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Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Chuky7(m): 8:45am On Nov 16, 2021 |
A neighbor of mine not married stayed single has children out of wedlock I once asked him why he said his family believe that as far as you can take care of them no problem. he believes in going the unconventional way as marriage no too dey favor man. you pay bride price all bills are on you. you take care of your new family. but as a non married man his only concern are the kids and the baby mama. What do you think of this lifestyle. I dey reason am. It's not a death sentence for a child born out of wedlock nothing really changes just traditions you are conditioned to for no reason. 37 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by FlipModeSquade(m): 8:47am On Nov 16, 2021 |
Traditional marriage institutions mostly favor women.. While the man is worked to death.. At the end the children only remembers their Mum as a Superwoman.. The man that put his body and health on the line.. To put food on their table.. Becomes an afterthought.. While the woman junkets from Miami to London to Paris.. In the name of Ọmụgwọ.. The old broken man sits at home counting his days.. With an occasional bottle of Gin and yards of clothes.. From his grateful children and in laws.. Tell me.. Why shouldn't a sensible being. Have a rethink about an institution that takes so much from him.. And gives back so little? Change is CONSTANT.. 296 Likes 22 Shares |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Lawlab249: 8:49am On Nov 16, 2021 |
Ok |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by BarrElChapo(m): 9:04am On Nov 16, 2021 |
this is the new norm due to copycatting the west. We've lost the essence of marriage all togethe. 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by bigjackass: 9:12am On Nov 16, 2021 |
This idea of what favor who... mostly irresponsible people think this way. Marriage is good as long you marry the right person. Even the whites we want to copy, most of them don't stay single. Instead they jump from one marriage to the other and divorce up and down because they enjoy being married but they haven't found the right person. 79 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Righteousness2(m): 9:44am On Nov 16, 2021 |
It is pure Fornication and Immorality. It is an ungodly lifestyle Innovated and Propagated from the Pit of Hell. It is a Lifestyle that will Guarantee Destruction in Hell Fire. 92 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Mindlog: 11:08am On Nov 16, 2021 |
Chuky7: Will you and your family be comfortable with your sister having children for a man she is not married to? You have an option of paying surrogates to get pregnant for you, after delivery you get your babies from them and hire nannies to be their caregivers, at least no woman would rip you off all in the name of marriage while you still have your children. 65 Likes |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Nobody: 12:28pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
I blame the woman who is sleeping with him and giving him kids without marriage. Stupid is as stupid does. 20 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Klass99(f): 12:43pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
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Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by emmanuelbrown26: 4:31pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
Klass99:Not surprised that it's coming from a woman. Back to the topic, op I would advice u to make a friend with that your neighbour. He is enjoying this life to the fullest, compare him with any other man or men around u with wives, u will see that the difference is clear. just ask him how he did it and how he's being managing the whole stuff. Personally this is the best way to have peace of mind. forget about any preaching from women, marriage only favours them. 52 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Dollywood(m): 5:02pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
These days more than 60% of marriages in this country been falling apart. The chart keeps accumulating divorcees and single mom's. Take a look around you, these women in marriage are so inconsiderate and unsympathetic. They will bring you hell if you lose your job in a space of a month, have housemaids you show favours to, fail to comply with her superfluous needs and so on. You can satisfy them, Never! At the end of the day, it takes special luck to keep your married till old age. 24 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Nobody: 5:53pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
Mindlog: 1. Depends on the agreement my sister has with the man...if she's fine with it, then she has my full support 2. Awesome point... With the way things are going, I'm honestly considering this 17 Likes |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Nobody: 6:02pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
Klass99: This may sound sexist, buh I'm not surprised this is written by a woman ((no offense))... With the mentality of lots of the girls on nairaland and those I've met, I can conclude that, it's FAR MORE cheaper to get someone to get pregnant and get a nanny to take care of the child for you and pay the person off, than to get married to girls with such liability mentality... And as for the guy you sited up there, he's doing all those ones because he wants to do them, how many baby daddies buy cars for their...his kind is a drop in an ocean 25 Likes |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Sonnobax15(m): 7:06pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Klass99(f): 7:59pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
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Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Vision101(m): 4:39am On Nov 17, 2021 |
