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Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by tommy589(m): 12:22pm On Nov 20, 2021

The thing here is that the girl will never change and will never appreciate you took are in. I know you are a tolerant man and you should continue to keep it that way due to your wife history with the girl's mother.For six years now I have been walking in your shoes, I know how it is to live with a devil like that. This one now is 19,I knew when she was brought at 2 years to live with my wife's family. She lived with 5 different families within 8 months I sent her packing,before they came pleading for her during last year lockdown.

All that has a beginning must have an end

Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by TheGreatOne90: 12:22pm On Nov 20, 2021

Sirlancelot:
Ok will do that, I actually it's criminal fir her to take my babies without permission. Na crime now.Thanks for the input

Guy easy ooh. Hope you will not call police for wife, if she collects little change on your pocket, while watching your cloth

Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by Ikem11(m): 12:22pm On Nov 20, 2021

TotoGame:

All these pretenders !!!!! Alaye there's nothing wrong in dicking a girl (with her consent)

It's a natural stuff ...ewúrẹ ẹlẹgbin!!!

Ya for you nothing wrong cos your heart is dark and evil not to have conscious of knowing " doing anything with a girl of 15yrs is an abuse"

Such a girl can never make a right decision. Her emotions and feelings is playing games with her at that age. So you as an adult manipulating her ignorance for your own evil needs.

Am ashamed of you as a fellow human being

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Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by Haakeem(m): 12:23pm On Nov 20, 2021

Wick3:
Lol, this is why I never visited nor stayed with a family member while growing up.

This case of sending their kids to come and stay with you when you finally have your own place. And I am someone that don't joke with my space.

But wait o, it's like men now complain (nag) more than women these days.

Warris happening

SAPA.......but if the husband is rich,it would be the wife complaining

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Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by TheGreatOne90: 12:23pm On Nov 20, 2021

Simdyofficial:
Hmmm... Get a locker both kitchen and the room you keep stuffs. Let her have access to her meals after been prepared by your wife. As in hide everything. Give her little change to manage once in a while. For her going in and out, Tell her directly you won't take that nonsense else you will take her back. That's all. I have 3 people living with me both from my family and hubby.. Non go near my kitchen or store room.. Don't beat her. Instead of laying your hands on her send her back Abeg.

Don't take this advice please

Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by theamazonguru(m): 12:23pm On Nov 20, 2021

As per the food matter, bros that is the easiest to deal with. Trust me.

Everybody knows the times are hard. Things are expensive in the market, so this is not the time to be careless about how food stuff is handled in the house.

Desperate times they say needs desperate measures.

Let me give you my personal experience with a jeun-ko-ku and lazy brother-in-law staying with us.
This guy is about 30 years old. He is lazy asf. He can't wash his own cloth, he can't iron clothes, he can't do any house shore, as in he is totally useless. But he can consume the whole house.
If you dish food for him he will complain it is so little, that you are suffering him in your house. Hahaha. If you ask him to make his own eba, he will make the eba for his own mouth in a big pot, half solid, half water, half garri. He will balance and be consuming the mountain like one of the gods. Hehehehehe.
Then when he is done levelling the hill, he will be throwing his smelly fart anyhow, if you caution him about morals he will tell the sister, fart no get house. Oh my gosh. He is so so annoying.

My approach
He left us briefly, them came back this year.
As a champion of Warri, I quickly called a family meeting. I said " this one you are back now, let it be known to thee, thy body system and thy brain, that things are no more the same like the last time you were here. It is no more business as usual.
At 30 you can't be here doing nothing, go get a job.
And as for food, my wife is the only person that has access to the kitchen. As you dey see the kitchen so, it is her office , her constituency. She makes the food, she dishes it the way her spirit leads her.
If she gives you a mountain to consume, be grateful. If her church mind asks her to serve you like a beggar, be thankful that you even have a roof over your head and a food to consume. Any day I hear you complain about food served in this house, that will be your last day in this house.
This is my house - the COKER's. My house my rule. You either fall in line or fall out."

That was the magical wand I used.
The guy man dey there dey maintain his level.

But I just got him a job sha. Make him dey see money spend. Make him begin to become useful to himself. Make him self know how easy or hard it is to make the money we use to make the provisions he complains about.

Now we are all good.
Everybody know e level.

