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Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by Nobody: 1:04pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
kandiikane:So, it's about biology then. What if the 13 year old has begun menstruating or is a menstrual veteran? What then? If I travelled to Angola, I'd avail myself of well-developed women. . Sorry, I don't do below 18s. In our part of the world, the only reason a pedophile would go free is if the crime was unknown. Don't insult my people, woman. If I had a daughter I wouldn't even want her to be looked at at that age. 1 Like |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by TV01(m): 1:05pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
kandiikane:I agree with your premise , but it's not true. There are Western liberal nations that wink - if not outright legally endorse - at intercourse with children. Even if it's with one another. But morally, how can you argue for a mature adult to not have intercourse with a juvenile, if another juvenile can? http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2736517/Children-young-12-given-contraceptive-implants-making-vulnerable-abuse-sexual-exploitation.html TV |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by kandiikane(m): 1:08pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
obowunmi:If you want the definition of irresponsible google is there to educate people. I guess then there is no point in us having police and criminal or civil courts because who are we to make laws to judge people that kill, rape, steal, break contracts when we are not God. Let's scrap everything. People should be allowed to make choices that hurts and negatively impact the people around them or those they are in care of without fingers been pointed because who are we to judge! Nor be so? |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by TV01(m): 1:09pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:I have never claimed women are inferior in marriage. As a married man, I certainly don't consider my wife inferior. And marriage does underpin a flourishing society. Show me a society that has rejected marriage and I will show you one where the seeds of anomie have already set in. Or is it your nebulous "I'm in a relationship" concept that builds societies . TV **Sophyrocks, you are here - spill 0! Quickly changes dp again ** |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by Nobody: 1:15pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
TV01: Hmm. Hit close to home. Introduced my best buddy to awakening and the first thing he said upon taking the pill was, "Jesus Christ, I done die" . Anyway, we got talking recently, and our conversation centred around what you said above maturity picking the right woman. It was just instinctive, even the years before marriage and all. I guess you are what you are. Amen to that, bruv. Which is why I'm particular about stemming the tide of foolishness on nairaland. I reckon all I have to do is point people in the right direction and they should be able to take it from there. I read, though, that western mmen are waking up to the scam, albeit slowly, and are literally checking out of marriage accordingly. I'm not too sure it's going to be an open revolution per se. I reckon, the tide will change underground precipitated by men before it becomes mainstream, apparently, the media is no longer neutral. It tends to pander to whichever side pays its bills. Sad. 1 Like |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by Nobody: 1:17pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
TV01: Nice to hear. And marriage does underpin a flourishiong society. SHow me a society that has rejected marriage and I will show you one where the seeds of anomie have already set in. Show me a society without "anomies". Or is it your nebulous "I'm in a relationship" concept that builds societies . TV Why not? Millions of people live in de-facto / informal marriages in Germany and the society is thriving and many more will in future. |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by obowunmi(m): 1:23pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
kandiikane: When did polygamy become a crime that it is being equated with killing, rape, and robbery Get a grip and get a life. This thread is about a Tuface and his baby mamas, nothing else. Stop stretching your imagination to what's not. 1 Like |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by kandiikane(m): 1:30pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
TV01:Can you specify exactly what is not true in my post? This is not the case of endorsing intercourse but protecting those who have actually started doing it. Obviously, in general sense it will look like they are pushing young kids to have sex but for one, young kids do not think they shouldn't have sex because they can get pregnant, there are loads of different factors and non-factors were either their brain is just not ready for them to start thinking about how it would feel for a man to be in them or if they have 'boyfriends' they are either scared or even just not ready. Pregnancy has always been the least of a 12 year old's concern, if it was, they won't have the highest rate of teen pregnancies hence why the government is pushing contraception to those that have started at 12. A case of prevention is better than cure. The government can only do so much, the rest lies in the hands of us ordinary people who must ensure that there shouldn't be any reason to be sleeping with a 12 year old or a 12year old having sex to even need the implants. |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by Shirley07: 1:53pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
Timbuktou:Now you're sounding like TV01, even he won't type that rubbish. |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by kandiikane(m): 1:55pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
Timbuktou: Don't be silly, at 13 even if both boobs are out plus consistent monthly flow, that does not mean their reproductive organs has finished growing. Oh please, how many times have parents looked the other way when their kids have been raped or sexually abused because it's an embarrassed or it is something that must not be talked about. |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by Shirley07: 1:56pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
Timbuktou:Also the most foolish king ever. 1 Like |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by Nobody: 1:57pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
Shirley07:Shirley, you sound like a short person. That's by the way, anyway. How's work/school? What have you been up to? 1 Like |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by Nobody: 1:58pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
Shirley07:More foolish than Ahab or Rehoboam, abi na Jeroboam, Solomon's son? The bible is littered with imbeciile kings. Don't be sensationalist. 1 Like |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by Shirley07: 2:02pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
crackhaus:And there are men willing to share the wives.. The keyword is consent. 2 Likes |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by Nobody: 2:02pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
kandiikane:Stop being deliberately stewpid. In ancient times, people married at that age. It didn't kill them, they bore healthy children and those women were stronger than the "fully-developed" wimmins we have now. Oh, please. Maybe you speak for your own slice of earth, in my neck of the woods that person is dead. And you can take that to the bank. 1 Like |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by Shirley07: 2:07pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