All these single parenting, the man or woman involved don't think of the impact on the children. When a child is raised by a single parent that child misses some love and impact. Last Monday the youths in my church had their regular weekly service. As they rounded off I came out of the office to see their leader. I noticed that a young girl in early twenties sat on the chair close to the door. She sat alone and faced the wall. After seeing their leader I went to her and I noticed that she was crying even though she tried to cover up. I took her to the office and after a lot of efforts she opened up and told me that she was missing her father. She said that she works in the hospital and that she sees families come to the hospital and she will be asking herself when will her own complete family walk in like this. Long story short, the mother got married to the father and had four of them. She is number two. Grand mother spiritual issues made the father to abandon them. The father is still alive but they have never sighted him for years. Even the last one doesn't know him. She said that the mother cries sometimes but she doesn't want them to see her. She said that her greatest wish is to see her father around her as she watches others with their fathers. Her mother is not a member of my church. My church is large. Obviously I don't know her. She said that she started attending the church two months ago. You will agree with me that I have a big work on my hands. 30 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Acidosis(m): 4:56am On Nov 17, 2021 |
Funding a baby mama and her kids is a more expensive lifestyle. It is a s*lly idea for someone that wants to spend "little" and get his kids to love or acknowledge his effort in the future. 35 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Ishilove: 6:04am On Nov 17, 2021 |
Vision101:God bless you. All they are talking about is "me me me", but not one single thought for the children they forcing into this warped and perverse lifestyle of their sires. They think raising children is providing material needs alone. They forget that there are other factors involved which money cannot solve. 50 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Chuky7(m): 7:29am On Nov 17, 2021 |
Lalasticlala |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Chuky7(m): 7:57am On Nov 17, 2021 |
Favfables1: Thank you bro on point 2 Likes |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Chuky7(m): 8:01am On Nov 17, 2021 |
Vision101: The kid was lacking emotional support. something that is not always the case. if you read the story well all needs will be met emotional too. imagine a scenario of monthly or weekly visits. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Chuky7(m): 8:03am On Nov 17, 2021 |
Acidosis: no it isn't. emotional support is not lacked, doesn't have to be 1 Like |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Aforxzy(f): 8:05am On Nov 17, 2021 |
This lifestyle is not the best. Marriage is indeed not for everyone but a child deserves the love, care , nuture and training from both parents. No matter how we like to twist it, children from broken homes or from single parents are the worst hit by this trend. Their silent wishes and prayers is to have both parents reconcile and live together as a family. I can't imagine being separated from my kids, how much more another person taking up my role in their lives. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Chuky7(m): 8:08am On Nov 17, 2021 |
Klass99: They is the advantage of freedom. Which you forfeit when you marry the wrong person. I have seen marriages that are broken and parties scared to do the necessary. but as a single dad nobody has a hold on you. 4 Likes |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by crackhaus: 8:18am On Nov 17, 2021 |
Chuky7:When you consider everything involved and when it comes down to the point, it's actually a better bargain for men who can see past the limit of their cultural upbringing. There's something about being plugged into a matrix and not realizing that your every thought, decision, and ideology is programmed to conform. Your neighbor has guts and I like him for that. Truth is, not many men in Nigeria are able to go this unconventional route even if they really desired it. In more contemporary societies, this would not even be a topic of conversation for people to deliberate on. It's just common sense to want to avoid as much complications that come when you legally marry a woman. 10 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by ImaIma1(f): 8:37am On Nov 17, 2021 |
Favfables1: This is your Nairaland answer, and not real life. Someone that you will call family meeting on her head. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by ImaIma1(f): 8:56am On Nov 17, 2021 |
Not everyone backing up the baby mama idea can even handle it. It seems like a piece of cake till you are into it. The dysfunctional family you formed could crumble on you very soon. Let everyone just do as they like and sleep in the bed they lay for themselves. 12 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Klass99(f): 9:08am On Nov 17, 2021 |
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Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by pocohantas(f): 9:37am On Nov 17, 2021 |
InTheCloudySky: Why do you assume the woman is not comfortable with the arrangement and should be blamed? 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by cayorday89(m): 10:59am On Nov 17, 2021 |
Ishilove:Truer words have never been said, even families that live together and all the parent does is provide food, cloth, go to school, church and scream at them to do this or that and repeat all the days of their lives, no form of outing, no get together or family time together, it's just a one way thing all through, will make the children lack so many things their counterparts enjoy in their homes. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Oizee(f): 11:51am On Nov 17, 2021 |
FlipModeSquade:I love your analysis, but what do u think wl bcom of a single man in old age..... it would be worse mehn....think about it thoroughly. 4 Likes |
Re: Single And Be Having Children Outside Wedlock by Nobody: 2:12pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
ImaIma1: Kikikikikiki She say na nairaland answer... I dont know the kind of family you grew up in, buh in mine, every adult has already be made to understand that actions have consequences....and we're taught that before you make a decision you must reflect on the pros and cons of it..... because last last, when the consequences show up, we will not help you to bear it... We will advice against it and support where possible, but if you still decide to go through with it...then that's on you... So if she has decided to be a baby daddy for a man, then that's her wahala.... But she shouldn't get angry when she calls anyone ((me specifically)) for diaper money and nobody ((I don't )) pick up 3 Likes 1 Share |
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