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Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by xandy84: 12:50am On Jul 31, 2023 |
No. They are in for a long haul. First mistake is too many kids. Average family in US has 2 kids. More than 3 means you will definitely need help from the government as a foreigner, they would not qualify for it which makes it worse for them? Do you know much a daycare cost? I have a 4 year old daughter and her tuition for pre-k4 is $16k a year. Reason why people have less kids is cos kids are expensive and if you relocate with more than 2 kids and they are little kids like 10 and under, you're in a long thing and stress will kill you. otherway: 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by Badgers14: 12:56am On Jul 31, 2023 |
loosecanon50: |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by steadyMoving22: 12:57am On Jul 31, 2023 |
Japa with a plan. 1 Like |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by xandy84: 12:57am On Jul 31, 2023 |
You nailed it but you need to include the fifth point. Never, ever leave a decent job in Nigeria and travel abroad. You will end up in group home at least for couple of years when you first get here. All these tech jobs na wash ooo. Maybe when the COVID inspired inflation but now that things had settled, your chances of getting tech job now is close to 1 per cent. toprealman: 2 Likes |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by emmaodet: 1:11am On Jul 31, 2023 |
pansophist: The saddest part for me are the business men I know doing well and fine in Nigeria. From 2020 to 2022 December, they just parked up and ran with family to UK. Sold everything. I mean quarry trailers. 20 tons quarry trailers. Some have 2, some 5 or more. Ballers in my area that the places they do take me to, big hotels and clubs and burning 100k on sitting. Doing fine and they just throw all these out the window to start afresh?? It is not as if anything happened to their businesses or they are struggling yet they just ran off. Sold off businesses, laid off workers yet we are complaining of unemployment when employers are running off. It all looks like jazz or juju. No one says you shouldn't travel but even traveling has categories. These men are meant to apply for tourist visas or visitation because that is the category they fall into. Going and coming back from vacations and visitations but No, they collapsed everything. People who are struggling are the ones permanent relocation or Japa are meant for as an upgrade to their lives and not well to do guys. 6 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by drsibz66(m): 1:18am On Jul 31, 2023 |
helinues: Why can't his wife work ?.. |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by drsibz66(m): 1:21am On Jul 31, 2023 |
The story isn't entirely true.. you don't need a postgraduate visa to get a job in uk. The visa she came with can get her a job. The worse is if its a student visa, the student can only work 20hrs and that's if she chooses to comply . While the husband or dependant can work unlimited. They should be patient and work hard .. they will get there. But 5 children is much and will surely set them back compared to their peers with 1 or 2. 3 Likes |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by pansophist(m): 1:22am On Jul 31, 2023 |
emmaodet: It's really sad to think. If I were in their shoes, I'll try to kill two bird with one stone. Even if I'll japa, I won't destroy my financial base back home. That's my lifeline, and as life uncertainties occurs, I can always fall back to something. It's the same dynamic with the concept of rhe prodigal son. After he messed up, his father was his fall back option to get back on track. Or a student who's parents are there to catch him financially if he falls. Or a monkey that will make sure he holds another branches before jumping. As a man, you can't afford to fail, especially when such failure is a result of avoidable mistakes. The regrets that will emanate from such failures can land one to depression, because you know you forked up. A man can't afford the flexibility of failure simply because people's survival are on him. Men's responsibilities are non-negotiable by nature. Your children and your wife may change to worse by your bad mistakes. And some mistakes are like a knockout, you will never recover from it. It's downard ever. They won't understand why they have to suffer, or even a reduction in lifestyle, and even if they adapt tonew realities, you'll loose a part of you. Your pride, honour and respect. I only pray and hope they do not regret it. It will shatter them to pieces. 13 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by nedekid: 1:25am On Jul 31, 2023 |
Na wah. Those that are relatively comfortable here ought to think the japa stuff well. Imagine someone owning a property and selling to relocate. Even if you sell a house ₦100m, with the current exchange rate, 100k pounds. By the time you pay school fees for masters 15k, buy ticket for family of 5, maybe around 8k, relocation expenses 5k, get there and stay in air b and b for eg 1 month eg in London proper before getting an apartment, another 5k. You then get the appartmemt, pay rent for 6 months or a year eg 1500 to 2k monthly, omo, you have blown a very reasonable amount from the 100k. Chop money nko, expenses before your spouse can work is another issue. If the kids are minors, who takes care of them when the spouse goes to work? Forget about daycare or nannies, the money you pay, passes how much you earn from your work. Anyway, I hear most japa people are suffering except the rich ones. I have a paddy, an executive in a bank that sent his people there under the masters program, he still works here and visits them. I also know a lady that the abroad company she worked here in naija online, moved her abroad, housed her in the carnery Wharf company appartmemt for 2 months till she got her place. Na that one be sucessful japa. Anyway, on the long run, japa is for the kids, the parents will suffer but ultimately, na the level headed kids go uplift the family. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by poseidon12: 1:30am On Jul 31, 2023 |
Quintessence44: Nigeria, a developing country I don't think so. Nigeria is an underdeveloped country. 1 Like |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by StudentsNG: 1:38am On Jul 31, 2023 |
Who told you it takes 20yrs to get a house abroad? Afamed: 1 Like |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by poseidon12: 1:45am On Jul 31, 2023 |
juman: Just as he made Lagos a better place right You better keep quiet. |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by poseidon12: 1:49am On Jul 31, 2023 |
