nairalee:


You did nothing wrong. This world people will always find a way to twist anything to look bad. Trust me many of them will do worse in your shoes.

My advise for u is to use your tongue to count your teeth. Limit your closeness to the woman but don't cut off entirely. Apply wisdom in ALL your relationships

it's all good. God knows those whose heart are true. I've applied wisdom and also learnt greatly . thanks

Ginaz:
I moved into a new neighbourhood and i stay alone. Luckily I came across my childhood friend one fateful day on my way to fill up my cooking gas.

we exchanged contact, I found out we live closed to each other. she now has 6kids with her husband, the eldest child being 13yrs old.

As formal friends and now neighbours I tried to assist her with whatever little I could as they're not doing so great in financially.

I noticed whenever I enter her house, she's somewhat uneasy as she would apologized for the messy state of her house, the dirty floor , the roughness of the building which i don't even care to notice as I am not judging her.

I reduced my entrance into her house due to the fact I didnt want her to feel bad about whatever she might be thinking of her house. it was making feel uncomfortable to hear such complains too.

I usually send her kids on errands, which I give them monetary compensations. I called her on phone one day to send her second daughter to me that I wanna send her on an errand, she replied yes she would but I didn't see the daughter.

I was cooking rice, the kids came. I dished for them and I asked the daughter why she refused to come see me the day I sent for her. she told me it was her mother who told her not to come.

I was shocked ! if her mother didn't want me to send her on a errand she could have told me. I felt like I was disturbing her kids so I blocked her number and stop sending the kids message to run for me.

now she has been calling me but I've refused to answer her calls. am I wrong in wanting to end the friendship?

Why u go just block somebody straight like that? I think it’s good u too should just avoid each other. Because I doubt your sense of judgement myself. It will sooner or later turn sour

Ginaz:


which errands am I sending them apart from getting me tomatoes or milk or fish within the street as the distance is just 2minutes away.

they come to my house by themselves and sometimes I'd drive them away before they would leave. I never let them go home hungry , whatever I eat, they eat too.

I don't send them to go to the market for me or use as slaves.

what she did was wrong. but don't stop helping people because of their characters...it's could be, she feel ashamed of you sending her kids and giving them tips. instead just do something nice to her.

cheers!!!

Ginaz:
I felt bad that she would asked her daughter not to come run errand for me. this is someone who I have been very good and supportive to since I moved here. I don't want to talk about all I've done cos it's between me and God.

the phone she's using i gave her as her own phone got spoilt.

If she could tell her child not to come to me, I'm just wondering the rest things she might be saying behind me.

could her child be lying against her mother ?

this world is wicked though. becareful of those you call friends , they may not have the same good intentions for you.

Learn to mind ur own business, that is how see finish dey start. Behind u She go dey talk say make u go born ur own, make u no dey send her children message. Keep away from her n her children, it il pay u in the long run.

Mom007:

You shut up with your stupid post and comments. You think everyone is so jobless to be reading through all the posts... for what? Your stupidity is evident enough from the original post n first page thank you very much. If you are sure you did well, why bringing the issue here? Wicked and foolish people everywhere! 🙄

you don't have time to read but you can have time to conclude like a lazy goat. people like you won't even accommodate 5 kids at once in your house daily without treating them horribly. hypocrites ! how many of your neighbour's kids have you allowed to play in your house daily or fed?

better shut up your stupid mouth and move along. rubbish goat like you.

It's disheartening when individuals perform acts of kindness, assuming it grants them the authority to use someone's child for errands.

Consider how you'd feel if your own son or daughter were consistently running errands for your friend in a similar situation.

This is why I don't want to be poor, small kindness way people go do for you, dem go expect you to be their slaves perpetually

Ginaz:


which errands am I sending them apart from getting me tomatoes or milk or fish within the street as the distance is just 2minutes away.

they come to my house by themselves and sometimes I'd drive them away before they would leave. I never let them go home hungry , whatever I eat, they eat too.

I don't send them to go to the market for me or use as slaves.

