Hi Nlanders,I ll like to know if age is a serious matter to consider before going into marital relationship nd comitment.Especially in a case where the lady is older than the guy.Does it have anytin to do wit d peace in d home nd longetivity of d marriage or relationship.If U ve personal experience,pls share it nd I ll be highly encouraged.Thankx.

I dont know if i'll call it a Nigerian or african mentality that men must marry a woman younger than them, but thaz BULLSHIT !!!

I dont give a rat nyash how old u r. If i see to myself that both of us r suitable to live together, omo ti jeun lo ni yen o! No dullin!

Its not a Nigerian or African mentality thing at all. It is a general female thing. Few females want to be with men they are older than because of all sorts of reasons. Women generally want men that can give them security most at times this translates to them looking at the younger guy like a junior brother they should be protect instead.

Another reason is the beauty factor. A woman's looks are bound to change as she matures. A lot of them feel like "How will I be looking old then my husband be looking younger than me". I don't know any woman who would feel comfortable if her husband is complimented more for his looks than she is.

Other reasons abound but most of them are not deal breakers in relationships or marriage if the couple know what they are about. Rule of the thumb marry/date within the age you find comfortable, don't do it for fear because you will live with the outcome of your decision.

Age is not an issue at least with me as long as there is love between us

The poster above me is silly. Pay him no mind

+ or - 5years is not too bad, I can even go as far as 10years older if she has something reasonable to offer, anything more than that is sheer madness.

I am not into dating/marrying my father or grandfather. I like the idea of growing older and together with my husband.

AGE,AIN'T A BARRIER TA ME..I HAVE THIS FEELIN THAT IMA MARRY A LADY OLDER THAN ME..LLS*

REMMEI: AGE,AIN'T A BARRIER TA ME..I HAVE THIS FEELIN THAT IMA MARRY A LADY OLDER THAN ME..LLS*

Aww. Granny accepted your yahoo request huh?

Yeah.. Age cannot be ignored. The man must be older than the woman or the woman would be be referred to as a sugar mummy to the guy

age shdnt b an isue in any relatnshp, 2 me wat counts is ur level of maturity. A 30 yrs old guy can behave like 23 yrs n u wil b bafled. So pick maturity over age

We did a lot of talk stuff on a similar thread: Age Difference Sure Matters in 'Will U Marry Me'

Gal biologically age difference matters a big deal. The ladys are most likely to grow older more faster that the guyz.
The average man is wired to settle for young hornomes...

Mrs.Chima:
I am not into dating/marrying my father or grandfather. I like the idea of growing older and together with my husband.

That's black man's mentality

Mrs.Chima:
I am not into dating/marrying my father or grandfather. I like the idea of growing older and together with my husband.

That's black man's mentality

angiemartinez: age shdnt b an isue in any relatnshp, 2 me wat counts is ur level of maturity. A 30 yrs old guy can behave like 23 yrs n u wil b bafled. So pick maturity over age

Thankx all 4 ur views,more will be welcome

Age has nothing to do with my happiness bro. If we click.... dude am digging her for eternity...

x

go_slow: That's black man's mentality That's black man's mentality

Black men wants to grow older with their partners?

Well, I know 2 friends, one who's older than her hubby, very nice marriage, the older 5 yrs younger than her hubby, horrible marriage. I've dated a guy 9 months younger than me who was still talking about swag and popping Rose, even though he was older than 27 yrs, his mates were getting married (look if you're over 27 and you're still talking abt your swag, you're an agbaya, because boys have swag men have class!), and I've dated one older than me, that was asking for "pls show me your boobs over the internet na" as if I were a kid n he was not in his 30s. Most mature rel was a month younger than me, and gosh, was he smart! Go for maturity, because Stu.pid doesn't have an age limit.

190: to be honest
would a 30 year old dude be happy with himself marrying a 29yr old lady
when there are so many under 24s lying around

hell NO!!

Age is definately a barrier

That's wot u tink but it doesnt apply to all men.som men dnt giv a "f" if ur older dan they r,all that matas is d love n understandin they share.

Age should not be a barrier as long as there is chemistry between both parties. Please by chemistry, I don't mean money or green card

It shouldn't be, as long as they're both adults.

Mynd_44: Age should not be a barrier as long as there is chemistry between both parties. Please by chemistry, I don't mean money or green card

Hmm.

190: to be honest
would a 30 year old dude be happy with himself marrying a 29yr old lady
when there are so many under 24s lying around

hell NO!!

Age is definately a barrier

u equally 4ot dat some ppl luk much younga dan their age

Mrs.Chima:
x

Black men wants to grow older with their partners?

hw does age affect growing old with ur partner.

Talk is cheap. most of us would say it doesnt matter but only few would realy mean what they say.
10yr older than me,NO. say between 2 to 5yrs older yes. but he should be older than me for security from him and respect from me

go_slow: hw does age affect growing old with ur partner.

How the Bleep am gon grow old with somebody that is damn near taking their last breath and in a nursing home?

Negro gon with that bullshit.

The reason why men want younger girls is that they want people they can control. Simple

Mrs.Chima:


How the Bleep am gon grow old with somebody that is damn near taking their last breath and in a nursing home?

Negro gon with that bullshit.

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Thank God for the one you have and stop making this costly assumption that you'll grow old together...
The Thread was particular abf the lady being older.