padi94:
Guy pls use every thing in you to scatter that marriage... Call her to bribe you with sex, if she consent then expose her further as a useless fool

hmmm! nice one baba!!

Reex12:
I doubt he is, women pretend alot especially when marriage is concerned you'll see her acting like mother mary but will turn to a demon after you walk that aisle

Udofia234 take action ASAP and don't delay she knows what she did to u, knows u stil have beef, sptwp comes into play either she calls u for reconcilation or she plans to fight u bfor u expose her, and ruin her engagement. So since u not forgiving her better act fast now and spoil her joy for ruining ur source of livelihood (job)

Thanks brother!!! I'm seriously working to scatter that relationship

duduade:



Thank you o Bro...


He just dey rant upandan.... I didn't even know you had talked about being [/b]a brother to one of the top directors in Dangote[b] and even listed so many options on how to tackle the issue at hand...

Me I don even yab am sef

He go be temperamental gan o

.I'm not a temperamental guy!!! she only tried to take advantage of my gentility and a kind of church guy

Just reading through a majority of the comments on here, you begin to understand why they say Nigeria is an open mental healthcare facility. A retributive mindset even without knowing the facts and feet that are in a hurry to enforce evil upon others! Hmm!

Thank God there are still some sane minds in that country as evidenced by the response and comments of a few of you on here.

On Sunday/Friday, you will populate Churches and Mosques and be shouting at the top of your voices. Then you come out of your place of worship and you go and embrace the Devil and call him father. Then we will blame our leaders alone for our problems.

xrucifix05:
All these are unnecessary threat. If your cousin wants her at all cost. There is absolutely nothing you can do.

oh!! really? Let's see now!!! I'll come back here to give u the feed back!!!

josephevergreen:
Play mature about this okay remember you re not living with them.

I will sir!!

NemoDatQuod:
Just reading through a majority of the comments on here, you begin to understand why they say Nigeria is an open mental health facility. A retributive mindset even without knowing the facts and feet that are in a hurry to enforce evil upon others! Hmm!

Thank God there are very few sane minds still in that country as evidenced by the response and comments of a few of you on here.

On Sunday/Friday. virtually all of you will populate Churches and Mosques and be shouting at the top of your voices. Then you come out of your place of worship and you go and embrace the Devil and call him father. Then we will blame our leaders alone for our problems.

so you see no wrong in what she did to me? I was pained, wept and lost my means of livelihood!!! bro u are being partial here

duduade:



Na why you dey receive insult from her back then na

Sorry o Brother to one of the top directors in Dangote.... As if you were instrumental to his growth career wise... Entitlement issues....

My friend carry your anger issues and gerrraaaaaaout of herer mehnnnn

Tufiakwa

you can talk like this because you are not in my shoes!! anuofia

yommyoke:


Im just reading this and laughing, you mean your brother is one of top directors in dangote and you were there trying to work in an uncomfortable place!?
Better man up and face tour own life.
You can tell your bro about the kind of witch she is and see how he treats the situation.
A good bro will find a way to settle you and see that you get justice.
But that doesn't mean they can't marry, what if they leave you out of the whole arrangements?
It's better to count your lose and move on, make your grudges no throw you for backdoor

I'm working somewhere bigger , better and more comfortable now!!!

general111:
Op just call your cousin aside and tell him what you suffered in her hands..
Call your parents and tell them what you suffered too..
And walk away..
If he decides to marry her, let him marry her.
Dont fight it, else you become an enemy..
A woman that can attempt to slap a man because she is her boss, will kill her husband oh..

Thanks sir!!!

general111:
exactly what i wanted to say to him...

Hmmm!!! she's only going to pretend till she marries my bro!!! she will cut that relationship in our family!!! it won't happen

udofia234:



I don't think I need to speak to my cousin for now, I'll first tell my parents first then him later. My parents decision will be the final

First tell your cousin .... not parents. Rain on his parade he'll hate you for life.

Originalsly:


First tell your cousin .... not parents. Rain on his parade he'll hate you for life.

OK bro!

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Relationship nva even reach 6months nigga wn cun rush carry her come show off for una.

Wahala is pending.

marlow1962:

Relationship nva even reach 6months nigga wn cun rush carry her come show off for una.

Wahala is pending.

Na wao bro!!! the girl is just pretending

udofia234:



Na wao bro!!! the girl is just pretending

Ah swear

Which one be she can never come to my family as if say na you get the choice to decide, just tell your bro all her evil nature and let life be.

obinna58:
Which one be she can never come to my family as if say na you get the choice to decide, just tell your bro all her evil nature and let life be.