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Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by confydoedowaye(m): 12:25pm On Nov 20, 2021

Take her back to her mum, promise to be paying her school fees and be paying her school fees... Pay as much as your muscles can carry, then discontinue. By so doing, you have made good effort to appreciate her mum's benevolence to your wife... You have to handle this.... Play a sucker to catch a sucker else you will be more frustrated than the man below...

Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by TheGreatOne90: 12:26pm On Nov 20, 2021

Richy4:
>>> She is 15, she is a teenager...and almost every teenager lies... even their Goodmorning is suspicious... If u doubt me, just google teenagers and lying...

>>>All I have to say is that u should try and regulate her movement before she brings in an unwanted pregnancy...

>>>Go to her school and find out when they usually close from school... Let the teachers know that u will appreciate it if they can send u an email/ SMS upfront informing u anytime there was an extra lessons...so u will know what was keeping her,.

>>>Highlight all the chores that she has to do... church program or not...and reward her for that with some pocket change.. with that, she will stay away from the baby food...

I must say though that It's kinda funny that u opened this thread on crime section... Was it because of the baby food she was ' misplacing'?

Am totally impressed with your suggestion. You are really smart. To train child no dey easy at all

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Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by Trevor007007(m): 12:26pm On Nov 20, 2021

Sirlancelot:
I won't bother you guys much. I married my woman last year June during the lockdown. Things were rosy for us as a young couple till we brought in a girl of 15 years from my wife's family to stay with us in order to help my wife with house chores and other things during the time she is heavily pregnant.

Mind you, from day one I have been dating my wife, this girl has been on my neck, telling me how she will come stay with me in Lagos if I get married to her sister. That would be my greatest undoing as I grudgingly obliged after many persuasion from her Mother as well. After my marriage, she came over to Lagos to join us.

Now, she is very useless to me. She will go to school from 7am to 5pm. After coming back from school, she will take another excuse to go for evening church and come back by 8pm. No help in doing house chores. COOKING, she no sabi.. My turn off about her now is that she can eat for Africa. The little provision I manage stock at home don't go anywhere now.

The last straw that break the camel back is that she always steals my babies food, like milk, biscuits etc.

My wife is in dicey situation because she once lived with the girl's mother for like 15 years back then, and such can't just pursue her away like plague.

Right now I am fighting the urge and anger to mess her up. I have advised her on numerous occasions but it seems she can not learn easily except with hard handling. Everything bad about human traits, she has it; Lies, false swearing and the likes.

Mature minded people in the house, if you are in my shoes, what would you do?

Sorry for your pain or the pain you are currently undergoing, the said girl is actually acting her age, 15 years to 17 years can be seen as the years of disobedience especially when the said teenager is far from home, to cut the long story short, she does not see you as her mother or father so you cannot badge her around like you are her parents, you can't desipline her because she will never listen to you, you are not the one that gave birth to her the only solution to this is to send her back to her parents so she can have good parental training from them because she will not be obliged to receive them from you unless she humbly decides on her own to listen to you.

Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by doublex10: 12:27pm On Nov 20, 2021

Simply send her packing.

Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by Sirlancelot(m): 12:27pm On Nov 20, 2021

Boss it is not like that,I have two 8 months old boys already,they are eating deep on my pockets as regard feeding,this very girl eat alot as well.She does not render any help for me.i don't see her as maid

arleck:

Man f*u*c***k you!!!
If you looking for a maid or slave to get one..... The girl isn't a slave or maid, she's happy to come live with her sister, she's now a part of the family not slave.... A 15 year old girl is supposed to do all that. Go to school at 7am and get back at 5pm... As well steal your baby's milk! At some point when we growing up, we all did that. So that shouldn't be something new to you

Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by victorazy(m): 12:28pm On Nov 20, 2021

Sirlancelot:
I won't bother you guys much. I married my woman last year June during the lockdown. Things were rosy for us as a young couple till we brought in a girl of 15 years from my wife's family to stay with us in order to help my wife with house chores and other things during the time she is heavily pregnant.

Mind you, from day one I have been dating my wife, this girl has been on my neck, telling me how she will come stay with me in Lagos if I get married to her sister. That would be my greatest undoing as I grudgingly obliged after many persuasion from her Mother as well. After my marriage, she came over to Lagos to join us.

Now, she is very useless to me. She will go to school from 7am to 5pm. After coming back from school, she will take another excuse to go for evening church and come back by 8pm. No help in doing house chores. COOKING, she no sabi.. My turn off about her now is that she can eat for Africa. The little provision I manage stock at home don't go anywhere now.