Tinyemeka: 12.5m within a year of moving abroad? Got to be cocaine things or fraud. 4 Likes |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by hosemujica: 2:00am On Jul 31, 2023 |
Tinyemeka:this is hard to believe sorry. 3 Likes |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by cococandy(f): 2:04am On Jul 31, 2023 |
poseidon12:that’s what you think? Smh 1 Like |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by hosemujica: 2:19am On Jul 31, 2023 |
poseidon12:I swear I did not see your post before I quoted him. Mhen I can believe him if he breaks it down. |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by ariesbull: 2:22am On Jul 31, 2023 |
Lilimax:abroad no easy ! How many billionaires in Nigeria made it in abroad ? My dear I no fit 1 Like |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by ariesbull: 2:28am On Jul 31, 2023 |
Tinyemeka:stories....12.5 m a year Liel 2 Likes |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by ariesbull: 2:28am On Jul 31, 2023 |
hosemujica:No mind him |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by kushe: 3:53am On Jul 31, 2023 |
Canadians are leaving Canada in droves, Calfornia residents are fleeing California to other states and some to the Carribean or central America yet if you tell Nigerians,you are an enemy. Our best bet like someone mentioned earlier is to fix our country and like another person said,the most most people will experience by relocating is a change of environment. Like the Americans,we need to start trying out other states. If Lagos is too tight for a whole family, maybe it is time to explore other opportunities in Abeokuta or Ilesha,Asaba or Jos. If the goal is to earn a decent living,there are people killing it outside Lagos, Abuja or Portharcout but we never look in that direction because of the herd effect or mass hysteria of relocating abroad. Nothing dey abroad but una no go hear. Dog wey go lost no dey sensitive to the whistling of the hunter. Most people have made up their minds contrary to sound advice just like when people are warned not to break their vows because of a new flame,but dem no dey hear till eventually......... The UK,Canada,US even Dubai is the new chick. Wait till she comot makeup and off cloth then you go know say your wife gangan naa the gem. 4 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by Nobody: 3:53am On Jul 31, 2023 |
Lilimax: Abhi na. The US government will give them 30 million dollars upon landing in America. Free housing, free cars, free healthcare etc. most people that japa to America earn over $1M per month from menial jobs. Nigeria is a bad country I swear. Your last born, in a month time from now will soon buy his own house in Nigeria. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by Nobody: 3:56am On Jul 31, 2023 |
ednut1: And so? The UK government will give them 30 million pounds upon landing in UK. Free housing, free cars, free healthcare etc. most people that japa to America earn over $1M per month from menial jobs. Nigeria is a bad country I swear. I have an uncle who japa with his family to UK. After a month over there, he bought a duplex worth over 300 million naira in Nigeria and that’s just below his monthly earning over there. Naira don cast, make people japa abeg |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by planetx: 4:11am On Jul 31, 2023 |
helinues:Like someone said up there, this oyinbo juju makes our own juju look like kindergarten. Can you imagine #30 million lol. |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by jimb(m): 4:12am On Jul 31, 2023 |
na undergraduate visa she carry move. with five children? impossible |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by kushe: 4:12am On Jul 31, 2023 |
TheNewAgeFarmer: |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by planetx: 4:39am On Jul 31, 2023 |
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Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by dennisworld1(m): 4:45am On Jul 31, 2023 |
bisimilahi772:do u know anyone there |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by Gokoyer0(m): 4:52am On Jul 31, 2023 |
Don't mind them. Many Nigerians live to work in diaspora. They are strangers to their kids. I will repeat it, if you are doing pretty well in Nigeria and you are not less than 35 yrs, and you are not in tech, and your are not in medical field, stay your ass down and build your empire for your kids to travel to anywhere they want for their studies. Don't sell off your property! In Youkay, If you get security job, you must throw party for hommies . People like us dey Nigeria but we still dey abroad. I got friends and relatives scatter across the world. I will only go abroad to get my own tech money Many of them are close to 40 or above 40, no tech skills, and not in medical fields, the struggle will be real in UK for them. Right now, even in some parts of UK, some nurses are not getting enough shifts. Person go just be living to work menial jobs for years. To survive with minimum wage, you got to do overtime. Most of that extra jobs are nerve cracking jobs o. Standing for several hours everyday such as toilet cleaning, dishwasher, mid-night newspaper delivery or cleaning up sh.tting old white people asses. In many parts of Europe, people do this job for decades . A friend of mine in Germany was talking about cleaning job without any shame. He has msc degree from Nigeria. He has been institutionalized patapata. I respect people engaging in those jobs but me? No way. Funny thing is that Nairalanders that are experiencing this used to keep quiet here. Lastly and to reiterate, anyone struggling in Nigeria should leave if they have the means but don't sell your house in gbanjo o . whemmytopsy: 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by toprealman: 4:58am On Jul 31, 2023 |
xandy84:Artificial intelligence is demystifying this tech matter, many jobs in tech are going down 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by LtChisom: 5:12am On Jul 31, 2023 |
Quintessence44:Who Did you vote for in this last election for presidency, governor, house of rep and assembly? |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by Love56743: 5:14am On Jul 31, 2023 |
About from drug business and fraud it's very difficult to make it in abroad, some people abroad there are trees will people go and puck money, here in India I know how many of their citizens that normally beg me money.. |
Re: Family Regrets Selling House And Borrowing Money To Relocate Abroad,Now Stranded by Abufo: 5:17am On Jul 31, 2023 |
Quintessence44: If your country was stellar paeople will not leave sir...............let us clean up our act first....then face our haterz abroad! |
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