Brielle86:

I really have to get something off of my chest 
But first let me reput I said I HATE BEING AFRICAN AMERICAN but love being black it's a difference trust me

I too am AA and I couldn’t help but respond to this garbage you are talking.  You speak like you have nothing and on your way to nowhere. (SAD)  You seem to be the one with little to no self-esteem who can’t see what’s in front of you.  You might want to go back and read what Setp-G said “many are willing to be in your shoes and you are here crying”  If you are in the USA, where the land of the FREE is then you might want to take some time and start appreciating what you have.

Do us all a favor…. Give thanks for what you are now, and keep fighting for what you want to be tomorrow.

TisaBone:
I'm dark skinned (very dark at that) and sure I got teased. My nickname in school was Shaka Zulu. My feelings were hurt, and I often came home crying. One day,my aunt hollered at me demanded I quit that crying. "Dont you know that Shaka Zulu was a king?"

Brielle86:

I really have to get something off of my chest 
But first let me reput I said I HATE BEING AFRICAN AMERICAN but love being black it's a difference trust me

Omg how can I say this before everyone gets GEEK up(I know the slag language)  But seriously African American are strictly Brain Wash!!! This is 100% true  we care about the wrong things we are the only culture that's not in a group like the asains, Mexicans, whites,Italians etc,  African American People Hates each other  with the smallest dumbest thing  not long ago someone gave me a invitation party title "Light skin vs dark skin" first 6 redbones come after by 9pm get in free Really!!! Seriously ?? You want me to go Foreal ??  did you know the rapper lil wayne hate dark skin women he hates them with a passion Iknow too his wife is dark skin and so is there daughter    he said " they Rich dark skin " and he allergic to dark chocolate this man got 7 baby mamas he is vary happy all is light skin and even happier that he have a Chinese BM for only a good hair baby!!! Wtf  Another thing i wanted to share  is Dark African woman and men are going to be instinct by 2050 somewhere about that time the people that was born here African American and there parents ,their parents as of now my color "Dark Skin" are going to be instinct     Because of low-self-esteem  and we are mixing with other cultures instead of our own. Dark skin people are slowly getting lighter and lighter because that's what it is now 

I became a victim of wanting to date outside my race, all the black men I dated are completely crazy or prefer lighter women so I move on ,  (SAD),  I love being black because it's so rare now it's hard to fine a dark skin woman  in a crowd
I love when people stare at me and ask me about my skin and hair I'm sorry natural hair girls out there I couldn't go any longer without getting  a perm  I stop using a perm all most a half a year & talking about nappy hair!!! Omg it's was too much to handle but  I managed to get a nice perm and taking good care of it.lol  But really I LOVE it  when Its the summer and I'm black as I can be!! People say what you mix with?? I say  Nothing!! I'm just Black  lol

amor4ce:

Unmarried black women
Down or out
A black male professor kicks up a storm about black women and marriage

Oct 15th 2011 | LOS ANGELES | from the print edition



AT SOME events on his book tour, black men have accused Ralph Richard Banks of advocating genocide. In fact, the Stanford professor of family law has merely written a book called “Is Marriage for White People? How the African-American Marriage Decline Affects Everyone”. But abuse is what you get for suggesting, as Mr Banks does, that black women—not only the “most unmarried” group in American society but also the one that least intermarries with other races—should look to white, Latino or Asian men as potential mates. After all, the alternative is often no marriage or relationship at all.



The collapse of marriage among blacks is well documented (see chart), but not the intimate, psychological, emotional and social toll this has taken on black women. Seven out of ten are single. Of the others, many are forced into “man-sharing”.

This crisis in the black “relationship market”, as Mr Banks calls it, starts with a “man shortage”. About one in ten black men in their early thirties are in prison. As a group, black men have also fallen behind in education and income, just as black women have surged ahead. Two black women graduate from college for every black man. As these women rise into the middle class, the men stay in the lower class, becoming less compatible.

Many black women respond by “marrying down, but not out,” as Mr Banks puts it. But that makes bad marriages. Two out of every three black marriages fail, about twice the rate of white marriages.

The real problem is the behaviour of those few black men who are considered good catches. They often stay unmarried for the opposite reason: they have too many options. As one man told Mr Banks: “If you have four quality women you’re dating and they’re in a rotation, who’s going to rush into a marriage?” Even black men who nominally commit to one woman are five times as likely as their white counterparts to have others on the side.

One way or another, many black women thus become, or stay, single (as two of Mr Banks’s three sisters are). As one woman tells him: “We focus on our careers, our friends, go back to school, whatever. We fill our lives with other things.” But in the hundreds of interviews Mr Banks conducted, he found pervasive sadness.

