INCREASE IN DIVORCE RATE: WOMEN ARE TO BLAME

the increase in divorce rate in our society is alarming and from the look of things our mothers, sisters and aunts are the cause.

weting unah get to say, abi we don turn EUROPE AND US. infact what is the cause?

Yes, there is high increase in divorce rate and its going to be increasing in as much our "girls" are not too anxious of getting married tommorrow. See our girls high "chicken brain. You can not imagne what a girl that drop a loving and sincere boyfriend just because he is not committing himself to marrying her for a person she met in just few months for marriage. What do you expect from such home.guess,

And how do you figure that women are to blame for all the failed marriages?

Outstrip:

And how do you figure that women are to blame for all the failed marriages?

thank you. . .let's wait for the answer o

The main causes of Divorce is:
1. The marraige was not found on the right foundation
2. Infidelity
3. Insincerity

No one sex has a full blame. Both men and women are culpable.

women are waking up and are not ready to accept all nonsense from men.
tank god for small mercies

well said mamaput, in the past women were too submissive and took alot of sh*t from their husbands and their families. but nowadays, women are more confidence and men take it for arrogance. too bad.

Proper care and education for our children remains a cornerstone of civilization.
Children not only shape our future; they determine in many ways our present.

Men and women work harder knowing their children are safe and close at hand.
And never forget that, with children present, parents will defend their home to the death.

Only if parents understood this, Divorce rates will come down faster
than a high temperature in Alaska

Nothing wrong with divorce at all.  If you are not happy, after you have said and done it all to make it work, please get out!

Marriage is not meant for every body.  It is better for 2 dysfunctional people to live separately than together. . . to make life miserable for all around them with their frustrations!

Get out if it is not working!  I see divorce in most cases as the best solution.  Most of the people who got divorced had no business getting married in the FIRST place!

As a divorcee, the heavenly bodies are only putting you where you belong in the first place. . . SINGLE!

If women are to blame. . .tough!  When you get divorced, the blame is not on the certificate under male or female.  YOU BOTH SHARE IN THE FAILURE!

Strike one! For both!

mamaput:

women are waking up and are not ready to accept all nonsense from men.
tank god for small mercies

Thank the devil for iya ndagbes ill advising young girls in the society

JustGood:

Thank the devil for iya ndagbes ill advising young girls in the society

i only hope your daughter doesn't get into a nasty marriage.

Gamine:

Proper care and education for our children remains a cornerstone of civilization.
Children not only shape our future; they determine in many ways our present.

Men and women work harder knowing their children are safe and close at hand.
And never forget that, with children present, parents will defend their home to the death.

Only if parents understood this, Divorce rates will come down faster
than a high temperature in Alaska

you realize that alot of the fked up adults in the world are a function of the sort of union of 'dysfunctional couples' that almond was referring to?

where do you think the ted bundy's , jeffery dahmers, etc of the world came from?

unless the couple can resolve to live in a lovelss marriage in which their childern are oblivious to the bad blood between them, let them divorce.

kids who grow up in families where domestic violence, infidelity, alcoholism, etc are the norm grow up t repeat the trend.

Thats what im saying.

IF parents would realise that It isnt just about them
They would live in Love.

i Still dont understand how two people, who Genuinely loved themselves
with flaws and all, Would end up hating themselves so much so as to Divorce

i dont geddit, what kind of problem arises that cant be solved

Then Again, i guess im still on Planet Earth and its sad

Gamine:

Thats what im saying.

IF parents would realise that It isnt just about them
They would live in Love.

i Still don't understand how two people, who Genuinely loved themselves
with flaws and all, Would end up hating themselves so much so as to Divorce

i don't geddit, what kind of problem arises that can't be solved

Then Again, i guess im still on Planet Earth and its sad

My sister, you cant understand it because you are a good girl with a good background and upbringing. I pray you never understand it the way many of those women understand it.

It is that understanding which makes a lot of men and women think they are being smart and wise when they decide to go away and leave their sworn partners.

may that never be your portion in Jesus' name.

Those people dont know what it means to go through difficult times and emerge victorious. They think marriages should be what they see in their movies

Gamine:

Thats what im saying.

