drisatasarr:
Dear Ola:

You are a good girl and now a good wife based on your story. Your husband has serious issues concerning intimacy. It can range from Sex abuse on him as a child, Stress from a number of issues, Depression and anxiety. Performance issues or at the other end of the spectrum he is cheating on you. I suspect the latter. I once dated a guy who refused to perform MouthAction but does not mind me doing to him. Each time he will refuse and tell me that he cannot use the mouth that he will PRAY with to do MouthAction. How stupid is that. Come to find out that he was dating another lady who said he loves MouthAction. You are very young and sounds like you are a decent human being. This marriage wont work. Leave him and find your soul mate.

Isata

Clemzy16:
Hmmm... Simply impossible... I can't marry a virgin...

Edusouls:
spoilt and very erotic girls like you are reasons why marriages crash,and the reason why many std's are on the rise, you are looking for a man to suck your infection ridden pussy for pleasure, you are so shameless of yourself to come here and openly expose your smelling and dirty life, and am not suprised the type of advice you gave your fellow woman, she should divorce and destroy her marriage cos she dont get enough sex, after that you will find her a spoilt man like you that will marry her, you women of nowadays are a natural disaster...

drisatasarr:
Dear Ola:

You are a good girl and now a good wife based on your story. Your husband has serious issues concerning intimacy. It can range from Sex abuse on him as a child, Stress from a number of issues, Depression and anxiety. Performance issues or at the other end of the spectrum he is cheating on you. I suspect the latter. I once dated a guy who refused to perform MouthAction but does not mind me doing to him. Each time he will refuse and tell me that he cannot use the mouth that he will PRAY with to do MouthAction. How stupid is that. Come to find out that he was dating another lady who said he loves MouthAction. You are very young and sounds like you are a decent human being. This marriage wont work. Leave him and find your soul mate.

Isata

jadelyn007:
my dear just cheat on him. Make sure you are really discreet about it an still give attention to you marriage. You can't live life constantly being starved of sex. Have a side guy Wishing you the best.

Edusouls:
spoilt and very erotic girls like you are reasons why marriages crash,and the reason why many std's are on the rise, you are looking for a man to suck your infection ridden pussy for pleasure, you are so shameless of yourself to come here and openly expose your smelling and dirty life, and am not suprised the type of advice you gave your fellow woman, she should divorce and destroy her marriage cos she dont get enough sex, after that you will find her a spoilt man like you that will marry her, you women of nowadays are a natural disaster...

VickyyB:
Lol. He's not a sex freak while you are...
Thank your stars, that he's not a cheat.

Don't cheat on him. HIV is real!

kristisking:
Op work on your grammar,besides dont you see yourself as a lucky women?Such a husband is not easy to comeby.At least you should be happy that he is not the type that will want to kill you with sex.You are right in your explanation that sex should be enjoyed to the fullest by husband and wife,but marriage is not all about sex.Try and reason with your husband so that you will have a happy home.Think about other good things aside sex.There many ways you can make yourself happy apart from sex

cold:
Mastūrbate,mastùrbate,mastùrbate. That's the only option open to you at the moment. Because such men can never change. Their level of indoctrination goes right down to the marrow

jadelyn007:
my dear just cheat on him. Make sure you are really discreet about it an still give attention to you marriage. You can't live life constantly being starved of sex. Have a side guy Wishing you the best.

Bridgetown:


I believe you will give her your father as soulmate. Nobody is even telling her to fast and pray against the demonic spirit of sex that's giving her high blood pressure.

I guessed this is what she wants in 2015. See below. Ewuuu!

twinee:
Divorce is not the solution, all you need to do is talk to your pastor, and your pastor that is more holier than your husband is, will put him back on track and also quote bible passages that says sex between married couples is not a sin.

