Amazingbaby:
Update

Thankyou all for your contribution

He is back to see the kids, he has been providing a d talking to his kids daily,I guess I am the only one he has a problem with

I will take a lot of advice into consideration,we have alot of intelligent people here.

I was just surprise that he would want to employ someone he have been having secret calls and meeting with and would be arrogant about it.

My advice might not be popular but I'd advise you to calm down and change tactics. If you meet this issue with aggression then you will lose because men work with aggression that's their comfort zone.

If I was in your position then I would show my vulnerability. I would cry and be sad instead of trying to show him that I'm a bad bitch. I'm not going to lie, I'd manipulate the shi out of the situation.

If you love your husband and want him to stay with you then you can't fight him. His pride will scatter everything and he will break his home to proof a point. He is already winning because he has used your aggression as an excuse to leave.

Calm down and switch tactics, be nice, change the subject for now and be welcoming, ask him to come back home and apologize for your aggression. Once he's home then be sad and teary-eyed and cry lol!

I know all these Alfa females won't agree but you can't lose your femininity when you are faced with this kind of situation. You could get your answers without fighting for them. I guess it depends on your personality but you can catch more flies with honey.

Finally, people were able to dig out the threads. I honestly fear you Mr. Toks. For you to tell these lies on an anonymous forum, means you do worse in real life. You deny your past. You deny who you are. you teach what you don't practice or what never worked for you. One failed marriage, another failed relationship with baby mama, yet you haven't learnt. Nairaland alpha males, come and see your role model. Marriage counselor with two failed marriages.

wrongnumber:


You get time. The person they are trolling has ignored them.

Some people are making money per second on the internet and some are trolling and digging out baseless posts from the past. Joblessness of the highest order.

Naah not really but it is just so annoying that some people are just so low life like that all they do is troll and it will shock you that these people have no productive lives. Productive people don't troll because they are full of intelligence.

Someone will give his or her opinion and you will see some people abusing the person. Abeg which sane person abuses or trolls another person cos of ordinary opinion that is not binding on anyone. Many people are sick walahi.

LilMissFavvy:
Finally, people were able to dig out the threads. I honestly fear you Mr. Toks. For you to tell these lies on an anonymous forum, means you do worse in real life. You deny your past. You deny who you are. you teach what you don't practice or what never worked for you. One failed marriage, another failed relationship with baby mama, yet you haven't learnt. Nairaland alpha males, come and see your role model. Marriage counselor with two failed marriages.

Now imagine this. Please madam may i ask one question? Do you have a life? No pun intended but i was just wondering.

What if he has a failed marriage? What if he is single at 60? Of what benefit is his marital status to the progress of your life? Please take a moment to think about this.

Now lemme shock you. If you troll someone for any reason, you are indirectly lowering your standard especially if the person ignores you.

Yes this is a faceless forum but before you can expend your energy to troll please ask yourself if it will add value to your life. Me i'm just advising you.

otherway:


Naah not really but it is just so annoying that some people are just so low life like that all they do is troll and it will shock you that these people have no productive lives. Productive people don't troll because they are full of intelligence.

Someone will give his or her opinion and you will see some people abusing the person. Abeg which sane person abuses or trolls another person cos of ordinary opinion that is not binding on anyone. Many people are sick walahi.

Hahahaha this got me loling.

So you don't know that some people are useless cos honestly only a useless person trolls.

Look at how they are trolling toks and you will begin to wonder if the guy is a criminal of sort but when i meticulously went through the posts they dug up i was even more confused.

Imagine humans that are suppose to be progressive in life wasting their time digging up posts of whether somebody is single or divorced. Out of all the problems in this life simply because the guy expresses his opinion on his threads. OPINION O

Guy abeg nairaland is one place you will meet people of strange characters.

LilMissFavvy:
Finally, people were able to dig out the threads. I honestly fear you Mr. Toks. For you to tell these lies on an anonymous forum, means you do worse in real life. You deny your past. You deny who you are. you teach what you don't practice or what never worked for you. One failed marriage, another failed relationship with baby mama, yet you haven't learnt. Nairaland alpha males, come and see your role model. Marriage counselor with two failed marriages.

