A Woman Combining Her Maiden With Her Husbands Name

it would still be better to have a woman who combines her maiden name with mine, and who is the definition of Kimba's wife in all respects, rather than,

having someone who bears my name, gives me hell at home, making me to daily interceed for deliverance,

honey when i got i did not even change my name, more over i never used his (WHAT FOR)

u can't just conclude like that, well i realy don't know where you're from, but generally, men from my part of the world (Nigeria- Yoruba precisely), except exceptional guys would understand. because i personally don't see that as an excuse (complexity of changing names, ) when u pay dowry uv paid for all including name.

well really it really depends on him, happy for u, but i still appreciate the fact that from u use my surname(if i were him).u said what 4??.same it's my culture

i think it has a lot to do with your cultural backgrd. and your personal opinion.

Desiree,
so u are even yoruba,
anyway, like i said it depends on the guy
and mind u, u don't have to change your names on your certificates et al.
just d name u use regularly, put nee,  (for example: Mrs Ngozi John (nee James))
that will cater for the records,

u sound like one tough girl, kilode.
u really don't have go do all the tedioous tasks,
maybe u don't even wish to settle down wit a Nigerian (because u aint in Nigeria) talk less of a yoruba.

even if u settle with a Nigerian, he just might not mind your retaining your father's name,

but if he was like me,

HI GUYS,
WATS IN A NAME - ITS JUST A FREAKING IDENTITY.
IF MY WIFEY WANTS TO BEAR HER ANCESTORS NAME FROM HEAVEN/HELL SO BE IT.
IT DOESNT BOTHER ME ONE SHIT.
BUT MY KIDS,
THEY GATCHA BEAR MY NAME FOR AS LONG AS TRHEY REMAIN MY KIDS UNTIL THEY R OF AGE.
IF THEM LIKE THEN MAKE THEM GO BEAR STONE/BUSH/TAYLOR/WWOD/SHIT SEF NA THEM SABI

@toy boy
 

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 sure i would like to  bear my middle name which happens to be my dad's name cause its so cool. but definitely not my surname cause it would just be to long bearing my dad's name,surname and my husband's name.

most women do it her anyway . .some  names when combined are nice
others are awkward
but on the whole i don't think i'll combine my maiden name with my husbands name

i have been carrying that maiden name since birth , its time for a change . i am gettin married so i have to drop it ,

yeh now ,  papa;s own for long . .

       My name is my identity why shld i discard it?, if my hussies surname is Williams
          my name is goina be Mrs E.A  Anni-Williams, lol nice eh

 i think women do this if they have an influential father; esp. if they marry a man that is not well known or out of love for their father. but either way, its alrite so far your children bear his name.

i'd like to take jst my husband's name, but then again, i like my last name,
i'm still thinking about it, still got a long way to go 

Not a big deal for a woman to combine her maiden name with her husband's last name. My mom did so, and I am referring to a couple who got married decades ago.

@Jigoo. Good answer. A woman can own properties, but she needs to tell her husband. Without doing so, means trust is lacking in the marriage. Moreoever, any man who embarks on the acquisition of property without consulting his wife is also disrespecting her.

I will not change ma maiden name after marriage oh,simply 4 d fact that ma dad's name is very posh-sonding.and i rilly wudnt want to change it to some ogbologbo name.

@charla, if your maiden name is so important to you, then give up on marriage!!!

Men who make such a big fuss about women combining their maiden name with their husband's name, seem to have an 'insecurity' complex. Guys with intact egos, are not really bothered about it.

Like I overheard a friend saying recently: "She can call herself whatever she likes, but at the end of the day, as long as she is in my bed & in my house doing what needs to be done to keep our family together, I really don't give a hoot."