Farfalla:


So bodies do actually "suffer" and get "humiliated" during coitus? I can swear I've come across countless posts here on NL claiming that both men and women enjoy sex and no one is doing the other a favour.

So basically you can confirm there's "suffering" and "humiliation" experienced by one party during sex, and this party that is compelled to sacrifice and subject their body to "suffering" and "humiliation" is actually doing the other a favour by sleeping with them, right?

In that regard, would it not then make sense that they may want a form of monetary compensation for the suffering and humiliation they subject their bodies to?

Lmao. They would say whatever when they need to make a point. Today the woman suffers humiliation. Tomorrow sex is mutual and she enjoys it more.

GloriousGbola:


Come here - I want to beat up and humiliate your nether regions .

Let's have some breaking and entering and aggravated assault with a deadly weapon

You have been a bad girl and now your going to get it

Lmaaaaoo!! 😂😂

jetson06:
Madam I feel your pain, but you don't have the right to tell your husband how to use his dick. You did not create him or pay his way through school. Therefore, you are not in the best position to tell him what to do. If he wants to keep frolicking with women, it is his problem not yours. If you are tired of the marriage, do yourself a big favour and get a divorce. You women are the ones pushing your men outside of the house because una no wan submit to male authority. You want to eat your cake and have it. The game of life, is not played that way. A man will always be a man. My candid advise is that you work on yourself and go learn a skill. I will advise you to go take some tech classes like Scrum, PMP, AWS, Azure etc.

I've read a lot of crap on this thread and your comment is top tier, premium crap. Your crap is crapping

All I know is that rat poison is now very sheep in the market

Ishilove:

I've read a lot of crap on this thread and your comment is top tier, premium crap. Your crap is crapping

ishilove1-0 jetson06

Stevenbright:


Why did he got married to her then?

Love at first sight

santaclaws:
You need to tell all these to someone close to him, like his family members or his mother. You need to let him know that if he doesn't change, you may not be able to endure him anymore...

Also, if you have a decent pastor (not fake ones), you can explain to him so he can counsel you and your husband.

He most likely would go back to flirting

Queendiamond398:
My husband prefers been busy on his phone with his numerous exes, divorcee and single ladies than gisting with me if we are together, i have always want him to have peace of mind but it seems he doesnt think of that about me

Am begining to find peace gisting with his friend anytime he comes to visit, some persons may say i saw the handwriting on the wall before i married him,Hell NO! .He succeded in making me chase all my friend both male and female away but now have numerous to chat with and laugh and please himself.

He thinks his smart but i pity him, is just my home training that is limiting me to do some kind of evil things ,we will go for party or club he will leave me and go and be sitting in midst of other ladies, while some men will come and sit with me and making advances at me and he doesnt know. Some of his friends that are as useless as him and come with their wives or Fiance doesnt know young and energetic men do have quickie with their wives at the rest room

My religion and the way i value my body can't make me to stooop so low to do all those things but why will a man choose to neglect the wive to be dieing of boredom .

Because of lack of attention my Male Colleagues always try to take advantage of that and be chatting with me till midnight without him even seeing it.

We lived in a separate room that this his attitude can make someone to be cheating without him knowing but i dont want to do that Please someone should help me out
Please am dieing slowly i have confronted him so many times but he will tell me i dont have the right to tell him what to do

Carry your cross biko.

You said he is as useless as his friends. It take a useless woman to marry a useless man.

You club together, others wives and fiancé are involved in quickie at the bar or club you patronise with your husband.

My father will always say "show me your friends, and I will tell you who you are".

From the story, I have concluded

Queendiamond398:
My husband prefers been busy on his phone with his numerous exes, divorcee and single ladies than gisting with me if we are together, i have always want him to have peace of mind but it seems he doesnt think of that about me

Am begining to find peace gisting with his friend anytime he comes to visit, some persons may say i saw the handwriting on the wall before i married him,Hell NO! .He succeded in making me chase all my friend both male and female away but now have numerous to chat with and laugh and please himself.

