Romanoff:


No. You're trying to get me to tell you that women are generally materialistic in their choices of spouses but I can't relate cause i might not have a lot of friends but the ones I have are sensible.

So if you attract lazy and vain females or if that's what you see around, that's all on you and not for me to validate.

Bye sir.

You put up very intelligent points in this debate but the thing with arguing with males is that they hate losing to females so they keep taking you round in circles until they wear you out or they change the topic to another one they can defend properly or they start using ad hominens and telling you how you are irrational or untruthful or emotional and so on.
Very difficult and irritating gender.

CHoccolaTE:


You put up very intelligent points in this debate but the thing with arguing with males is that they hate losing to females so they keep taking you round in circles until they wear you out or they change the topic to another one they can defend properly or they start using ad hominens and telling you how you are irrational or untruthful or emotional and so on.
Very difficult and irritating gender.

I know this too well. It's why I know how to stand my ground and stay on my own point.

I admire guys here who can argue intelligently and civilly. Them no reach 10 for this forum.

@topic,

There is nothing wrong with girls from single parent homes, stigmatizing them is another one way to force women to stay in toxic marriages, tolerating abusive men so they don't end up making their daughters products of broken homes.


Some girls that come from homes where both parents are present also end up as bad wives because their parents never respected or loved each other and were always fighting, or the parents lived like brother and sister, no intimacy, closeness or affection.

The important thing is the common sense and wisdom of the wife or husband, not whether their parents divorced or stayed together in unhappy marriages.

Romanoff:


I know this too well. It's why I know how to stand my ground and stay on my own point.

I admire guys here who can argue intelligently and civilly. Them no reach 10 for this forum.

Honestly, the mindset of males on this forum makes me pity Nigerian women. These are the men they are married or have to tolerate at the office, compound etc.

I wish I can stand my ground when arguing with them but I have a short temper and I am likely to start using rude words when they spout nonsense, which always ruins the debate.

CHoccolaTE:


Honestly, the mindset of males on this forum makes me pity Nigerian women. These are the men they are married or have to tolerate at the office, compound etc.

I wish I can stand my ground when arguing with them but I have a short temper and I am likely to start using rude words when they spout nonsense, which always ruins the debate.

Most of them here are kids hiding under the cloak of anonymity.

It's how they contribute to marital issues that will make you realize that they are nothing but kids who are either still collecting pocket money from their parents or are just "woke" on Nairaland but are closeted simps.

pleasureosondu:
if you go into an exam Hall to take a test without adequate preparation, do you expect to pass?

But what makes you think your childhood experience with your parents is the preparation you need for this said exam?

And also, what in the world led you to conclude that marriage is meant as some sort of exam for Pete's sake?

pleasureosondu:
Agree it wasn't the kid's fault but do we should now continue to trend and accept divorce? If parents divorce with flimsy excuses, what guarantee do you have that their innocent ( now adults) won't do same to their partner? And it's always the ladies that are quick to file for divorce. Just check Nairaland's front-page

Why do I keep sensing that your posts are born of anxiety? So many irrational conclusions and behind them all is a fear that hurt awaits you in the future as a result of your own past and possibly that of others.

@op.. you forgot that those single or separated parents came from parents that are together. There is no formula to couple that will stay together or not. We should just hope and work towards having the type of family we desire.

Kobojunkie:
Why do I keep sensing that your posts are born of anxiety? So many irrational conclusions and behind them all is a fear that hurt awaits you in the future as a result of your own past and possibly that of others.

The saying "Once bitten, twice shy" isn't an irrational statement but factual and only a few wise individuals can see through it.

I'd have expected you to have debunked my statements with fact since you already admitted that I may have been a victim. So, Tell us why we shouldn't be careful with a girl from a seperated home since she's mostly likely, not gonna have the necessary qualities needed to keep a marriage which makes her vulnerable to walk away from a marriage if there's crisis as is the norm today. After all, that's what her parents did. So, debunk that statement with facts.

mylove4God:
@op.. you forgot that those single or separated parents came from parents that are together. There is no formula to couple that will stay together or not. We should just hope and work towards having the type of family we desire.

Agreed but if we go this way, the point of this thread will be diverted. So, let's stay on the topic which is, it's quite difficult to wife a lady from a separated home. The challenges they created is completely different and tougher from ladies that has both parents living together.

Kobojunkie:
But what makes you think your childhood experience with your parents is the preparation you need for this said exam?