The most obvious solution, he discovered, also runs into the greatest taboo: intermarriage. This is ironic, because black men are statistically very open to marrying outside their race—more than one in five does. But fewer than one in ten black women intermarries.

For some black women, a white husband brings bad memories of slavery and Jim Crow. Others have conditioned themselves to find non-black men unattractive (lacking “swag”, in the argot). Still others fear that men of other races find black women unattractive, or that their children might be “not black enough”. But by far the most common reason seems to be that black women still regard intermarriage as tantamount to betraying the race. “My black heart,” says one black woman as she contemplates marrying out, “I would need to turn it in.” “We know it’s a struggle,” says another, “but we women got to stand by the black man. If we don’t, who will?"

http://www.economist.com/node/21532296?php%20$this-%3EincludeSnippet%28%27Publishers_Omniture%27%29;%20?%3E

emöfine:

Love this. Brilliant!

Negro_Ntns:

@darapture,

When someone approach you with an emotional pain. Listen to their heart.  Do not focus on the grammar.


Brielle,

I believe that there ought to be a cultural adoption programme in Africa for re-absorbing African Americans interested in relocating and re-integrating back into their motherland.  Unfortunately, Africa is drugged. . . she is on crack!  So an institutionalized remedy can best be forgotten. There is an alternative.

Private and individual persons may exist who would love to adopt an African American as their child or relative and invite you to come to the motherland and live with them.  There is big sacrifice on both ends and it will take patience and time before such partnership begin to yield fruit for both.  The conveniences in America is absent in Africa. . . . the settler will be impacted most and would be the one transformed by default into the host family and community customs.

Negro_Ntns:

A carved out and designated zone will attract unecessary attention to you and make you very vulnerable in the new land. Besides, that is still an institutionalized effort that will require African leaders concordance to carry out. . . .but as I said earlier, they all are on crack and I'm sure you know the behavioral pattern of a crack addict.

Negro_Ntns:

If you look in any African American neighborhood in US you will notice that the economy is usually around the following types of services - gas station and corner store, laundromat, cash checking place, bill payments and payday loans, fast tax filing and returns, hair, nail and saloon, barber shop, hotels and motels, pawn shops, restaurant and churches. 

Out of all these it is only the churches, restaurants, the hair sallon and the barbaer shop that is owned by the black people.  The gas station and corner store, laundromat, cash checking, bill payment, pay day loan, tax filing, hair and nail shop as well pawn shops are wholly owned and controlled by foreigners.  This is today!  It wasnt like that at all in the 60s.  Blacks controlled most of the economy in their hoods. . . except a few in the hands of Jews.  When the Jews started to leave they sold ownerships to the Indians and Pakistanis.  In fact blacks businesses started going bankrupt and they sold out their control to the new comers.  The damage had a lot to do with narcotic drugs and crime into the hood.

Now, take that concept and overlay it into Africa.  You get the exact same outcome!  Our drug is not narcotics. . . . we are addicted to corruption and self interest.  We kicked colonial masters out and they were replaced by well educated and meaningful leaders with great vision. . . but we killed them off one at atime until there is nothing left to guide us and in that state of vulnerability and loss. . . a new master stepped in and filled the gap.  Now we have new colonialists.   So your picture of Indian, Chinese, Koreans controlling our continent is accurate. 

What I mean by vulnerable is to say that you cannot operate a mini America within Africa, you will kill of your designated zone if you do that.  You must by nature of preservation interact and partner with rest of Africa for viability.  Africans today fight 100yrs old wars on disputed territorial ownership.  So to get a safeguard against a claim on your land. . . . there has to be a protectorate that all parties signing the trearty agree to.   This will have to be done at an institutionalized level to succeed.  The authority responsible to carry that out is addicted to the corruption fed by chinese and korea and america and eruurope. . . . Africa is high on its own crack! 

Approaching this question in the alternate path of individual sponsorship and adoption removes the risks of that communal vulnerability and reduces it to individual level.  The damage, if any, is far smaller and the gains are far greater. 

amor4ce:

DaRapture, in my opinion, you sound condescending, like you look down on your brethren just like the colonial masters did.

amor4ce:

In fact, I have begun to find the idea of a separate African state to be carved out for African-Americans as very disgusting, akin to a proposal for Season II of the infamous Berlin Conference [s]but this time of, by and for house negroes[/s].

amor4ce:

Isn't that Berlin Conference a major reason for the division within and amongst various African groups?