He thinks his smart but i pity him, is just my home training that is limiting me to do some kind of evil things ,we will go for party or club he will leave me and go and be sitting in midst of other ladies, while some men will come and sit with me and making advances at me and he doesnt know. Some of his friends that are as useless as him and come with their wives or Fiance doesnt know young and energetic men do have quickie with their wives at the rest room

My religion and the way i value my body can't make me to stooop so low to do all those things but why will a man choose to neglect the wive to be dieing of boredom .

Because of lack of attention my Male Colleagues always try to take advantage of that and be chatting with me till midnight without him even seeing it.

We lived in a separate room that this his attitude can make someone to be cheating without him knowing but i dont want to do that Please someone should help me out
Please am dieing slowly i have confronted him so many times but he will tell me i dont have the right to tell him what to do

You're boring yourself that's how it seems. First confide in his parents. Get a family member, a junior guy (distant cousin etc could fit) who is known to his family and urs but not him. Establish a very cordial and palpable relationship with that one. Laugh out loud on phone beside him when chatting with ur "faked" love. Make him extremely jealous. When he comes to find out no first gree till you could get his sincere listening ears and change of attitude. If this doesn't work, he may not love u at all just leave him and move on else u go cheat later o and destroy ur home.
Wait, wetin una dey find regularly for club.. Also with other friends una never get over youthful exuberances? Una Union sef...

pocohantas:


Lmao. They would say whatever when they need to make a point. Today the woman suffers humiliation. Tomorrow sex is mutual and she enjoys it more.

I actually prefer the humiliation theory.
That way I can justify receiving compensation for my "suffering".

Later these clowns will wonder why their wives hate sex.

franchasofficia:
Easier said than done.


Or let me say, easier typed as a comment than put into practice



Women should enjoy their life well well while single cos that is their best time in life while men's best time starts from 35yrs above and ag this age most men are financially buoyant and married, and they must recover what they lost when young while the ladies were enjoying all manner of male attention and pampering lol




Childbirth changes women. She might still look beautiful outside with nice clothes, fashion sense and body packaging, but only Oga knows that the value is no longer the same like before no matter how hard Madam tries to package after childbirth lolz

You talk something here oh because I am very young and hustling right now very hard. The girl I like same age as me 23, too like money and I can't take full responsibility (when I no dey craze). Na so she dey change boys like cloth to live life but I told her e no go last because even if I end up marrying her out of love immediately she no sharp again let say age 40 na there my own start. First to do no dey pain

NB: She say she like me though so I no dey reason boys wey she dey follow because I no get money

Correct me if I'm wrong

Queendiamond398:
My husband prefers been busy on his phone with his numerous exes, divorcee and single ladies than gisting with me if we are together, i have always want him to have peace of mind but it seems he doesnt think of that about me

Am begining to find peace gisting with his friend anytime he comes to visit, some persons may say i saw the handwriting on the wall before i married him,Hell NO! .He succeded in making me chase all my friend both male and female away but now have numerous to chat with and laugh and please himself.

He thinks his smart but i pity him, is just my home training that is limiting me to do some kind of evil things ,we will go for party or club he will leave me and go and be sitting in midst of other ladies, while some men will come and sit with me and making advances at me and he doesnt know. Some of his friends that are as useless as him and come with their wives or Fiance doesnt know young and energetic men do have quickie with their wives at the rest room

My religion and the way i value my body can't make me to stooop so low to do all those things but why will a man choose to neglect the wive to be dieing of boredom .

Because of lack of attention my Male Colleagues always try to take advantage of that and be chatting with me till midnight without him even seeing it.