IF parents would realise that It isnt just about them
They would live in Love.

i Still don't understand how two people, who Genuinely loved themselves
with flaws and all, Would end up hating themselves so much so as to Divorce

i don't geddit, what kind of problem arises that can't be solved

Then Again, i guess im still on Planet Earth and its sad

Gamine,

I'm baffled too. As almondjoy stated, those who end up in divorce probably weren't supposed to be married in the first place.

My view is that people who are unhappy when single and expect happiness from someone else are more likely to be divorced. Marriage should be about finding someone to share your joy with and not someone to extract joy from - be a giver and not a taker. The high expectation of someone else completing another person is the problem.

why are people so noisy

If people get divorced, how is that your business? Do you live with them to know WHY they decide to make such a decision? All busybodies know how to do is criticize people's choice, never care to know why these people make these choices, all so you can whine about something. Get a job.

If they are fine with it, why the hell are you bothered? Just because you're miserable doesnt mean everyone else should be

The divorce rate increases further with 2nd and 3rd marriages so it's not even advisable to try again.
Anybody blaming divorce on the women folk is nuts.
Most marriages that lasted as long as they did is because the woman endured until she could endure no more.
Those women deserve a medal.

Thank you o osisi

Dont know why people think anyone that gets a divorce is copying "western world"

At least in "western world", they get alimony. Such doesnt exist in Nigeria so obviously these women arent getting the divorce due to "frivolous" reasons or because it's the cool "oyibo" thing to do. It's usually the last resort.

you remember last year on the "Yoruba women divorce thread" I talked of a cousin of mine whose husband doesn't work,beats her up,rapes her and sees other women and she insists on being married so as to answer Mrs something.
Nonsense!
This can only happen in Nigeria
The stigma of divorce makes a woman risk her own life to live with a beast
what's the joy in answering madam when you have a black eye every other week.

I c nothing wrong in a divorce, when there is infidelity & insincerity between couples or even when you're being turn into a punching bag it calls for divorce. BUT [/b]This hv a main cause which is [b]''NO LOVE when u did not marry d right person u'll find your self in ds mess! This may be as a result of material things,parents self-centredness,poverty,frustration,curiosity,pride etc
In the case of our parents- when u find yourself being forced to marry someone u don't hv any atom of feeling for,may be as tradition demands. you'll find out dt u'll be irritated by the person which will lead to so many things & d marriage won't work out fine,

so my bros & sis if na u watin u 4 do
The only solution which remains ultimate is to marry the person u truly loved & let it hv a strong foundation in Christ-He will guide/lead u through d rough edges because marriage u knw is not a bed of roses
It has to do wt d union of 2 great different spirits

And why are women to blame?

@ Poster
What makes you think women are to be blamed? please get your facts right before drawing conclusion.

NO comment till i carried out a research.

where you take reach conclusion say na only women dey cause am?

anyway make all dis oyinbonised women wey dey talk rubbish carry dem wahala comot. many of una sef no fit stay for husband house becos una too sabi. make una no come dey mislead small girls for us biko

@ poster

At this point get married to a man. At least you are sure there'll be nothing like divorce, abi??

[size=16pt]Who initiates divorce?[/size]

The National Center for Health Statistics reports that from 1975 to 1988 in the US, in families with children present, wives file for divorce in approximately two-thirds of cases. In 1975, 71.4% of the cases were filed by women, and in 1988, 65% were filed by women.[11]

According to a study published in the American Law and Economics Review, women currently file slightly more than two-thirds of divorce cases in the US.[12] There is some variation among states, and the numbers have also varied over time, with about 60% of filings by women in most of the 19th century, and over 70% by women in some states just after no-fault divorce was introduced, according to the paper. Evidence is given that among college-educated couples, the percentages of divorces initiated by women is [size=14pt]approximately 90%[/size].

In their study titled "Child Custody Policies and Divorce Rates in the US," Kuhn and Guidubaldi find it reasonable to conclude that women anticipate advantages to being single, rather than remaining married.[13]

When women anticipate a clear gender bias the courts regarding custody, they expect to be the primary residential parent for the children and the resulting financial child support, maintaining the marital residence, receiving half of all marital property, and gaining total freedom to establish new social relationships. In their detailed analysis of divorce rates, Kuhn and Guidubaldi conclude that acceptance of joint physical custody may reduce divorce. States whose family law policies, statutes, or judicial practice encourage joint custody have shown a greater decline in their divorce rates than those that favor sole custody.

