Omoapena:
Fact remains, once you’re 30 and not married, your chances become slim and guys will only see you as unserious person when it comes to relationship, you may be successful career wise but when it comes to relationship, you’re unserious

Not that guys will see you, they are very unmarriable set of individuals looking for highest bidders and having high taste. Try an approach a woman who makes her own money and less than 30 years, she will be so rude and stupid at the same time

[quote author=AmyNwa10 post=125194532]It's for this very reason; the dear of being unmarried at 30 as a lady that has pushed a lot of women to ending up with any man just to be tagged, "she married early."

The men aren't even helping, since they have a knack for calling >30 unmarried ladies derogatory names such as evening newspaper.
We'll just marry anyhow to avoid all of that. [https://loveonet.com/5-strategic-ways-to-handle-a-cheating-partner/ ]

tiswell:
kindly explain

let me explain on his behalf:: if you are always live on tiktok to watch those doing match making and in search of life partners, you will know what what he is saying. the least age of females i have seen there was 24, and guess what she was told: "to go and engage herself in something meanfull and not think about marriage' Then for the ones who were ready who were coming live to me match, bross, you need to see age, 30, 31, 32, 36, 36. i have even seen 40.. no joking. then you need to hear the choice these ladies were asking a man of 35 and above. 35 and above.. if you are not on tiktok you need to be there and see what i am saying

Onefornaija24:


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[https://loveonet.com/5-strategic-ways-to-handle-a-cheating-partner/ author=Sonnobax15 post=125140881]
If you like,lose yourself and die of depression due to pressure from the society......

Everything good will surely happen when it's time comes....

Personally,I don't let society pressure to have an advantage over me...Cuz I know I'm unique in my own way......And no need to over push things,cuz las las everywhere go stew.[/quote]

Omoapena:
Fact remains, once you’re 30 and not married, your chances become slim and guys will only see you as unserious person when it comes to relationship, you may be successful career wise but when it comes to relationship, you’re unserious

Not that guys will see you, they are very unmarriable set of individuals looking for highest bidders and having high taste. Try an approach a woman who makes her own money and less than 30 years, she will be so rude and stupid at the same time.

What do some women gain in given birth to down syndrome all in the name of my moneuy

[. https://loveonet.com/5-strategic-ways-to-handle-a-cheating-partner/You cannot pressure the unpressured.

If you cower under one nonsense pressure and end up marrying a 'horseband' (as a woman), or a 'knife' (as a man)... Na you go cry taya! And that society or whoever that pressured you, na them go still come back begin dey blame you, even mock you on top.

Wisdom demands that you choose your battles and pressures right.[/quote]

IconicR:
How did you know I'm lying? You just assumed so

The same way you assumed I was lying.

Besides, your spirit, body and soul know you're not near 60yrs.

frankson1:


The same way you assumed I was lying.

Besides, your spirit, body and soul know you're not near 60yrs.

How old are you truly?

jackmrandy:


let me explain on his behalf:: if you are always live on tiktok to watch those doing match making and in search of life partners, you will know what what he is saying. the least age of females i have seen there was 24, and guess what she was told: "to go and engage herself in something meanfull and not think about marriage' Then for the ones who were ready who were coming live to me match, bross, you need to see age, 30, 31, 32, 36, 36. i have even seen 40.. no joking. then you need to hear the choice these ladies were asking a man of 35 and above. 35 and above.. if you are not on tiktok you need to be there and see what i am saying

Nawa o

IconicR:
How old are you truly?

How would you believe anything I state here

blessingnenye:
A lot of ladies are scared of 30. What's really wrong with 30? Why so dreadful with the age, after all it's just a number!!! Even with a lot of accomplishments, being 30 and single can be so pressurizing among out ladies, owing to the pressures from families and society to get married. Sometimes, this pressure sums up the reason why majority delve into an unfruitful marriage.

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Any lady with an iota of common sense knows that marrying below 30 is the best decision considering that nature is at play. Geriatric pregnancy and consequent risks are real. It ain't got nothing to do with societal pressure. People should be able to look in the mirror beyond all the noise and tell themselves the truth. Facts don't care about feelings.

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frankson1:



How would you believe anything I state here

Because you don't have to lie about it the second time

IconicR:
Because you don't have to lie about it the second time

You're wrong. I will still lie about it because this information is meaningless to you.

This doesn't apply here but then... Don't put yourself under pressure. Give yourself time and enjoy every moment.

God knows that I can never marry any lady above 25yrs. I'll rather remain single than marry one evening newspaper who'll still have same expectations from me as a younger girl would.

is 30 a death sentence?

At 29, a lot single ladies begins to deliberate whether or not to celebrate their next birthday.
At 29, a lot of ladies begins to age backwards, with a skeptical feelings on whether to reveal their real age or conceal it.

I"ll be 30 by next month, year, week. Yet no marriage, children or money. And so what Is 30 a death sentence?

I"ll be 30 by next month, yet without any accomplishment, and so what Does life suddenly stops at 30?

Why is 30 such a scary age to most folks? Is it a general perception or just a fear of uncertainty.