We lived in a separate room that this his attitude can make someone to be cheating without him knowing but i dont want to do that Please someone should help me out
Please am dieing slowly i have confronted him so many times but he will tell me i dont have the right to tell him what to do

You're a child of God who married a child of the world.
You're both unequally yoked.
But You're married already, divorce is not the best option.
1. Re-educate your life to Christ.
2. Invite Christ to be Head of your marriage and home.
3. See marriage counsellor in your church.
4. The rest the Holy Spirit himself will guide you.

It's your cross to carry so now is a good time to start. Do it for your children especially.

Keep your focus on your marriage , when you find the details of one or two of the girls send a special delivery, for me ill prefer a full cup of shaving powder polluted over her head , thank me later

make we help u how? were we there when he married you..

epainos:


Hmmm!

The solution to this issue lies with at least 1 year of separation so that you can be normal again. You can't make a sound decision in the state you are in because you know everything is against you. The Nigerian society and the law are even against you...not to talk about families and people who will shut you up. Many of them are even doing it here now.

See...the most recent strategy girls use now is to travel abroad and the man will even sponsor it. If you think you can make him look into travelling abroad, use it. Caregivers in the UK are there, and it is the fastest. Use everything to make him accept it, or if you can pay for it without his knowledge, do it. Even if you are a professor in Nigeria, just take that route and check out for your sanity. You will be ok there and leave the care job.

If you can afford school fees, look into Canada and prepare for it very well. If you are capable of doing it...it depends on you.

Just Japa. I will say leave him or don't leave him. You will decide after you settle down there. What you need is a space to decide what you should do. If children are involved, you may have to prolong your silence even after you get there. A lady went for Care Job and when dependence was still easy to bring to the UK, she just behaved like a foo.l. She went first, and the kids were with the man....all visas ready. The man even sold all his properties later cos his wife was always giving him good news. He said his children cannot leave him ooo...and bla bla bla. That he wanted to be sure. When he saw it clearly that it was a good move, he said ook I can sell my properties and the kids and I can join you. The babe kept silent. When they arrived at the airport...it was there the girl went with her lawyer...she collected the kids...and showed UK immigration evidence she had piled up against the man. Lol. Domestic violence, reckless financial attitude, adultery, and many other things. Right in his face, Madam cut him from being her dependent and collected all her children. Lol. The man saw stars. The UK was even lenient, and they told him he had 1 full month to leave if he could not get a job that could sponsor him to stay. Lol. And even if he has it, he will have to go to court to take the kids. See, madam is even praying for him to get a job that will sponsor him...cos he doesn't know that the real wahala will start. Why? Madam's lawyer is ready to make him pay for all the children...and they will proceed with divorce formally. Lol. So, better for the man to return to Naija and forget about the kids and the girl. Another man will take the kids...and madam has already changed their surnames. Lol.

So, Japa! Make sure that you are the main applicant oooo. Let him be the "attachment"...lol.

JAPA!!!

Ah. Evil Evil Evil Evil!
I dey fear marriage I swear

BigBashiru:


You forgot to mention something....most girls already have had their fun before deciding to get married while the man was either doing born again or was working too hard....so it's unfair to tell the man to stick to one woman who has had her fun who you are not her first...why shouldn't the guy hv his fun too??

Na so one girl tell me. "Make I dey do my thing now so If I marry my eye no go dey up"

Shey the man no go enjoy when him don work all him youthful years while you were flexing with older men?

Times has change
Marriage is becoming overrated

NB: Correct me if I'm wrong

Queendiamond398:
My husband prefers been busy on his phone with his numerous exes, divorcee and single ladies than gisting with me if we are together, i have always want him to have peace of mind but it seems he doesnt think of that about me

Am begining to find peace gisting with his friend anytime he comes to visit, some persons may say i saw the handwriting on the wall before i married him,Hell NO! .He succeded in making me chase all my friend both male and female away but now have numerous to chat with and laugh and please himself.

