pleasureosondu:
With the increase in the number of divorce in Nigeria, it's clear that kids from separated homes will increase. For those born in the early 1990's, many witnessed their parents live together even when they were clearly incompatible. You learn by observing how they "managed" themselves but today, people divorce with flimsy excuses rather than to look for practical solutions to the problem.

If parents continue with this divorce trend, they are indirectly setting a new standard- that divorce is the easy way out of a marriage. So, how will their kids (when they become adults) know how to manage their families since they didn't learn the qualities that holds marriage due to the fact that their parents were separated? As a guy, will you be comfortable marrying a girl with such family background?

Ok.

Very very risky to marry a girl raised by a single mother.

Most girls raised by single mum tend to be wayward cos their is no male presence in their life to call them to order. Some of them will end up being too bitter and hate men because their mom already poisoned their hearts.

I dont blame people who divorced for whatever reason. Its their choice. But I can't advice any man to marry a woman raised by a single mum.

Be wise!!!

😝

Romanoff:


With an outburst like this, you're obviously the sick one.

Over someone you know nothing about.

Get well soon o.

Gerraout! Chronic unrepentant liar.

Single toxic sick lady claiming to be married and have dated a senators son. Trying to turn stories from too many african movie into her reality.

Fvck you!!!

Otunbakayce:
Gerraout! Chronic unrepentant liar.

Single toxic sick lady claiming to be married and have dated a senators son. Trying to turn stories from too many african movie into her reality.

Fvck you!!!

Pele o

Romanoff:


I know this too well. It's why I know how to stand my ground and stay on my own point.

I admire guys here who can argue intelligently and civilly. Them no reach 10 for this forum.

you always come up with valid point when debating with all this dude.
You’re just the only reasonable woman in this forum....indeed you’re a YOGA WOMAN.

Romanoff:


Pele o

Pele, olorun a GBA e la.

Wetin dey there? Abi na me cause their separation.

Otunbakayce:
Pele, olorun a GBA e la.

Claim the prayer for yourself.

You clearly need it.

-My answer is a fat No. Neither will I advise any of my kiddos to, if they ask my opinion though.

-I wouldn't even marry (pay bride price) of a woman without her seal of approval- hymen intact. As we all know, hymen is the god of marriage.

-Marry them at your own expense. Gene and Environment things....

Romanoff:
Better to marry someone who was raised in a healthy environment by a single parent than to marry someone who was raised in a toxic and abusive two parent household.

Ugo. C. Shege.

Just do your research well on the parent that raised her and the circumstances behind her parents separation.

Wouldn't accessing those with that information prove abortive considering they could be dead or difficult to reach? I'll rather be partnerless.

odaniel1:


Wouldn't accessing those with that information prove abortive considering they could be dead or difficult to reach? I'll rather be partnerless.

Haba, so all members of the family died?

Are all divorcees from single parent household?

Romanoff:
Better to marry someone who was raised in a healthy environment by a single parent than to marry someone who was raised in a toxic and abusive two parent household.

Ugo. C. Shege.

Just do your research well on the parent that raised her and the circumstances behind her parents separation.

You're very wise

Naira20:
If it's up to you alone, Avoid it.
Except there's a clear Divine instruction or she hates living that life.

Most times, it affects them negatively and they'd take it out on you.

Be wise

My brother, you are right.
For me, if you can avoid marrying from a broken home, pls do. If fate leads one that way, then one likely bears the negatives. And truelly, the nagatives are there.

Klass99:




I can't stop laughing from these comments. Nice one ladies.

JJ please tag me when you get a response to your post/question. I am interested in knowing how to detoxify a toxic person and marriage too.

this thread Dey give me joy with this people sense of life

pleasureosondu:
With the increase in the number of divorce in Nigeria, it's clear that kids from separated homes will increase. For those born in the early 1990's, many witnessed their parents live together even when they were clearly incompatible. You learn by observing how they "managed" themselves but today, people divorce with flimsy excuses rather than to look for practical solutions to the problem.

If parents continue with this divorce trend, they are indirectly setting a new standard- that divorce is the easy way out of a marriage. So, how will their kids (when they become adults) know how to manage their families since they didn't learn the qualities that holds marriage due to the fact that their parents were separated? As a guy, will you be comfortable marrying a girl with such family background?

Never. I will rather marry a prostitute that has a father. U see that father presents

millstone:

It's easier to say till one experience it. My parents divorced but my sisters are married, raising better homes and learnt lessons. Personally I even prefer to be with someone that understands the hurt divorce brings long term and the importance of listening to yourselves and working things out than someone who sees divorce as a way out from even the smallest problem. Is divorce mentally damaging? Yes! Do I wish it never happened in my home? Yes! But judging someone for that is plain stupid. The ones when dey divorce up and down now their mama and papa divorce abi?

off the mic � bruh � you’re a YOGA MAN

Romanoff:
Better to marry someone who was raised in a healthy environment by a single parent than to marry someone who was raised in a toxic and abusive two parent household.

