BigBashiru:


Many 20s women will marry a 36 yo man that is financially stable with a good personality...

Which stats

You make it seem like ladies in their 20's especially of this generation are in a rush to marry or planning or being reliant on men.

So if the men are not financially stable what other cogent reason is there to marry them?none then it can be said that such marriage is not of love but one of convenience, which is the point I have been making no young lady will easily be attracted to an older man without a convenient reason to which most times involves money

BigBashiru:


The number that are interested outweigh the number that aren't.....

Only in your head, how many have you seen

cjeriia:


Cast ur die and live with the result bro.
Nothing's definite in life. Tomorrow is pregnant.
You might get a younger lady and he will give you d love and peace of mind you desire on the other hand, she might give you hell in return. Same thing with the 32 year ol lady

All in all, choose wisely and b prepared to live with the actions of ur choice.

You don't just cast your dice like that. This is a long term life thing. You have to be most skeptical about decisions like this. Marriage no be beans

She is 32: she is still in her prime.
You said she is a good girl and you love her: why not go ahead and marry her. Age is just a number. Some men do marry women of same age: it doesn't mean anything, what matters is the maturity and understanding.

My brother, your fear of women getting older (i presume you mean biologically) than men is not true in all cases.

I believe that will depend on a lot of factors: genes, hormones, mental state of the woman etc. Besides, a lot of things happen in the marriage that can affect ageing negatively or positively.

Hence, the younger woman you thing might be better may age quicker than the 32 year old.

I am 2.5 years older than my wife. We're both above 40 and been married for about 14 years now with 2 wonderful children. My wife is getting more beautiful by the day and I tease her about it at every opportunity. I won't have it any other way till death or rapture do us part.

How you treat your spouse in the marriage will go a long way in keeping him or her in shape mentally, physically or sexually.

pocohantas:


Is this supposed to be an insult? When will you guys get it that I am a premium evening newspaper?

Some of your mates are dead, why are you still alive? Or should a car knock you down today and slam that your coconut head against the sidewalk?

You ehn

You know I apologized to you the other day because of something you did when I sounded harshly to you that got me feeling guilty, today you wanted to do the opposite. But it's OK.

I know say you be sweet sixteen, so no mind me!

The 36 year old man knows the answer but he just wants to hear/see it in the comment section so that he can justify himself

Bahamas95:
I don't judge people unfairly, my comment was based on what I have seen/observed. "Bad girls" get married quickly because they are fortunate to see men they could deceive. An observant man won't fall into their trap.

Most of these 30+ ladies you see today looking for husbands and jumping from one prayer house to another are architects of their misfortune. I want a tall man, I want a muscular guy, I want this, I want that. They keep on selecting till they pass their prime while the smart "bad girls" have all gotten married.......I know four of them like that so I know what am talking about. I overheard one discussing with my neighbour sometime ago, she said. "I wish I could just have a baby, even if Preye didn't marry me sef I will manage it. "I can't continue like this" I SMH where I was sitting.



It's not everything we blame village people of being the cause....Some people contributed to the problems they are facing today as a result of what they did in the past.

Did you say village people?


Village people are innocent o

The choice we make now, we will live with them tomorrow.

Like in my graduate class, na the sabi babes marry first before those book worms and few holy nwejes..

The sabi babes are nicer when you roll with them..

They socialize more, very free to mingle with opposite and by so doing spot their choice and hook him.. As it should be.

The book worms and holy nwejes, na them get Nifest, nfcs, crusade and other programmes for school, yet na them anti social and codedly wicked pass..no be juju o.

Try date some, if you no dey attend her church or follow wetin daddy in GO said, you are a sinner

Social life disgust them..

As for the guys, we are grouped into three..
1.The sabi guys AKA society bad boys...
This ones dey collect their 2:1 or 2:2 after enjoying mahadum(university in Igbo language).They have the connection by socializing and interacting with everyone..Usually the CEOs in later life and good-bad men to their women
2. The campus pastors and up coming daddy GOs this ones worst, they even forget wetin carry them come school..Na them the make 3rd class or let my people go(PASS)...After all they need bible, and plastic chairs with a rented space to sway people and and live good later in life.

Then,
3. The book worms/ anti social..This ones tire me...Na dem dey misbehave anyhow and easy to manipulate when they see a lady's pant...E go shock you say all their first class them no get common sense about realities in life...

Again, some can belong to atleast two of the above categories..


People thought it is only in University we have carryover hehehehe akuko!..In life there are carryovers you can't cheat nature...