--Wikipedia

RichyBlacK:

[size=16pt]Who initiates divorce?[/size]

The National Center for Health Statistics reports that from 1975 to 1988 in the US, in families with children present, wives file for divorce in approximately two-thirds of cases. In 1975, 71.4% of the cases were filed by women, and in 1988, 65% were filed by women.[11]

According to a study published in the American Law and Economics Review, women currently file slightly more than two-thirds of divorce cases in the US.[12] There is some variation among states, and the numbers have also varied over time, with about 60% of filings by women in most of the 19th century, and over 70% by women in some states just after no-fault divorce was introduced, according to the paper. Evidence is given that among college-educated couples, the percentages of divorces initiated by women is [size=14pt]approximately 90%[/size].

In their study titled "Child Custody Policies and Divorce Rates in the US," Kuhn and Guidubaldi find it reasonable to conclude that women anticipate advantages to being single, rather than remaining married.[13]

When women anticipate a clear gender bias the courts regarding custody, they expect to be the primary residential parent for the children and the resulting financial child support, maintaining the marital residence, receiving half of all marital property, and gaining total freedom to establish new social relationships. In their detailed analysis of divorce rates, Kuhn and Guidubaldi conclude that acceptance of joint physical custody may reduce divorce. States whose family law policies, statutes, or judicial practice encourage joint custody have shown a greater decline in their divorce rates than those that favor sole custody.

--Wikipedia

[size=17pt]Wetin concern us with the US? Show the NIgerian statistics and also include the percentage of men who throw their women out of the house, who bring in another woman and who have a mistress.[/size]

michelin89:

[size=17pt]Wetin concern us with the US? Show the NIgerian statistics and also include the percentage of men who throw their women out of the house, who bring in another woman and who have a mistress.[/size]

Thank you very much!

michelin89:

[size=17pt]Wetin concern us with the US? Show the NIgerian statistics and also include the percentage of men who throw their women out of the house, who bring in another woman and who have a mistress.[/size]

Me I want to see those too.
yeye man richyblack
whipping out statistics from a country where a woman is not considered a piece of property whose been bought like nama
let us see the figures about the first wives abandoned while their husbands have acquired 2nd ,3rd,4th and 5th wives.
abandoned to fend for herself and seven kids.
nonsense!

If the economic situation in Naija was anything to compare with the USA many of those efulefu men would have either got their act together or the abused women would have happily waved them bye bye and kept walking.

michelin89:

[size=17pt]Wetin concern us with the US? Show the NIgerian statistics and also include the percentage of men who throw their women out of the house, who bring in another woman and who have a mistress.[/size]

Show the Nigerian statistics? No can do.

In a country like America where women have all the "equality" in the world, all the "choice" the universe can give, and all the "support" one can imagine, why is it that certain demographics of women still initiate divorce at rates as high as 90%? What is the cause? Is it because:

1. Women are more prone to making wrong choices in choosing their partners, e.g. choosing a cheating, lying, lazy man?
[Woman is "good", man is "bad", but woman is incapable of telling that man is "bad" unless given some time; when supposed time elapses woman then says "I want a divorce"]

2. Women are more likely to redefine or modify their definition of what type of man they meet?
[Initially, woman is "good" and man is "good", then after some time woman redefines "good", hence making man "not good" anymore, leading to "I want a divorce"]

Since many Nigerian women would like to see the "equality", "choice", and "support" for women à la America, does it mean that "Nigerian statistics", whatever they may be, is heading to "United States statistics"?

_{PS: I'm not trying to start a fight with my African Queens, just trying to understand what's going on with women and divorce. Thanks .}

thank god the housewife is dying out. Mothers do not have time to bring up their daughters in the good old "So you will find husband" way.
I forone raise my daughters to be young independent women and take no shit from no man.
A man /boy that dose not know how to talk will never make it to the door step of this house. Even a you "bitch" will not be forgiven.
Women are not at fault for the high rate of the big D. they have only come to know ,it most not be husband at all costs. even a husband has a prise limit.