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Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by wengerman: 4:29pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
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Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by DeeBaDan: 4:30pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
jeff1607: You started wrongly. Why not mehn ought not to lead their families into danger. How about you say he should go to the village first to determine the suitability for the family. How about going to the village isn't the entire answer and he should have plans in place Man, get lost |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by maasoap(m): 4:32pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
Pacesetter2021:You can't make anything in the village. We are are not talking about someone with money investing in agriculture, we're talking about jobless lazy ass man and his family moving back to village. They will only be living from hand to mouth. He is relocating simply because of free accommodation that awaits him, nothing else. He just wants to solve the problem of house rent without hustling or sweating. Such man shouldn't be taken seriously. What is in the village? Nothing! Take it from someone who had village experience. Boring life, nothing more. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by lifenajeje(m): 4:34pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
If he knows what he wants to do and you are sure it would work then there is no qualms .... Think deeply about opportunities that are abound there .. People dey even see opportunities Japa abroad .... U may not relocate to the village , probably a closer town but I want you to be at peace .. When u are at peace u would see opportunities ... |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by Gmajor(m): 4:34pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
Ireportlive: All villages are not created equally |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by stevups(m): 4:36pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
You talk like a backstabber.. there's punishment for e |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by PepeXKermit: 4:36pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
There ia nothing more dangerous than a man who is not disciplined coupled with lack of ambition. Chukwu ekewela |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by Blackman101: 4:37pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
My suggestion 1. Pray and get some one to pray with you, cos your husband loosing two job in a row and you loosing your need to be investigated, if it carelessness or witch-hunting. (we are Africans and we have seen things) 2. if the above is clear, them consider how to pay the next House rent, I believe a job will come before the next rent is due ((12 months time ) 3. while I am against family leaving apart, let him go ahead to the village for like six months, have corps in the farming and a little business (like riding Okada ) on the side, before you and the children join him. In the village now nobody will give you and your children free food oh. very best of luck |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by Godmind2022(m): 4:38pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
If you and your husband know how to farm, and the husband is not abusive, if he is generally loving, but just having a bad time, if he is generally reasonable, God-fearing, loves farming, please go with him. Let him get his own land by begging, on credit, or in any legal means, and begin to plant perennial crops like coconut, palm-tree, cashew, cocoa, etc. Hope this helps. As for the children's school, you and your husband should join the school effort with home schooling, using your little knowledge to teach them |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by savcy(m): 4:38pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
This is the exact decision my late dad took months before he sadly passed on. I remember how scared I was at the prospect of living life in the village. In my case, I knew we weren't going to be there for too long, because my dad was a hard-working man, and he was a senior fire and safety officer before he was maliciously retrenched. But the fear was palpable in my family. Marriage, for me, is too sacred a thing to begin to suggest anything that potentially compromises it. He's your husband, and you made the conscious decision to spend the rest of your life with him. Painful as it may be, it's for better or for worse. So you have to leave with him. Give him that honour, and when you arrive there be the brains of the house. Kickstart a plan to return to the city, and find anything right you can do to actualise that plan. If there's a will, a way pops up. It's a rule of life that never fails. Sad what men turn out to be these days. Your husband has no right to unilaterally take that decision, but be kind to him. He will one day remember your acts of kindness and reward you. If you have anyone you can speak to that could speak to him, please do well to explore that option. Although, from your description of him that may likely be fruitless. But give it shot anywho. I feel sorry for you , because I have been there. |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by care4you: 4:39pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Are you living in a cave? Come to Anambra, all the schools in our villages are almost perfect! Good structures! Well educated teachers! Serene environments! Perfect laboratories! Etc I don't know why you guys underrates village so much. Well, I don't know about your own village. When it comes to education Anambra villages are the best... Please come and verify... .... |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by maasoap(m): 4:39pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
MisterBanny: Her own happiness comes first before anything else, people can say whatever they like. That's why I like Oyinbos, they don't really give a fvck about anyone's opinion. Definitely, she can't be happy In the village, she's scared. And her kids, city kids. God helps the kids with mosquitoes and malaria most especially if the kids are AA. |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by sleekman(m): 4:39pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
Perhaps I'm in the best position to advise you on this. I've been in my village running to 7yrs now and I can tell you I'm loving every minute of it. First thing first. Has he purchased or inherited land to use for agriculture? Has he got a functional ride? Has he got a house or inherited house. Perhaps a house from a relation he can live in for free longterm and restrategize? If the answers are affirmative then I'll advise you go with him to the village but he must go first. Go visiting frequently. Explore the market, agricultural opportunities, private schools, public schools with a private teacher option. Accessibility to big towns, cost of living, variety of food options, telecommunications, electricity, water availability, means of transportation and ease of transportation etc. If you keep an open mind then the village can be a good place to bounce back, make some cash and start acquiring properties in the city. If you are hardworking as you seem to sound then you will consider moving temporarily or permanently to the village the best decision you have made |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by thesicilian: 4:40pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
