This believe is very common Abroad most especially here in London where guyz later tend to f'uc.k you without mutual love....... Me realy pity galz.

Some people are so confused, and will confuse you with their confusing thoughts, confused ideas and confused opinions.

Please be careful when you seek for advice, opinions and suggestions.

all you gals making iYANGA at the university for small small boys should know that you have a SHELF-LIFE and an EXPIRY DATE you can say what you want all i care, it wudn,t change a thing

nice thread. It does ring a bell into my head.


nice one @Op. it is very rare to find many reasonable people on one thread. This is one in a long while.


I keep d lessons learnt to myself

Aggrippa: all you gals making iYANGA at the university for small small boys should know that you have a SHELF-LIFE and an EXPIRY DATE you can say what you want all i care, it wudn,t change a thing

it is always so obvious when a small boy is talking.

deols:

it is always so obvious when a small boy is talking.

*jumps into river niger

A good woman will always find a man whether she is 18 or 40. If u think being 18 or being a female neurosurgeon is enough to get u marriage, i tell u , u re in for a big shocker. For sure, u can get a big wedding, but i doubt if a marriage will follow. No man wants a party pooper as a wife. Just be a good woman, i mean be well mannered, respectful, and peaceful..and see what differrence that will make.

Lanrefahm: corenthians chapter 7

Ki loso?

If a person starts thinking of marriage when in college, when does the person want to flex n have fun? Nowadays girls enter college by 17/18 and are generally done by 23/24, they shld strt thinking of mrrg and considering suitors then. Its not wise to mix schooling and marriage, one must surely suffer. But then if u are already in ur late twenties n still in sch u shld start considering it.

well, there is almost nothing guaranteed in life. The story here is what guy use to get ladies to bed and will still not marry them.

To each his own.

deols:

it is always so obvious when a small boy is talking.

this is what i call A-P-H-A-K-H-O.... chai too many bantress on NL... Idowuogbo don get many disciples...

DICKtator: LOOK FOR MR RIGHT at the right time(early) before you become expired and no longer relevant in the market. We guys always check the expiry date of y'all!!!!!

Hahahah, good one

I think it's just important to find someone who is on the same page as you. So yes, building a life first, whether it's career or education or personality might make it more difficult to find a partner who is still single, but then if you do, you can pretty much presume they have the same mind-set as you to have been single this time. At the same time, if you couple up in college, it will be mainly because you are both on the same level. I myself believe one should become their own person first and then become somebody else's half, and I can say that in college most people have not established their personalities enough to commit fully and understand fully what they can give and what they want in return. (hope I will not offend anyone with this

True2myself24:

It's not a matter of chasing guys around campus. Its about being opened minded. My older sister is 28 and is doing her medical residency at a very prestigious medical school. When she was in college and working on her medical degree she had many suitors come her way. She ignored many of them, some of which were very nice, and her excuse was that she wasnt ready for a relationship. But now many of those guys have gotten older and are between the ages of 28-33 and are married or engaged to much younger women in their mid twenties. Now I love my sister and want to her to be happy but even now she is still saying she's not ready for a relationship because she's focusing on her career. By the time she's done with residency she'll be 30, and might settle for a much older guy who still cant find a wife. There's no formula for how to live your life but being open minded can take you far.

Suitors that came for your sister are either married or engaged and you say your sister should have an open mind. Can't you respect her wish i.e she is not ready? Assuming the married ones had proposed to your sister what should she have done?

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elewedu: A good woman will always find a man whether she is 18 or 40. If u think being 18 or being a female neurosurgeon is enough to get u marriage, i tell u , u re in for a big shocker. For sure, u can get a big wedding, but i doubt if a marriage will follow. No man wants a party pooper as a wife. Just be a good woman, i mean be well mannered, respectful, and peaceful..and see what differrence that will make.

"Good woman" is not written on the forehead, so until men get closer to this "good woman" before they can know how "good" she is.

Now, for men, attraction matters, what attracts or catches our fancy is what we go near (talking about matured men here), if you're old, your chances drop, matured men see "older women" as either hooked or not good enough to have been hooked at that age, so it's still a disadvantage for any woman not to have a suitor anything past 30yrs.

