Living the early stages of my life outside the shores of nigeria virginity was something that wasn't much of a deal,if you were one fine if you aren't fine no one really cares but it was a huge culture shock for me when I came to nigeria and saw how highly virginity was rated,but that isn't the real issue the main issue is how the onus is on the female to be one while the guys can go around and sow their oats while nobody cared. I'm really shocked when I hear people say if she isn't a virgin I'm not marrying her,I instantly ask them are you a virgin and I always get the reply I'm a guy its different,Nooo man its not its absolutely the same thing. Another aspect which isn't considered is the fact although girls might not be virgins they have also not known any man. Most guys self service,so if a girl does that and loses her virginity some dumb guy would say yo she isn't a virgin so we aren't gonna get married,how stupid does that sound? If you expect her to be a virgin you also must be a virgin nothing more nothing less. Another annoying thing is when a guy eventually marries a virgin and he discovers she doesn't have any skills and starts to cheat on her,why cheat on her you wanted a virgin and you got one so tick with it
Virginity is a two way thing you don't expect to be patronising red light districts,visiting brazzers and downloading loads of p.orn,enjoy yourself,release akamu and expect the females to be sex starved it just isn't right,I really hope we outgrow this ancient way of thinking of ours

Datsall

soooooo true at op

nice one

AyokunleRuth:
soooooo true at op

nice one

Uwc,just doing my best to clear stereotypes

tzoracle:


Uwc,just doing my best to clear stereotypes

i pray it will be a fruitful one because it will take God himself to change their opinion

AyokunleRuth:

i pray it will be a fruitful one because it will take God himself to change their opinion

Also try your best,I talk to my friends change misconceptions,but yes most of them are too bent on virginity

tzoracle:


Also try your best,I talk to my friends change misconceptions,but yes most of them are too bent on virginity

hmmmmmm okay i will when the needs arise but seriously am not the type who goes far to convince people. i prefer to leave them with their thoughts so far i am true with myself

what they think is none of my business

AyokunleRuth:

hmmmmmm okay i will when the needs arise but seriously am not the type who goes far to convince people. i prefer to leave them with their thoughts so far i am true with myself

what they think is none of my business

I understand you a female arguing that virginity isn't important doesn't paint such a bright picture but most people would listen to a guy which re-affirms what 've been saying

tzoracle:


I understand you a female arguing that virginity isn't important doesn't paint such a bright picture but most people would listen to a guy which re-affirms what 've been saying

Don't get me wrong virginity is very important. Am only against the fact that guys think only ladies should keep themselves why they can flirt around.

AyokunleRuth:

Don't get me wrong virginity is very important. Am only against the fact that guys think only ladies should keep themselves why they can flirt around.

If its only flirting it won't be much of a problem but most of them take it farther

The promotion of virginity in Nigeria I think can help reduce all this sexual imorality

flylykace:
The promotion of virginity in Nigeria I think can help reduce all this sexual imorality

Not at all,take for instance if you ban porn the demand increases but if it's just as it is nobody cares same as virginity. If you place a high tag on it it's gonna be tampered with but If nobody cares a hoot about it it'l be preserved

grabs popcorn and await the arrival of the bashers.

MsBliss:
grabs popcorn and await the arrival of the bashers.

we r here my dear. sorry we came late. there was small hold-up in one other thread.



now to the op. there r two kinds of people in this world. the idealists n the realists. the former try to change things by talking n appealing to the sense of reasoning. even when things r not worth fighting they just can't let it go. the latter do more of action than words n they recognise battles that aren't worth fighting. keep ur ideals to yourself. don't bother trying to change people. u will spend so much time n resources in achieving so little. the world will always be the way it is. change comes but not as often as we like. what effect will these ur ideas yield on the long run. u will talk to a few, even here on NL, they read ur thread n in the next few days they've forgotten all about u.
be a realist n accept that u can't do much to change things like this. if u can't force people to accept what u preach then don't waste ur time.

See whyning.

Prixus:

we r here my dear. sorry we came late. there was small hold-up in one other thread.



now to the op. there r two kinds of people in this world. the idealists n the realists. the former try to change things by talking n appealing to the sense of reasoning. even when things r not worth fighting they just can't let it go. the latter do more of action than words n they recognise battles that aren't worth fighting. keep ur ideals to yourself. don't bother trying to change people. u will spend so much time n resources in achieving so little. the world will always be the way it is. change comes but not as often as we like. what effect will these ur ideas yield on the long run. u will talk to a few, even here on NL, they read ur thread n in the next few days they've forgotten all about u.
be a realist n accept that u can't do much to change things like this. if u can't force people to accept what u preach then don't waste ur time.

Great things start with small steps bro,I don't care if they 4get me I'm not the focal point,they should just upgrade their mindset thatsall

tzoracle:


Great things start with small steps bro,I don't care if they 4get me I'm not the focal point,they should just upgrade their mindset thatsall

my point exactly. they won't change their mindset. even u will soon forget this n start preaching another message. good luck.

It didn't start with our generation na. the issue of virginity been one sided started in the days of our father's. And as far as Africa is concerned , it will continue till Jesus comes.

Men expecting girls to be a virgin but fucking all the girls around. Then they will b wondering why virgins are rare, I mean after they have bleeped them all. Some will even still have d gut to say "na virgin me I go marry o" Imagine! Isn't that weird?!
Go on fucking gurls around but remember somebody might b fucking ur so called future wife.
A non virgin(guy) doesn't deserve a virgin(girl)!

lovelygurl:
Men expecting girls to be a virgin but fucking all the girls around. Then they will b wondering why virgins are rare, I mean after they have bleeped them all. Some will even still have d gut to say "na virgin me I go marry o" Imagine! Isn't that weird?!
Go on fucking gurls around but remember somebody might b fucking ur so called future wife.
A virgin(guy) doesn't worth a virgin(girl)!

exactly!

Yeah, I want balanced equation. Tear rubber all the way!!!

@lovelygurl, you need to take a look at the last line of your comment. I think it needs correction.

That na your own, me I like virgins guys

Am a virgin but I don't want virgin wife,she is ok for me if her toto never slack

lovelygurl:
Men expecting girls to be a virgin but fucking all the girls around. Then they will b wondering why virgins are rare, I mean after they have bleeped them all. Some will even still have d gut to say "na virgin me I go marry o" Imagine! Isn't that weird?!
Go on fucking gurls around but remember somebody might b fucking ur so called future wife.
A virgin(guy) doesn't worth a virgin(girl)!

What do you mean by the bolded?

That's how they roll, the guys (most) want to marry virgins while the girls want to marry into money... Virginity alone shouldn't be a two way thing

pryd:
Nice submission @ Op
I don't make any disparity between virgins and non-virgins. It doesn't paint the whole picture.

. so you still exist on nairaland.? kee kwanu.

jmoore:
@lovelygurl, you need to take a look at the last line of your comment. I think it needs correction.

. make I hear say you no comment for this kind thread.
#teamZipUp#
Lil. Don't mind me. indirectly you motivate me with that motto.
kedu?

Some virgin men marry virgin ladies.

Some non-virgin men marry virgin ladies.

Some virgin men marry non-virgin ladies.


That's the world for you.

Adaobi12:
. make I hear say you no comment for this kind thread.
#teamZipUp#
Lil. Don't mind me. indirectly you motivate me with that motto.
kedu?

Adim nma. Dalu kwa.

ireneony:
That na your own, me I like virgins guys

Chai,chai,chai
Cougar alert

Adaobi12:
. so you still exist on nairaland.? kee kwanu.

hahahaa Ada I still dey oo.. wats gud dear??