He thinks his smart but i pity him, is just my home training that is limiting me to do some kind of evil things ,we will go for party or club he will leave me and go and be sitting in midst of other ladies, while some men will come and sit with me and making advances at me and he doesnt know. Some of his friends that are as useless as him and come with their wives or Fiance doesnt know young and energetic men do have quickie with their wives at the rest room

My religion and the way i value my body can't make me to stooop so low to do all those things but why will a man choose to neglect the wive to be dieing of boredom .

Because of lack of attention my Male Colleagues always try to take advantage of that and be chatting with me till midnight without him even seeing it.

We lived in a separate room that this his attitude can make someone to be cheating without him knowing but i dont want to do that Please someone should help me out
Please am dieing slowly i have confronted him so many times but he will tell me i dont have the right to tell him what to do

Babe pls I beg you,can u chat me up privately,I know a lady was story was like yours ,but she left the marriage and now regretting,pls I really need to talk to u,I understand all u are going true pls calm down,I have see this your stage in marriage before ,it will pass

SOG0625:


Ah. Evil Evil Evil Evil!
I dey fear marriage I swear

What is evil there? So you want a woman whose husband is fvcking around to wait till she is infected? Right? You want a man beating the wife to kill her...right?

So, it is Holy Holy Holy Holy Holy for men to be the gods in Nigerian homes and behave like nonentities? Right?

Bro...if you don't pity these ladies who are suffering in Nigerian marriages, you are the real evil person.

Men in Nigeria are evil. Na dem only dey inside that marriage...women are so maltreated in Nigeria...yet, evil people like you tag them badly.

I thank God for these girls coming out. Very good. I love the way they are bold...and I praise God for tech... and the opportunity to Japa.

Evil man...treat your wife very well like yourself. If you mess up and you think the society will be on your side to force her in the marriage, you will lose your children and another man will take over.

Treat your wife well. If you know you aren't goong to treat her well....do not get married. Marriage is not by force...enslaving her is not what you should do.

If you try it...you go collect. So, I am happy you are scared of marriage. That nonsense your papa did...and your mama endured ....dont expect these girls to take such nonsense.

Treat your wife well. Else...you go collect!

Mr. EVIL!!!

GloriousGbola:


Come here - I want to beat up and humiliate your nether regions .

Let's have some breaking and entering and aggravated assault with a deadly weapon

You have been a bad girl and now your going to get it

That girl na literate ashawo

jetson06:
Madam I feel your pain, but you don't have the right to tell your husband how to use his dick. You did not create him or pay his way through school. Therefore, you are not in the best position to tell him what to do. If he wants to keep frolicking with women, it is his problem not yours. If you are tired of the marriage, do yourself a big favour and get a divorce. You women are the ones pushing your men outside of the house because una no wan submit to male authority. You want to eat your cake and have it. The game of life, is not played that way. A man will always be a man. My candid advise is that you work on yourself and go learn a skill. I will advise you to go take some tech classes like Scrum, PMP, AWS, Azure etc.

Quick question. Why is a man allowed to cheat and a woman not allowed in Nigeria?

epainos:

What is evil there? So you want a woman whose husband is fvcking around to wait till she is infected? Right? You want a man beating the wife to kill her...right?

So, it is Holy Holy Holy Holy Holy for men to be the gods in Nigerian homes and behave like nonentities? Right?

Bro...if you don't pity these ladies who are suffering in Nigerian marriages, you are the real evil person.

Men in Nigeria are evil. Na dem only dey inside that marriage...women are so maltreated in Nigeria...yet, evil people like you tag them badly.

I thank God for these girls coming out. Very good. I love the way they are bold...and I praise God for tech... and the opportunity to Japa.

Evil man...treat your wife very well like yourself. If you mess up and you think the society will be on your side to force her in the marriage, you will lose your children and another man will take over.

Treat your wife well. If you know you aren't goong to treat her well....do not get married. Marriage is not by force...enslaving her is not what you should do.

If you try it...you go collect. So, I am happy you are scared of marriage. That nonsense your papa did...and your mama endured ....dont expect these girls to take such nonsense.