I'm only doing this out of my concern for my brother, family , if a lady can do that to me she can do worse when she marries my cousin

she can never marry my cousin, whatever I need to do financially, physically, spiritually I'll do it, she must pay for her wickedness!!! she can go scot free

If you read through my comments, there is no where I said or even insinuated that I support what she did or did not do. I really do not know what she did because all I've got is your perspective on the matter. Regardless, I may not have lived long enough, but I have experienced more than enough to know that retribution results in very short lived satisfaction and does sometimes backfire fantastically on the retributor.

Every human who wants to live a successful life must start by acknowledging that there is someone greater than us, our manufacturer. Just as when you do not follow the manufacturer's manual for your high value luxury car, the vehicle will come to harm or not last long, so also it is with humans. Our manufacturer says that vengeance belongs to Him alone and He clearly instructed that we should not avenge ourselves.

You are actually missing the opportunity to understand this young lady and what drove her actions. This is the opportunity to have a sit down with her, explain to her the facts of what she did to you (in a respectful manner, though she is younger than you. You keep talking about being Senior. You are not Senior in anything. You just happen to have started walking this earth before her. That is all) and very clearly point out how it made you feel and what the result was. Give her the opportunity to tell you how she saw you and what she thinks of you. The feedback you will get may actually make you pause, make adjustments and be much better career wise. Or it may just be that she was being a 23 year old who was not qualified to run anything let alone a micro finance company(by the way, why is the capital required to run them so low to the extent that every Tom, Dick and Harry can own one in Nigeria?), in which case you would have shown your maturity and hence be at peace with yourself.

Life as it is, is hard already. We should not complicate matters for ourselves by going after retribution. It saps our energy and holds us in darkness, even when we do not know it.

udofia234:



so you see no wrong in what she did to me? I was pained, wept and lost my means of livelihood!!! bro u are being partial here

udofia234:


I'm only doing this out of my concern for my brother, family , if a lady can do that to me she can do worse when she marries my cousin

It seemed more like you're doing it bcoz you hate the lady, if your bro sees this it'll look like a desperate attempt to stop his goal, it'll be difficult to take advices from your side.

NemoDatQuod:
If you read through my comments, there is no where I said or even insinuated that I support what she did or did not do. I really do not know what she did because all I've got is your perspective on the matter. Regardless, I may not have lived long enough, but I have experienced more than enough to know that retribution results in very short lived satisfaction and does sometimes backfire fantastically on the retributor.

Every human who wants to live a successful life must start by acknowledging that there is someone greater than us, our manufacturer. Just as when you do not follow the manufacturer's manual for your high value luxury car, the vehicle will come to harm or not last long, so also it is with humans. Our manufacturer says that vengeance belongs to Him alone and He clearly instructed that we should not avenge ourselves.

You are actually missing the opportunity to understand this young lady and what drove her actions. This is the opportunity to have a sit down with her, explain to her the facts of what she did to you (in a respectful manner, though she is younger than you. You keep talking about being Senior. You are not Senior in anything. You just happen to have started walking this earth before her. That is all) and very clearly point out how it made you feel and what the result was. Give her the opportunity to tell you how she saw you and what she thinks of you. The feedback you will get may actually make you pause, make adjustments and be much better career wise. Or it may just be that she was being a 23 year old who was not qualified to run anything let alone a micro finance company(by the way, why is the capital required to run them so low to the extent that every Tom, Dick and Harry can own one in Nigeria?), in which case you would have shown your maturity and hence be at peace with yourself.

Life as it is, is hard already. We should not complicate matters for ourselves by going after retribution. It saps our energy and holds us in darkness, even when we do not know it.

Bro! if she realises her fault and tenders a genuine apology from the heart may be God might then smile at her!!! But anything short of that is not acceptable

obinna58:

It seemed more like you're doing it bcoz you hate the lady, if your bro sees this it'll look like a desperate attempt to stop his goal, it'll be difficult to take advices from your side.

bro I can't lie I'm really pained, this lady called me thrash, humiliated me ah!!! I feel a sharp pain in my heart anytime I remember what she did to me

What you have to do to get revenge is to bargain with her. Tell her you will expose all her wickedness. You have threatened her with sex if really she loves your cousin brother. You vent all your anger using many sex styles including wheel barrow and monkey styles, you have to drink Viagra and alomo bitters.
The repayment strategy will be coded and secretive btw two of you.
You can now forgive her. Where your cousin breaks her heart is none of my biz for he has to collect him own share.