BTW, a woman in her 30s is no longer a hot demand in the market no matter how "good" she is.

CrushX:


Hahahah, good one

I think it's just important to find someone who is on the same page as you. So yes, building a life first, whether it's career or education or personality might make it more difficult to find a partner who is still single, but then if you do, you can pretty much presume they have the same mind-set as you to have been single this time. At the same time, if you couple up in college, it will be mainly because you are both on the same level. I myself believe one should become their own person first and then become somebody else's half, and I can say that in college most people have not established their personalities enough to commit fully and understand fully what they can give and what they want in return. (hope I will not offend anyone with this

Is finding a partner not part of building one's life?

I think one can handle both education and a healthy relationship while in school. That doesn't mean ur throwing yourself @campus guys bcs in as much as there are all these itty-bitty guys with sharp mouths on campus, there are also a number of good ones. Its all abt mingling with the right people and setting your priorities straight as a girl. I have bn able to handle a healthy relationship with my studies and thank God,we are gradutes now planning on the next phase of life. Marriage isn't all about making babies....i thnk companionship is the word! Babies are jara frm God!

hmmm lovely..most gals wat on dier heads now is 25 i most be married dey r wit d mentality of d older you get d more d beauty fades forgetin beauty lies in ur attitude and character ...dey kip falling for guys witout vision and plans.....d truth is A GUY DEALS WITH YOU THE WAY U CARRY YOURSELF OR ur first impression last longer..i wod rada marry and train a VILLAGE wit vision and attitude dan a CITY gal wit low mentality...MR RIGHT wod always come at d right time tru any medium THOSE WHO STUDY YOU WITOUT

CFCfan: @True2myself and 2legit: You two hit the nail on the head. There should be a balance between one pursuing academic excellence/career goals, and having a good social life. As they say, all work and no play makes Obi a dull boy.

U dey craze why u go use (my name) Obi make ur point, Jack don die?

mondi_cheeks: I don't wanna get married now, but wen I'm ready for marriage, it will be because I want someone I can love and commit myself to for the rest of my life and have children with. Someone I will love respect and be loyal to, so long I get the same in return.

Assumed u don't get the same in returned then war begins?..

CrushX:


Hahahah, good one

I think it's just important to find someone who is on the same page as you. So yes, building a life first, whether it's career or education or personality might make it more difficult to find a partner who is still single, but then if you do, you can pretty much presume they have the same mind-set as you to have been single this time. At the same time, if you couple up in college, it will be mainly because you are both on the same level. I myself believe one should become their own person first and then become somebody else's half, and I can say that in college most people have not established their personalities enough to commit fully and understand fully what they can give and what they want in return. (hope I will not offend anyone with this

Its your opinion and you're entitled to it.

This particular statement really got to me

one should become their own person first and then become somebody else's half

And so as you rightly said

most people have not established their personalities enough to commit fully and understand fully what they can give and what they want in return

Notwithstanding, while trying to discover oneself, the immediate environment can greatly affect the moulding process. Constantly or frequently mixing, interacting and socialising with peers of same age bracket and older folks can help one in two ways. Firstly, one understands how peers (same age) relate with one another, how they reason and their capabilities, how they describe and explore their worlds. Secondly, one. Understands how older folks live their world.

With time, one gets to understand the other and see if his goals and ambitions align with the other. For a woman, she'll even feel safe, secure and comfortable. That's why we are encourage to find that special half while we 'establishe our personality'.

However the woman folk out of maybe the need to feel secure and comfort in most cases, tend to go after the 'men'. Men who they feel is established financially, taking care of her financial needs but lacking in providing, say, emotional needs through inability to connect by communication

What works for one may not necessarily work for the other.

Libra-kid:
I think one can handle both education and a healthy relationship while in school. That doesn't mean ur throwing yourself @campus guys bcs in as much as there are all these itty-bitty guys with sharp mouths on campus, there are also a number of good ones. Its all abt mingling with the right people and setting your priorities straight as a girl. I have bn able to handle a healthy relationship with my studies and thank God,we are gradutes now planning on the next phase of life. Marriage isn't all about making babies....i thnk companionship is the word! Babies are jara frm God!

Matured! 1000likes..how l wish mayapreety will hear this..