The last straw that break the camel back is that she always steals my babies food, like milk, biscuits etc.

My wife is in dicey situation because she once lived with the girl's mother for like 15 years back then, and such can't just pursue her away like plague.

Right now I am fighting the urge and anger to mess her up. I have advised her on numerous occasions but it seems she can not learn easily except with hard handling. Everything bad about human traits, she has it; Lies, false swearing and the likes.

Mature minded people in the house, if you are in my shoes, what would you do?

funny you

15yr old is beating a full grown man in his house grin

Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by faoogoke(m): 12:31pm On Nov 20, 2021

You need to let her know you are the boss!
Wait for her to commit one offence like that, make sure your wife is not around, find correct cane and beat the hell out of her.
A 15 year old is too small to be such a threat to a family.

Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by kushme: 12:31pm On Nov 20, 2021

MALIGNANTGuest:

We keep warning you MEN to completely avoid some families, irrespective of how pretty their daughters may be.
Despite our warnings on NAIRALAND, you Guys take us for a ride.
Some of us here are practicing married men and Fathers. We see things everyday.
My Advice 2d next Men interested in marriage;
PLEASE, avoid Families filled with Leeches.
Avoid Families filled with high dependency.
There are some Ladies you should never fall in a love with, despite how beautiful they are.
Also, improve yourself as a man so as to meet Ladies of reputable class with quality goals.
THINGS will never be the same after marriage as another family will be incorporated.
From studies, things are always likely to decline in the first few years of marriage.
What improves them, depends on
.......... your lifestyle & Family.
.......... the kind of woman you married.
.......... the kind of family you approached for such.

Sir, if I may ask, what are those possible things to likely cause the decline?

Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by Martini101(m): 12:32pm On Nov 20, 2021

Young man at your age, If you can’t tame a 15 year old girl . When Madam start giving you petty women wahala, you will go and call your kinsmen abi?

Better start treating the young girl as an adolescent she is.

Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by Nobody: 12:32pm On Nov 20, 2021

Sleep with her so she will stop craving for food and start craving your magic wand

Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by generalwo(m): 12:35pm On Nov 20, 2021

The only thing that drew my attention is the stealing part... If you allow that girl grow up with your child, u will regret it...... Though it's hard but I think it's time you draw the line.... You can help with part of her school fees while she's with her parents but her continued stay in your home will eventually become catastrophic

Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by aydgov: 12:39pm On Nov 20, 2021

Repatriate her in matrix mode

Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by Goalnaldo(m): 12:41pm On Nov 20, 2021

Richy4:
>>> She is 15, she is a teenager...and almost every teenager lies... even their Goodmorning is suspicious... If u doubt me, just google teenagers and lying...

>>>All I have to say is that u should try and regulate her movement before she brings in an unwanted pregnancy...

>>>Go to her school and find out when they usually close from school... Let the teachers know that u will appreciate it if they can send u an email/ SMS upfront informing u anytime there was an extra lessons...so u will know what was keeping her,.

>>>Highlight all the chores that she has to do... church program or not...and reward her for that with some pocket change.. with that, she will stay away from the baby food...

I must say though that It's kinda funny that u opened this thread on crime section... Was it because of the baby food she was ' misplacing'?

This advise looks like the biblical ahithophel. Very nice.

Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by Trybes(m): 12:43pm On Nov 20, 2021

You said she goes to school and come back late in the evening 5pm precisely. Does she attends after school lessons, if yes then she has no problem there and going to Church is perfectly okay. I guess your main complain is that she eats too much. She stealing beverage is very wrong if she is already being served enough and you have to address that. Maybe you are a low income earner and that's why you have an issue with her heavy eating. If she was your daughter or sister would you complain that she eats too much.

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Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by shogsman(m): 12:44pm On Nov 20, 2021

You're a man,act like it and leave the child alone,tf did you expect from a 15year old

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Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by emerged01(m): 12:45pm On Nov 20, 2021

Sirlancelot:
I won't bother you guys much. I married my woman last year June during the lockdown. Things were rosy for us as a young couple till we brought in a girl of 15 years from my wife's family to stay with us in order to help my wife with house chores and other things during the time she is heavily pregnant.