Try to see from another angle the opp is coming from.
What if a vehicle/keke/bicycle knocks that child down??
In 2007 a neighbour sent her neighbour child child, on the process of crossing the road, a vehicle knocked the boy dead instantly. The widow mother till today believed that neighbour used her child for ritual.
Stay off her children, run ur errands urself or better still sent ur children.

Nothing wrong in you sending them on little errands. Life is give and take.


They eat at your place and experience a bit of the good life too, right?


Their mum should not have stopped her daughter from going on that errand.


Dey your dey .


Keep the lady blocked.

Nwaotu10:
It's disheartening when individuals perform acts of kindness, assuming it grants them the authority to use someone's child for errands.

Consider how you'd feel if your own son or daughter were consistently running errands for your friend in a similar situation.

This is why I don't want to be poor, small kindness way people go do for you, dem go expect you to be their slaves perpetually

They're not slaves. you're the one calling them so. I'm sure you will never allow 5kids in your house daily or allow them to enter your kitchen to prepare food to eat for themselves whenever they felt like.

it's easy to criticise but difficult to be kind.

oxiide22:
selling of indomie and fried egg at campus

are you a student

coputa:
are you a student

No sir, I finished

Ginaz:
I moved into a new neighbourhood and i stay alone. Luckily I came across my childhood friend one fateful day on my way to fill up my cooking gas.

we exchanged contact, I found out we live closed to each other. she now has 6kids with her husband, the eldest child being 13yrs old.

As formal friends and now neighbours I tried to assist her with whatever little I could as they're not doing so great in financially.

I noticed whenever I enter her house, she's somewhat uneasy as she would apologized for the messy state of her house, the dirty floor , the roughness of the building which i don't even care to notice as I am not judging her.

I reduced my entrance into her house due to the fact I didnt want her to feel bad about whatever she might be thinking of her house. it was making feel uncomfortable to hear such complains too.

I usually send her kids on errands, which I give them monetary compensations. I called her on phone one day to send her second daughter to me that I wanna send her on an errand, she replied yes she would but I didn't see the daughter.

I was cooking rice, the kids came. I dished for them and I asked the daughter why she refused to come see me the day I sent for her. she told me it was her mother who told her not to come.

I was shocked ! if her mother didn't want me to send her on a errand she could have told me. I felt like I was disturbing her kids so I blocked her number and stop sending the kids message to run for me.

now she has been calling me but I've refused to answer her calls. am I wrong in wanting to end the friendship?

You were wrong for blocking her line and refusing to answer her call. Did you bother to findout why she refused to allow her eldest daughter come to you? Even if you suspect any change of attitude, you could have reduced your rate of visit and the rate you send her daughter. Frequent visitation is not good(not everyone is comfortable with that). It reduces your value or importance in the sight of whosoever you visit. Don't make enemity out of it.

Ginaz:


it's all good. God knows those whose heart are true. I've applied wisdom and also learnt greatly . thanks

You're always welcome. If u need anything just lemme know

Ginaz:
I moved into a new neighbourhood and i stay alone. Luckily I came across my childhood friend one fateful day on my way to fill up my cooking gas.

we exchanged contact, I found out we live closed to each other. she now has 6kids with her husband, the eldest child being 13yrs old.

As formal friends and now neighbours I tried to assist her with whatever little I could as they're not doing so great in financially.

I noticed whenever I enter her house, she's somewhat uneasy as she would apologized for the messy state of her house, the dirty floor , the roughness of the building which i don't even care to notice as I am not judging her.

I reduced my entrance into her house due to the fact I didnt want her to feel bad about whatever she might be thinking of her house. it was making feel uncomfortable to hear such complains too.

I usually send her kids on errands, which I give them monetary compensations. I called her on phone one day to send her second daughter to me that I wanna send her on an errand, she replied yes she would but I didn't see the daughter.

I was cooking rice, the kids came. I dished for them and I asked the daughter why she refused to come see me the day I sent for her. she told me it was her mother who told her not to come.

I was shocked ! if her mother didn't want me to send her on a errand she could have told me. I felt like I was disturbing her kids so I blocked her number and stop sending the kids message to run for me.

now she has been calling me but I've refused to answer her calls. am I wrong in wanting to end the friendship?