Wettin toks do you? Cos if it is the same posts they dug out you are referring to, i did not see one singe lie there.

How can you even accuse someone of lying when the evidence you refer contradicts your stance. there was nothing like failed marriage or even the baby mama you mentioned so stop being petty.

I am not his advocate but i cant find one lie there. Even the guy you quoted who actually dug the post out asked a valid question if he and the lady are still together and i was surprised that toks responded that Yes they are still together for 21 years and still counting.

So sister abeg go and sit down. He was probably married before most of you trolling him entered primary school. Marriages can have problems and he did not lie about that too. during the process of separation or potential divorce people refer to themselves as unmarried or single and that is perfectly ok.

I don't know if you just want to paint him bad but nairalanddetective has really made me respect him even more especially for that post dug up by sarsAproko and i learnt a great lesson from that single post.

Please free the guy, he is not forcing his opinion on anyone.

You are a big foool to ask that stupiddd question. If you didn't follow this thread you aren't supposed to quote me. I don't think you have an idea of who a relationship/marriage counselor is, or what such a person should stand for. I stated clearly that I wasn't mocking his divorce status, rather I had to call him out for his continuous support for infidelity and polygamy, even when that was what ruined his marriages. You don't even know the meaning of the word "troll", how often do you see me mention Tok's? Am I following Toks? Oga, if you don't have anything sensible to say don't mention me.

otherway:


Now imagine this. Please madam may i ask one question? Do you have a life? No pun intended but i was just wondering.

What if he has a failed marriage? What if he is single at 60? Of what benefit is his marital status to the progress of your life? Please take a moment to think about this.

Now lemme shock you. If you troll someone for any reason, you are indirectly lowering your standard especially if the person ignores you.

Yes this is a faceless forum but before you can expend your energy to troll please ask yourself if it will add value to your life. Me i'm just advising you.

Senseless long epistle. Which evidence contradicts what I said? You cannot even differentiate the difference between "separation" "divorced". Go and find out the meaning of those words first.

You can "respect him more" because you both are birds of same feather, irresponsible* hypocrites*. Which primary school are you talking about? Oga do you even know my age? When you have something sensible to say, quote me.

wrongnumber:


Wettin toks do you? Cos if it is the same posts they dug out you are referring to, i did not see one singe lie there.

How can you even accuse someone of lying when the evidence you refer contradicts your stance. there was nothing like failed marriage or even the baby mama you mentioned so stop being petty.

I am not his advocate but i cant find one lie there. Even the guy you quoted who actually dug the post out asked a valid question if he and the lady are still together and i was surprised that toks responded that Yes they are still together for 21 years and still counting.

So sister abeg go and sit down. He was probably married before most of you trolling him entered primary school. Marriages can have problems and he did not lie about that too. during the process of separation or potential divorce people refer to themselves as unmarried or single and that is perfectly ok.

I don't know if you just want to paint him bad but nairalanddetective has really made me respect him even more especially for that post dug up by sarsAproko and i learnt a great lesson from that single post.

Please free the guy, he is not forcing his opinion on anyone.

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ibechris:
Madam u see this fight is worth every stress.

Every married woman should fight for what belongs to them. Because this kind of woman is ready to tear your home apart and can do any thing possible to destroy good families out there.

As far as u are not ready to fight the lady,it is very good u fight to get your husband back,because as it is,your husband is about crossing to the other side. And do not also forget,that some of these ladies usually charmed married men and after which u see such men behaving like mumu and spending their life savings on such a LovePeddler.

Continue the fight after all,if anything happens to him tomorrow,people will not speak well of u. Now is the time to get your husband and his senses to order.

Good luck to u.

And if she loses her life in the fight what will happen to her children?

TheeDetective:
@Toks2008

You said you were married in these 2 threads below; so not sure why you think that people are making that up?

