I had been trained to see sex as a sin, my mom never really talked to me about sex, all i heard was that sex was a sin and must be avoided at all cost.

When i was in my SS1, i fell in love for the first time but the moment the guy touched my breast when we were in his room, i almost fainted because of shock, i ran away as if the guy was evil, so since then i thought to myself if touching my breast could shock that much, what about sex, to worsen the issue, when Yaba market use to be full before Fashola cleared it off, i was shopping for skirts in the market, a guy selling clothes touched my breast deliberately pretending he was asking me to come and buy, the same shocked happened, i shouted and cried in the market and when people asked me i told them he touched my breast they laughed, they did not understand why i should cry because of that, so since then i just don't go near guys like that, i just hang out in the open with them and avoid touches.

Then i met my husband(i dont want to go through how we met again) and after few years we got married.

The night before i got married my mom had told me that i should obey my husband and do everything he asked me to, but she still did not tell me about sex, i stayed through out the night before my wedding day, thinking of what sex will look like, how im going to manage the shock etc.

The wedding night came and behold, it bounce on me like a dream, my husband did not understand the shock, he thought i was being stubborn like i use to be or trying to deny him of sex, so he had his way and when he saw i wasnt enjoying it, he used to punish me with sex.

I came here on Nairaland to seek opinion, a lovely lady with the handle abi moniker (robedu) contacted me when she saw my marriage was almost crashing, she called me out to her office and we started hanging out, she told me her own virginity story and i was thrilled, she bought me books, send me links online and usually coach me on what to do,she was just amazing and selfless, its wonderful how other people can take up the pains of others and make it their own, in less than 2 weeks after i met her, my orientation on sex had changed, i became stronger and more eager to have sex.

And now, i am enjoying sex like mad, my husband who was behaving like a sex addict can't stand me anymore. thanks to all who commented on my previous posts - MARRIAGE IS SWEET - GO GET MARRIED LOL

La book, la space!

Good to know...


Next story please!!

Aww.. Blessing! didn't know you will come to publicize this, i am very happy you are enjoying your union,

God bless you a thousand times

Testimony time on N'L


Op enjoy ur marriage jor


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awwww! so happy to hear that! u welcm
i cnt wait to get married n see what sex feels like.

Good for you, Is good to wait no mater how painful it may be when ready. My wife also have story to tell!

Just keep enjoying ƔU̶̲̥̅̊я self dearie.

I know we would soon get there

alberto2k:

mtchew.

EroticAngelina:
awwww! so happy to hear that! u welcm
i cnt wait to get married n see what sex feels like.

* chokes and falls from cashew tree*

oh

It is not virginity that almost destroyed your marriage it was your own fears,attitude to sex and the kind of man you married. (If the story is true)

So let's all thank Ms. Robedu then

That's great











Am glad that u didn't loose your marriage now
Thanks to the lady that was ur coach

Wish all ladies here will be like Robedu.. Some ladies will be like "hmmm, my dear, that your husband sef, are you sure he truely loves you?" Ladies and the blame game.
Hapy legal Sex Life dear.

Ignorance almost destroyed your marriage, not virginity.

Misleading title.

Title that has the propensity to make every untapped lass ho.rny.

Enjoy the sex, it's sweeter when it isn't a sin. Happy matrimony.

Thanks Robedu oooooo

Hmmmmm ribadu wey de pdp abi which one?

The reason why Nigerian moms tell their daughters not to do it....has a lot to do with the fact that in Nigeria....when a girl gets pregnant...her options are limited. She cannot have an abortion, she would be shamed, and she would be called names. And as for the child....ever wonder what it is like to grow up in that situation sometimes.....can get hellish. And the family would turn her out.

And that is the real issue from the above story.

So, what should be done? I guess we have to find a way to make sure that in teaching our young ladies about intimacy....we do not throw out the baby with the bathwater.

And we need more counselors. And Nigerians should read more....help books.

See why sex education is important?

I'm happy for you jare. I know you won't make the same mistake with your daughters.

Her husband forced her to have sex with him against her will, as a punishment, whenever they quarrelled, repeatedly. Many people are in jail for doing what he did just once, to someone they didn't swear to love and to protect. People who do such things can do many other bad things.

EroticAngelina:
awwww! so happy to hear that! u welcm
i cnt wait to get married n see what sex feels like.

, on the real matrimonial bed...