Tell her to stop talking about the messy house or things. That she's making you feel uncomfortable. It's like she's trying to act perfect before you which is not nice. As for the kids, you should reduce the way you send them message or if possible, cut it out. We pray something terrible don't happen to them while running errands for you, you won't even forgive yourself.

She's trying to be formal with you, just tell her to kill the perfection so you guys can flow well.

Ginaz, of all the odds surrounding your conduct u question why you don't take advise. People like kobunukie and others have been telling you that you are exploiting and enslaving the children but you end up blasting them, you brought a matter to seek advice and you condemn those telling you the truth, which is painful.

No take a deep breath, imagine yourself as your friend and you her... she calls you to send your kid to her so they can run errands for her....what do you feel

The answer you get is your judgement

yoniehuin:
They are not your kids, why do you think you are entitled to send someone's kid on errand just because you are friends with the mother or because you feed them

The mother was right, her kids are not your errand children

If you had a kid and people send them on errand as they feel like, will you be happy.

Dont you think if any thing happen to those kids on errands, do you think the mum will be happy with you, she will blame you forever

If I asked you to shut up for lack of wisdom, you would run to the mods. Kids come to eat free food but can't run street errands? Some of you should not be associated with. I blame Ginaz for letting such people into her house in the first place. Na jealousy wan finish your friend so, Ginaz. Better avoid her like a plague. Delete her number now! Block her! Rid her off your life. Lastly, don't renew your rent in that area. You already have an enemy who knows your past living close to you. GINAZ, RUN O!

PeachtreeReside:
Nothing wrong in you sending them on little errands. Life is give and take.


They eat at your place and experience a bit of the good life too, right?


Their mum should not have stopped her daughter from going on that errand.


Dey your dey .


Keep the lady blocked.

please click on page 6 you would see all she said to me with her own mouth when she came to beg for peace.

people send her kids errands in the neighbourhood but none has even offered them help or taken care of her children. She said I'm the only one who has done so much for her kids. the kid's friends come along too to visit me. if I'm horrible those kids won't come closed. but the same time I've learnt.

please if you're a giver becareful, protect yourself cos tomorrow your intentions may land you in trouble and the whole world will say nobody asked you to do good and your image will suffer critism which you will certainly look back in regret when you recount all you have sacrificed.

Offpoint1:

Just laughing through the comments, women and children there's no difference... Very petty set of beings.

my brotherrrr!!!

She didn't even find out if that is not how the issue panned out from her friend's side

The heart of man is desperately wicked. That woman is trying to protect her daughter from a grown up man like you. So that we don't hear stories that touches the heart. Coming in a company is fine but calling one to come see you is risk

Zhunnurayn:
Ginaz, of all the odds surrounding your conduct u question why you don't take advise. People like kobunukie and others have been telling you that you are exploiting and enslaving the children but you end up blasting them, you brought a matter to seek advice and you condemn those telling you the truth, which is painful.

No take a deep breath, imagine yourself as your friend and you her... she calls you to send your kid to her so they can run errands for her....what do you feel

The answer you get is your judgement

except they can accommodate 5 kids In thier houses daily without complains,

except they can freely give up their comforts for 5 children to be happy,

except they can constantly share their food wiith their neighbour's children when they're hungry and willingly allow them access to their kitchen without grudges,

then I will never stop defending myself. even God regret he created humans when he got hurt. it's a normal thing to do when we are hurt and we begin to recount our sacrifices.

And those saying i made those kids slaves, May God judge them for that repulsive,evil ,vile and wicked conclusion cos it is impossible in God's standpoint that i should nurse the intention of ever considering anyone a slave let alone kids.

The fact that u specifically requested for her female child to visit you, a bachelor, at home might be the red flag in this issue. Maternal protective instincts are usually high and she has done the right thing in this case.
U don't have any right to send the another woman's children on errand because of the things u do for them. However, being gender specific might also be the fear.
You don't start recording every good things you do for people and start thinking they owe for it.
Give freely, if you can do that, please stop.