That's how to pay back

OP if dah girl enter ya family she go cos una trouble u Don even see her behavior don't trust some of Dem girls they re pretenders once dem enter u self go dey wonder which useless character Dem carry come

Op no fall our hand oo, this is a payback time. As for one of our male lecturer that has chosen to be a dick on my matter, I dey wait for am after service. Know this and know peace, no body has monopoly for wickedness, if you do me I do you, life goes on.

What a coincidence.....

Omi leyan....human beings na water oo...you can meet anywhere

Streetmovement:
Wotoporiously speaking

He was humiliated with a thousand roses of pain that had a gift card called "a heavy heart" love and kindness didn't know him in person, nor did favour call out his name but he walked a lonely road hearing about the good deeds of the circumstances surrounding him even though he had options hanging around the corner but it didn't choose him, now he's free, grown and alone walking through the mystery of life, family, relationships and unexpected events of circumstances, then comes his past but this time she wears a smile covered with pretence and unrevealing nature, what can he do to help the present stay alive? What can he do to make the past forgotten? "Family is all he got but love and hate consumes the space between family and his past, his past is a woman with lots of unhealthy baggage towards him" now hate has a score to settle with his past and her name is "love and hate". I wonder if the universe works for his favour or otherwise.


Op do what you can from the write up above and whatever you do or whichever way you feel is necessary, let it be intentional. NOBODY IS AN ISLAND OF VIOLENCE OR PEACE.

BUT never take the fight to your cousin 'rather advice him. He's innocent.

you be YOGA MAN...I like this your write up...no monopoly of Kala,daju,Iwa ika wetin come pain me pass for the OP be say baba say him tears like small pikin

udofia234:



bro I can't lie I'm really pained, this lady called me thrash, humiliated me ah!!! I feel a sharp pain in my heart anytime I remember what she did to me

We grow every day, grow out of unnecessary pain and focus, accept things have to be the way it is and make peace with your soul, this will create balance.
Doesn't change the fact that you'll have to tell your bro exactly what happened so he can open third eye against the witch, she'll surely show her trueself, love might be blinding him for now.

virginprincess:
Tales by moonlight.

you are heartless.

Aklee4994:
you be YOGA MAN...I like this your write up...no monopoly of Kala,daju,Iwa ika wetin come pain me pass for the OP be say baba say him tears like small pikin

Wotoporiously speaking

That part pain me too

udofia234:
Good morning everyone!!! I'm so so going to pay her back with the coin she paid me!!! I once worked in a micro finance bank as a marketer and my MD happen to be the relative of the owner of the company and guess what friends she's just 23 year (graduate) when I go the job I was 33 years then, guy she was even the one who employed me and she happens to know I'm also a senior graduate and older than her! this lady is so rude!!! I could remember the day a customer called her to lodge a complain which was false sh never waited to hear my own story, this lady insulted me eh! after I left her presence I went to the rest room and wept bitterly, but since there was no job I had to manage it, but this lady picks on me at any slightest mistake, I couldn't attend my brothers wedding because of her, I lost my relationship with my brother because we where very close and we planned it all together! Guys I know u won't believe this! I resigned from that work simply because she attempted to slap me when we had a little argument but thank God I was smart I dodged it, if I had my chance I would have beaten her but I can't because I'm not trained that way, so I simply resigned and relocated away from that place. To my utter amassment my mum called me that my cousin who state with is from childhood until he graduated from the university and now works with dangote was bringing his fiancee to the house to show them, I was happy and told my mum I'll come over. I couldn't believe my eyes when I saw this stupid, useless and God forsaking bastard of a girl that never Regarded me as anything, she humiliated me out of that place!!! I hate her so much, when they came into the house cause we where sited already waiting eagerly for them, my brother was the first to come in and then her , when our eyes met she was shocked and uncomfortable, I was so infuriated that I gave an excise and left them there, and I know her conscience is judging her already!!! I haven't told my cousin and dad the kind of lady that is about to join our family!!! And I'm bent on destroying every thing , I swear he won't marry that Jezebel of a lady!!! imagine me!!! the lady that insulted my whole life was greeting me and smiling!!! to who? guys I doubt anyone one of you will also allow this union to happen!!!

bro i am in support of you. I myself also no longer take nonesense again. if i was in your shoe its at that moment i would even tell my cousine right in front of her, "that this is the thing you want to marry? a thing that insulted the entire famile when i was working with her then. I will add salt and maggi join sef.