Treat your wife well. Else...you go collect!

Mr. EVIL!!!

But bro even women dey do men nowadays oh. Sometimes man can no dey at fault but the woman wan sitdown ontop am. Women dey go lie to travel abroad nowadays when husband do nothing. You no hear Do2tun matter?

Queendiamond398:
My husband prefers been busy on his phone with his numerous exes, divorcee and single ladies than gisting with me if we are together, i have always want him to have peace of mind but it seems he doesnt think of that about me

Am begining to find peace gisting with his friend anytime he comes to visit, some persons may say i saw the handwriting on the wall before i married him,Hell NO! .He succeded in making me chase all my friend both male and female away but now have numerous to chat with and laugh and please himself.

He thinks his smart but i pity him, is just my home training that is limiting me to do some kind of evil things ,we will go for party or club he will leave me and go and be sitting in midst of other ladies, while some men will come and sit with me and making advances at me and he doesnt know. Some of his friends that are as useless as him and come with their wives or Fiance doesnt know young and energetic men do have quickie with their wives at the rest room

My religion and the way i value my body can't make me to stooop so low to do all those things but why will a man choose to neglect the wive to be dieing of boredom .

Because of lack of attention my Male Colleagues always try to take advantage of that and be chatting with me till midnight without him even seeing it.

We lived in a separate room that this his attitude can make someone to be cheating without him knowing but i dont want to do that Please someone should help me out
Please am dieing slowly i have confronted him so many times but he will tell me i dont have the right to tell him what to do

He is tired of you, he wishes you will cheat and he catches you then send you packing. The guy is lost, just concentrate on your kids if you have, if not find a way to start making babies. That's the only thing you will gain in this marriage. Whenever, he comes back to sense, he may start to value you. Be independent, make babies, be busy and use scarcity to increase value. Whatever you are doing, don't cheat, you have nothing to gain after cheating.

Action102:


I will advise you to disgard this option. never made mention of it. If he ask you out of his house, forget it, it will be difficult to get another husband before you know it another lady will replace you. Dont take decisions that will backfire you. I will advise you, talk to him about your observation and put him in your prayers. Alot of girls out there are doing over time on married men spiritually.

Abeg explain the over time on married men.

Some men feel comfortable when they know their they don't have competition but get serious when they know that she can walk away

SOG0625:


But bro even women dey do men nowadays oh. Sometimes man can no dey at fault but the woman wan sitdown ontop am. Women dey go lie to travel abroad nowadays when husband do nothing. You no hear Do2tun matter?

Yes, I agree. This issue is about two people who want to live together. See...it is very hard for two people to live together these days...and religious books have predicted it.

My own is that Africans have chained their women too long..and these girls are wild now. Yes, demons will use many of them because they feel they have arrived..

So, I know myself only. My take is...if marriage is not working, it is not by force. Las las...the society will be like the US. Shikena.

See...if you don't see the right person, don't let anyone force you. Japa from pressure so you don't carry a bad thing. Soak yourself in abroad life so that even if you get old, their government can take care of you...not here in Naija we depend on children. Japa...if your faith does not go against finding a lady to give you a child without marriage and you have an agreement that she cannot claim more than the agreed reward, go for it.

I don't support sex outside marriage, but to me..we will have no choice but to normalize it very soon. This is the reality.

It is extremely hard for two adults in this present generation to live peacefully together.

epainos:

Yes, I agree. This issue is about two people who want to live together. See...it is very hard for two people to live together these days...and religious books have predicted it.

My own is that Africans have chained their women too long..and these girls are wild now. Yes, demons will use many of them because they feel they have arrived..

So, I know myself only. My take is...if marriage is not working, it is not by force. Las las...the society will be like the US. Shikena.

See...if you don't see the right person, don't let anyone force you. Japa from pressure so you don't carry a bad thing. Soak yourself in abroad life so that even if you get old, their government can take care of you...not here in Naija we depend on children. Japa...if your faith does not go against finding a lady to give you a child without marriage and you have an agreement that she cannot claim more than the agreed reward, go for it.