You said you were married here
https://www.nairaland.com/1284024/broken-dejected-found-out-wife/13#15658878

Another thread where you said you have been married before and mentioned about your ex
https://www.nairaland.com/2347524/10-women-christian-man-should/4#34275821

Thank you for digging this up. Your effort is appreciated.

LilMissFavvy:
You are a big foool to ask that stupiddd question. If you didn't follow this thread you aren't supposed to quote me. I don't think you have an idea of who a relationship/marriage counselor is, or what such a person should stand for. I stated clearly that I wasn't mocking his divorce status, rather I had to call him out for his continuous support for infidelity and polygamy, even when that was what ruined his marriages. You don't even know the meaning of the word "troll", how often do you see me mention Tok's? Am I following Toks? Oga, if you don't have anything sensible to say don't mention me.

Here we go again. It seems there are so many toxic people on this forum. What exactly is eating you up? you abuse anyone who does not see things the way you do and this is a terrible sign of serious mental problem, the same reason you are working yourself up over ordinary opinion of another person.

What divorce status are you talking about? Toks made it clear that he is still with his woman of 21years or did you miss that part or just wish his union failed cos you are beginning to scare me. Was it not the same you that mentioned that he has a failed marriage and even a failed baby mama but i don't see anything of such except you know something we all don't know which even makes you more dangerous because it is only a dangerous person that will bring what you know about someone to troll him on the internet.

But whichever way biko calm down and have a grip of yourself. I am a responsible man which is why im taking time to put you right. live your life and care less about other people. And let us even say he has a failed marriage, does that disqualify him from expressing his opinion on his threads? if you have been in a house before and the house collapsed i still believe your experience good or bad still qualifies you to talk to people about the house you have lived in and it is left for people to accept or reject your advice.

Sis biko this is 2022,focus more on your life and care less about who is married or divorced. My 50cents.

And lastly i insist that you are trolling because a troll is a person who posts inflammatory, insincere, digressive, extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community, with the intent of provoking readers into displaying emotional responses, or manipulating others' perception.

Have a great day and i won't bother responding to you anymore

Kobojunkie:
Thank you for digging this up. Your effort is appreciated.

I hope you remember to be this thankful and appreciative when someone digs up a past you’re trying to or have moved on from, and shoves it in your face publicly.

Imagine digging up someone’s post from way way back to shame them and people are reveling in it…the sheer wickedness in the heart of humans!
And they wonder why I cut people off.

What goes around will definitely come around.

TheeDetective:
@Toks2008

You said you were married in these 2 threads below; so not sure why you think that people are making that up?

You said you were married here
https://www.nairaland.com/1284024/broken-dejected-found-out-wife/13#15658878

Another thread where you said you have been married before and mentioned about your ex
https://www.nairaland.com/2347524/10-women-christian-man-should/4#34275821

As for you, be prepared to reap what you have sown.

Toks2008, when people dig up your past to try to shame, be thankful and let it be as a reminder to you of how far you’ve come and how much you’ve grown.
Never let your past hold you back.

wrongnumber:


Hahahaha this got me loling.

So you don't know that some people are useless cos honestly only a useless person trolls.

Look at how they are trolling toks and you will begin to wonder if the guy is a criminal of sort but when i meticulously went through the posts they dug up i was even more confused.

Imagine humans that are suppose to be progressive in life wasting their time digging up posts of whether somebody is single or divorced. Out of all the problems in this life simply because the guy expresses his opinion on his threads. OPINION O

Guy abeg nairaland is one place you will meet people of strange characters.

To be honest, the Toks guy self too dey talk.

Always replying every mention trying to prove a point even when the other person is in it just for argument sake.

He allowed it degenerate to this level.

Sometimes you come here, post your opinion and leave regardless of whose ox is goad.

It's not every mention or counter opinion you reply to.

It's that simple.

Raalsalghul:


To be honest, the Toks guy self too dey talk.

Always replying every mention trying to prove a point even when the other person is in it just for argument sake.

He allowed it degenerate to this level.