And also, what in the world made you conclude that marriage is meant as some sort of exam for Pete's sake?

1. You can't give what you don't have. There's are reasons why parents are considered as a child's best teacher. You're definitely not a parent,so you won't understand.

2. Life has stages. The experiences and challenges you currently have, you never had them 10 years and more are incoming as you grow older. If you don't address your current issues, you can't move forward to the next stage. Marriage is a stage for those who are prepared, not for some Hot folk.

Noooooo

pleasureosondu:
With the increase in the number of divorce in Nigeria, it's clear that kids from separated homes will increase. For those born in the early 1990's, many witnessed their parents live together even when they were clearly incompatible. You learn by observing how they "managed" themselves but today, people divorce with flimsy excuses rather than to look for practical solutions to the problem.

If parents continue with this divorce trend, they are indirectly setting a new standard- that divorce is the easy way out of a marriage. So, how will their kids (when they become adults) know how to manage their families since they didn't learn the qualities that holds marriage due to the fact that their parents were separated? As a guy, will you be comfortable marrying a girl with such family background?

Did she separate her parents?.

Be ready to carry the blame

I can't
Because they didn't enjoy those type of parent love.

Many of the divorces today are from people whose parents have been together for a long time. It has no correlation. This is how people miss out on their soul mates with useless standards.

Thanks for sharing..

That's a red flag

Are you marrying her parents?
Would it also be right for a lady to marry a man whose parents are separated?

pleasureosondu:
If this thread makes front-page, I'll open one for the ladies.

fully behind you.

No i can marry a hoe like Siofra who doesn't even know her father

That shouldnt be a barrier. I'm from a broken home. Among all my prayers is that my children shouldnt experience a broken home.

But it's okay to marry men from separated parents. This forum is so full of garbage that it stinks.

I said it: after the clown was exposed for living a double life (as a red pill hater boy online and on the other hand a slave husband to a woman who out earns him), others would bring up new topics to continue the misogyny. Then, that failing, they will retrieve the old vomit from the sewer where they invent such topics, and resume the usual drivel. This is one of such topics.

Since malignant guest was busted, the place has received less anti-female posts.

pleasureosondu:
With the increase in the number of divorce in Nigeria, it's clear that kids from separated homes will increase. For those born in the early 1990's, many witnessed their parents live together even when they were clearly incompatible. You learn by observing how they "managed" themselves but today, people divorce with flimsy excuses rather than to look for practical solutions to the problem.

If parents continue with this divorce trend, they are indirectly setting a new standard- that divorce is the easy way out of a marriage. So, how will their kids (when they become adults) know how to manage their families since they didn't learn the qualities that holds marriage due to the fact that their parents were separated? As a guy, will you be comfortable marrying a girl with such family background?

This isn't a problem but run any partner that brings the parent into your matter ool

I no think say people dey reason that tin self... Marry where u get peace abeg

Immatex:


Continue saying nonsense, wise one!

You have stigma and think you are spiritual and wise!!!

I don't think its nonsense

there is a higher chance of children of divorced parents getting divorced.

So you have to Consciously be against it both as the child of the divorced parents and the person marrying the child

pleasureosondu:
If this thread makes front-page, I'll open one for the ladies.

oya answer

There's a saying; a dog reared by a woman eats chicken egg. Traditionally, it's a bad omen for a dog to feed on egg.

i'm a victim on one that couldnt be managed,

Omo e hard o....i cant advise u
Spiritual intervention is strongly required...or rely on calculated risk or luck

Fiscus105:




If a man marries a lady from single mum, I will advise him to have big endurance, because, ladies that usually brought up from single mum, normally lack experience of how wife do take care of husband and submissive in marriage.

....... she might not know, how "not" to welcome different visitors at home, male inclusive (cos her single mum she knew, normally do it)

She might not know, how to buy good/replace husband dishes that they used to serve food (cos she never experienced that her mother served her dad food before)

She might go out and come back home whenever she wants (her experience from her mother,who is not under any man)etc

you lie my friend…..We we’re raised by widowed mother all by herself, after she lost her husband when I was 3, she is so Godly nd taught everyone on how to live nd respect their spouse……she goes as far as settling close couples. So my dear, when someone is bad, that person is bad, irrespective of the family’s background……you all know the main cause of divorce in our society, so stop making it look like they weren’t raised properly.