Ugo. C. Shege.

Just do your research well on the parent that raised her and the circumstances behind her parents separation.

Nonsense talk... u women can't just reason logically, that's y u women are terrible at giving advice

A woman from a broken home has the highest chance of breaking her own home as well if she gets married.... Statistics have shown ooooo ...

Immatex:


Happily married for 6 years now and counting. Superstition is not an ingredient to a healthy marriage!

Oga calm down, you are still a newly wed.
Some of us that married from broken homes were warned then, but we went along. Over the years, you see the concerns your folks expressed to you. You see the traits. There is a huge difference from one brought up in a proper 2 parent family compared to a single parent setup. Take it or leave it.
The determination to make things work out and not make one's kids experience same makes parents make extra efforts to keep the marriage intact.

Kingcalls:


Nonsense talk... u women can't just reason logically, that's y u women are terrible at giving advice

A woman from a broken home has the highest chance of breaking her own home as well if she gets married.... Statistics have shown ooooo ...

So what happens to your daughter after you've found out your wife (her mother) is a serial adulterer?

pleasureosondu:
Agree it wasn't the kid's fault but do we should now continue to trend and accept divorce? If parents divorce with flimsy excuses, what guarantee do you have that their innocent ( now adults) won't do same to their partner? And it's always the ladies that are quick to file for divorce. Just check Nairaland's front-page

Most people are just dumb....its logical to know that a kid from a broken home will most likely end their own marriage if they get married , especially if its a woman .... they will certainly end the marriage for flimsy reasons...

Romanoff:


So people should stay with abusive partners cause it's "healthier" to you.

90 percent of abusive marriages are instigated by women ...

Fancy4e:
you lie my friend…..I was raised by my mother all by herself, after she lost her husband when I was 3yrs, she is so Godly nd taught everyone on how to live nd respect their spouse…….my dear, when someone is bad, that person is bad, irrespective of the family’s background……you all know the main cause of breakup in our society, so stop making look like they weren’t raised properly……

your case can't be classified as Seperation. Your dad never wanted to leave but life is life. I can marry a lady understand this situations. They always have the mentality of wanting their husbands to be around their kids since they didn't get fatherly love or attention.

Seperation deprives kids of the absentee' parents love and discipline. It's only a matter of time before the kid(now adult) display exhibits of the absentee qualities. The increase in divorce is proof of my statements. However, there are exceptions......

Klass99:




I can't stop laughing from these comments. Nice one ladies.

JJ please tag me when you get a response to your post/question. I am interested in knowing how to detoxify a toxic person and marriage too.

I will

Been a long time, how are you doing?

Happy new year

Romanoff:


Claim the prayer for yourself.

You clearly need it.

mtcheew! Oloshi. Omo ake baje! Get out please.

Jovialjune1:


As per the bolded, explain how to detoxify a toxic marriage where the man beats the wife, then makes the children beat their mother, let's learn something new from you today.

So, explain to us why a man will wake up on a good day and beat his wife plus ask kids to do same? You focus on the reaction but ignored the cause or action?

lol

Immatex:


Continue saying nonsense, wise one!

You have stigma and think you are spiritual and wise!!!

Klass99:




I can't stop laughing from these comments. Nice one ladies.

JJ please tag me when you get a response to your post/question. I am interested in knowing how to detoxify a toxic person and marriage too.

Even as toxic(in your words) as the Devil is, he still had followers. You maybe toxic to someone but loved by another( or you think you ain't toxic to someone?). Learn to love/hate/respect what your partner stands for. He'll reciprocate in time. But you ladies expect everything to suit your narrative and anything against it becomes toxic. Again, no one is toxic. It's just partners tryna push their selfish interest, especially the ladies

Immatex:


Let me say this: Marry only if you truly love a person, not their parents. Isaac set a good example because Genesis 10 informs us he married Rebekah because he 'fell in love'.

If you show your spouse love as defined at 1 Cor. 13:4-8, they will love you in return and won't divorce even if their parents were divorced.

But if you treat your partner with contempt, He or She will leave.

Honour and love your wives, love and respect your husbands and have no fear, your marriage will make a success!

It was Abraham who chose Rebecca for Isaac, read your Bible again and the result was disastrous. Lean on God for your choice of partner.

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Prettychild:

It was Abraham who chose Rebecca for Isaac, read your Bible again and the result was disastrous. Lean on God for your choice of partner.

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mistermoney:
lol