Ginaz:


sending them message is wrong but they can eat my food, request for things which I provide, scatter my house and spoil my things. little message to buy me fried fish or fresh tomatoes now at front of the street is a crime.

You're too defensive. I don't think anyone can advise you.

simoncynto:
The fact that u specifically requested for her female child to visit you, a bachelor, at home might be the red flag in this issue. Maternal protective instincts are usually high and she has done the right thing in this case.
U don't have any right to send the another woman's children on errand because of the things u do for them. However, being gender specific might also be the fear.
You don't start recording every good things you do for people and start thinking they owe for it.
Give freely, if you can do that, please stop.

I'm a woman, not a man.
anyone would recount sacrifices they have done when they're betrayed. I'm only human. shalom!

sylve11:


You're too defensive. I don't think anyone can advise you.

They can't house 5kids that are not theirs so I won't take advises that are lies.

Anyway the matter has been concluded.

please read page 6

Ginaz:


I'm a woman, not a man.
anyone would recount sacrifices they have done when they're betrayed. I'm only human. shalom!

Sexual abuse is not limited to one gender alone, but that's not my only point in that write up.

simoncynto:

Sexual abuse is not limited to one gender alone, but that's not my only point in that write up.

I've never sexually abused anyone in my life. please let's move on from this topic.

Pls stop defending yourself.

As you have described it carefully, there is nothing wrong with asking your friends kids who are watching your TV to go outside and buy something from the aboki or the corner shop 2 mins away.

One of those condemning you dropped a post not long ago saying that she does not allow anyone tell her what to do.

Yet she is the No 1 "Let me tell you what you should do even though I'm an anonymous online stranger"

But I believe you should tell your friend why you have created distance.

She will say "the child is lying".

But I have seen plenty of such so I will take that defense with a pinch of salt.

Be careful of her.

Envy is the foundation of witchcraft and is one of the primary reason Africa is in such darkness. Most black people envy those closest to them and look for covert ways to take them down.

Be careful

Ginaz:


sending them message is wrong but they can eat my food, request for things which I provide, scatter my house and spoil my things. little message to buy me fried fish or fresh tomatoes now at front of the street is a crime.

Ginaz:


I'm a woman, not a man.
anyone would recount sacrifices they have done when they're betrayed. I'm only human. shalom!

You also mentioned that the errand u wanted the child to go for you is only 2mins away. Why should the child leave her mother's house and come to your house just for a 2mins errand that u can go yourself?. Your story doesn't add up or maybe u are just trying to stir up discussion.

Kids of today can lie oo. If I were you I rather stop sending the kids on errands and wait to see if their mother who is your friend will ask why you stopped sending her kids on errands before you take a tion. Just be careful.

simoncynto:
You also mentioned that the errand u wanted the child to go for you is only 2mins away. Why should the child leave her mother's house and come to your house just for a 2mins errand that u can go yourself?. Your story doesn't add up or maybe u are just trying to stir up discussion.

we live close by, her house is just a block from mine. actually I wasn't feeling so good that day, had a slight headache. her daughter usually come to my house a lot and she helps with little errands for me. I said lemme call her mom to send her over. we do normally talk on phone and whenever she wants something from me she sends her children to my house.

I asked for her daughter. anyway it's all good. I've learnt my lessons and I'm very careful now.

VULCAN:
Pls stop defending yourself.

As you have described it carefully, there is nothing wrong with asking your friends kids who are watching your TV to go outside and buy something from the aboki or the corner shop 2 mins away.

One of those condemning you dropped a post not long ago saying that she does not allow anyone tell her what to do.

Yet she is the No 1 "Let me tell you what you should do even though I'm an anonymous online stranger"

But I believe you should tell your friend why you have created distance.

She will say "the child is lying".

But I have seen plenty of such so I will take that defense with a pinch of salt.

Be careful of her.

Envy is the foundation of witchcraft and is one of the primary reason Africa is in such darkness. Most black people envy those closest to them and look for covert ways to take them down.

Be careful

Yes. Thank you. I appreciate. I'm very careful now.