Sometimes you come here, post your opinion and leave regardless of whose ox is goad.

It's not every mention or counter opinion you reply to.

It's that simple.

I agree with you perfectly but then i guess he did well by ignoring these trolls. And see sometimes it is not that easy to look away as you suggested but it is the best thing to do.

LilMissFavvy:
Senseless long epistle. Which evidence contradicts what I said? You cannot even differentiate the difference between "separation" "divorced". Go and find out the meaning of those words first.

You can "respect him more" because you both are birds of same feather, irresponsible* hypocrites*. Which primary school are you talking about? Oga do you even know my age? When you have something sensible to say, quote me.

Aunty i put it to you that you are a dngerous human being and i dont pray for my enemy to associate with somebody like you.

You started with lies about him having a failed marriage and even baby mama and that is a pointer that you are eviil cos it is only a trribly eviil person that will do that.

I carefully went through all the posts dug up and i can only marvel at how terible some humans are because there is no single post of his that put him in a bad light. I believe he is too intelligent to write on social media what he is not willing to share cos he will never post such if he has anything to hide.

Bad people will always read bad meaning to anything good but for me, he has earned my respect more than ever before.

My advise for you again. Get a life cos you sound miserabl and frstrated to go this low and same goes to everyone that has trolled him on this thread especially the guys who have acted so shamelessly. Such a pity that some men have no respect for themselves to the point of trolling a fellow man all because he writes his personal opinion on his threads that can be ignored by anyone who does not fancy them. This is shameful.

Mariangeles:


I hope you remember to be this thankful and appreciative when someone digs up a past you’re trying to or have moved on from, and shoves it in your face publicly.

Imagine digging up someone’s post from way way back to shame them and people are reveling in it…the sheer wickedness in the heart of humans!
And they wonder why I cut people off.

What goes around will definitely come around.

Don't mind the shameless guy trolling a guy who has kept a relationship for 21years despite the turbulence when most of them can't even keep a relationship for a year. And i beg to differ that they brought no shame to the guy at all. If toks does not want to open up he will never put it online in the first place.

I actually thought it was something more serious until i went through the posts they dug up just to realize there is no single issue except the one they maliciously create.

You are indeed a reasonable person. Kudos

You are a hypocrite*. You are just like him. He said he has never been divorced, and no woman has ever left him, yet same Toks has a past life of failed marriages/relationship, same Toks encourages infidelity/polygamy, yet same Toks claims to be a relationship counselor, and you expect he shouldn't be called out? Likes attract likes, and for you to respect him means you are a complete loitersack* in comparison to him. The threads that has been dugged out, doesn't even seem to be the thread I saw in 2019, however they have exposed necessary information, and if you didn't see it, then you definitely are blind*. Go and put your miserable* life together, go and put your family together.

wrongnumber:


Aunty i put it to you that you are a dngerous human being and i dont pray for my enemy to associate with somebody like you.

You started with lies about him having a failed marriage and even baby mama and that is a pointer that you are eviil cos it is only a trribly eviil person that will do that.

I carefully went through all the posts dug up and i can only marvel at how terible some humans are because there is no single post of his that put him in a bad light. I believe he is too intelligent to write on social media what he is not willing to share cos he will never post such if he has anything to hide.

Bad people will always read bad meaning to anything good but for me, he has earned my respect more than ever before.

My advise for you again. Get a life cos you sound miserabl and frstrated to go this low and same goes to everyone that has trolled him on this thread especially the guys who have acted so shamelessly. Such a pity that some men have no respect for themselves to the point of trolling a fellow man all because he writes his personal opinion on his threads that can be ignored by anyone who does not fancy them. This is shameful.

LilMissFavvy:
You are a hypocrite*. You are just like him. He said he has never been divorced, and no woman has ever left him, yet same Toks has a past life of failed marriages/relationship, same Toks encourages infidelity/polygamy, yet same Toks claims to be a relationship counselor, and you expect he shouldn't be called out? Likes attract likes, and for you to respect him means you are complete loitersack* in comparison to him. The threads that has been dugged out, doesn't even seem to be the thread I saw in 2019, however they have exposed necessary information, and if you didn't see it, then you definitely are blind*. Go and put your miserable* life together, go and put your family together.