Vacuum must be filled.

oldienavie:

I get y our point, like I said, she has most things I desire in a woman except she is older than I would want my wife to be.
I am trying to figure out if I should take the risk, let her go and expect to find another lady that has the same qualities but is younger.

You are about to make a great mistake thinking age will make the difference,

While women age faster,

Good care makes them look younger,

Besides,if you manage to find a natured lady who tick the box at this time..that itself is deliverance...if I were you...I would set my wedding with the 32 year old by next month..

I should have made these mistake you are about to make ..but thank God,

Real women ...don't have issues with age...it's in the attitude...This makes all the difference..
I went for a 31 instead of a 25+PhD

Live have been sweeter...she knows what to do

Remember..you don't know what may befall you too,young people to me seems to be far more sicker..just waiting to happen

Bishopino:
She is 32: she is still in her prime.
You said she is a good girl and you love her: why not go ahead and marry her. Age is just a number. Some men do marry women of same age: it doesn't mean anything, what matters is the maturity and understanding.

.

32 prime??
guyyyyyyy, why na?

Ladyhippolyta88:



Which stats

You make it seem like ladies in their 20's especially of this generation are in a rush to marry or planning or being reliant on men.

So if the men are not financially stable what other cogent reason is there to marry them?none then it can be said that such marriage is not of love but one of convenience, which is the point I have been making no young lady will easily be attracted to an older man without a convenient reason to which most times involves money

You are right that women in their 20s in this generation aren't in a rush to get married. This is good news for men because we can now practice holy polygamy in the fear of God....

I for one will not marry a 33yo as an only wife... its not happening. She may be the main wife but il still hv my concubines (girlfriends)..... this is male response to this generation of young gals not marrying in their20s (have variety). So nothing spoil.

Nyascobar1414:


Non endures 4ever..
But women age faster than males....

Women age like milk and men age like wine!

Without money, both age like shit.

Ladyhippolyta88:



Which stats

You make it seem like ladies in their 20's especially of this generation are in a rush to marry or planning or being reliant on men.

So if the men are not financially stable what other cogent reason is there to marry them?none then it can be said that such marriage is not of love but one of convenience, which is the point I have been making no young lady will easily be attracted to an older man without a convenient reason to which most times involves money

Yeah you're right convience, right opportunity. They're like that. But don't you think it's much more convenient for an older lady haven't not found the 'right one' for so long? Or Haven't you seen love start to wane after marriage. To keep her, a man should learn game, how to spark genuine desire from his woman especially as she'll rely on you for sex and other things that makes her not want to lose you.

Tip: As Ironic as it may sound, you shouldn't fear losing her

BigBashiru:


This one shows ur a stark illiterate.... the higher the age of a man the higher the probability that he has moni. 26 yo guys in Nigeria are just graduating or Just finishing nysc.

Sorry, where do you live? In the trenches? Cos that's where people with slow progress are.

Uyi168:
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If you say all these bad stuffs about men above 30,why do you turn around and start weeping and gnashing teeth when we say the same about women above 30?

I've been observing your comments.

You can see the wide range of options I put there. I hope you're not also partially blind. You guys only think one thing, she spent her younger years partying and jumping on d**ks.

~

Here they come with more xtupid threads.
Why do you think someone your age even younger than you is not good enough for you?

oldienavie:
So I am 36 years and looking to settle down.
I have a lady friend who I have know for a while and is a really decent lady.
She is the type of person I would like to marry (I like conservative ladies and she is the conservative type no makeup which is what I want).
She is 32 years old.

A part of me feels it is better to wait for a while and try and get a younger "god fearing" lady.

To the men, what would you advise ?

I am kinda traditional and feel like a man should avoid marrying a lady in her 30s and also have a gap of atleast 7 years with the wife but I think I love her, I have been thinking about her lately.

Edited: A lot of people asking why I am not married at 36 years old, I was studying abroad, I just got back to naija to try and marry.

oldienavie:
So I am 36 years and looking to settle down.
I have a lady friend who I have know for a while and is a really decent lady.
She is the type of person I would like to marry (I like conservative ladies and she is the conservative type no makeup which is what I want).
She is 32 years old.

A part of me feels it is better to wait for a while and try and get a younger "god fearing" lady.

To the men, what would you advise ?

I am kinda traditional and feel like a man should avoid marrying a lady in her 30s and also have a gap of atleast 7 years with the wife but I think I love her, I have been thinking about her lately.

Edited: A lot of people asking why I am not married at 36 years old, I was studying abroad, I just got back to naija to try and marry.

Marry her.

