ruuudboy:


Even though i hardly discuss my marriage issue with people, i called her dad this afternoon to explain what happened. He was surprised and later talk to her including her mum

I know it could have been worse reporting her to my own parent

damiso:


Nothing justifies assault...

zeb04:
Op don't listen to any of the advice here esp from the women.

Divorce/Seperation because the woman was banging on his door?
Didn't Op say he has settled with his wife and she promised not to repeat that again.
You all giving such advice are sick in the brain.

Since when did marriage become childplay.
Nansense.

satowind:

Thanks sweet

passionate88:
Nothing... You are right, but then.........

19naia:
Ehn? I touch myself also when she slaps me and gets heated over me, i grab her hand and smell it so sweet and tell her to put more on me so she can hear me scream for her... Ooh it so turns me on and i get eager for more until finally we off the lights and under cover to settle the matter in final full contact engagement, no prisoners and no surrender until all agression has been expended with nothng left to spare... Sometimes there must be a round two just to be sure the matter has been properly settled, because some matters are stubborn to settle...

Enjoy life and who you have in whatever way you can...

ruuudboy:
We have always heard about husband abusing their wives. How is it always like, the other way round? I have never laid my hand on any lady before not to talk of my wife and i don't think i can do such.

As a husband how do you handle it if your wife lay her hand on you either by slapping,punching,biting or rough handling? As a wife, how did your husband handle the situation?

I have been married to my wife going to 4yrs now and yesterday was the second time we had misunderstanding that led to serious confrontation.....Initially when it all started around 9pm, i kept quiet and didnt respond to her ranting. When she realized i wasn't responding, she moved close to me, started punching me, bit me and somehow slapped me in the process with serious ranting "you'll kill me today."

I tried as much as not to retaliate and removed myself from her, ran to the visitors room and locked myself in there....she continued talking and started hitting the door with a stick, after which i realized that with the way things are going, neighbours on the next flat might want to come and asked what was wrong, which i do much detest.

I started begging her from inside after which she calmed down and i opened the door.....we talked it through till late in d night and settled our differences which she later apologised for raising her hand on me and promised never to do that again no matter what happened.

The issue now is, i put myself in another man's shoe that how do people handle things like this in marriage as a husband?

As a wife, how did your husband handle issues of misunderstanding? The first thing that came to my mind yesterday when she hit me was the word of my boss who always say, AT THE HIGHEST POINT OF PROVOCATION, ALWAYS EXERCISE CAUTION.

Married peeps, how do u handle this?

merit12:
Op howfar you?

You only told us about the abuse side of the story .


Wetin u do the woman.(Did she found out you been sleeping with your neighour or have 3kids outside)

What would have resulted let's hear your own fault.

Team black women

alutacontinua:


STFU!
Banging on his door? Did you even read the story at all?
You didn't see the hit and slap part, did you? And I'm sure she said the same thing about not repeating it the first time she did it.
If this were to be a woman, I'm sure you'll be telling us how evil men can be but now that he's a nice gentleman, he should take all sorts of bullshyte from the 'weaker vessel'.....once again, STFU!

and ehrm, you're the one who needs your brain examined.

esere826:
@ruuudboy
no one has the right to hit the other
whether na man or woman

sit her down now before the next incident ever occurs and firmly tell her that if this happens again it would be taken seriously
if it does occur again, record the event and show it to her family,... not yours yet.
Calmly tell her family to call her to order

if it progresses further, report her to your pastors wife
If after that it occurs yet again
then learn to lock her up in a room, instead of yourself and start working on a process for separation from her or sleeping out

Sleeping out will get to her seriously

xdos:
Though I ve not experienced such wiv my wife but I must say u behaved maturely by walking out and also by keeping neighbours away... If she ever tries it again, I'll suggest the both of u meet ur pastor for counseling.... I am not also opposed to the idea of u taking her back to her parents. Let her parents talk to her when u think her head has cooled down, Take her back in...

Please do not bring in friends into this... If there must be a 3rd party, it shud be God and at most her own parents... not ur parents or relatives... cheers

zeb04:
"take all sort of bullshit from the weaker vessel"...Where in my post did you see that?

What do you expect op to do....divorce his wife?
If you so pained op has forgiven his wife,just go straight to hell the world is over populated alredy.

Btw I never supported the wife.

Amefrica:
I'm not married yet, ok bye.

how do you handle an abusive girlfriend?

nikkyshyne:
But you can abuse english abi?

ruuudboy:


slept with someone ke? Nah........Everly faithful to my wife

lilreese:
No women can abuse me, that why i'm a men.

Laeroy:
Being married for a month now....There's not been any abuse of whatever kind....so imma say God reigns in my house....HALLALUYAH.....