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Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by adanny01(m): 12:29pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Queendiamond398: Do you have kids, I don't think so. It sounds like your marriage is not old. Why do you sit beside him while he is chatting? Stand up and twerk. Sit on his lap and make out. Don't give him space. You want him to initiate romance, you guys are married now, ditch that laid back attitude and involve yourself in finding peace and happiness. Sex is not meant for bed alone. Value your body you say? How can you be married and value your body more than your husband? |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by Farfalla(f): 12:30pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
jeromestarks: So bodies do actually "suffer" and get "humiliated" during coitus? I can swear I've come across countless posts here on NL claiming that both men and women enjoy sex and no one is doing the other a favour. So basically you confirm there's "suffering" and "humiliation" experienced by one party during sex, and this party that is compelled to sacrifice and subject their body to "suffering" and "humiliation" is actually doing the other a favour by sleeping with them, right? In that regard, would it then not make sense that they may want a form of monetary and/or material compensation for the suffering and humiliation they subject their bodies to? 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by SPAMBOX7: 12:32pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Bliss62:Una no dey tire with this una cliche 😫 Tueh! |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by Stonecoldstare1: 12:34pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Xwizard:In that case, divorce isn't ok then if the man were in her shoes? |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by epainos: 12:35pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Queendiamond398: Hmmm! The solution to this issue lies with at least 1 year of separation so that you can be normal again. You can't make a sound decision in the state you are in because you know everything is against you. The Nigerian society and the law are even against you...not to talk about families and people who will shut you up. Many of them are even doing it here now. See...the most recent strategy girls use now is to travel abroad and the man will even sponsor it. If you think you can make him look into travelling abroad, use it. Caregivers in the UK are there, and it is the fastest. Use everything to make him accept it, or if you can pay for it without his knowledge, do it. Even if you are a professor in Nigeria, just take that route and check out for your sanity. You will be ok there and leave the care job. If you can afford school fees, look into Canada and prepare for it very well. If you are capable of doing it...it depends on you. Just Japa. I won't say leave him or don't leave him. You will decide after you settle down there. What you need is a space to decide what you should do. If children are involved, you may have to prolong your silence even after you get there. A lady went for Care Job and when dependents were still easy to bring to the UK, she just behaved like a foo.l. She went first, and the kids were with the man....all visas ready. The man even sold all his properties later cos his wife was always giving him good news. He said his children cannot leave him ooo...and bla bla bla. That he wanted to be sure. When he saw it clearly that it was a good move, he said ook I can sell my properties and the kids and I can join you. The babe kept silent. When they arrived at the airport...it was there the girl went with her lawyer...she collected the kids...and showed UK immigration evidence she had piled up against the man. Lol. Domestic violence, reckless financial attitude, adultery, and many other things. Right in his face, Madam cut him from being her dependent and collected all her children. Lol. The man saw stars. The UK was even lenient, and they told him he had 1 full month to leave if he could not get a job that could sponsor him to stay. Lol. And even if he has it, he will have to go to court to take the kids. See, madam is even praying for him to get a job that will sponsor him...cos he doesn't know that the real wahala will start. Why? Madam's lawyer was ready to make him pay for all the children...and they would proceed with divorce formally. Lol. So, better for the man to return to Naija and forget about the kids and the girl. Another man will take the kids...and madam changed their surnames. Lol. So, Japa! Make sure that you are the main applicant oooo. Let him be the "attachment"...lol. JAPA!!! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by Stonecoldstare1: 12:35pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
We4all:Later you men will be acting as if you don't gossip,what concerns you with the matter now? You can just see it and pass by |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by Ishilove: 12:36pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Nairaland has become one of the worst places to seek marital advice from 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by adanny01(m): 12:38pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
santaclaws: Bad idea. Very very bad advice. This is against the first lesson of marriage counselling - communication. That's bring 3rd parties in a marriage and embarrassing him. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by Exceed15: 12:38pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
See ehn I prefer you talk to someone he respects so much at his family side not yours o. It is like a witness to what is presently going on. Well I need to also ask if you listen to him. Sometimes he may prefer you start dressing certain ways or changing your Outlook. Is there anything he has been telling u to work on? |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by YoshihideSuga: 12:39pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
VaginaAcademic: It's her husband who is likely to do so, not outsiders. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by BigBashiru: 12:41pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