2legit2qwt:
Of course i know your school work is number 1, we can always maintain that on the side **flirty eyes**

you can be number 1 over the holidays though

Princeparix: lolz! Healthy?
Have u eva tot of getting married witout kids?

no, but neither have I thought of getting married to someone who isnt ready to love and be committed to me as I would to him

chikeorji123:

Assumed u don't get the same in returned then war begins?..

no, I will simply give back in return what he will be giving to me

True2myself24: I was watching CNN and they were talking about how women plan their lives in terms of marriage. Well there was a woman on the show who was saying that the best time for a woman to look for a spouse or a potential spouse is while she's In college because it's at that age and environment that you're most likely to find a man who is, what she called, on the same social and intellectual level as you. According to her, women of this generation have been taught to use their twenties to futher themselves academically and professionally. Marriage should be something you seek after later in your thirties once you've achieved all or most of your professional goals. But then the problem with such an approach, again according to her, is that women end up marrying a lot later because of their careers and by the time they're well settled professionally they're in their early to mid thirties and have nothing but their careers; and not only that, but they have a limited pool of men from with they can chose from because the men they could have dated, and maybe married, when they were in college are already married and probably with their first child by their early thirties. Some people called this woman's advice sexist and regressive because if taken out of context, it sounds as if she's telling college women that they should be preoccupied with getting married instead of furthering themselves.

Me on the other hand I agree with her. I think that while you're young and in school you should keep your eyes open and see what's out there. I don't think that you should rush into marriage right away; afterall, you're not going to school just to walk straight into marriage and start making babies. I'm all for women developing themselves while they're young, but It's also wise not to shut out every guy that comes your way all in the name of advancing yourself in your career. What good is money and a dream job if you have no one to share it with? What's your opinion? Do you agree with the woman's argument? Why or why not?

Good points.

Alleinad: The way I see it, anytime a lady wants to get a husband, she will. Even the bible says seek and you shall find. I am also of the opinion that if you've got plenty paper to spare, you can have any guy you want, esp the young guys. They r cuter anyway, more active, very lively, I could go on. Peace out.

Initial lines makes 38%..if a lady get husband anytime she decided to settle down then why so much pressure on pastors to provide husbands & men don't want to settle down syndrom?..

Alleinad: The way I see it, anytime a lady wants to get a husband, she will. Even the bible says seek and you shall find. I am also of the opinion that if you've got plenty paper to spare, you can have any guy you want, esp the young guys. They r cuter anyway, more active, very lively, I could go on. Peace out.

Initial lines makes 38%..if a lady get husband anytime she decided to settle then why so much pressure on pastors & men?..

Chomzy19: If a person starts thinking of marriage when in college, when does the person want to flex n have fun? Nowadays girls enter college by 17/18 and are generally done by 23/24, they shld strt thinking of mrrg and considering suitors then. Its not wise to mix schooling and marriage, one must surely suffer. But then if u are already in ur late twenties n still in sch u shld start considering it.

I don't know what you mean by flexing but I know that the best flexing is enjoyed in marriage with a spouse you love and loves you too.

Imagine you marry a 25 yr old man who really loves you @ 23. By 26, you are done having your kids...

You get to flex for the next 44yrs if you live till a min of 70.

I know this is a surreal situation but...

This is my own definition of real flexing!

I like to do what I have to do on time and move to the next step!

kaboninc: Some people are so confused, and will confuse you with their confusing thoughts, confused ideas and confused opinions.

Please be careful when you seek for advice, opinions and suggestions.

i agree.

@ topic

there's not really a hard and fast rule.

some will find their mates in college, some find their partners after college, while others are married before they even enter college [very common in the olden days].

i'd say prayer is key. Nothing pass God.

honeric01:

"Good woman" is not written on the forehead, so until men get closer to this "good woman" before they can know how "good" she is.

Now, for men, attraction matters, what attracts or catches our fancy is what we go near (talking about matured men here), if you're old, your chances drop, matured men see "older women" as elder hooked or not good enough to have been hooked at that age, so it's still a disadvantage for any woman not to have a suitor anything past 30yrs.

BTW, a woman in her 30s is no longer a hot demand in the market no matter how "good" she is.

the part u mentioned that the chances drop with age is spot on. I agree absolutely.