Dracular226:Your ability to make sense of what I have written is wholly dependent on you, my friend. |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by franvincoop: 4:41pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
OP has not told us the whole truth, your husband has a plan for what he wants to do in the village and he has told you but based on say you no wan hear anything village you don concoct better cock and bullstory wey favour you for us. E get why human being get 2 ears. We don hear your side, just knowsay farmers get money plenty now. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by MisterBanny(m): 4:42pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
maasoap: Oga, there's no such thing like Happiness matters in this case o. Madam must no disobey oga. Na oga marry madam and not the other way round |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by Godsonkemz(m): 4:43pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
The problem with this generation of women is lack of submissiveness and understanding of how to manage home. How do you expect him to raise 250k for the renewal of rent when he has no job. Do you expect him to steal. Be realistic to the situation at hand and don't put undue pressure upon your man. I don't see anything wrong with going to village at least to allow him think, reorganize and seek for assistance if need be. |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by Kobojunkie: 4:43pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
care4you:I can't come but I can use google earth to explore an example. So give me the village name, LGA, and State, so I can see and investigate via reports what you claim. |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by dapadawee: 4:43pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
maasoap: Saying you're the one feeding your husband is wrong. Go to the village. |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by maasoap(m): 4:43pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
Ireportlive: You only did excursion, you didn't leave there permanently. Relocate there permanently and let's see how many years can live there straight |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by highoctane: 4:44pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Uturu in Isiukwuato LGA of Abia State. Home to two universities namely Abia State University Gregory University Abia State international secondary school. Marist Brothers juniorate Academy and a host of other private primary and secondary schools. The 7 major villages have state primary schools each. Home to Crushed Rock quarry Home to Masterenergy industries . Home to 3 stars Uturu Cave group of Hotels and Resorts. Home to Sab group of Industries. There exist hospitals, State health centre Solar powered home are common. Home to multi millionaires and some billionaires That's my home, my village, that's the home of Greenify Solar. Gate way to Ebonyi, Cross River , and Cameroun Where we troup to most weekends. I sometimes take retreat to energies my body and mental health. We made our town Uturu and it's villages what it is today Verify, Verify, Verify.
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Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by maasoap(m): 4:45pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
dapadawee:Nothing in the village, no future there for you most especially if you skilled or educated |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by Kobojunkie: 4:45pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
Blackman101:Pray to which God? The same God that has yet to answer the millions of women clogging up your church spaces who came before her, many of whom have been praying for decades? Or Is it the same God who said He does not answer the prayers of the unrighteous? Or are we talking of the same God who said that in order to become worthy of Him one is to abandon husband, wife, children, father, mother, sisters, brothers, work, career, etc.? |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by maasoap(m): 4:47pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
MisterBanny:They married each other, her opinions matter too, that's how modern marriage works. Personally, I think there is nothing there for them. |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by MisterBanny(m): 4:48pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
maasoap: They married each other? I no blame you. |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by We4all: 4:48pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
Kizzygentle: You just said it all. They type of irresponsible and immoral lifestyle they live in the village is just pathetic. Recently, I overheard a neighbor chastising an aunt of hers who came visiting from the village. According to her, the aunt slept with her half brother. I was shocked. |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by soccerlite: 4:49pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
Madam first spoil her husband that he goes to work late This are realities of difficult economy |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by Kobojunkie: 4:49pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
highoctane:But most of the kids born in Uturu can't even afford to attend that school. I know this one quite well since I spent some time in Uturu myself back in the day. Those associated with Marist Brothers and ABSU could probably boast of something but generally Uturu had nothing else to offer in the way of industry and the lot. A lot of those who attended the school in question came from the big cities, as far as Lagos State. Instead, many of the local children have to commute daily the other way towards Okigwe over that steep hill to get to school every day. (I almost died of a heart attack every time I had to venture over that road back then) Also, solar-powered homes are only common as far as the rich and political class who settled in the area. The vast majority who are poor have no access to any of that. So, if this man is moving to the village because he has no money, what makes you think that living in a place like Uturu where he can't afford to send his kids to Marist Brothers Juniorate Academy would benefit him?
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Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by Goalnaldo(m): 4:50pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
You people only follow the "for better" part in your marital vow. If its abroad that he is relocating to you will be the one begging to follow him. What if he has oil palm plantation in the village? People make mad cash in the village o. |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by maasoap(m): 4:50pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
MisterBanny:Yes. And thanks |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by jesmond3945: 4:52pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
ChybuzzDD:in lagos, abuja or ph or probably ondo, anambra depends. Not in ochi or emerienwe. Op know how far |
Re: My Husband Wants Us To Relocate To The Village by greatestdestiny: 4:53pm On Jun 20, 2023 |
momsloved: If YOUR husband wants you to relocate with him to the village, follow him. He is your husband. Don't bring such matters to Nairaland where some boys calling themselves men don't see a problem sleeping with a married woman. What kind of advice do you think you will get from here? Better follow your husband. Marriage is for better for worse! Or your own na for worse for run🙄 |
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