franchasofficia: You forgot to mention something....most girls already have had their fun before deciding to get married while the man was either doing born again or was working too hard (even though some guys had their fun too sha)....so it's unfair to tell the man to stick to one woman who has had her fun who you are not her first...why shouldn't the guy hv his fun too?? 5 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by adanny01(m): 12:43pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Coolsat: The problem is she isn't putting spice to the marriage. She mentioned religion and value of her body. It means she doesn't jump up to hug him when he comes home or sit on his lap or take a bite of his food. She wants him but she is laid back expecting him to know what she wants. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by spiSeyi: 12:43pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Maybe the OP is not neat enough because most 9ja women suddenly begin to behave like grandma after making kid(s) and are not well-packaged by forming housewives. 90% of cheating husbands are tired of their wife's granny looks and attitude. I noticed this when moved closer to one or two single moms (they started packaging for another suitor after the first divorce, yet they are not that neat ) |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by grandstar(m): 12:45pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Queendiamond398 I feel sorry for men like your husband. When it backfires big time, it may be too late to regret. My cousin had a cousin (on his father side) who worked for a government security agency. Both he and his wife worked there. If he was with his mistress and his wife called, he would act like man of the house and tell her off as though what he was doing was honourable. Unsatisfied with his pay packet, he travelled to the UK and got work as a security company. That work plenty for there for Nigerians. Combined with his security training in Nigeria, he handled the job well. He used to sell money to the family in Nigeria but did so with an air of arrogance. One thing led to another, he came back to Naija and couldn't return. He was devastated and penniless. Meanwhile, when he was overseas, his wife was transferred to the airport. There she was seeing between 50-70k per day on the side. Mind you, this was around 2006. Then the exchange rate was 120 to $1. That would be at least 350k per day in todays money. She was making so much money that she was even lending it out. She did not know what to do with it. However, she did construct a house. With the husband now home, penniless and very miserable. He stayed in his wife's house for a short while, but moved out due to manly pride. He later got work in Dubai but the pay there was too low and he came back. He came to stay with us in Ikeja. He later got a manager's job with a security company that paid him 60k a month. This wasn't much but he managed. He started dating a lady in her 30s in my area. From the looks of things, it was more about the money and he seemed by now to be ignoring his wife. They got married. His wife tried to find out the names of those who attended the wedding so she could cut them off permanently for what she considered treacherous. The lady he married is a proud snob and domineering. They had a kid together and she now kicked him out. I think all she wanted was a child and once she got one, hit the road Jack! Well, for his first wife, he later learnt she was in Canada with their 2 daughters. This was a punch below the belt. He looked finished. It was humiliating. I am sure she won't help him come over. It was obviously a punishment for his womanizing ways. Obey your wedding vows (Hebrews 13:4) |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by Chetas81(m): 12:46pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
King David brothers |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by Chetas81(m): 12:47pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
adanny01:but he already in embarrassing situation |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by GloriousGbola: 12:47pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Farfalla: Come here - I want to beat up and humiliate your nether regions . Let's have some breaking and entering and aggravated assault with a deadly weapon You have been a bad girl and now your going to get it 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by abbasajao(m): 12:48pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
You don't sound responsible either. You are even calling your husband and idiot man. E dey your body |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by joseph1832(m): 12:48pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Ishilove:the place is full of badly raised kids. Many of them are damaged. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by We4all: 12:49pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Stonecoldstare1: So, if you are not a gossip, why didn't you ignore my post? |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by Anny69: 12:50pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
I pity you so much. You better drop that home training that's holding you. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by JaySmart4422: 12:57pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
90% of married men do this online Reason some of them can't stay far from their phones some put it under their pillow when they want to sleep. Many married men have their nudes on most of this small girls phones So madam if you look all this ones You will cheat in your marriage oo. Best thing is either you ignore him n get busy with something Or you cheat or do same thing he is doing. But I will say you should ignore him He will get tired n eventually stop |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by adanny01(m): 12:57pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Chetas81: Embarrassing situation? Embarrassing situation is when people who respect you know that you have not satisfied your wife. When your pastor knows details of your home. Your parents or siblings know about your sex life. Anyone who knows you like that will judge you in his mind. Rule of thumb, never discuss your life with any outsider of a relationship. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by Omoawoke2(m): 12:57pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
jeromestarks: You said my mind If the story is true, aunty has already started fvking around like the whoree she is and she’s just looking for moral support to justify her actions. |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by buJu234: 1:00pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Sorry madam, e nor easy to be a man oo, especially with money Also, it's not easy to be a discipline man morally. Pussys are too many and easily available these days from single ladies to single mothers to divorcees.. all begging and fighting for fewer responsible men advice him on safe sex .. u too stop going to the club with him. Focus on building ur home. Lastly, u can trick him to located the western countries, where women has the power. Then u can threaten him with divorce over there. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by Omoawoke2(m): 1:02pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Queendiamond398: Olosho!!!!! Looking for excuse to do what you were born to do, go fvk around . Nobody is begging you 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by SUPOL(m): 1:05pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Jeon:are you the one on your dp? 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by Jeon(f): 1:06pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
SUPOL: No, it's a stolen photo. 9 Likes |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by gonkin(m): 1:08pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Breaking that addiction isnt easy. Pray he doesn't bring home std to u someday |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by phorget(m): 1:09pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
Queendiamond398: I'm so speechless, things like these are becoming so rampant. |
Re: My Husband Flirt With Girls Alot Help Me !! by Kelly2713(m): 1:09pm On Dec 14, 2023 |
madridguy:lolz |
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