise and live happily ever after or go somewhere else and divorce after 2 years becus of flimsy excuses, good things dont come easy. go ask other nigerians including your brothers, they keep coming for more even if we tell them to buy private jet they will happily do so

Ileke-IdI:


So the bride price guarantees a long lasting marriage?
LOL!

Omo, stop selling your sisters

bashr8: deleted ... let me not be harsh on your women because of you, i know you are just jobless and lonely .

tasandra: @ jenny,this ur write up is extremely disgusting,and un called 4 na wa oo
@ Op maybe,her family think say the guy dey pluck money...make them marry her nw

IRAPADA: 1. One She Goat
2. One bottle of St. Remy
3. Two Carton of Star Beer
4. Two crates of soft drinks
5. One bottle of native gin
6. Two Bottles of wine
7. N10,000.00
Consultation marriage
list for the father
(MBUP)
1. 2 bottles of three in one
whisky
2. 1 carton of Explendido
Brandy
3. 10 litres of native gin
4. 10 cartons of star beer
5. 6 bottles of Gordon Gin
6. 3 cartons of small stout
7. 1 carton of wine
8. 10 Jars of palm wine
9. 3 Heads of Tobacco
10. 3 line stones
11. 3 bunches of cola nuts
12. 1 bottle of grinding sniff
13. 1 roll of Benson and
hedges cigarettes
14. 1 packet of matches
15. cash of N5,000.00 for
breaking of cola
Full Proper Marriage List
for the father
1. 2 pieces of hollandis Wax
2. 1 Chieftaincy shirt
3. 1 hat
4. 1 big towel
5. 1 pair of shoes and socks
6. 1 walking stick
7. 1 wrist watch
8. 1 dozen underwear
9. 1 she goat with N10,000
for cutting goats head
10. Matchet with cover and
beet
11. 15 cartons of star beer
12. 5 cartons of champion
beer
13. 2 cartons of brandy
14. 3 bottles of 3 in one
whisky
15. 1 caron of wine (Don
Morris)
16. 5 crates of minerals (Soft
drinks)
17. 4 crates of Guinness malt
18. 4 heads of Tobacco
19. 1 bottle of grinding snuff
20. 4 line stones
21. 4 bunches of cola nuts
22. 1 smal basin and knife for
the cola nuts
23. 15 Jars of palm win
24. 20 liters of native gin
25. 1 modern brief case with
N150,000
For the mother �
consultation (MBUP)
1. 6 bottles of campari
2. 4 crates of minerals (soft
drinks)
3. 2 crates of Guinness Malts
4. I piece of English wax
5. 1 blouse
6. 1 basin with cover full of
crayfish
7. 1 Head tie
8. 2 bags of salt
9. basin with pepper
For the Mother � Full
marriage (proper
marriage)
1. 2 pieces of Dutch Wax and
one lase
2. 3 assorted blouses
3. head tie (canopy)
4. 2 Paris of shoes
5. one wrist watch + 1 dozen
of brassiers
6. 1 hand bag and 6
underwear
7. 1 big basin full of crayfish
with cover
8. 1 big basin full of pepper
with cover
9. 3 bags of salt
10. 1 umbrella
11. 1 suit �case with N50,000
12. 1 caton of Eva wine
13. 1 big bottle of Yago wine
14. 4 crates of Guinness malt
15. 4 crates of minerals (soft
ddrinks)
16. 1 bag of rice
17. 5 tubers of yams
Nto Ete (family
members)
1. 3 cartons of star beer
2. 1 bottles of St. Remy
3. 3 Jars of palm wine
4. 1 roll of besson and
hedges cigarette
5. 1 packets of matches
6. Nka Ekong of N10,000
Youth
1. Football
2. 1 bottle of gin
3. 1 roll of St. Morris
cigarette
4. 1 packet of matches
5. N2,000
Iban Nda Usung (Women
Vanguard)
1. 1 bottle of wine
2. 1 crates of minerals (soft
drink)
3. N1,500 in cash
Grand Father (Uncle)
1. piece of wax loin cloth
2. 1 long sleaves shirt
3. 1 bottle of brandy
4. 1 wrist watch.
EDem Eka
1. 1 carton of beer
2. 1 bottle of brandy
3. 1 Jar of palm wine
4. 1 piece of English wax
5. 1 long sleaves shirt
6. 1 bag of salt
also to be include 10blackberry for the brothers and sisters

bashr8: sorry my 2 sisters are married already besides am from anambra , our list is very low but if you better be well packaged if ur coming for our daughter especially if your not from anambra , and if your not igbo dont even boother yourself.

dabrake:
chineke!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! akwa ibom marriage? i don die!

bashr8: thats the best way to keep all this tom dick and harry away from our daughters, no matter how big the list is , igbo women will still be the most sought after accross nigeria , your kins men are not after his money ,he has to prove that he is financially capable to taking care of you in these hard times. besids it is the same kinsmen that will save your marriage or even come to your aid when your broke and help feed you and your family when all hope is lost so better dont go and listen to these non igbos that run their mouth all over the place because divorce and polygamy is all they know. anyway your father can influence what the requirements are but be very careful these things are there for a reason , dont do strong head unless when the time comes when you need the same elders you will be on your own .

When do woman from the igbo nation become priced commodity?. asking for price like buying a football player from one club to the other

Lexo22: Pls my friend Ngozi from Ngodo Isochi, Abia State needs your advice on this matter..

I am a girl of 28 years old and my people are demanding a lot from my fiancé for our traditional marriage. I have tried talking to them but they won’t succumb. The list is endless although it’s our tradition. My fiancé and I whom were supposed to be getting married by August but my fiance is shifting the wedding to next year as he does not have the money to buy those things and I don’t have either to support him as I just finished my NYSC and still looking for a job. Now My fear is that if he doesn’t have the money by next year and I don’t get a job, the marriage will still be shifted. I need your advice on this please on what to do. Thank you in anticipation for your candid advice!