Some men will go as far as trying to scare you with statements like "I will never marry, a lady at 30 and more. is 30 really that bad?

The earlier we understand that life is like a script, and to each his/ her own unique story with diverse time. The better and peaceful our mind gets to be.

Age is not a determinant of successful marriage.
You can still get it right @30.
Your successful story can still begin @30.

The right man can still show up@30.

At 30+, some ladies got married to their heartthrob, gave birth, got a new connection and job.

There's no time factor in life. Just do your best, focus on developing yourself, character, and personalities.

When you dwell so much on your burdens, they will linger. But when you keep your mind off it, and focus on self empowerment while living it up to God and fate. It will show up at the time you least expected.

https://loveonet.com/5-strategic-ways-to-handle-a-cheating-partner/

frankson1:



You're wrong. I will still lie about it because this information is meaningless to you.

I want to know the elders in this platform, we need to know ourselves so as to keep these kids in check

IconicR where are you?

Luu40:
I'm 29, malebof northern extraction. In a few months to come I'll clock 30. I'm working and have already started dating someone in hopes of tying the knot very soon. Marriage is my most pressing objective now. Nothing is more important.

For a lady of this age - 30, I pray you find love and settle down soonest.

Life's not only about having a career. Having a family is relatively more important.
My opinion

I see you're a Northern Christian. Well, the concept of how you guys see marriage is very different from how Christians in the south see it.

I'm genuinely curious though, what is it like marrying a Christian from Northern Nigeria (Adamawa, Gombe, Plateau, Kaduna etc) as a Yoruba or Igbo man?

Hahnemann:


I love this your comment

The pressure though is both on male and female.
I'm currently 31 but the pressure to marry now no be here o when I'm busy thinking on how to Japa and get my masters first, wat concerns family is for me to get married and start having kids. E tire me o.

Honestly, I just finished discussing with my mom about the same issue only to see a similar topic on Nairaland. When I was in Nigeria, nobody mention marriage o. When I don comot, "try to marry early" 🙄

IconicR:
I want to know the elders in this platform, we need to know ourselves so as to keep these kids in check

True and you should start by stating your age. You take the lead.

Goodman2023:


At 30, hardly you see a girl who uses condom...

Especially when the guy is single, had a car and his rented apartment... their intentions is to get pregnant...while the guy is busy cumming inside thinking she will take contraceptive, she will be busy with pregnancy test kit every morning

In that case, you as the man should use condom if you don't plan on getting married. Why are you not advising the men to use condom?

ecolime:
The pressure now is self induced and maybe from your parents and siblings.

Society no send anyone again. If you like be 60 and single, na fuel and dollar be everybody wahala now.

Exactly, the pressure is most from family and friends.Na women wey no dey independent i pity pass.

Any woman that is independent will not have that pressure because she can easily find a man that serve as a surrogate. Once you have one child as a single mother, that pressure will never be there.

MISTAICEY02288:


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Hahnemann:


I love this your comment

The pressure though is both on male and female.
I'm currently 31 but the pressure to marry now no be here o when I'm busy thinking on how to Japa and get my masters first, wat concerns family is for me to get married and start having kids. E tire me o.

Even in this current Nigeria?

Acidosis:

This doesn't apply here but then... Don't put yourself under pressure. Give yourself time and enjoy every moment.

Good advice. But I'm surprised someone like who professes conservatism isn't supporting the notion of early marriage.

Kevineleven:

It means you are under society pressure, it is like a demonic attack, its women that will attack you the most, they are always the one most available to the devil.
These are the attacks
1: If you are single guy above 30 they will know, because you will look far much younger than your age, handsome, at peace and clean.
2 They will start coming close to you even married women, you will think this is friendship but they are trying to find out your age, they are looking at your body for a sign that you are above 30, signs like, small bald hair, wrinkles on forehead or gray hair on your beards, once they see any of these.
3: The attack, they will start putting sir in their greeting even though they are older than youu(Good morning sir, how your family) , this is not out of respect but they are looking for a way to tell you that you are old enough for marriage.
4: They will gossip about you
5: You will hear birthday songs often in your neighborhood, even in the church, again the song is to tell you that you are old.
6: They will send their children to play in your compound.

Solution
Become harsh and intolerable.

Professor No Nonsense.

Is That You??

frankson1:



True and you should start by stating your age. You take the lead.

I didn't lie about my own

IconicR:
I didn't lie about my own

Yeah, because you can't prove it .

Just take it that I'm older than you.

Juanmike:
What will Siofra and Jennyclay that are above 40 do now?

They have two options either to take their case to God or look for a man that will be servicing their engine. My take

YoshihideSuga:


Good advice. But I'm surprised someone like who professes conservatism isn't supporting the notion of early marriage.

Lol... I support early marriage as a way to curb the reckless high-risk sex, mental breakdown/heart breaks, and financial recklessness that come with being single (conservatism).

But I also align with the realist position: everyone's journey is unique. As a matter of fact, many people will not be married in their life time. And it's absolutely OK.