Edusouls:
ola, you are a sex addict and are you sure you got married a virgin? You are here seeking the advice of nairalanders to help you to self destruct you marriage, is your marriage only built on sex? Instead of taking time to get into your husband's life to know his personal struggle's in life and his daily worries and help him through it as a good wife,you want to drain this man's remaining energy with your insatiable sex urge, and a man under heavy stess and pressure dosen't have so much energy to give in bed..you have no reason at all to even start thinking to self destruct your marriage..and am sorry to say that you are a sex maniac,because going to the extent of thinking to easily break your home without any solid fact shows that you are not commited to your marriage and welfare but sex...

SeverusSnape:
Some men see sex as a means to procreation alone.

jadelyn007:
my dear just cheat on him. Make sure you are really discreet about it an still give attention to you marriage. You can't live life constantly being starved of sex. Have a side guy Wishing you the best.

SeverusSnape:
Some men see sex as a means to procreation alone.

twinee:
Divorce is not the solution, all you need to do is talk to your pastor, and your pastor that is more holier than your husband is, will put him back on track and also quote bible passages that says sex between married couples is not a sin.

drisatasarr:
Dear Ola:

You are a good girl and now a good wife based on your story. Your husband has serious issues concerning intimacy. It can range from Sex abuse on him as a child, Stress from a number of issues, Depression and anxiety. Performance issues or at the other end of the spectrum he is cheating on you. I suspect the latter. I once dated a guy who refused to perform MouthAction but does not mind me doing to him. Each time he will refuse and tell me that he cannot use the mouth that he will PRAY with to do MouthAction. How stupid is that. Come to find out that he was dating another lady who said he loves MouthAction. You are very young and sounds like you are a decent human being. This marriage wont work. Leave him and find your soul mate.

Isata

uzolexis:



wanting to have sex with ur husband is a demonic spirit what will i not see on NL, u guys just be creating spirits that don't exist n after u'll be complaining that these spirits r disturbing when na u go find them.

easy4beno:
I do not want to doubt if the story is real or not from the poster's moniker but at least whichever way it will definitely meet someone's need somewhere.

The first thing I want you to know is that what you are going through is quite normal and you have a hope of brighter end, every marriage would go through its own challenges at a time or the other, it is what I call REALITY and those challenges if managed well strengthens a marriage. Now the next thing for you to do is to stay away from that your aunty that's planting a seed of divorce in you, early withdrawal from her will stop such seed from germinating in you, and you will be happy for it at the end, these kind of wrong advices are what crushes a home beyond repairs and jeopardizes hope of reconciliation, and pls don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you should fight your aunty, all you need do is just keep a distance and DO NOT seek advice of this kind from her again.

Then to the main issue, I believe all your husband needs is just further understanding about both of you and how often he needs to satisfy his wife sexually, he needs to know that its not a sin or bad to be doing his wife every now and then, my dear, it is God ordained, its a basic thing in the home, for a marriage to work, it is a machine that needs to be greased often. This is how I would advise you to go about it, you should know that its not a bad thing for you to have such urge every now and then, its better for you to have it often than not to be having the urge. Please you need to be closer to your husband, you need to show him extra care, be involved in almost all his endeavours, I emphasize again that you should show extra care and be open to each other, he might just be going through some things, and trust me sometimes when things don't go well especially financially our di. cks may not be hard, because its a psychological state of mind and once its not balanced its not also balanced down there.

Lastly I would urge you to pray about the situation and pray for him also, in however language and religion that you can, it is a fact that life is spiritual, so to tackle a problem, sometimes we need to explore all possible angles to it, and if it remains as status quo which is likely not, I can tell you that you both should see a marriage counsellor, everybody needs help, there's nothing like a perfect person, so one way or the other we need to seek for further knowledge and guidance in handling some issues, they say a tree does not make a forest, so in other words, we may not live a fulfilled life if we don't help one another, I believe if you try this, they would definitely work for you and just be positive minded.

I hope this piece helps a great deal.
Bless!

VickyyB:
Lol. He's not a sex freak while you are...
Thank your stars, that he's not a cheat.

Don't cheat on him. HIV is real!