The grass is always greener at the other side.

Uyi168:
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the sisters will be like "brother Temi, aunty fumi looks too old o"..

Brother is lucky the sisters said something, some will look at him and her, shake their head and move...

Interpretation in summary will be " Sorry"

pocohantas:


I am 44. Any other question?

Liar! You are 33.

Jman06:
You ehn

You know I apologized to you the other day because of something you did when I sounded harshly to you that got me feeling guilty, today you wanted to do the opposite. But it's OK.

I know say you be sweet sixteen, so no mind me!

It is not even about my age, but that I see nothing wrong in getting OLD. In fact, I love old age. Old age gave me firmer legs, thick thighs and big bumbum! When I was younger, I was straight as a ruler.

I am now more organized and my sixth sense is very active. I see the end from the beginning.

Even at my age, when I go to fast foods, young girls with perky agbalumo breast would be stealing stares at me. There is this confidence, charisma and swag that comes with old age. Old age really favoured me. Thank God my man met me in my old age.

BigBashiru:


You are right that women in their 20s in this generation aren't in a rush to get married. This is good news for men because we can now practice holy polygamy in the fear of God....

I for one will not marry a 33yo as an only wife... its not happening. She may be the main wife but il still hv my concubines (girlfriends)..... this is male response to this generation of young gals not marrying in their20s (have variety). So nothing spoil.

Keep dreaming

What sense did you make?

DavidHarry:


You don't have to make excuse for your age bro. At 36 you still have time more than enough time till you're 45, purpose, achievement and almost every girl will choose you for long term. Stop comparing your age to a woman. She doesn't have your time

nenyewrites:


You can see the wide range of options I put there. I hope you're not also partially blind. You guys only think one thing, she spent her younger years partying and jumping on d**ks.

95% of gals spent their younger days dismissing good guys cos they felt a better guy would come until one day they see market don dey end and that's wen they wanna get married...

We don't think they were necessarily sleeping around.....

You're too old for her.

oldienavie:
So I am 36 years and looking to settle down.
I have a lady friend who I have know for a while and is a really decent lady.
She is the type of person I would like to marry (I like conservative ladies and she is the conservative type no makeup which is what I want).
She is 32 years old.

A part of me feels it is better to wait for a while and try and get a younger "god fearing" lady.

To the men, what would you advise ?

I am kinda traditional and feel like a man should avoid marrying a lady in her 30s and also have a gap of atleast 7 years with the wife but I think I love her, I have been thinking about her lately.
Edited: A lot of people asking why I am not married at 36 years old, I was studying abroad, I just got back to naija to try and marry.

Why age consideration, has anyone told when you're departing this world? There is more to marriage than social status. You should ascertain if she is resourceful, intelligent, pious, and a few others not age difference of a few years.

pocohantas:


Is this supposed to be an insult? When will you guys get it that I am a premium evening newspaper?

Some of your mates are dead, why are you still alive? Or should a car knock you down today and slam that your coconut head against the sidewalk?

What is even wrong in being an evening newspaper?

Na still news paper and dem still dey read am na

The average naira land male is not intelligent at all

So when you were dating her she wasn't too old for you to date. Now you are saying you can't marry her because of her age after wasting all her time. There is God ooo.

Just go for her since she has all the qualities you desired ,there are some women that are older than their men ,lover conquers all .
Mostly if you're not careful you may take a wrong decision because most people on nairaland don't know what love is .

pocohantas:


It is not even about my age, but that I see nothing wrong in getting OLD. In fact, I love old age. Old age gave me firmer legs, thick highs and big bumbum! When I was younger, I was straight as a ruler.

I am now more organized and my sixth sense is very active. I see the end from the beginning.

Even at my age, when I go to fast foods, young girls with perky agbalumo breast would be stealing stares at me. There is this confidence, charisma and swag that comes with old age. Old age really favoured me. Thank God my man met me in my old age.

OK o...happy old age!

Munzy14:

Brother is lucky the sisters said something, some will look at him and her, shake their head and move...

Interpretation in summary will be " Sorry"

pocohantas:


It is okay to console yourself. If the desirability of an older man is WISDOM, my uncle with classic nuggets would be married to the most premium woman. The 42yrs old vulcanizer would easily marry a graduate from a middle class home.

Please don’t slip into delusion. The desirability of an older man is financial stability. I understand that these young girls would tell you anything for iPhone, but remove that your money, then check how many stay.

So you think a young girl of 25 from a stable home would marry you at 47 because you are wise? Then start jumping Obalende bus with you? You can’t be this slow naw.