Timbuktou:Those men never stooped low to worship 1000 deities, forgetting the God that gave him wisdom. |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by kandiikane(m): 2:14pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
Timbuktou: You are ignorant and will forever remain one You should have been an illiterate. Do you know how many "women" died during child birth back in the day? Do you know how many pregnant kids die during childbirth especially in a developing country? Do you know how many babies die at birth? Do you know how many suffer from obstetric fistula? Do you know how damaged their reproductive organs are because they are yet to be fully developed? How many of them have access to condoms or birth control in Africa? You don't want to sleep with a kid or have someone sleeping with your kid yet you are defending the action? Are you okay? 2 Likes |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by Nobody: 2:18pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
kandiikane: Dnt mind this obowumi. How can someone ask who an irresponsible person is? Everyone was created by God to know what is right and wrong. we all have conscience but the difference in us all is how we make use of it, how strong and how weak it is in us. If as an adult you are still asking who an irresponsible person is, then i wonder if your moral compass still works at all. I asked him a simple question. will he be willing to give out his daughter to a man with 3 baby mamas and children especially when he proposes to his daughter while one of his baby mamas is pregnant? He refused to answer, beating around the bush because he knows that people judge issues better when chicken comes home to roost. I asked him that question for him to determine for himself who an irresponsible person is. I am sure a lady with kids for several men will be good for him as a wife, who knows, since he doesnt wanna judge. 2 Likes |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by Nobody: 2:19pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
kandiikane:First of all, it's not my fault you have tiny tittiies. Don't poir out your frustrations on me. Secondly, I'm sorry I don't have the numbers. I'd say I was ok. Can't say the same for you. You need to check your blood pressure or egg blood flow. I'm not the cause of your misery. 3 Likes |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by Nobody: 2:24pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
Shirley07:It takes a wise man to seek other answers. Unfortunately, he got carried away. He was too wise for his own good |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by Shirley07: 2:38pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
Timbuktou:Your kids? They will look for their mum in the end. To a child, a mother is worth more than a father. There's no equality afterall. 1 Like |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by kandiikane(m): 2:53pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
Sophyrocks:lol leave them abeg, even if one was to get a wife who is ok with polygamy or cheating, the stress of it alone is not worth it. They think cheating or having a second wife is that easy to live with and do. I don't blame them, many of them are frustrated young men who cannot find a woman to dispense their fluids in hence the excitement for all that nonsense. 2 Likes |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by Nobody: 2:59pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
kandiikane: Buhahahahahahaha. Damn right on the bolded. The married ones know better. No wonder 2face no gree add weight since all these years. E easy to handle one woman not to talk of 3? He himself had to admit it that it has not been easy. He only enjoys distributing sperm. |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by TV01(m): 3:25pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:Show me one where it isn;t to a large degree attributable to the breakdown in the traditional family unit carefreewannabe:Germany got to where it is - in recent history - on the back of de facto relationships? As ever you miss historical causality, broader and longer-term implications and focus on the the immediate gratification. Germany flourished on the back of a strong "volk culture" which was underpinned by traditional marriage. You incorrectly overlook the benefits of this and then wrongly imply that weakening that or replacing it with a facsimile relationship will have no impact. TV |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by TV01(m): 3:33pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
kandiikane:Your pursue a point about the prevention of pregnancy, which correct in a sense, as it is what the State is concerned about. But the true issue is about the age/readiness for sex (and by impliction in some cultures the readiness for marriage). The whole of Western culture predisposes children to sexual promiscuity and as I said the State winks/tacitly endoreses that. I don't see that as any better than a culture that practices teen marriage. In fact, I see it as worse. It's how you end up with issues like young children in Rotherham being used as sex slaves. TV |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by TV01(m): 3:35pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
Timbuktou:Not just short, but she also possesses a ballistic anger and a tongue like a drunken sailor. We are praying hard for her to find a man to take her under authority . TV |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by obowunmi(m): 3:38pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
Sophyrocks: I've told you repeatedily that you are missing my point. Everyone has personal values and then there are societal norms. Tuface doesn't value monogamy. Are you going to force him? The fact he doesn't, should not apply to me. Hence you trying to make the conversation about a daughter, doesn't make sense. I don't see why I should answer your questions about this applying to me. I value monogamy and was only posing a question. Unlike you, i am not going to judge him and call him irresponsible. He made his choices. Hence, the consequences of his decisions. |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by TV01(m): 3:41pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
Shirley07:I get it, whilst away, you were growing your sense of delusion ! I hope the final solution for your case is not 7th wife ! TV |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by obowunmi(m): 3:46pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
kandiikane: How childish of you. Make your points without throwing insults. |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by kandiikane(m): 3:51pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
obowunmi:oh, so it hurt you that I referred to you as a frustrated man who is only looking for a woman to dispense his fluids in? For that to have hurt your feelings, it must be true, yes? Abeg, go face your life and try to make yourself a better man and a good and faithful husband to your future wife. |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by Nobody: 3:55pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
obowunmi: You asked me what an irresponsible person is and i asked you that question using your daughter for you to determine what it is for yourself. If 2face isnt irresponsible to you, he remains irresponsible to me. We must not agree on this. I said it before. Since we will never agree, drop the discussion and dnt make mentions of me as regards the issue. You dnt sound like one who values monogamy. The manner in which you are going about the issue in the thread proves otherwise perhaps polygamy is part of your plans in the future afterall lots of fake 'monogamous' men running 'modern day polygamy' abound. |
Re: Must A Married Man Be Monogamous? by Shirley07: 4:13pm On Jan 30, 2015 |
TV01:At this stage of my life? Mba. |
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