Mind you, from day one I have been dating my wife, this girl has been on my neck, telling me how she will come stay with me in Lagos if I get married to her sister. That would be my greatest undoing as I grudgingly obliged after many persuasion from her Mother as well. After my marriage, she came over to Lagos to join us.

Now, she is very useless to me. She will go to school from 7am to 5pm. After coming back from school, she will take another excuse to go for evening church and come back by 8pm. No help in doing house chores. COOKING, she no sabi.. My turn off about her now is that she can eat for Africa. The little provision I manage stock at home don't go anywhere now.

The last straw that break the camel back is that she always steals my babies food, like milk, biscuits etc.

My wife is in dicey situation because she once lived with the girl's mother for like 15 years back then, and such can't just pursue her away like plague.

Right now I am fighting the urge and anger to mess her up. I have advised her on numerous occasions but it seems she can not learn easily except with hard handling. Everything bad about human traits, she has it; Lies, false swearing and the likes.

Mature minded people in the house, if you are in my shoes, what would you do?

Guy no be your battle o,except you want the family of your wife to see you as bad person. Use your wisdom to win this battle. Leave the battle for your wife,she is in the best position to fight her,all you need is to dey ginger her small small grin

till the coast is clear.
No go involve yourself too much.

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Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by shogsman(m): 12:46pm On Nov 20, 2021

TotoGame:

No I'm not .... just that 13yrs old girls do collect prick this days

If this useless deranged pedophile is not banned on this platform then seun and his mods are all sociopaths and they need to be checked.
I'm working on ways to fish out bastards like you technologically wise,you think you can exhibit your depravity online like you don't leave a digital footprint right. God will punish you for that statement you goddamn pedophile

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Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by PinkHealthGroup: 12:47pm On Nov 20, 2021

Listen to your dumb ass. You want to mess a "fifteen year old up" you grown ass motherfquer. Send her home. Do not abuse her you dipshit

Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by Kobicove(m): 12:47pm On Nov 20, 2021

Why did you even agree for her to come into your home in the first instance?

Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by ubongdom: 12:48pm On Nov 20, 2021

Sirlancelot:
I won't bother you guys much. I married my woman last year June during the lockdown. Things were rosy for us as a young couple till we brought in a girl of 15 years from my wife's family to stay with us in order to help my wife with house chores and other things during the time she is heavily pregnant.

Mind you, from day one I have been dating my wife, this girl has been on my neck, telling me how she will come stay with me in Lagos if I get married to her sister. That would be my greatest undoing as I grudgingly obliged after many persuasion from her Mother as well. After my marriage, she came over to Lagos to join us.

Now, she is very useless to me. She will go to school from 7am to 5pm. After coming back from school, she will take another excuse to go for evening church and come back by 8pm. No help in doing house chores. COOKING, she no sabi.. My turn off about her now is that she can eat for Africa. The little provision I manage stock at home don't go anywhere now.

The last straw that break the camel back is that she always steals my babies food, like milk, biscuits etc.

My wife is in dicey situation because she once lived with the girl's mother for like 15 years back then, and such can't just pursue her away like plague.

Right now I am fighting the urge and anger to mess her up. I have advised her on numerous occasions but it seems she can not learn easily except with hard handling. Everything bad about human traits, she has it; Lies, false swearing and the likes.

Mature minded people in the house, if you are in my shoes, what would you do?

I am in similar situation.

Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by TotoGame(m): 12:53pm On Nov 20, 2021

shogsman:

If this useless deranged pedophile is not banned on this platform then seun and his mods are all sociopaths and they need to be checked

Well your useless dad is also a pedophile cus he impregnated your mum when she was 14

Don't be too surprised..I know your history

Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by Richy4(m): 12:54pm On Nov 20, 2021

Goalnaldo:
This advise looks like the biblical ahithophel. Very nice.

Thank You

Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by adventisty: 12:54pm On Nov 20, 2021

Brother,
Please ,it easy on her.
Needs guidance and counseling.

Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by Richy4(m): 12:56pm On Nov 20, 2021

TheGreatOne90:

Am totally impressed with your suggestion. You are really smart. To train child no dey easy at all

It's not easy at all.. We follow them with wisdom..

Re: My Smallie Sister-in-law Makes My Life Difficult In My Own House by NaBanga: 12:57pm On Nov 20, 2021

Stop encouraging child slavery. American and UK women do not need slaves. They take care of themselves during pregnancy. Many work during pregnancy. Very few of these women need child slaves to survive.

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