You are still on this matter. Sis did you read those posts at all?

Please can you go back and fetch out where he said he was divorced? maybe i did not read well? Not that it is our business if he is divorced but i just want to be clear cos what i read according to him is that he was separated and in A POTENTIAL divorce mess. Or is that the word confusing you?

Infact i have seen couples actually annul their marriage and still comeback together so what exactly are you driving at.

And can you also let us see where he encourages infidelity? i follow his threads back to back and all he has always done was to express his opinion about women leaving their husbands over infidelity cos it is not worth it. Is this what you call encouraging infidelity?

Sis i will advise you again. Forget this matter because what you are writing is very demeaning on your person. You dont get angry or attack the personal life of someone because he expresses his opinion that he is entitled to. Such act is ridiculous in all ramifications. Learn to ignore his threads rather than pour your emotions. That you hate his opinion does not mean others hate it and more regrettable is that you are also angry because he encourages polygamy like seriously! did you actually write that?

Sis please rest this matter.

I should show you what is clearly seen on the thread by majority? You keep typing long messages, I got no time to read long epistles. However I agree that Toks has been trolled badly on this thread, but he deserves it. If you delete your messages to me above, (your messages on this particular page) I will also delete mine, let the thread die off, he has been trolled badly, I agree.

wrongnumber:


You are still on this matter. Sis did you read those posts at all?

Please can you go back and fetch out where he said he was divorced? maybe i did not read well? Not that it is our business if he is divorced but i just want to be clear cos what i read according to him is that he was separated and in A POTENTIAL divorce mess. Or is that the word confusing you?

Infact i have seen couples actually annul their marriage and still comeback together so what exactly are you driving at.

And can you also let us see where he encourages infidelity? i follow his threads back to back and all he has always done was to express his opinion about women leaving their husbands over infidelity cos it is not worth it. Is this what you call encouraging infidelity?

Sis i will advise you again. Forget this matter because what you are writing is very demeaning on your person. You dont get angry or attack the personal life of someone because he expresses his opinion that he is entitled to. Such act is ridiculous in all ramifications. Learn to ignore his threads rather than pour your emotions. That you hate his opinion does not mean others hate it and more regrettable is that you are also angry because he encourages polygamy like seriously! did you actually write that?

Sis please rest this matter.

Lalasticlala
Can u help close this thread, thankyou.

Mariangeles:


As for you, be prepared to reap what you have sown.

Iya nwanem, na here you dey ?

I think say na only food Channel i go see you.

LilMissFavvy:
I should show you what is clearly seen on the thread by majority? You keep typing long messages, I got no time to read long epistles. However I agree that Toks has been trolled badly on this thread, but he deserves it. If you delete your messages to me above, (your messages on this particular page) I will also delete mine, let the thread die off, he has been trolled badly, I agree.

U should know you are replying the same person with different Monika. Just ignore.

Someone said the exact thing you are saying in a particular page of this thread. Its true......I move.

iamL:


U should know you are replying the same person with different Monika. Just ignore.

wrongnumber:


I agree with you perfectly but then i guess he did well by ignoring these trolls. And see sometimes it is not that easy to look away as you suggested but it is the best thing to do.

U didn't ignore anybody you simply went away out of shame. If one tell lies and continue to deceive others that person will be exposed someday even online.

Mariangeles:


I hope you remember to be this thankful and appreciative when someone digs up a past you’re trying to or have moved on from, and shoves it in your face publicly.

Imagine digging up someone’s post from way way back to shame them and people are reveling in it…the sheer wickedness in the heart of humans!
And they wonder why I cut people off.

What goes around will definitely come around.

Nobody is reaping any nonsense. Why lie in first place?

That was how A NL that was arrested and jailed in the US for child rape came here on this thread in November https://www.nairaland.com/6793272/follow-up-nigerian-locked-up To deny that he didn't do it.