I don't support sex outside marriage, but to me..we will have no choice but to normalize it very soon. This is the reality.

It is extremely hard for two adults in this present generation to live peacefully together.

Na why I dey fear marriage be that. It's becoming too overrated in Nigeria

Queendiamond398:
My husband prefers been busy on his phone with his numerous exes, divorcee and single ladies than gisting with me if we are together, i have always want him to have peace of mind but it seems he doesnt think of that about me

Am begining to find peace gisting with his friend anytime he comes to visit, some persons may say i saw the handwriting on the wall before i married him,Hell NO! .He succeded in making me chase all my friend both male and female away but now have numerous to chat with and laugh and please himself.

He thinks his smart but i pity him, is just my home training that is limiting me to do some kind of evil things ,we will go for party or club he will leave me and go and be sitting in midst of other ladies, while some men will come and sit with me and making advances at me and he doesnt know. Some of his friends that are as useless as him and come with their wives or Fiance doesnt know young and energetic men do have quickie with their wives at the rest room

My religion and the way i value my body can't make me to stooop so low to do all those things but why will a man choose to neglect the wive to be dieing of boredom .

Because of lack of attention my Male Colleagues always try to take advantage of that and be chatting with me till midnight without him even seeing it.

We lived in a separate room that this his attitude can make someone to be cheating without him knowing but i dont want to do that Please someone should help me out
Please am dieing slowly i have confronted him so many times but he will tell me i dont have the right to tell him what to do

Stop sleeping apart as husband and wife. It's the course called Introduction to divorce ITD 101.

Then have strong conversation with him

joseph1832:
the place is full of badly raised kids. Many of them are damaged.

Very damaged. It's like Nairaland is an outlet to channel all their dark emotions

Queendiamond398:
My husband prefers been busy on his phone with his numerous exes, divorcee and single ladies than gisting with me if we are together, i have always want him to have peace of mind but it seems he doesnt think of that about me

Am begining to find peace gisting with his friend anytime he comes to visit, some persons may say i saw the handwriting on the wall before i married him,Hell NO! .He succeded in making me chase all my friend both male and female away but now have numerous to chat with and laugh and please himself.

He thinks his smart but i pity him, is just my home training that is limiting me to do some kind of evil things ,we will go for party or club he will leave me and go and be sitting in midst of other ladies, while some men will come and sit with me and making advances at me and he doesnt know. Some of his friends that are as useless as him and come with their wives or Fiance doesnt know young and energetic men do have quickie with their wives at the rest room

My religion and the way i value my body can't make me to stooop so low to do all those things but why will a man choose to neglect the wive to be dieing of boredom .

Because of lack of attention my Male Colleagues always try to take advantage of that and be chatting with me till midnight without him even seeing it.

We lived in a separate room that this his attitude can make someone to be cheating without him knowing but i dont want to do that Please someone should help me out
Please am dieing slowly i have confronted him so many times but he will tell me i dont have the right to tell him what to do

Start by sleeping in the same room.
Your relationship foundation is faulty

Ishilove:

Very damaged. It's like Nairaland is a outlet to channel all their dark emotions

Really?
I miss those days Ishilove and fynestboi were supermods

Have sex with him early around 5am, for 1 week, during sex tell him your problem in a lovely manner. If he doesn't change travel to your house and stay there. He will come begging.

MightySparrow:
No dey wear pants at home.


Give him overdose of the hmmmm.


Or give him ẹfọ riro.

From the write up, some of these ladies marry make them show them shege...in za other room. However, they act too traditional .
They don't walk around like bad mammis .....make long john of dady pay classroom attention.....
Feed him jazz food and he and his tongue will continue down there.
It's not too bad for Daddy to play some away, but make sure San Siro is the major field.
Mam....the grass is not greener on the other side....your marriage can be sweeter