Since you stand to be corrected. I will correct you.
He travelled all the way from Lagos to PH to visit his potential inlaws. From the narration. I think he travelled by road which is a long journey. So, the bread would serve a purpose.

Another point is. Probably, both of them are from different tribes. So giving him the bread serves as him being welcome into the family. That is a sign of being loved by the gf family members.

No. I disagree with you because every tribe in Nigeria has its own local delicacy that are peculiar to that region ,they should have gotten something of such in readiness for the would be inlaw and not Bread that is very common in the town no matter how expensive the bread is .Even if it is something of #100 once it is local it is most appreciated by me.
Bread is a NO NO AS far as I am concern .

PuZZyNegro:


It's not about it being local or little. The Bread was gotten from Market Square super market. I just find it awkward giving bread to your son-in-law to be on the first meeting.

Gifts are symbolic you know.

So the biscuits that you gave them, what does it symbolize, since gifts are symbolic

PuZZyNegro:


They stay in Port Harcourt city and not any village. This is not a social class issue.

honestly I wish I knew that your financee, u won't be getting married to her. Radarada.

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

In sabinus voice OP " you are a mumu man"

Hardy123:
You are stupid.

Simple

PuZZyNegro:


It's not about it being local or little. The Bread was gotten from Market Square super market. I just find it awkward giving bread to your son-in-law to be on the first meeting.

Gifts are symbolic you know.

Ain't you traveling back to Lagos? It's just a gift that's all, even if it doesn't make sense to you, its common sense to accept it irrespective

how could you buy biscuits and juice for your prospective in-laws? Are they babies? You can't afford a bottle of wine and you want to marry? Abeg, go and hustle!

PuZZyNegro:


You guys are just foaming in the mouth. These people already served us food and we ate.

I don't really think we need bread again to take home.

First thing that caught my attention before reading your epistle, is your username. Then seeing your epistle with your response to people already summarises the type of person you are.

If this story is true, then that lady is in trouble because she never see husband

RichAbujaGuy:
WTF is and who makes up a handle calling themselves a PuzzyNegro? 😐

Finally, someone has spotted a much bigger problem than rejecting gift bread from in-laws.

period things are expensive you no suppose reject am....next time collect the bread and waybill it to me

PuZZyNegro:


I accept I would have collected it. My friend told me that but I needed a broader opinion

U need a broader opinion that will give u support

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

to be honest!
You are a stupid person with no 🧠 cells left on your head

Buying u bread as a takeaway gift is a irony from your soon to be inlaw, since all you could see in the market to buy for them is biscuits, then there's a big justification in them buying you bread, afterwards the both of them are made from flour. Next time, u don't reject what ur inlaws gave you.

Kajaard:
You did not apply emotional intelligence at all.

Yes, you should have collected the bread.

Most African parents/ In laws et al might think you are disrespectful by rejecting their gift.

This is not the western world. You should have collected the bread no matter how local or little it looks. Cheers.

. Mk he Dey copy nollywood

Bunny19:
honestly I wish I knew that your financee, u won't be getting married to her. Radarada.

Same thing I wish here.

That guy na mu² and the girl deserve better.

twilliamx:


You no get sense walahi

apart from not having sense,, i am not sure the guy is ready for marriage... what if they used the bread to test his humility ...na like this person take dey fail simple task....if he use this attitude marry that girl,, him marriage go dey get issues

My friend you no do well sha.. anyways I no dey pity person wey get big head because no be me go sow cap for am. Remember na still fiancée you be… sometime I collect gifts and on my way I dash it off or give it to the bins or bushes. I must not tell you everything

emmyt2:
Since you stand to be corrected. I will correct you.
He travelled all the way from Lagos to PH to visit his potential inlaws. From the narration. I think he travelled by road which is a long journey. So, the bread would serve a purpose.

Another point is. Probably, both of them are from different tribes. So giving him the bread serves as him being welcome into the family. That is a sign of being loved by the gf family members.

No. I disagree with you because every tribe in Nigeria has its own local delicacy that are peculiar to that region ,they should have gotten something of such in readiness for the would be inlaw and not Bread that is very common in the town no matter how expensive the bread is .Even if it is something of #100 once it is local it is most appreciated by me.
Bread is a NO NO AS far as I am concern .

Bread has nothing to do with culture. Even when visiting my uncles and aunties, we would usually buy loaves of bread along to give them. They do same.
Just like rice, bread is another common food amongst all tribe. So there's nothing wrong with the bread.
The OP took biscuits and juice along, why isn't that a no no for you too? They old people dey chop biscuits?

Collect it and trash it on your way. You bleeped up big time

It's a raw proverb... The mama wants you to know that they prefer bread instead of biscuit. So the mama decided to buy the bread and gift you since your brain is not working well... Buying biscuits for in-law.

Simply put, you're proud & full of yourself

You absolutely have no mental, emotional and psychological intelligence. that girl should reject you as well. If I were the mother, it would be the last time you'd step foot in my house. I would throw away your sick juice and biscuits in your face. NONSENSE EVERYWHERE.

PuZZyNegro:


You guys are just foaming in the mouth. These people already served us food and we ate.

I don't really think we need bread again to take home.

I pity the girl wey wan marry you

You never ready to marry...
Your emotions never mature...

What will it cost you to accept it, even if you will throw it away or dash it out your way?
You displayed foolishness.

The same people that you will still come to beg for the hands of their daughter in marriage abi? Your ego and pride is annoying.

You better find a way to go appeal to them....

You have so many topics on dis your gf/fiancee


It's unwelcome


It seems you are a perfectionist or itk

Your wife needs to be prayerful to understand you


Abeg stop it

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

Your behaviour was childish. There is nothing wrong about accepting the bread.

Pls jettison the idea of getting married soon. You have a lot of growing up to do. You aren't yet mature for marriage.

No wonder common sense didn't tell u that as an African man, u MUST NOT visit ur inlaws without at least a BOTTLE OF WINE. Even if ur money no reach another thing, wine is compulsory.

Pls how old are you?

PuZZyNegro:


You guys are just foaming in the mouth. These people already served us food and we ate.

I don't really think we need bread again to take home.

lol, but you thought they needed your juice and biscuits? Because they can't buy in the nearest supermarket yeah? You know, I felt people insulting you were a little bit too harsh but when I saw where you insulted another person's mom, I just made a conclusion that you're badly raised and you lack love. I hope you heal!

fyzaila:
My opinion is different, i totally did not see anything wrong in what the op did. He said, the in-laws offered them food and they ate it. Isn't that already sign of trust and acceptance from his own part as a potential son in-law? Is it now turning down the bread offered that is now a crime?

I'm a female, i wouldn't see anything wrong if my finace did what op did. I would only be hurt if he visited them without eating they food the offered. Because they must have taken their time to prepare it for his visit.

Op don't feel any bad, let them all be castigating you as you kill person. If your girlfriend like, let her use that flimsy thing as an excuse not to marry you again. It wouldn't be your loss 😌

maybe he should marry u instead

Even the way you narrated the story shows that you are proud.. guy dey calm down. You are to collect the bread with smile and even thrash it in your way. Simple as ABC

You no get sense at all. Smh. You even gave them biscuits and whatever, that was awkward too...

Short bread biscuit and their bread no be the same thing