Some of us even on reached out to him in the US thinking he was innocent until he all his other crimes were dug out and exposed. Since then If I catch any lier trying to deceive others i do speak out.

Am out of this thread.

iamL:


U didn't ignore anybody you simply went away out of shame. If one tell lies and continue to deceive others that person will be exposed someday even online.

Who is this? Look here lady, not everyone on nairaland is hopeles and as a man you should not expect me to take sides with you ladies and the shameless guys involved. How predictable you ladies are. I have been expecting this unintelligent assertion for long but it came too late.

So if i had supported your shamless act of trolling i guess i will definitely be a different entity but now i am toks as well as the other guy and the lady quoted above who condemned you all for your shamelss act of trolling.

You people are siick but una never see anybody to tell you. Continue to rant and die on top his matter but please dont quote me ever again on this issue. It is obvious you lot dont have a life cos no progressive lady will have this time to wail over a guy marital status whether he kept it to himself or lied or did whatever abeg how does that affect your life. This is gross.

iamL:


Nobody is reaping any nonsense. Why lie in first place?

That was how A NL that was arrested and jailed in the US for child rape came here on this thread in November https://www.nairaland.com/6793272/follow-up-nigerian-locked-up To deny that he didn't do it.

Some of us even on reached out to him in the US thinking he was innocent until he all his other crimes were dug out and exposed. Since then If I catch any lier trying to deceive others i do speak out.

Am out of this thread.

This is where i get confused. You just alleged that he lied but the screenshot i saw talking about the posts they dug up did not show any lie abi he wooed you people outside nairaland and lied to you?

he has never lied either in the first second or third place but he clearly maintained in his past posts that he is with a woman he is married to and he went on to explain the issue but still believes things will be ok so where is the lie? honestly you ladies are dngerous. Please i beg once more, make una rest this matter.

wrongnumber:


Who is this? Look here lady, not everyone on nairaland is hopeles and as a man you should not expect me to take sides with you ladies and the shameless guys involved. How predictable you ladies are. I have been expecting this unintelligent assertion for long but it came too late.

So if i had supported your shamless act of trolling i guess i will definitely be a different entity but now i am toks as well as the other guy and the lady quoted above who condemned you all for your shamelss act of trolling.

You people are siick but una never see anybody to tell you. Continue to rant and die on top his matter but please dont quote me ever again on this issue. It is obvious you lot dont have a life cos no progressive lady will have this time to wail over a guy marital status whether he kept it to himself or lied or did whatever abeg how does that affect your life. This is gross.



This is where i get confused. You just alleged that he lied but the screenshot i saw talking about the posts they dug up did not show any lie abi he wooed you people outside nairaland and lied to you?

he has never lied either in the first second or third place but he clearly maintained in his past posts that he is with a woman he is married to and he went on to explain the issue but still believes things will be ok so where is the lie? honestly you ladies are dngerous. Please i beg once more, make una rest this matter.

Still on this matter? Toks must be giving these ladies sleepless nights lol!

Guy i think there is more to this and im not sure but maybe there is something these ladies know that we don't know. Maybe Toks have wooed them outside nairaland because i honestly cant see any lie in those screen shots that are still there for reference. Or are they pained that the fine dude is off the market The guy no mind polygamy o so they can still shook head. Interesting thread i must say.

Saintmary:


This story is not written by a woman.

my taut exactly. If naa woman actually type am, d story go long with enough details, and dates of d happenstances,etc. d emotions go too much for d epistle as she pourd out her heart and ask us to be praying extra for her and her home self.

armyofone:


Iya nwanem, na here you dey ?

I think say na only food Channel i go see you.

Iya mi, ere la n se n’ibi yi o. Ere ayo.

Olowun o ni je ki a pade esu l’ori nairaland.

Mariangeles:


Iya mi, ere la n se n’ibi yi o. Ere ayo.

Olowun o ni je ki a pade esu l’ori nairaland.

Mimi is armyofone a lady?
I seemed to be pretty confused